Comments on: The Problem With Excuses http://goodvibeblog.com/2008/03/the-problem-with-excuses/#utm_source=feed&utm_medium=feed&utm_campaign=feed Law of Attraction for the Real World, with Good Vibe Coach, Jeannette Maw. Thu, 11 Mar 2010 05:35:14 -0700 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.9.2 hourly 1 By: Creation Thoughts » Blog Archive » Watch What You Say - The Universe is Listening! http://goodvibeblog.com/2008/03/the-problem-with-excuses/comment-page-1/#comment-1082 Creation Thoughts » Blog Archive » Watch What You Say - The Universe is Listening! Tue, 18 Mar 2008 10:35:27 +0000 http://goodvibeblog.com/?p=307#comment-1082 [...] Maw from the Good Vibe blog has a great post called, The Problem With Excuses that really got me thinking this [...] [...] Maw from the Good Vibe blog has a great post called, The Problem With Excuses that really got me thinking this [...]

]]> By: Good Vibe Coach http://goodvibeblog.com/2008/03/the-problem-with-excuses/comment-page-1/#comment-1080 Good Vibe Coach Mon, 17 Mar 2008 20:44:27 +0000 http://goodvibeblog.com/?p=307#comment-1080 Kim - I'm in love with the thought of our words being "magic spells that create our reality." There's no doubt in my mind that's exactly how it works, I just never thought of it so ... mystically. hee hee So what spells shall we create today? Here's one on my agenda: "My foster cats easily find their perfect place." Which I know is with me right now. Ahh ... the perfection of it! Thanks for adding some magic to my day, Kim! Kim – I’m in love with the thought of our words being “magic spells that create our reality.” There’s no doubt in my mind that’s exactly how it works, I just never thought of it so … mystically. hee hee

So what spells shall we create today? Here’s one on my agenda: “My foster cats easily find their perfect place.” Which I know is with me right now. Ahh … the perfection of it!

Thanks for adding some magic to my day, Kim!

]]> By: Good Vibe Coach http://goodvibeblog.com/2008/03/the-problem-with-excuses/comment-page-1/#comment-1079 Good Vibe Coach Mon, 17 Mar 2008 20:41:30 +0000 http://goodvibeblog.com/?p=307#comment-1079 Wow, Joann! Nice distinction in the use of words. I didn't realize until you pointed it out that the meaning of "unable" feels completely disempowered. I like your habit of saying what you DO want rather than just saying what you don't. My coach Martha Beck freaks out when she hears someone say "can't." For good reason, I believe. Because there truly isn't anything that's not possible or that we can't do - so the word becomes more of an excuse than an explanation of a true obstacle. Hmm ... good food for thought you inspired, Joann! Thanks for posting! Wow, Joann! Nice distinction in the use of words. I didn’t realize until you pointed it out that the meaning of “unable” feels completely disempowered. I like your habit of saying what you DO want rather than just saying what you don’t.

My coach Martha Beck freaks out when she hears someone say “can’t.” For good reason, I believe. Because there truly isn’t anything that’s not possible or that we can’t do – so the word becomes more of an excuse than an explanation of a true obstacle.

Hmm … good food for thought you inspired, Joann! Thanks for posting!

]]> By: Good Vibe Coach http://goodvibeblog.com/2008/03/the-problem-with-excuses/comment-page-1/#comment-1078 Good Vibe Coach Mon, 17 Mar 2008 20:38:14 +0000 http://goodvibeblog.com/?p=307#comment-1078 Thanks for checking in, Nicholas, and enjoying the wit in these comments! Makes for a good time while we learn, huh? lol And Kirsten - that IS a classic! Florence was putting out great material long before there were any Oprahs pushing the deliberate creation agenda to the forefront of minds. Leslie, your comment made me realize we already ARE doing magic with our communication. Just not the kind of magic we might prefer, always. ha Yesterday I caught myself thinking "I've got to try to get these cats adopted." And with that, there I was, making it a difficult feat. Magic!! Here's to using our power for good! :) Thanks for checking in, Nicholas, and enjoying the wit in these comments! Makes for a good time while we learn, huh? lol

And Kirsten – that IS a classic! Florence was putting out great material long before there were any Oprahs pushing the deliberate creation agenda to the forefront of minds.

Leslie, your comment made me realize we already ARE doing magic with our communication. Just not the kind of magic we might prefer, always. ha Yesterday I caught myself thinking “I’ve got to try to get these cats adopted.” And with that, there I was, making it a difficult feat. Magic!!

Here’s to using our power for good! :)

]]> By: Kim Falconer http://goodvibeblog.com/2008/03/the-problem-with-excuses/comment-page-1/#comment-1077 Kim Falconer Sat, 15 Mar 2008 21:17:12 +0000 http://goodvibeblog.com/?p=307#comment-1077 Jeannette, this is a great topic, and everyone's comments are insightful. Joann's right about language. So many words we use are saturated in biases, social, cultural, gender, personal! As TUT says, "Thoughts become things, choose the good ones" and we need to remember that is is language that informs, and translates, our thoughts. How are we wording things? Is it really what we mean? The Universe 'knows' what the energy or essence of the thought (desire/intension) is but the words we keep saying, to ourselves and others, anchor us in a particular paradigm. They are like magic spells creating our reality. Worth thinking about... As for excuses, my hero is Phoebe from FRIENDS. In an episode where she's asked to help out with some task she smiles and says, "Oh I wish I could, but I don't want to." I love that! Thank you again for this important topic, Jeannette. I'm going to stop and think about my response the next time I feel and excuse coming on! xKim Jeannette, this is a great topic, and everyone’s comments are insightful. Joann’s right about language. So many words we use are saturated in biases, social, cultural, gender, personal! As TUT says, “Thoughts become things, choose the good ones” and we need to remember that is is language that informs, and translates, our thoughts. How are we wording things? Is it really what we mean?

The Universe ‘knows’ what the energy or essence of the thought (desire/intension) is but the words we keep saying, to ourselves and others, anchor us in a particular paradigm. They are like magic spells creating our reality.

Worth thinking about…

As for excuses, my hero is Phoebe from FRIENDS. In an episode where she’s asked to help out with some task she smiles and says, “Oh I wish I could, but I don’t want to.”

I love that!

Thank you again for this important topic, Jeannette. I’m going to stop and think about my response the next time I feel and excuse coming on!

xKim

]]> By: Joann http://goodvibeblog.com/2008/03/the-problem-with-excuses/comment-page-1/#comment-1076 Joann Sat, 15 Mar 2008 13:10:15 +0000 http://goodvibeblog.com/?p=307#comment-1076 EXCUSES: Right on. It's how to say "no". I'm much better, but this is one I need more practice on. I still get caught. Emails do help 'cause they do give you time to get your thoughts together. "I don't feel like it" is one I use a LOT to myself. Thanks for the reminder. and "I don't want to" but sometimes that gives me the image of a petulant child jumping up and down. And it's still the negative "don"t instead of the positive. Now I'm practicing my self-talk and clarifying what I really DO want like: "I feel like doing this instead of that" - especially with my mom. It can be a control issue. It's also what words to use to not hurt another person's feelings while honoring your own. If it's something that doesn't need an immediate response, instead of stammering a lame excuse I have practiced saying: "Let me think about it, or "let me get back to you on that". And that gives me time to clarify what I do want. I have a question about Byron Katie's "no" post that Rick mentioned. I've learned that the word "unable" means physically unable - implying some impairment. And that "can't" means "unable to" or "won't". What do they mean for all of you? I was also taught to use "I prefer" rather than "I can't" or "I'm unable to". Yet in the Byron Katie example I don't think "I prefer" would have done it. Language really is a precision instrument. It's not only the meaning we have when communicating with another, but what the meaning is for the other person. GOOD STUFF! Thanks everyone. EXCUSES: Right on. It’s how to say “no”.
I’m much better, but this is one I need more practice on. I still get caught. Emails do help ’cause they do give you time to get your thoughts together.

“I don’t feel like it” is one I use a LOT to myself. Thanks for the reminder. and “I don’t want to” but sometimes that gives me the image of a petulant child jumping up and down. And it’s still the negative “don”t instead of the positive. Now I’m practicing my self-talk and clarifying what I really DO want like: “I feel like doing this instead of that” – especially with my mom. It can be a control issue.

It’s also what words to use to not hurt another person’s feelings while honoring your own. If it’s something that doesn’t need an immediate response, instead of stammering a lame excuse I have practiced saying: “Let me think about it, or “let me get back to you on that”. And that gives me time to clarify what I do want.

I have a question about Byron Katie’s “no” post that Rick mentioned. I’ve learned that the word “unable” means physically unable – implying some impairment. And that “can’t” means “unable to” or “won’t”. What do they mean for all of you? I was also taught to use “I prefer” rather than “I can’t” or “I’m unable to”. Yet in the Byron Katie example I don’t think “I prefer” would have done it.

Language really is a precision instrument. It’s not only the meaning we have when communicating with another, but what the meaning is for the other person.

GOOD STUFF! Thanks everyone.

]]> By: Leslie http://goodvibeblog.com/2008/03/the-problem-with-excuses/comment-page-1/#comment-1074 Leslie Fri, 14 Mar 2008 15:52:09 +0000 http://goodvibeblog.com/?p=307#comment-1074 Wow your word is your wand! You aren't kidding that sums it up. It makes you realize we could be doing magic with our communication if we chose to. LOL Love Leslie Wow your word is your wand!
You aren’t kidding that sums it up.
It makes you realize we could be doing magic with our communication if we chose to. LOL

Love Leslie

]]> By: Michael http://goodvibeblog.com/2008/03/the-problem-with-excuses/comment-page-1/#comment-1073 Michael Fri, 14 Mar 2008 05:17:49 +0000 http://goodvibeblog.com/?p=307#comment-1073 Oooo man, I love that title! Got to look that up... m|p Oooo man, I love that title! Got to look that up…

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]]> By: Kirsten http://goodvibeblog.com/2008/03/the-problem-with-excuses/comment-page-1/#comment-1072 Kirsten Thu, 13 Mar 2008 19:24:39 +0000 http://goodvibeblog.com/?p=307#comment-1072 One of the classic New Thought authors, Florence Scovel Shinn, wrote a book entitled Your Word is Your Wand. That pretty much sums it up! One of the classic New Thought authors, Florence Scovel Shinn, wrote a book entitled Your Word is Your Wand. That pretty much sums it up!

]]> By: Nicholas http://goodvibeblog.com/2008/03/the-problem-with-excuses/comment-page-1/#comment-1071 Nicholas Thu, 13 Mar 2008 18:51:11 +0000 http://goodvibeblog.com/?p=307#comment-1071 This is such great stuff! Aside from the great examples, I'm laughing myself silly with all the wit here, from the original article to the many comments! I think I'll go with Michael's very smooth declination (is that the right word? is that a word in the first place?) when I need to - as I am needing to more often than before! This is such great stuff! Aside from the great examples, I’m laughing myself silly with all the wit here, from the original article to the many comments!

I think I’ll go with Michael’s very smooth declination (is that the right word? is that a word in the first place?) when I need to – as I am needing to more often than before!

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