I was on a path of self improvement around age 18 and positive thinking was on my constant “to do” list. I hadn’t discovered Law of Attraction yet, but I knew there was something profound hidden inside positive thinking and forgiveness.

One day it just hit me. I was abused THEN… not NOW. Now I am here and happy and growing and joyful. Why should I let THEN affect me NOW? Not to meantion, if I hate him… he won’t care… only I will feel that awful feeling of hate and resentment… so in hating him, I allow him to continue to affect my life.

That was the day I let it all go. I wanted to forgive him, but I wasn’t there yet, but I knew letting it go would start me in the right direction, and BOY DID IT!

Since then (over 10 years ago) I’ve forgiven him completely. I understand that HE was also abused and really didn’t understand the impact of his actions. He couldn’t give to me what he didn’t have, which was love, and that’s ok. I am who I am and I REALLY like me. If I met me, I would want to be my best friend. It would be impossible for me to have turned out to be THIS person if I hadn’t endured my childhood.

Realizing this made me begin to see his influence as “positive”. I mean, sure… what he DID was terrible… but the influence I took away with me was positive. Once I stopped being a victim, the negative evaporated. It was truely spectacular. Now I remind myself all the time: “It’s not good or bad, it just IS…Now, where can I go from here…”

1. I always seemed to notice when bad things happened to other people, soothing myself that I was not the only person suffering.

2. The urge to “save” or “rescue” people from their bad habits or “off” personalities, aiming to change them in order to “rescue” them. People, who always feel the need to tell others how to live their lives are in a victim mode.

3. Being overly sensitive to what people do or say to us and always unconsciously feel we are victimized.

These are a few I have found in myself, but now, that I have awakened, I can catch myself immediately. It really is about becoming conscious, when we are in such victim mode and make the shift from victim and powerless to empowerment and confidence.

Much love, Gillian

I also appreciate the spotlight you put on people being able to shift out of victim-thinking and into empowerment.

It reminds me of this quote from Twitter’s @debsoul regarding the gap between what is and what we want:

“We can choose to see the chasm as a mirage that simply vanishes when we decide to own rather than just know.”

It’s the seeing the chasm as a mirage that really lit me up! It doesn’t have to be a long journey between here and there, if we don’t make it one.

Thanks for posting, Jim!

As you know I’ve been reading a lot of Thomas Troward lately and was reminded of a quote that I had fortunately jotted down from “The Hidden Power”:

If good things happen to people and because of negativity they didn’t happen “to them” then they have, by their actions changed what can happen to them.

It occurred to me that the converse of that is that while we cannot stop bad things from happening, we can stop them from happening “to us”. The power of this is staggering, and a game changer for many people’s lives.

I would have to ask the therapists that find it deplorable that this woman found a way to get past her pain what exactly it is they are trying to accomplish with their clients/patients…

If they are not trying to get them exactly where it is that she got to, then there is something very, very wrong with what they define as success with their treatment plans.

I have dealt at length with many individuals that experienced their lives as victims but then were able to move past this by coming to embrace the kind of principles we are discussing here. And the GOOD therapists readily admitted to them that they had gotten exactly where the treatment plan was designed to go. So there are mental health professionals that recognize the truths behind this as well…

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ha!

“Something’s gotta give” … leading to your rising Phoenix! woo hoo!!

Thanks for the story – great example of how what we think of as “bad news” isn’t necessarily so.

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x Kim

This was a really great post – Jeannette and Michael. I loved the statement

“The minute you make the shift from victim to creator, what’s happening in the world stops being bad news (or even good news) and becomes instead simply information – information you can use to make informed decisions about what you want to create moving forward.”

Wow that is so powerful! I think I will meditate on that all day.

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I am going to pray rain for those areas still endangered by fire – I intend that there will be downpours saturating all the vulnerable areas and that lots more missing people will be found alive and well.

Anyone else who would like to join me is very welcome!

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