Q&A: How to Duck A Loved One’s Vibe?
I originally titled this Q&A post: “How to Insulate from Nutbags?” but that’s not my real question. There’s a backstory for this topic that comes from yours truly today:
Last year in a private coaching session with arguably the world’s most loved and well known life coach, Martha Beck asked me this question:
“Are you RETARDED???!”
And with that inquiry from one of my biggest heros, the stigma of the word “retarded” fell away forever for me.
(That might not be a good thing, it turns out. My neighbors don’t seem to find the word as liberating as I do. But nonetheless, it is where I am.)
So when I saw a rerun where Kathy Griffin calls Ann Colter a nutbag the other night, I became an instant fan of Kathy and I laugh every time I think about her outlandish use of language in communication.
And am I paying the price for it! lol
(Hang tight – there is a legitimate question coming up!)
For those of you who aren’t subscribed to comments, you probably didn’t see a couple dozen comments posted from a woman calling herself “victim” on this blog yesterday. (And THANK YOU to everyone who DID see them and phoned, emailed and tweeted to make sure I was aware! I’m feelin’ the love!)
For those who didn’t see her comment, here’s an email Kymm Brogan-Senseman in Cordova, Tennessee would very much appreciate the entire world would read since (she says) she’s contacted the FBI, Better Business Bureau, her local DA, my local police department, Jack Canfield, my alma mater, etc. to warn them about my deceptive practices.
(It’s a direct email received just this morning, which I did ask her permission to share, even though it seemed obvious that would be the case. It’s edited for brevity, believe it or not):
You are pyscho, I have records of no phone calls and only three emails that keep asking when can we talk. I saved every email I sent telling you when we could meet and then asking for a refund, you never got back to me. And no phone calls after payment. I have already forwarded these records to your PD DEPT along with all email records of our conversations. Knowing now you are a fraud after that whooping lie I am contacting the local DA and then the school you went to, and maybe every paper in every town. Do not underestimate WILL power to turn a WRONG into a RIGHT. YOU NEVER CALLED ME FOR OUR MEETINGS. YOU ARE A FRAUD AND YOU KNOW IT. I am also contacting Jack Canfield to let him know you said you co-authored a book with him. Now I am leary of using him because of his involvement with you. Let see how he feels losing people because of your fraudulent activity. Lets see who else I can dig up. I may have forgotten to mention I was an investigator for a bank and attorneys before I was in medicine. So the normal person you SCAM may not know how or where to find other victims but I DO. I will make sure everyone knows what you did. Hummmm the fraud next door what a concept for your local paper. Make it easy REFUND me. You can tell any story you want to live but that only works when it is for good not for bad.
The obvious question here (since I have phone records verifying an 83 minute session with her on May 14, 2009, emails back from her about how she enjoyed it immensely, and multiple follow up emails with additional coaching & such - kudos to me for being slow to clean out sent mail! and the fact that I let her pay after our session, which isn’t unusual since I operate from a basis of trust instead of contracts) – the obvious question becomes “how did I attract this?”
Not an unfamiliar question – you’ve heard me ask it before (when I got on – and off – the Oprah Show).
And the answer this time is similar: a long term client has a loved one who has been dealing with a “psycho ex” intent on damaging their reputation and lives in every way possible – which means it comes up a lot in our sessions together. So it’s clear to me where my nutbag (vibe) came from.
But that’s not the question I’m asking the Good Vibe community today.
What I’m wondering about is how we can be of support to someone we love (this is every coach with their client, and also applies to our support of friends and family as well) without activating vibrations we don’t want in our own lives?
Yesterday I shared with a client Martha Beck’s technique (oh my gosh, just realized that’s another client who is dealing with a disreputable person in his life! Sheesh, I’ve got it activated!) for cloaking or shielding your energy – so only good stuff gets in.
But if I have to cloak from clients, I’m in the wrong business. I do have a perfect client list that I might do well to revisit since the “healthy and grounded” aspect seems missing in this particular case, but I think the key factor at work in this one was that I activated “unhealthy people attacking us” in the conversations I had with the other client.
When a fellow coach emailed me after seeing her blog comments here yesterday and asked “How do you get this woman out of your life?” I knew the answer instantly: stop focusing on her. But this morning when I asked myself what I wanted out of today, and the words “It’s DONE” popped up in regards to this situation, my first reaction was “What?! The fun’s OVER?” So it’s officially revealed that I’m getting a kick out of this back and forth with crazy Kymm, but … truly, the question stands:
How can we support someone with a challenge we don’t prefer to experience? How do we duck a loved one’s vibe?
Because I don’t want to experience every challenge my clients do. Nor their wins! (Hey, I don’t want to be married or pregnant or traveling the world or even apparently a guest on Oprah!) So …
What’s a good girl who loves coaching folks on all sorts of challenges to do? lol
I always quote Abraham’s wisdom on dealing with negative parents: “Get in, say hi, get out.” I’m not sure that’s the best answer in this case (although maybe I do let clients entertain less of their story about what they don’t want), and I am starting to feel some other answers coming, but I’m turning this over to you all for the enlightened advice you consistently provide.
PS – can I just say how much I appreciate the love and support I get from all of you? You show it so many ways: the comments you place here, the emails you send me privately, the votes you cast for Best Coaching Blog, the referrals you send, the reiki you sent!, the trust you place in me to help you with your manifesting, the calls you make late at night to make sure I delete nutbags from the blog (ha!) … I’m in love with you all. Thank you.
Even you, Kymm, for doing your part to make me more famous than I already was, for giving me fabulous opportunity to explore the ins and outs of real life manifesting with this amazing community, and to discover even more about myself and my energy. This is what I love most!
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Well, personally, I think giving up the attachment to the drama might be something worth looking into. Life can be (and is) fun and enjoyable without all that tug-o-war drama that we love to create. It’s like an addiction for some of us (note: including myself in that), but the pattern and habit can be broken and life is much, much, much better without the unnecessary roller coastering.
Set your intention to give up unnecessary drama, and then just work to change the patterns of thinking and reacting, the way you’d change any other pattern of thinking and reacting. Once you break the cycle, you can interact with people and offer whatever support you care to offer, without also attracting their dramas and woes and angst, because you’ve changed your perspective and it no longer “sticks” (i.e., you’ve changed your vibration so you no longer attract drama like that).
Oh, and a common fear that people seem to have (I know I had it!) is that without the drama, there’s no “fun”, or no “passion”. Absolutely untrue. In fact, things are a lot MORE fun when you’re not dramatising everything or having to deal with all that angst.
“It’s interesting without drama; peaceful does not mean boring” – thank you, Caterpillar Woman, for bringing me to a place that I didn’t realize I had some kinkiness.
Less Angst = More Fun
I’m trying it on, my friend … thank you!
Congratulations Jeanette! You have finally arrived. You are a celebrity. Only celebs get this type of funky vibe because you cannot control the vibe of the world. Only yours.
Yeah, only because you are not perfect, it is possible that you opened an aperture for her funk to come in.
However, what to do about a vibe when someone is obviously not on her medication that helps keep her in her zone?
Hmm…
The first thing i think of is how often do you “zip yourself up.” Zip that invisible shield that is a form of protection and safety around you?
I was told to do this before and I find that I could do it more.
Just imagine yourself stepping into a full bodied suit and zip it up from the toes to above your head and say something affirming like, “I am safe. My energy is clear and I am protected from invasions by others as I open myself up.”
And on the other hand, what is so perfect about this? You are so loved, it is sacred.
You must be doing something right.
Iyabo Asani
I have to admit, Iyabo, when energy workers would wash their hands after working on me, which they said they did with everyone, I was a little .. mm, offended.
Like – what do I have energetic cooties?! ha ha
Maybe I do/did!!
But with this from you I can see the sense in being a little more sensible about how I work.
Thanks for the “zip up” technique! Easy to work with!
OMG so this is what it’s all about. Sent you a DM on twitter about the comment she wrote on MY page (obv she knows we are best mates). Whew. Interesting – why DO we attract people like that. IMHO, to teach us something – patience, tolerance?
Maybe it’s to firm up our own vibes about what we want, affirm how blessed and lucky we are that for one disgruntled person in our lives, there are thousands of others who love and adore us. I’m blown away by the power of words in simple conversations.
To think that by discussing another client’s stuff would attract more of that, ha whoulda thunk
How would I deal with this: I would ask myself what I need to clear up, learn from this and be grateful that it shook me up a bit and make me even more aware. I’d then STOP talking about it and focus on what I want, the amazing people that love me etc. I would send her love and compassion, how much must she hate must she harbour to attack someone publicly? I would put her in a wee bubble and surround her with peace and healing.
And I would remind myself how blessed I am in the people who love and support me. I LOVE YOU JEannette!!
Sorry she latched on, Tia. I’m already getting emails from others who are reluctant to post here because she is so obviously .. mm, not one you want to have know your name. lol
Thanks for your suggestion to send her love and compassion. I sent her peace last night, but didn’t think to do love.
(I’m still impressed with myself for not putting a voodoo curse on her. ha!)
You know what I did learn from this loud and clear? Same message as I got with my dead kitty … TRUST YOUR INSTINCTS and SPEAK UP!
Thank you, Universe, I get it. No more reinforcement needed.
Thanks for the love, Tia! You know it’s mutual!
Jeannette, Imagine a thick impentrable see-thru globe enveloping you so that the negative thoughts cannot get through. And, Kymm, you need to go bake some Chocolate Oatmeal Walnut Cookies and add some sweetness to your life!
You know what I love about this community?! That you guys are all sending good things out to Kymm as well as me!
Thanks, JR, for the see through globe tip (I hadn’t that before!) and for the sweetness suggestion for Kymm.
Nice energy you’re flowing.
That says good things to me that you’re here in my world! I must be doing SOMETHING right to have you here!
Well, since it always all about me! None of Kymm’s vibe entered my cyber world. Nothing via Twitter, FaceBook, the blog….and as major fan of Ms GoodVibeCoach I check in with her in cyber world daily. Could it be that my cloak for energy that does not serve well works both consciously and unconsciously? As a Reiki Master, I was taught to wash my hands and lower arms in a meditative manner prior to and after a session. Without thinking about it, I do the same in coaching sessions. This means that I do not bring other people’s energy to me or my clients and that I don’t carry clients’ energy into my life. This practice helps me to be ‘clean’ and clear for every session.
Just a thought….could Kymm need a major dose of community lovingkindness for safety, for wellness, for peace and wellbeing?
Ease of lovingkindness to all
I had read ahead to your post, PurePotential, when I wrote above about the love this community can so easily send to Kymm.
Gosh you guys rock!
If it were me, I’d be like, “What’s her address? I know a guy.” ha
Honestly, PurePotential, I’m not surprised you skipped the negative parts and just tuned in for this rectifying the energy love fest.
Not surprised at all.
There is something about you … !
Thanks for posting, my friend.
Jeannette, I have found that this is a common issue among healers. What I found works for me is a couple of things. Meditation. The more connected I am to myself, the less likely I am to vibrate to someone else’s stuff. I can attune to them, to understand and tap into guidance, but when I am deeply connected to me, this attunement is temporary, and… Read More the energetic connection doesn’t linger.
Key to this is to be fully present to the client with compassion and love but when the interaction is over, SHIFT my thinking to something else. I often find if I focus on my heart and then think of something I love–like my dog playing in the ocean, which always fills my heart with love. I reconnect with my own soaring connection to all that is, and my vibe is my own.
If you find yourself continually thinking about the person The other thing is to just send them love. You cannot receive their energy if you’re sending to them, and otherwise not thinking of them.
Love & light…
-Meredith
Wow, Meredith. This one’s going on my fridge.
THANK YOU.
I will also take this as yet another gentle friendly nudge from Universe to get more consistent with meditating.
Thanks for the guidance you offer me with this post, Meredith, and for the help I know it will give many others as well.
Namaste.
So glad you blogged! Maybe this has nothing to do with your vibe being in sync with your clients vibe, leaving you open to an experience you truly do not want. Maybe this is the beginning of a manifestation of yours for something so very, very good. It seems this experience is being looked at as an end result instead of very possibly the beginning of greatness…more clients, opening doors for others through your experience…who knows? I think it will be great fun to see where this all leads for you.
Nice reframe, Tammy!
That seriously hadn’t even crossed my mind and wasn’t a place I even thought to take myself. But it’s FABULOUS!!!!!!
THANK YOU for it!!!
That feels pretty freakin’ good, I gotta admit!! (Sheesh, you’re GOOD!)
Nice work Jeanette ~
Love you Jeannette! When I saw this crazy lady’s post I first thought it was a joke:) How could anyone say and think that about you? They must have the wrong person. She kept saying that you took her money and disappeared. Where? You’re right here!!:))) Then I thought Ha! She’s calling herself victim:))) and dooming herself to more of the same. Then I have to admit I thought it would be interesting to see what you would do. But the only solution in my mind was to not give her any attention and I thought you would do the same, so we’d never heard about what happened. I was surprised and a bit disappointed at my reaction to that:) Like not paying attention is not interesting. And finally I thought the situation is not THAT interesting, it’s just unwanted for J. and exacerbating what this woman feels. I put it out of my mind but when I say you talking about it on your blog, then I was interested again:) Go figure! We’re interesting beings aren’t we?
Why did you create it? Only you can know, but since you realized you got a kick out of this situation then I’d say you created it for this purpose. I believe that how we react to a situation shows us where we’ve been vibrating. You wanted to get a kick out of something, you got a kick:) Plus it might also be so that you could bring this up, so people would get a chance to talk about it.
How can we be of support to someone we love without activating vibrations we don’t want in our own lives? First we don’t go overboard with empathy ( I had to learn that myself) and then we don’t push against things-happening to others or to us. Not just not pay attention to them, but once we’ve visited the subject a few times and notice there’s negative emotion everytime we go there, to shift our vibe. I see a lot of people doing that with politics-they aren’t willing to feel better about it because then it feels like condoning the other side.
On one of the CD’s Abe talkins about lady who drove over Golden Gate bridge and got panic attacks and since she’d lived in S.F. for a while and never got them before, she was surprised she’d gotten them now. Abe then asked what had happened in her life that made her feel vulnerable, that causes her to come into contact with these thought forms of panic attacks on the bridge? She knew right away. A neighbor had been burglarized and she had been going to neighborhood watch group to see what could be done about this. I don’t know how, but I think something similar to this is happening in some of these situations, that it all stems form the feeling of vulnerability somehow.
P.S. How you get your photo up?
Yeah, I needed to hear that, Flavia. (Not going overboard with empathy.) I think sometimes I’m a little soft on my clients, even though I have been accused of not being a “warm fuzzy” coach.
I want to do a blog post on that for the group as well … you know how sometimes it feels good to tell your story just to get it OUT? That sometimes just telling it to another person helps you let go of it? I think there CAN be some benefit – but is that true?
Even if there were a benefit, it’s got to be a temporary one, and a coach’s job is to ensure they don’t get stuck in the story.
Thanks for weighing in, Flavia!
PS – there’s a gravatar site where you can load your photo … http://en.gravatar.com/
J., been out of pocket a bit today but Bridgette B. told me about your post and I checked it first thing, sistah, when I got back in my office.
I have noticed that there are some people in the world who talk with other people in the world and together they create drama and chaos and story, story, story. As long as they talk with one another, everything’s hunky-dory. Well, maybe not hunky-dory, but functional. Well, maybe not functional, but it’s what they know and are familiar with and live amidst.
But one day, maybe, they get a glimpse that there is another way to live. And they call a coach. Or, they hear someone talk about working with a coach and say, “If Suzie has one, I want one, too!” in a very Veruca Salt kinda way.
Regardless, a person who is used to talking with another person in a certain way starts talking that way to a person who is trained, and lives, a whole other kinda way. And when she’s called on her story, on her chaos, her drama, she might just react with anger and confusion and more chaos because THAT’S NOT HOW IT’S SUPPOSED TO BE. It’s supposed to be the other way like her friends, where you talk her talk and carry her drama and ooh and ahh and say, yes, yes dear.
I love Kymm. And I wish her well. And I want her to know that there is another way to talk, when she’s ready, and another way to live, ditto on the readiness thing. And she glimpsed it with you, which is a powerful gift you gave her, my friend.
Maybe someday she’ll see it thus. And if not, that’s hunky-dory.
Hmm, that feels really spot on, Michele.
(I’m refraining from sharing relevant details about the subject of our session, since although she claims not to have been a client, I think of it differently and thus won’t reveal the details.)
I have to admit I’m a little embarrassed at how easily I engaged the battle with her.
Actually, I take that back. It wasn’t easy. I stayed out of it really well until the police called me. That’s when I (temporarily) let go of a peaceful mindset.
Thanks for chiming in on this one, Michele. Your perspective means a lot and, as usual, is incredibly wise and valuable.
Namaste.
Oh my! Jeanette, if you ever doubted the love from the community you have ample proof to the contrary with people practically sending you love via Twitter, Email, Facebook, smoke signals, etc. Hell, I was even tempted to tie a note to the bored pigeon in my yard and send him your way~(I got tired of him “decorating” the yard). Anyhoo, jokes aside. There wasn’t any wrong doing on your part as you can only control you and your vibes.I was @ Changing Hands when Martha Beck talked about cloaking~I am not sure if it is applicable to online contact? Maybe this lady needs some serious help and soul searching.It is sad to read the comments because they are so out there in the stratosphere. You have tons of clients who can verify your credentials and integrity. So, it aint about you at all!
Cool, MsNikki!! I was hoping someone would read this who had learned the technique from Martha and not just me.
If you ever want to guest post to share that here, please let me know!
And thanks for the supportive words. As you can guess, that means a lot to me.
JR … OMG …. chocolate (chip) oatmeal walnut cookies are my absolute FAVE!!!! … but I digress …
Jeannette … I just finished reading a book called Aura Advantage and I’m sure you already know but there are meditations you can do before coaching seesions to protect against “psychic attacks”, which I *think* this might be classified as (*think* b/c it’s actually a real attack, too — not just psychic). I love youtube
so here’s a video tutorial for an aura meditation to protect yourself: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=AuHyDnPBlBg and a google search on “psychic attack” brings up a ton of stuff (e.g., http://www.ehow.com/how_2056586_protect-oneself-from-psychic-attacks.html)
p.s. LOL …I guess I have to work on opening my heart just a bit more to rise to the level of the blessed souls on here who instantly were able to send love to Kym… in the moment, it felt kinda good for me to hit “delete”! “delete”! on her emails that hit my in-box
Wow, Jeanette you are so awesome for using this experience to help other people–this is a really important question and I wish you could be in the hotseat w/Abe for it! hehe
As I was reading I was remembering the saying from ACIM, “All that is not love is a call for love” and thinking it could be aptly applied here…
I think the question you’re asking boils down to “How do I remain aligned and be supportive at the same time?” Because of course we’re of no help if we’re not aligned…all I can think of right now is what Abe says about reminding ourselves that they’re having a step one experience, better things are on the way because of it, and hold the image or vision of them having what they want…I know that there’s more to it than that though–especially when dealing with a client.
As always there’s so much wisdom from everyone here in the comments & in regards to what you said about stories, I guess the first key to helping someone stop being stuck in their story is for us to not see them as stuck in their story–kind of like what Flavia was saying about empathy. Maybe the most powerful empathy is seeing them where/how they want to be.
As for how helpful telling the story is, perhaps it’s only helpful in as much as it helps determine where they currently are in relation to where they want to be. (like the example Abe gives w/navigation systems–where you’ve been doesn’t matter)
Sending love to everyone involved!!
Well, we’ve got good company in each other, Adrienne. Thanks for not making me feel so lonely!! lol
And thanks for the links. I’m sure I’m not the only who will benefit from them.
MWAH!
Thanks for the ACIM quote, Carol. That’s helpful – and not just for this particular instance.
It’s weird … because our session was great and she gave lots of enthusiastic feedback (in writing and verbally) during and even days after our session.
So the alignment felt easy during our time together.
Okay, I’m starting to analyze this too much. This is a vibe I’m really interested and ready to let go.
You’re absolutely right in that the key is not to see someone stuck in their story. So I will stop referring to her as .. well, anything other than I would want to be perceived as myself.
That’s easy to get to, too .. the truth is I feel bad for her now because it would have been so easy to get what she wanted from me if she had gone about it differently.
I wonder how that might also be true for whatever I’m up to these days … hmm.
Thanks for pitching in, Carol!
Hi Jeannette,
I haven’t read the other comments so I may be repeating something someone else said but here goes. Would it be possible for you to listen to your clients story/situation in a consciously detached way, where perhaps you’re not identifying with it in your mind? Your mind is probably trying to find a place of “understanding” and that’s because you’re a kind person who is trying to help others. However, perhaps you could focus on listening but not “identifying” with their situation. It will take discipline which I’m sure you have. Then after they describe the problem, you could do sort of a wave with your hand across the energy in front of your face and say to yourself and/or to your client “Okay… let’s CANCEL that energy and focus on this:” blah blah (the blah blah’s is where you take over!) ; ) Anyway – it’s just a thought – many times when I go spend time thinking about stuff I don’t want to or I watch some horrible thing on TV or an unwanted thought crosses my mind – I just do my little wave (sort of pushing that energy away in a gentle manner) and I think “Cancel that!” It seems to really work for me.
Keep up the good work!
p.s. I saw the posts yesterday and was going to comment on it but I decided not to give it any energy. One thing though is – once there was a mix up on something I ordered from you and I sent you an email and you gave me an immediate refund – no hassle – no questions – no problem.
I think that would certainly do the trick, Can’t Remember.
You know, I believe so much in the power of combined energies to manifest something (like it’s easier together than when we do it alone), that when I talk with clients about what to do to get what they want I often say “here’s what we do next” or “and then what’ll for us is … ”
.. and I really mean US, as in I’m totally in it with them.
I don’t want to lose that aspect of it, but I’m sure there’s a way I can still be powerful support without making it mine.
Maybe I’ll start with an intention for just that, huh?! ha ha!
Thanks for posting, Can’tRemember!
Wow! This is the first I’ve heard about all of this. (I actually nearly checked your blog yesterday, but then decided not too… I guess I was vibrating something else at the time. lol)
Some good points have been made here about empathy. I know you know this as a coach, but sometimes when I listen to a person tell their story, in my attempt to be understanding, I get angry or sad or whatever right along with them. But interestingly enough, I only really do that if their story triggers something within me that is already sensitive. Is it possible you identify with some of your clients’ stories because of similar situations you’ve already got going on in your life? That would definitely serve to amplify any vibration offered to you by another person.
Here’s another perspective: Maybe this is the first step on Kymm’s healing path. We are where we are, and some of us are in better or worse places than others, and for some people way down on the scale, there can be a bit of clawing and scratching on the way back up. What if in Kymm’s search for an improvement, she attracted you specifically as a coach? Maybe it’s this situation and your reaction to it that she needed at her particular level, and maybe the Universe knew that you would be the one to help her get headed in the right direction… even if it is a bit of a bumpy start. (‘Cause hey, *she* attracted this too, right?)
In any case, I can personally vouch for your integrity and strong ethics as a life coach, as well as your EFFECTIVENESS, and I will repeat the same to the police, the FBI, the Better Business Bureau, Oprah Winfrey, Jack Canfield, and President Obama too if it becomes necessary.
How many times in this blog have I professed my true love for you, Mitch? hee hee
LOTS, I know!
The love affair continues.
So as I’ve been considering the empathy factor in prior comments above, I just realized I’m mixing things up. My time with Kymm was great (and that’s what I keep referring back to when I think about this), but it was the time with my other clients that I think triggered this particular situation.
(This confusion is what I get for putting so many questions and backstory details in the post!!)
So as I think back on my time with other clients who are dealing with crazy people in their lives, it’s easy to see how I really let that vibe get activated for both of us.
Time to hit the “redo” button!!
Thanks for joining the conversation, Mitch, and for reinforcing my belief about my integrity.
Hi Jeannette, Everyone
You all have beautiful insights into this question. Thank you!!!
Two thoughts come up for me in this question: Allowing and Uranus.
‘Allowing’ because we get what we vibrate and Jeannette you KNOW you vibrate a lot of ENERGY and ATTENTION from clients and readers, a lot of COMMENTS on your work and a whole lot of focus. Like Iyabo said, you’re a Celeb! People project their visions onto you!!! People love you, pay attention to you, try to catch your eye.
In this case, the energy seems like a contrast because the client in question wasn’t happy (so she can’t send anything but her unhappiness) but she still sent you what she had–ENERGY, ATTENTION, COMMENTS and all her FOCUS. If you’ve been working with clients on attracting ‘neg’ attention, and therefore thinking about this energy, it’s easy to see that you created a space for her to have her say AND shower you with love–her style.
The ‘Uranus’ thought came up when I read Caterpillar Woman (love your avatar,CW!). The point about drama is wonderful and a great reminder that ‘peaceful’ isn’t boring. As an astrologer I think this stands true particularly for those with an emphasis in Pisces, Taurus, Cancer — a natural vibe towards our usual definition of ‘peace’ (calm).
For others, say someone with Sun conjunct Uranus (hee hee hee) ‘peace’ may look different. It may not have much to do with ‘calm’. When the Pisces vibe person goes sailing, for example, they want to lull in the Sargasso Sea–serenity, calm, relaxed. When Sun conjunct Uranus goes sailing, they are looking for gale force winds and an ‘oh my goddess of the night, will be make it?’ vibe.
It’s the drama that authentically lights some people up–not all the time perhaps but every once in a while it’s ever so refreshing to get slammed–even when it’s ‘life or death’. Especially when it’s life or death.. . for some people.
We can do Vipassana one day and race Ferraris blindfolded the next, if that’s what feels good.
On a practical level, once I’ve had enough intensity, I go with the Abe, ‘Get in, say hi, get out’ approach. It works grand for some situations. With others I take a moment to see what I am attracting and what I like about it. I find the joy in it.
Contrast, when viewed from a great enough distance, is actually the same vibe. Extreme love and extreme hate seem very different until you focus on the common denominator.
Viva la contrast!
xxx
Much as I might BRIEFLY enjoy entertaining that thought, I am no celebrity, Kim!
But I do know that I purposely manifest lots of traffic to this blog and attention to the material of deliberate creation by every day folks.
In fact, my mission statement says “work with people from all ways of life to challenge belief systems, play with energy, know that anything is possible and harness the law of attraction to create daily magic and miracles.”
So undoubtedly, that’s exactly what this is.
We’re playing with energy in a really open way, learning and growing from it, and excluding no one in the process.
Okay, just finished reading the rest of your comment … so is that ME with a conjunct sun & Uranus?! It is, isn’t it?! I remember Uranus plays a strong role in my chart, and someone once interpreted that as explosive sorts of things happening in life.
Hmm.
That explains something, huh?! hee hee
With that, I think I’m ready to take my lesson in hand and move on from this topic. I’m posting a new one today so we can redirect our attention and get back in good alignment with exactly what we want!
Thanks for revealing so much here, Kim. Makes perfect sense and feels good, too!
Kim you.are.el.genius-o. WOW.
Dearest Jeannette…the wisdom that precedes me in this comment fills me with such JOY, HOPE, LOVE and DETERMINATION.
Except to echo the amazing-ness of everyone who’s already given voice I only have one thing to add…
Through this experience great things are happening. Your community is holding hands in circle with you in a more palpable, more intensely desirable, more intently powerful way than ever before. (…and it was pretty darn rockin’ before!)
The frequency of the vibration here is so high. The energy is amazing. Steeped in LOVE that is stronger than any lower vibration can even attempt to touch.
Good Vibe Coach indeed. Through this experience we can see, feel, be with the miracle of shifting vibration in a powerful way.
I agree whole-heartedly with the Good Vibe Family of comments here…and I deeply appreciate the LOVE here, pure and simple. Love is Power.
What a gift!
LOVE YOU, my Friend! XO
Seriously, Debra! I’m thinking how can I call myself PEERS to this kind of amazing stuff?!
But the same way I take credit for matching Kymm’s antics, I get to give myself credit for matching YOUR enlightenment and high vibes.
Thanks for the love, Debra – I am feeling it!
I was told to shake my hands or wash them in cold water after sending or giving reiki to another – I think it helps clear any energy you may have picked up. It seems to help.
I have a great deal of trouble with picking up others’ energy in general .. the tips I’ve been given that help me the most — a) visualizing a light blue-pink egg of light around me and knowing that no unwanted negative energies can get through it and b) grounding meditations (I find that when I’m grounded, I’m more centered and less likely to pick up negative stuff.
but clearly she’s here to remind the rest of us what a fabulous coach we think you are (or would be) and how we really need to sign up so there isn’t room in your schedule for people who don’t think you’re fabulous.
The more I’ve thought about this, the more compassion and, yes, pity I feel for Kymm. It seems clear that she honestly and genuinely believes herself to be a victim here. Does she not remember the phone call? Is there some other reason she’s going ballistic in an inappropriate way? I could speculate on why she’s acting/reacting this way, but the bottom line is, she really does appear to see herself as a victim.
That’s a really horrible place to be. I spent most of my life in “victim mode” and I, too, acted in appropriately and lashed out in completely ridiculous ways when I thought someone had “done me wrong”. It’s very painful to live that way. I can’t help but feel compassion and sincerely wish healing for Kymm.
Kymm, if you read this, please know that you can escape from victim mentality. It takes hard work and dedication, but if you sincerely want to step away from being the victim, you can, and the rewards that come from doing that are infinite. I wish you healing and, most of all, peace.
Only skimmed over this so forgive me.
I think ducking someone’s vibe is not the best way. Deal with it all head on whilst paying attention to your own vibe, I feel, is the only way forward for everyone involved. And that’s what you’ve done here Jeannette. And so has Kymm when I come to think about it. Good on both of you to deal with some issues that this situation has brought forward. This could easily have been a situation that could have seen you both victims, and actually niether of you are.
Ultimately, I think we are responsible for our own feelings. Whilst our actions may affect someone else, only they can choose to see it how they wish to. So I say, accept what other folks feel, but remember that how they feel doesn’t necessarily mean you have to feel the same way.
Jeannette – YOU ROCK ! And Kymm – so do you, its just we might not seen that side of you yet.
I’m off to hospital now for an operation to repair my broken collar bone – please send some good vibes my way folks. x
This whole scenario reminds me of what Gregg Braden talks about in regards to the mirrors reflecting in your life. Every person experiences mirrors of themselves through all the different patterns of relationships. Two mirrors stand out: who you are in the moment and what you judge in the moment.
Is Kymm’s instability and slightly stalker drama mirroring any sort of judgments you have against being unstable? Do you see it reflected in any other relationships in your life?
I don’t think you somehow soaked in her energy vibe, but rather she is displaying some sort of lesson to you that could potentially be of great benefit to you in the future. As Iyabo said earlier, when you are extremely popular and successful, you may encounter more of these types of situations. How you deal with this first encounter, may establish a pattern for the future.
Luckily, you are a master manifester and emotion chooser and can laugh off this whole experience as a lesson from the universe!
I’m reading a book by Diadra Price called Grace Awakening in which she talks about LOA but also about how opposites attract too so that when we are consciously on a spiritual path, we are also given the opposite of what we are in order to help heal it in the other person, as a gift, because we are all One. Also I’ve heard at my Unity church many times about how things will “come up” to be healed so that we can let them go. It seems like the more we judge or label this woman as wrong or crazy, the less we can heal the energy = she is us! Is there anything in us, that feels “nuts” that we want to project out and disown? The other thing that seems clear to me that since we, as a community, created this is the payoff; What a wonderful opportunity for us to all let Jeannette know how much we love and appreciate her! And by extension – one another. How great it is that we are participants in such a loving, protective community! Thank you Kymm for bringing us closer – we welcome you into our embrace!
Wow, I totally missed out on all the “fun”!!! Which is surprising considering I’m practically OCD in checking this blog… so either a) my vibe was sky-high or b) I was asleep when all this was happening
Something kinda similar actually happened to me not too long ago. I had ordered something on-line and kept getting charged for it over, and over, and over again! PayPal told me to contact the vendor directly, which I did, and he was just NO HELP whatsoever. He said he didn’t “have time” to check into it, even though my credit card kept being charged twice a day!
I was not used to this lack of customer service at all and found myself getting really angry with him, and sending him emails to express my anger. Normally I don’t write such emails because it’s really just not my style, but also I normally don’t need to!
Anyway, the funny thing is that this man is actually the president of an on-line company that teaches people about the law of attraction! He sent me this really nasty email that just said something like, “well you’ve obviously attracted this into your life and you need to deal with this.” Which I accepted because I know how the LOA works. But I wrote him back and said, “Fine, I can take responsibility for my side of the situation, but YOU need to take responsibility for your side of the situation!” I politely explained to him that he had attracted a very unhappy customer who will never, ever recommend his product to anyone else, which is unfortunate because I run a website that recommends products like his to others!
At that point, he didn’t respond, simply sent me my money I had been requesting, and wrote a blog about me!! (kind of like Jeannette did, haha.) Anyway, the blog just said that he realized he had not been taking full responsibility for his situation and needed to work on the kinks in his vibration… lol.
All that to say that this is what I learned from this situation:
1) I needed to take responsibility for my side of the situation, because I did in fact attract it
2) He was acting as a mirror for me and showed me two sides of myself I was unacknowleding up until then (his lack of customer service + my intense anger that arose)
3) That I just needed to clear this up within myself, and then move on!!
Jeannette, I would say to just make sure you’ve cleared out the “kinked” energy within you, make peace with the situation, and then just forget about the whole thing and move on. This is clearly NOT the norm for you, and you obviously have a TON of people out there who love you!! Including me:)
Big hugs,
Mary
Yes, Sun conjunct Uranus–It’s your closest aspect. It doesn’t ‘make’ you seek thrill and change and excitement; it’s in your chart because you ARE thrill and change and excitement (among other things:)
I just wanted to say thank you to everyone for offering some great ways to try to protect yourself from others who are trying to get to you.
I know this topic is all about Jeannette and what happened to her but it’s really striking a chord with me too, for different reasons.
I live with my sis who suffers from borderline personality disorder and for anyone who knows what this illness is, they would know that it’s really difficult to deal with.
I put up with her anger, outbursts, threats to kill those around her (including me), manipulation, meanness, controlling behaviour, put downs and insults on a daily basis.
I am going to try alot of the suggestions you have all posted here so I can come to a place where I can hopefully deflect some of this.
Thank you for helping me too!
I hope some of these suggestions will make me feel safe again.