Comments on: Q&A: How to Manage Expectations? http://goodvibeblog.com/2009/07/qa-how-to-manage-expectations/#utm_source=feed&utm_medium=feed&utm_campaign=feed Law of Attraction for the Real World with Good Vibe Coach, Jeannette Maw Mon, 06 Sep 2010 17:58:09 -0700 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.0.1 By: sue http://goodvibeblog.com/2009/07/qa-how-to-manage-expectations/comment-page-1/#comment-8220 sue Sun, 23 Aug 2009 17:39:06 +0000 http://goodvibeblog.com/?p=2012#comment-8220 I see a whole lot of "easier said than done" statements which I totally understand. But just think of all that is just done for us in our lives today, that we never have anything to say about. They just be. Let's just say that "things are done easier than we say" for a change. Obviously this has to do with the overwhelming truth of wellbeing that rules all. Imagine just getting into that mindset/vibration! Seeing that I've seen a whole lot mentioned about switching thoughts, I thought I'd try this one on for size! I see a whole lot of “easier said than done” statements which I totally understand. But just think of all that is just done for us in our lives today, that we never have anything to say about. They just be.
Let’s just say that “things are done easier than we say”
for a change. Obviously this has to do with the overwhelming truth of wellbeing that rules all. Imagine just getting into that mindset/vibration!
Seeing that I’ve seen a whole lot mentioned about switching thoughts, I thought I’d try this one on for size!

]]> By: Susie Beifuss http://goodvibeblog.com/2009/07/qa-how-to-manage-expectations/comment-page-1/#comment-7877 Susie Beifuss Thu, 06 Aug 2009 13:48:48 +0000 http://goodvibeblog.com/?p=2012#comment-7877 Hi Jeannette!!! Your BLOG entry prompted me to share two things with YOU!!! #1....I got so much from your posting of Gay Hendricks' perspective on (gremlins, etc)...of our feeling good hitting a ceiling....our feeling less than good being a signal that new good stuff wants in and wants us to open THAT door(without going back and finding tht and rereading, don't remember the wording, so this is my memory's best for now)... anyway, every "down" or "off" or "gremlin" or less than fantastic feeling, thought, action etc....became (for me, after reading your post of gay h's words) just a signal to me: GOOD STUFF COMING UP !!!!! #2....On death and dying (not a f av subject, but..) long story short: had three kids on drugs when they were teens: with help of support group, i learned and imbeded in my heart and soul: i'm not in charge of who gets to live 7 days and who gets to live 70 days everything happens for a reason everything happens for the best (even tho....a lot of times my perspective of that happening....hurts me) everyone dies there is ABSOLUTELY NO PROOF that being "alive" is superior or better than being "dead"....none. whenever i hear of someone who died or is dying, i mentally say goodbye and ask (god, universe, anybody!!) to BLESS THEM and tell myself im letting them go with love..... i do this when i pass an animal on the road who is gone (gone on? gone back? gone from their "body"....ok, dead) I ABSOLUTELY REFUSE TO stay sad about the death of anyone or any animal.....I deserve to be happy and healthy!! you are my hero, jeannette (even though young enuf to be my daughter!!!) love, susie ----- Original M Hi Jeannette!!!

Your BLOG entry prompted me to share two things with YOU!!!

#1….I got so much from your posting of Gay Hendricks’ perspective on (gremlins, etc)…of our feeling good hitting a ceiling….our feeling less than good being a signal that new good stuff wants in and wants us to open THAT door(without going back and finding tht and rereading, don’t remember the wording, so this is my memory’s best for now)…

anyway, every “down” or “off” or “gremlin” or less than fantastic feeling, thought, action etc….became (for me, after reading your post of gay h’s words) just a signal to me: GOOD STUFF COMING UP !!!!!

#2….On death and dying (not a f av subject, but..)
long story short: had three kids on drugs when they were teens: with help of support group, i learned and imbeded in my heart and soul:

i’m not in charge of who gets to live 7 days and who gets to live 70 days
everything happens for a reason
everything happens for the best (even tho….a lot of times my perspective of that happening….hurts me)
everyone dies
there is ABSOLUTELY NO PROOF that being “alive” is superior or better than being “dead”….none.

whenever i hear of someone who died or is dying, i mentally say goodbye and ask (god, universe, anybody!!) to BLESS THEM and tell myself im letting them go with love…..
i do this when i pass an animal on the road who is gone (gone on? gone back? gone from their “body”….ok, dead)

I ABSOLUTELY REFUSE TO stay sad about the death of anyone or any animal…..I deserve to be happy and healthy!!

you are my hero, jeannette (even though young enuf to be my daughter!!!)
love,
susie

—– Original M

]]> By: Susan http://goodvibeblog.com/2009/07/qa-how-to-manage-expectations/comment-page-1/#comment-7775 Susan Wed, 29 Jul 2009 08:19:55 +0000 http://goodvibeblog.com/?p=2012#comment-7775 First of all can I say a huge thankyou to everyone who contributes to these blogs (especially Jeanette) I have had so many ah-ha moments and so many laughs while reading them over the past few months which has really helped my manifesting skills. I'd just like to add my bit here. I have manifested some amazing and sometimes totally bizarre things since I became aware of LOA and I have found that the things that come easiest and fastest are the things I have a desire for and then forget about. These things come sometimes within hours! Of course there are what I consider to be 'big' things which I struggle with. However I truly believe that if I want it I can have it. Simple. After listening to Abraham a couple of nights ago on u-tube I'm trying to let go of any worry or fear that they aren't here yet because Abraham said 'when you let go of the struggle, source will take you straight there'. The way I'm doing this is appreciation for what I have now and having fun and laughing about everything I can. Although I'm not thinking about my desires all the time I still know that they are coming. I'm going on holiday this month and I'm soooooo looking forward to laughing my way through it and can you imagine what that's going to do for my vibrations? So, Yes, I do believe you can have what you want, everytime and I never imagine the worst. Only the best for me!!!!! After all I'm worth it :) Again a huge thankyou and love to you all. Susan First of all can I say a huge thankyou to everyone who contributes to these blogs (especially Jeanette) I have had so many ah-ha moments and so many laughs while reading them over the past few months which has really helped my manifesting skills.
I’d just like to add my bit here. I have manifested some amazing and sometimes totally bizarre things since I became aware of LOA and I have found that the things that come easiest and fastest are the things I have a desire for and then forget about. These things come sometimes within hours! Of course there are what I consider to be ‘big’ things which I struggle with. However I truly believe that if I want it I can have it. Simple. After listening to Abraham a couple of nights ago on u-tube I’m trying to let go of any worry or fear that they aren’t here yet because Abraham said ‘when you let go of the struggle, source will take you straight there’.
The way I’m doing this is appreciation for what I have now and having fun and laughing about everything I can. Although I’m not thinking about my desires all the time I still know that they are coming.
I’m going on holiday this month and I’m soooooo looking forward to laughing my way through it and can you imagine what that’s going to do for my vibrations?
So, Yes, I do believe you can have what you want, everytime and I never imagine the worst. Only the best for me!!!!! After all I’m worth it :)
Again a huge thankyou and love to you all.
Susan

]]> By: Emiko Jaffe http://goodvibeblog.com/2009/07/qa-how-to-manage-expectations/comment-page-1/#comment-7772 Emiko Jaffe Wed, 29 Jul 2009 05:07:40 +0000 http://goodvibeblog.com/?p=2012#comment-7772 Manish, I like "God's delays are not God's denials" and I totally agree that things can seem to get worse before they get better, it's like being unable to receive the new and improved when your hands are filled with the old and not so useful. So you have to make room! I really like your explanation of expecting the best and how we're expecting the worst if we're worried. Manish, I like “God’s delays are not God’s denials” and I totally agree that things can seem to get worse before they get better, it’s like being unable to receive the new and improved when your hands are filled with the old and not so useful. So you have to make room!

I really like your explanation of expecting the best and how we’re expecting the worst if we’re worried.

]]> By: Manish http://goodvibeblog.com/2009/07/qa-how-to-manage-expectations/comment-page-1/#comment-7771 Manish Wed, 29 Jul 2009 04:04:58 +0000 http://goodvibeblog.com/?p=2012#comment-7771 I think you should expect the best. If you're worried about getting your hopes smashed, it's an indication you're expecting the worst, aka focused on lack. Sometimes people focus on things, myself included, things they REALLY want...and they get really involved and wrapped up in it. And it even seems like things are happening. And then everything comes to a screeching halt! Whatever it may be...money, friends, relationships, love, peace, happiness...God's delays are not God's denials... Sometimes things on the surface even have to get "worse" to make room for something better to come along. Maybe a good situation has to end to make room for a great one. Maybe you have to get fired to make room for a new business. Maybe you have to take some bad-tasting medicine to get well. Never back away from expecting the best though, because no matter what happens, if you hold to your pure, joyous intention, it's all just part of the process. ...that's my $.02 anyways =) I think you should expect the best. If you’re worried about getting your hopes smashed, it’s an indication you’re expecting the worst, aka focused on lack.

Sometimes people focus on things, myself included, things they REALLY want…and they get really involved and wrapped up in it. And it even seems like things are happening. And then everything comes to a screeching halt!

Whatever it may be…money, friends, relationships, love, peace, happiness…God’s delays are not God’s denials…

Sometimes things on the surface even have to get “worse” to make room for something better to come along. Maybe a good situation has to end to make room for a great one. Maybe you have to get fired to make room for a new business. Maybe you have to take some bad-tasting medicine to get well.

Never back away from expecting the best though, because no matter what happens, if you hold to your pure, joyous intention, it’s all just part of the process.

…that’s my $.02 anyways =)

]]> By: Avi Marcus http://goodvibeblog.com/2009/07/qa-how-to-manage-expectations/comment-page-1/#comment-7738 Avi Marcus Tue, 28 Jul 2009 06:09:19 +0000 http://goodvibeblog.com/?p=2012#comment-7738 Hale Dwoskin (Sedona Method) says to hold yourself it "hootlessness" when you don't care if it happens or not. In an audio on money-clearing, he said to think of the things you fear, and let them go - because (somehow!) if you are fearing them you really want them. Not sure about that, but when you go up (positive expectation) and down (negative expectation) and allow both instances, then you are truly detaching yourself and entering hootlessness. If you WANT it to turn out good, that means you are still attached to the outcome! It's a bit scary, but truly it seems by giving up wanting it to be good, we allow the energy to flow. And it does flow to the good - because that is the NATURAL state of things! Hale Dwoskin (Sedona Method) says to hold yourself it “hootlessness” when you don’t care if it happens or not. In an audio on money-clearing, he said to think of the things you fear, and let them go – because (somehow!) if you are fearing them you really want them.
Not sure about that, but when you go up (positive expectation) and down (negative expectation) and allow both instances, then you are truly detaching yourself and entering hootlessness.

If you WANT it to turn out good, that means you are still attached to the outcome! It’s a bit scary, but truly it seems by giving up wanting it to be good, we allow the energy to flow. And it does flow to the good – because that is the NATURAL state of things!

]]> By: Kim Falconer http://goodvibeblog.com/2009/07/qa-how-to-manage-expectations/comment-page-1/#comment-7722 Kim Falconer Mon, 27 Jul 2009 23:21:08 +0000 http://goodvibeblog.com/?p=2012#comment-7722 I love these posts! Thank you Everyone, and Jeannette--great topic for discussion. My first thought is Giselle! http://www.imdb.com/title/tt0461770/ She 'expected' with so much certainty of the outcome that there was no need, no attachment and of course, no disappointment. (If you don't think your life can be a Disney movie if you want it to, come visit mine!) Sonia summed it up "Wanting without needing is the key" and it CAN be easier DONE than said with the right model. For me, I use air as my template. I expect with absolute trust and alignment that there will be beautiful air for me to breath. I'm not attached or worried. I KNOW, like Giselle, with every fiber of my being and I DO get excited about taking a deep breath--very excited about sea air, or mountain air, or cinnamon scented air or air from a rose.... I say, rip it up! Tear it up! Amp it up! Live it up!!! I expect as wildly and zany and extreme as I can imagine! Mostly, I expect, no matter what, to have the time of my life....and I do! x Kim (SCUBA divers and astronauts email me for an alternate to the 'air' metaphor!) I love these posts! Thank you Everyone, and Jeannette–great topic for discussion.

My first thought is Giselle!

http://www.imdb.com/title/tt0461770/

She ‘expected’ with so much certainty of the outcome that there was no need, no attachment and of course, no disappointment. (If you don’t think your life can be a Disney movie if you want it to, come visit mine!)

Sonia summed it up “Wanting without needing is the key” and it CAN be easier DONE than said with the right model.

For me, I use air as my template. I expect with absolute trust and alignment that there will be beautiful air for me to breath. I’m not attached or worried. I KNOW, like Giselle, with every fiber of my being and I DO get excited about taking a deep breath–very excited about sea air, or mountain air, or cinnamon scented air or air from a rose….

I say, rip it up! Tear it up! Amp it up! Live it up!!! I expect as wildly and zany and extreme as I can imagine!

Mostly, I expect, no matter what, to have the time of my life….and I do!

x Kim

(SCUBA divers and astronauts email me for an alternate to the ‘air’ metaphor!)

]]> By: MissyB http://goodvibeblog.com/2009/07/qa-how-to-manage-expectations/comment-page-1/#comment-7714 MissyB Mon, 27 Jul 2009 20:14:32 +0000 http://goodvibeblog.com/?p=2012#comment-7714 Thanks Jeannette - I liked your take and everyones input. I'm still pondering....... ponder, ponder ! Thanks Jeannette – I liked your take and everyones input.

I’m still pondering…….

ponder, ponder !

]]> By: sonia http://goodvibeblog.com/2009/07/qa-how-to-manage-expectations/comment-page-1/#comment-7708 sonia Mon, 27 Jul 2009 16:26:28 +0000 http://goodvibeblog.com/?p=2012#comment-7708 Girls, u're so smart! Jenny and Tia summed it up really nicely. wanting without needing is the key, but easier said than done, right? I found this site and it created miracles for me: http://www.thecosmicorderingsite.com/ you just place your orders to the universe, a due date and you forget about it. You feel like you've done your part and the neediness goes way. I already had 2 deliveries that came even sooner than I expected and I know the others are coming to. This made it easier for me to let go of the attachement. I've done my part, now it's the universe's job and I know that what I've asked for will come in the most wonderful way. I asked for really precise things like the words I wanted to get in a mesage from a special someone and I had exactely what I asked for. It worked for me, I hope it will work for you. Expecting the worse is not such a good idea, I think, because u get what u expect! love Girls, u’re so smart! Jenny and Tia summed it up really nicely. wanting without needing is the key, but easier said than done, right? I found this site and it created miracles for me:

http://www.thecosmicorderingsite.com/

you just place your orders to the universe, a due date and you forget about it. You feel like you’ve done your part and the neediness goes way. I already had 2 deliveries that came even sooner than I expected and I know the others are coming to. This made it easier for me to let go of the attachement. I’ve done my part, now it’s the universe’s job and I know that what I’ve asked for will come in the most wonderful way.
I asked for really precise things like the words I wanted to get in a mesage from a special someone and I had exactely what I asked for.
It worked for me, I hope it will work for you.
Expecting the worse is not such a good idea, I think, because u get what u expect!
love

]]> By: Erik http://goodvibeblog.com/2009/07/qa-how-to-manage-expectations/comment-page-1/#comment-7707 Erik Mon, 27 Jul 2009 13:53:36 +0000 http://goodvibeblog.com/?p=2012#comment-7707 Hi there, and thanks for the inspiration! I second TIA's take on the choice between 'preference' and 'need'. Only today I realized, that some of my wishes and needs constantly defy manifesting. I tried to find out why. Final conclusion: 'need' includes the image of 'not having and being sad about it'. No take just the last quoted sentence and try to manifest - lol, not so good. I am trying, not without some pain, to let go of what I am trying to manifest and let the universe figure out how and when. I use to forget to feel good about what I want to manifest. This is where Jeannette really kicks you in your loa-behind ;) (thanks for that) and reminds you to be happy. Expecting the worst is in part manifesting the worst. If the 'worst' wants to come and the universe thinks it fits for you, bring it on - but in my opinion, don't waste your time thinking about worst cases when you can spend so much of this time feeling good and happy (which makes manifesting the good outcomes so much more likely). My 2 cents ;) Erik Hi there,
and thanks for the inspiration! I second TIA’s take on the choice between ‘preference’ and ‘need’. Only today I realized, that some of my wishes and needs constantly defy manifesting. I tried to find out why. Final conclusion: ‘need’ includes the image of ‘not having and being sad about it’. No take just the last quoted sentence and try to manifest – lol, not so good.

I am trying, not without some pain, to let go of what I am trying to manifest and let the universe figure out how and when. I use to forget to feel good about what I want to manifest. This is where Jeannette really kicks you in your loa-behind ;) (thanks for that) and reminds you to be happy.

Expecting the worst is in part manifesting the worst. If the ‘worst’ wants to come and the universe thinks it fits for you, bring it on – but in my opinion, don’t waste your time thinking about worst cases when you can spend so much of this time feeling good and happy (which makes manifesting the good outcomes so much more likely).
My 2 cents ;)

Erik

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