How Money Changes Things
Here’s an interesting reflection about how our “charge” on money affects the results …
There are some fabulous folks that give rave reviews to my work – whether it’s the ezine, the Catalyst articles, the blog posts, or the ebooks.
Which I greatly appreciate! (Not just because it helps spread the word, but because it’s nice to hear my material is worthy of raving about!)
When I see that happening, I often invite the raving fan to sign up for my affiliate program.
Since they’re already sending me business, I figure they may as well get compensated for it! Which sounds good to them, too, since they’re already doing the “work” of promoting Good Vibe stuff – it’s easy for them to keep doing what they were already doing.
So I send them the affiliate link (which I don’t advertise anywhere – it’s by invite only) and they sign up.
And then something very interesting sometimes happens.
It seems like overnight their authentic, genuine rave reviews turn into something that sounds more like a traditional marketing pitch.
It’s as if now they’re trying to convince someone, rather than just sharing the love. Or they’re efforting towards results (trying to make something happen) instead of just enjoying the opportunity to share a resource they found valuable.
It’s like once they’re promoting me for compensation – things change!
(Not every time, but sometimes.)
Maybe it’s something else in play, but part of me wonders if this change came about because money entered the picture.
- Like, now that they’re getting paid for raving it takes the joy out of it.
- Or makes it feel tainted or less pure.
- Or they really really want to see some money come in as a result, so they try extra hard to be convincing – whereas before they didn’t care if you believed them.
- Or maybe they don’t want to let me down, or really want to contribute to my financial rewards for what they think of as great material.
Which makes me wonder what charge I might still have on money, because if I suspect I’m seeing it in someone else, it’s gotta be part of me, too.
So this is our opportunity to get curious about how or whether money affects us in our own lives. Would you approach something differently if money weren’t involved? Or if it were?
I wonder if I got paid for fostering these animals .. (which some people do! A friend of a friend makes half her mortgage payment by fostering a couple of dogs from California!) .. I wonder if I got paid for fostering if that would change the way I did it or how I felt about it.
Or blog posts – I’ve seen others writing affected when they started making money from their blog (for better and for worse).
Or that job I used to hate – the only reason I went was because of the money. (I think that’s a pretty good indicator of something worth changing in life. There are simply too many ways to make money than to keep doing something we don’t love!)
Maybe the way you run your business would be different if you weren’t worried about how to make money. If you were already rolling in it, what would you do or feel different about it?
That’s not only worth thinking about, that’s worth changing now – if you’re interested in aligning to more money, that is. (Because if you’ve got a negative “charge” on it, you’re repelling it.)
But maybe you don’t care about making money. And my suspicion (as well as personal experience) is that when that’s the case, you can’t help but make more of it.
Another example I’m entertaining: what if I paid for comments on this blog? How would that change things? I’m imagining a couple of things might happen:
- Some people wouldn’t post because they wouldn’t want me or others to think they’re posting just to get paid.
- Others might post who normally wouldn’t have, just to get extra money in their pocket.
- Some might be more thoughtful in what they post, since they might feel like they needed to be worthy of the payment.
- I wonder if the generous love and joy that you guys naturally bring would change?
What a curious thing money does sometimes, huh?
This is an opportunity to get more open (or at least more neutral) about money if we find it’s kinking the vibe at all.
As usual, I’m curious about your thoughts!
In fact, should we do an experiment? It would be easy to Paypal $1 to every poster (if you include a real email address where you type in your name) and we’ll see if it does change anything. It could also be a good opportunity for you to see if money affects how you do things! (I know a dollar isn’t much, but pretend it is.)
Let the experiment begin! lol I’m officially paying for comments on this post!! oh my gosh. (And not spam comments. Those guys still get filtered and deleted as usual.)
This isn’t to bribe you, though – just to see if anything changes once money is involved! May be interesting, huh?!
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February 1st, 2010 at 1:15 pm
Ok, well my first thought is that I’ve been vibrating
“easy money” the past few days and look at me go! Money is so easy for me that I get a buck just for posting to Jeannette’s blog, even though I would have posted a comment anyway! That’s pretty darn cool:)
My second thought is that yes, the affiliate thing is tricky. I only write reviews of products on my site that I truly and utterly believe in; otherwise, they don’t appear on my site. The funny thing is, Jeannette, your products get purchased WAY more than the other products I mention on my site. So I guess you and I are both flowing our energy the right way in that case:)
This is an interesting topic… going to think more about it. Hey, if I post another comment do I get another $1?? hehe.
February 1st, 2010 at 1:21 pm
You were definitely one of the exceptions I was thinking of when I wrote this, Self Help Goddess!
You know what happened to me ever since the new affiliate rule thing in November took place? I haven’t used any affiliate links! Not a ONE! (I still get commission checks, from old ones still out there, I guess.) But it’s like the weight and heaviness of rules and legal restrictions just made me drop it altogether.
And .. ha! laughing at your last question .. I think the experiement is well served with one payment per person rather than per comment. lol
But I like the way you think, girlfriend! Easy money, indeed!
February 1st, 2010 at 1:24 pm
And I have to say this, the money element of this post was already making me more self-conscious than usual about letting folks know about a new blog post.
I went into the “should I? shouldn’t I?” routine of tweeting it and posting it on facebook.
I have to admit, for me, on the topic of this blog post at least, money seems to be changing things. Although I can’t yet say whether it’s for better or worse.
February 1st, 2010 at 1:30 pm
Okay, Gorgeousophie wouldn’t post this here, but she did on my facebook page:
LOL! Laughing my head off at the new post on Good Vibe Blog and wondering if there are no comments cos none of us dared! Look at me, am doing it here even, although would have loved to do it there as a mischievous thing – but as much as I love naughty, being paid for laughing?! Naaaaah!!! Now trying to disentangle it a…ll…Should I start torturing myself re my money vibe?! Would it not be mercenary to be paid by someone who freely gives as you do?! Will other people come along who do not know of you and try and do so?! If I were to do it, would I not be a baaad baaad Sophie?! *lightbulb* Oh I know, may I have some lacy underpants instead?! Lolol! Thanks Jeannette, I am loving it!
And I responded:
See!!! It’s happening, isn’t it?! I felt a little self-conscious myself about that post! And to be honest, the friend of a friend who makes money fostering dogs, I’m like … REALLY?!?! You get PAID for that? As if that cheapens it or something. (Same as we would think about it if it were getting paid for sex, right?)
February 1st, 2010 at 1:41 pm
Jeannette!The sex thing ABSOLUTELY crossed my mind! I really really like you Dude and no, do not pay me for that one cos it would then reek indeed of remunerated affection! Sugar Daddy request coming up at GVU, watch this space (well, the other one!)xxx
February 1st, 2010 at 1:41 pm
K, Gorgeousophie, I’m looking out for your OutSourcerer request at GVU!
You know what I just realized, too? This is also the same reason why I prefer using unsolicited testimonials – they’re more REAL. Less “scripted.”
Like when someone raves and I ask permission to use it, they’d send me something back thinking they’ll be all official about it, and use proper grammar and such – and what they send back kind of sucks. Seriously, it’s like they’re self-conscious all of a sudden and that comes through in the energy of the words.
February 1st, 2010 at 1:42 pm
Cool post, I am going to be watching this one with interest too.
I have a theory about one of the elements of the money vibe that I find fascinating and that is the element of numbers and scorekeeping. This is probably more of a guy thing, but I like to watch the numbers to see who is “winning,” and we think of money in terms of numbers. Our salary is a number, our bank balance is a number, and how much something costs is a number. We all know that in the money game we want high numbers for asset and income and low numbers liabilities and expenses. Take away the numbers and how do we measure value?
As I write this people are excited about an upcoming football game called the “Super bowl.” I personally am not a fan, but I think people are going to watch to see which team will have the most points at the end of the game, with the assumption that the team with the most points does the best job. What if they didn’t keep score? Would people tune in to watch 2 teams take turns moving a football up and down the field?
I think that people want money because of the things that it can buy, but I also think that people get caught up in the numbers, the comparisons and the competition. (Do you ladies agree? Or is that just a guy thing?)
Speaking of numbers, there was a recent blog about outsourcing energy that that got over 240 posts, way more than most blogs. Will this one get as many? I’m going to come back and check the numbers.
February 1st, 2010 at 1:50 pm
Well, Robert, that certainly matters to many life coaching business owners. I’m probably included in that category (much as I might not want to be).
Wouldn’t it be fun if we measured “winners” in some other way? I’m sure many do already … okay, I’m laughing thinking about the scene from Whip It when the Hurl Scouts chant “We’re #2! We’re #2!” lol
Or like in Survivor, when someone makes a call that costs them the million but maintains their personal integrity. That’s a winning move, in my book. Even though they don’t get the title or the moola.
What could be another way to measure Superbowl winners? Most fans? Cutest cheerleaders? Best sponsors?
I’ve got another example of when money affected my vibe negatively …
I was prepping Good Vibe U for folks, and the first person who signed up (paying money) before it was really “ready” kind of freaked me out.
I went into “I’ve gotta DELIVER” mode … like, I have to make it worth their while. And FAST! It was not good pressure to feel. Luckily I re-thought it and took a little action that helped me rebalance again.
And right now, I found myself saying a prayer: “Please Lord, let there not be 240 people posting here” because the thought of the work involved in sending out 240 $1 payments really does not appeal!! lol
But, if/when it comes to that, I’ll just practice that setting an intention to experience a core value thingy that I always preach to clients. It works like magic for transforming something we might not have been looking forward to otherwise.
February 1st, 2010 at 1:51 pm
“I think that people want money because of the things that it can buy, but I also think that people get caught up in the numbers, the comparisons and the competition.”
This is basically how I feel about money! I’ve heard it said that “it’s never about the money,” but the feeling, the freedom, or some kind of other result you want. Well, I agree that I want that stuff, but I also do want the money, cause I simply find it fun/exciting to count/have/periodically look at the numbers. Haha. Never was much of a fan of competition though.
February 1st, 2010 at 2:03 pm
Ok, here’s my freebie comment:
I think that this post is an *excellent* invitation to inquire about our feelings and attitude towards money, based on what comes up when deciding whether to post or not. For me, I had no shame in posting my first comment… I wanted that dollar! It didn’t even occur to me that I could be seen as greedy, or whatever. I knew that dollar was mine, and I wanted it! And I tend to think that way about money in life, too. If I want something, I know I’ll eventually get it. Either the money will show up, or I’ll receive it some other way. And most of the time, I do get exactly what I want:)
For those who feel weird about commenting, or who comment when they normally don’t, I think this could give you great insight into your relationship with money… whatever it is! Don’t judge your response as good or bad, just gently inquire into whatever it is that comes up. The first step to change is always awareness, and your attitude towards this post could give you just the awareness you need to create an absolutely fabulous relationship with money!
February 1st, 2010 at 2:10 pm
You know what else you do really well, Mary? Showing how not to have judgment over “it’s not enough” or “it’s too small” to bother with.
That signal from Universe wouldn’t be super helpful for attracting more money, would it?
Being able to flow appreciation for ANY amount would be a vibration much aligned to abundance, I imagine.
February 1st, 2010 at 2:12 pm
Great Post! As I have worked through some of my own challenges with money I recognized a few years ago, a pattern. At the time I was working for a technology company selling software and services. I found that if I was selling for someone else it was okay, but when I first began building my own website (a few years ago) the thought of selling (for me!) scared the he$# out of me.
Today through Law of Attraction methods and focusing my mind I’m learning to direct my thoughts towards money. This is a great learning process for me and one we are all learning.
Kevin
February 1st, 2010 at 2:12 pm
First, please send my $1 to your local animal shelter.
While I have often attached (and attracted) emotions to money, money is a tool, a method of commodity or service exchange. I found that once I changed my money story from a sparse drip from a faucet to a continous flow, that the charge around money vanished. Now, I find money everywhere and just smile.
A little illustration..
A friend of mine wanted very much to go to Africa to track the gorillas. We talked about her heart’s desire, she always attributed her not going to the cost. I repeatedly replied that it is never about the money. She found this hard to believe and continued to equate money with going/not going to Africa. Last month, after she did some amazing thought turn arounds [a la Byron Katie] as well as LOA, she came to the realization that she could go whenever she was ready and the money is available. Well, she is ready and going this summer.Woo Hoo!
February 1st, 2010 at 2:13 pm
Wow, Kevin!! That’s insightful!
I’m sure many will relate to it!
Nice that you recognized what was at work and began consciously shifting it.
That’s what deliberate creation is all about, right?!
Thanks for posting, my friend.
February 1st, 2010 at 2:13 pm
Great story, Susan! “It’s never about the money.”
You live that very well, too. (I think I know you well enough to know that about you).
In fact, that would make a great article at Good Vibe U or guest post here … ?!
February 1st, 2010 at 2:14 pm
SelfHelpGoddess, give us pound!Lol!
February 1st, 2010 at 2:15 pm
I have to say, my reaction was interesting. I read all the stuff in the post about how money changes things, and how it would affect peoples’ comments and so forth. I therefore decided to just post in as offhand, happened-to-drop-by manner as possible, just to be contrary.
I think I have a real problem with doing what I think is expected of me. lol
February 1st, 2010 at 2:15 pm
Jeannette – Well, I first I have to say that I had this strong desire to re-read your “Unkink Your Money Vibe” article this morning and did! So whether or not I’m aligned with money, I seem to be aligned with you! lol
A couple things came up for me with this post. One is that I’ve been flowing easy money lately, so good on me for manifesting this!
But I did have a brief moment of hesitation thinking, “Oh, I don’t want to take her money. What if they think that’s the only reason I’m posting?” Which is completely irrational, since I post here all the time anyway. Thank you for shedding the light on a vibe that can use some cleaning up! *ahem* I’m proud to receive money and I love that it comes to me easily from expected and unexpected sources! There. That’s better.
Robert, I know exactly what you mean. I’m a numbers freak! I’ve always loved math, and I love numbers in money as well. I realize that money is only a channel through which other things come (basically a really watered down version of trade, right?), but there’s still something about the number itself, something about seeing that bank account grow and grow, that feels so satisfying to me, and not just because of the things that it can buy. Interesting.
February 1st, 2010 at 2:15 pm
I meant ‘a’ pound damnit! I like your attitude!
February 1st, 2010 at 2:17 pm
I can relate to that, Fen!!
And Mitch, very nicely done!! That’s a nice example you set that I know many will follow your lead in.
February 1st, 2010 at 2:27 pm
When I first read your post, I found myself falling into category # 3:
“Some might be more thoughtful in what they post, since they might feel like they needed to be worthy of the payment.”
So there’s definitely still a charge to money… though I have to say it’s becoming less so, because I immediately picked up on it.
(and my dollar can go with Susan’s to the animal shelter!)
I’d also like to commend your bravery because if I were in your shoes, I’d wonder if some drive-by poster would try to take advantage of me (another charge!) and post for no reason other than to make money.
This post reminds me of the one you posted on trust with your kitten! If faith were really there– in the universe– this wouldn’t be an issue.
Thanks once again for providing a thought-provoking topic!
February 1st, 2010 at 2:28 pm
Hi Jeannette …
As soon as I saw you tweet about this blog, I hopped on over to read it! WOW … as you know, I immediately sent you a DM saying “I think I am going to just start reading your blog posts and Good vibe U stuff as part of my business plan!”
I really mean it. All the rest of the stuff we learn about marketing strategies and what to do and what not do to in order to grow your business means “diddly squat” if you don’t have the right mindset around money. You summed it up beautiful in this one sentence:
If you have a negative charge around it, you are going to repel it!
I find that when I am just in the flow and loving what I am doing, the money will come. But then, when I start taking note of how much is coming and judging that it is not enough, I repel it instantly — it’s like I have a “repel wall”.
When I think about what I would be doing differently if I didn’t have to “make the money”, I think I would just be so much more loosey goosey about everything. Would I send a Newsletter out on a regular basis? Maybe, Maybe not. Would I promote my programs on Twitter or anywhere else? Maybe not. Would I give a hoot whether I attracted 1 or 30 clients to me per month — probably not! Wouldn’t matter.
You are definitely on to something here! Thank you for this post!
February 1st, 2010 at 2:29 pm
Well said, Gemstone.
And Maria, I can’t tell you how happy I am that you’ve got a presence at Good Vibe U, because your vibration around health and the body in general is one I intend to model for myself!!
February 1st, 2010 at 2:30 pm
Hahaha! And what would you guys do if we had to pay for posting?!
February 1st, 2010 at 2:37 pm
Dear Jeannette,
I couldn’t agree more! I’m sorry to say I am just as guilty as the next guy when it comes to feeling “weird” when money is involved. I always struggle with even the confidence to charge appropriately…It’s so interesting that your post today really tapped into a long running 15 year discussion with my hubby/business partner…just this morning we were discussing how to charge a client, what to charge, what is fair to us and our family and also fair to the client, etc.
Also, ironically, on our journey we are back to a time in business where we are taking clients just to pay the bills. So we have a potential client in front of us…one that is very kind, but the project “just doesn’t feel good.” It’s not what our passion is, it’s not from our hearts or higher selves, it’s just “work”, and their budget just doesn’t seem fair on our end for all this “work” But we have to be responsible adults, and take care of our family, so do we take a project just because of this or would turning it down actually open the door to something we are more aligned with?
I don’t know, I can tell you we are truly confused about gratitude in all of it because on one hand we are grateful somebody believes in us and wants to pay us even something and the universe sent them our way, but does that mean we take anything out of gratitude?
I can also tell you even with best friends, the second money is on the table it gets uncomfortable…we’ve had some very uncomfortable situations with great friends when it came down to money. It’s usually always felt more by the party who has “less” money in their account.
I think that we all want to do great things, follow our higher purpose and help others, however, when our ego finds out our bank account balance, we all panic and fear takes over. Without the fear attached to money, I believe we’d all handle ourselves differently. By the way, please don’t send me the $1 you mentioned, as I believe my angels led me to your blog as they often do and I was meant to see your message and share my comment. I wouldn’t really love to answer for money, I like to do it from my heart..I think we all would, but then we realize we have to make money too! But this wouldn’t be my preferred method.
Our fears about money are linked to survival and until we can all learn that we are taken care of in other ways, and trust that things will work out for us, we rely on these feelings that surround “MONEY” I agree, if money were not an issue, I believe people would stand up for themselves, follow their spirits and make many very different decisions. I would hope to believe people would still recommend you and your work and your site for no fee as well, just because it makes such a difference in people’s lives.
I can honestly say, if money wasn’t a current issue for me I have 5 businesses I’d like to be starting TODAY full time!!! Why am I not?? Hmmmmm….that’s another blog topic another day…
February 1st, 2010 at 2:40 pm
You’re cracking me up (again), Gorgeosophie!
Tina, that’s an interesting situation. I could feel myself getting confused just reading about it. (Were I in your shoes, I might just turn this one over to Universe – much like I did in my love triangle, where it seemed it couldn’t be happy endings across all fronts.)
And MAN, am I having fun thoughts imagining what your five passion-inspired businesses might be!
February 1st, 2010 at 2:52 pm
Intriguing. I’ve little to add beyond something I’ve mentioned here (long) before: Money is nothing but liquid power. It is the ability to make Yes happen in a completely neutral form, so it can be given the value its exchangers attribute to it. By “liquid” I mean it can be applied to a great many exchanges/applications, and its use in one instance doesn’t prevent it being used entirely differently elsewhere. It’s liquid.
As such, as liquid power, how can it not have a charge? The question is how the charge applies, and in what amount, and to what effect. The same amount of current that starts your car can stop your heart. Or restart it. Or wash your clothes. Or light your house. The same goes for money. Why do you suppose they call it “currency”?
February 1st, 2010 at 3:03 pm
ROFLMAO at the bombardment of different reactions I had to this most excellent post! I’m gonna confess that I signed up as an affiliate … And immediately stopped raving to friends about you – In case they thought I was having an Amway moment, LOL!
I’ve been doing some fantastic money-energy-cleaning lately, so I’m delighted to have created you doing this post to help me see even more of the light. And raving will recommence in pure joy and love.
I hope you know just how much you are appreciated, my friend. Mwah!
February 1st, 2010 at 3:04 pm
SHG, where are you?! I have often been told lately that the way romantic love and money are inextricably one in my mind was NOT a good thing (I am very ‘basic’ from that point of view, very much into the ‘you love me, you value me’ with your time, words, feelings, hugs, cuddles, kisses, attention, endless desire and money indeed *did I hear the word ‘demanding’ yet again?’ or is it a figment of my wild imagination?!*whilst still being utterly unable to hang out with wealthy bores – see my Outsourcerer request, says it all!). As you openly, gracefully and cheekily posted first, I am now wondering if I am onto a good thing nevertheless as you have obviously made it your life work to love yourself and thus money loves you in return?!
February 1st, 2010 at 3:04 pm
A projection of our power, right, John?
Janette, I’ve had the same experience once I find it’s time to tell everyone about a new project I’ve finished.
I didn’t get my edited sales page done yesterday, but that may very well happen today now that I’m immersed in this great vibe of money freedom you’re helping to flow here!
Thanks for posting, you two!
February 1st, 2010 at 3:06 pm
That’s interesting. At first I thought “what a great blog, I should post a comment”, then I read some more and thought, “I don’t want to feel like I’m responding just to make a buck. What’s a buck anyway?”
After reviewing those thoughts, I started laughing and had to share that conflict. First I wanted to respond because it was a great post then I didn’t want to because I’d get paid, then I realized how funny all that was and posted anyway. You can keep the buck Jeanette. Thanks for making me laugh at myself
February 1st, 2010 at 3:12 pm
Am I unique in feeling absolutely no guilt at all about taking my dollar? I mean, it’s been my personal policy for quite a while now to accept free money when I’m offered it. I heard something (I don’t remember who said it) many years ago that really stuck with me. I went something like this: “When you refuse money, you are depriving someone of the joy of giving it to you.” What they were saying is that we often feel guilty about taking someone’s money, yet by refusing or trying to talk them down to less, we are actually doing them a disservice.
Now, I don’t know about that being true all the time or whatever (it is, like everything else, merely someone’s opinion), but it really turned my way of thinking around. I realized that I too had been in many situations where I wanted to joyfully give someone money and was annoyed at their attempts to deflect it.
So, I never refuse money. Ever. If someone offers it, then I can only assume they would like me to have it. It’s not my place to worry and spend all day grilling them about whether they’re REALLY sure. I presume they’ve figured that out already.
I even pick up pennies if I find them, cause why the heck not? It’s money, and it allows me to say with 100% truthfulness, “I make more money every day!”
Right, well, I seem to have wandered a bit… lol
Anyway.
February 1st, 2010 at 3:13 pm
That’s exactly what I/we wanted to hear, Tim!! The process happening at home for everyone! Otherwise this experiment isn’t so interesting.
Thanks for posting!! I got a laugh from it, too.
If that’s so, Fen, I say you become our money mascot and lead the way in showing others how easily and guilt-free you let money in!!
February 1st, 2010 at 3:14 pm
Gorgeousophie, I am here, I am here!! I have heard *several* times that our relationships between money and love are connected, so I absolutely think you’re onto something! If we believe in lack (or abundance) in one area of our life, it usually transfers to another area of our life.
Personally, I think it all comes down to belief. I believe I deserve good things, and I very often get them! I’m a little more advanced with this in the money arena than in the love arena, but I’m getting there!
Mwah!
February 1st, 2010 at 3:19 pm
I should add, I found a nickel in the ladies’ room today and was delighted! I no longer pick up pennies, but nickels, dimes, quarters, and even hundred dollar bills are ALL MINE!!
February 1st, 2010 at 3:23 pm
You know, SHG, that’s making me remember some people who find that it feels better NOT to pick up money they see on the street, because that vibration makes them feel … mm … less than fabulous.
It just goes to show, we really truly need to feel it out for ourselves, right? And not just blindly practice some habit of picking up every single penny no matter what as a way to say thanks to Universe for abundance.
That’s interesting to me that you don’t do that … thanks for the opportunity to check in with myself about what feels best!
February 1st, 2010 at 3:24 pm
Hundred dollar bills, the most delightful finds ever! There sure are a lot of them out there *looks out window* I mean damn yo, people are just throwin’ them around into my backyard…. *daydreams*
February 1st, 2010 at 3:31 pm
Speaking of affiliates!! I failed to tell anyone about THIS one!
I’m being interviewed by Eric tonight, LOA Insider, free series when you sign up:
http://www.1shoppingcart.com/app/?af=1112768
And that IS an affiliate link! (Although, how can I be getting paid when it’s free? I have no idea – didn’t care – just said YES! when someone asked me to talk about LOA. he he)
February 1st, 2010 at 3:34 pm
Interesting… I was wondering how my Facebook posting would change if I were to be paid for it. Facebooking is one of the things I absolutely love in life, but if I were to be paid for it, I think I’d feel much more responsible for delivering “value” – whatever that might be. I think the off-the-cuf, sometimes whimsical posts deliver as much value as the “deep thoughts” I sometimes feel like sharing. If there was money involved, I guess I’d turn to the serious side (and get a tad boring & heavy in that process).
In my work, I’ve gone through an evolution where I no longer cling at potential customers for the money they could possibly deliver to me (I now realize that that’s basically how I used to look at them, deep down: I deliver their texts, they deliver the money to me). Lately I’ve caught myself several times thinking: “I don’t care if you hire me. It’s up to you. If you do, I’ll make sure I’ll have a great time at what I do, and I’ll send my best & most positive energy into the working relationship with you to make sure we enjoy being connected in this project. But if you don’t hire me: no prob, there’ll be others.)
That may sound a bit aloof or uncommitted, but to me it’s freedom to the highest degree: knowing that I no longer need to take on work for money. My (potential) customers are no longer the bringers of money. They’re people who call on me to use my gifts & talents for them, who give me the chance to use languages I love, to expand & hone my writing skills, to discover new areas of interest, to indulge in perfectionism, to do what I’m good at. (I guess I’m sounding pretty narcissistic now but heck, I’m not primarily in a people’s business, I’m allowing myself to think that way
)
I do still care about money, and I like to be able to pay my bills on time, but my focus has shifted (and is still shifting). From “How much money is this customer going to bring in?” to “Am I going to enjoy this project? Will I learn something from it? Is it worth my time? Will I expand my awareness as a result of it? Is it fun doing? Do I really care?”
It’s an ongoing process, but I like this shift of focus. And I see more & more that when customers send me a request for a job, their focus seems to shift too. Their first question is “Can you do this?” Then I usually call or e-mail them to ask some more about the project and lay the first foundation of a connection, to see if we click and if I can enjoy working with them. And by that time, the matter of money is almost like “Oh, and by the way, what’s it going to cost?”
I’ve stopped sending out vibes of “I wonder if they’re going to be willing to pay me this much” or “I wonder if they’ve got the budget for this” or “I wonder how many other suppliers they’ve asked for a quote”. I’ve pretty much taken the charge off money in my communication with customers and the result is relaxation and transparency on both sides. I love that.
Oh, and by the way, thanks for the dollar
I love that!
February 1st, 2010 at 3:39 pm
Loving the FB comment Mia! I adore FB but I would do the opposite – charge for boring statuses…would make an absolute fortune…mmmh, is there something in there?! May start appreciating them instead of wondering why oh why the gods of boredom have struck yet again! Hehehe!
February 1st, 2010 at 3:40 pm
Thanks SHG, and mwah back! It is delightful not to be considered as venal I s’pose!
February 1st, 2010 at 3:40 pm
Mia, I know lots of folks who’d like to replicate your attitude about work and clients!
Can you share how you went about changing your perspective? (Was it a particular book/program or a habit you created?) Sounds like it’s not just offered freedom but also a releasing of resistance around money, as well!
Congrats!
February 1st, 2010 at 3:48 pm
Yikes, I figured I might as well post regarding the dollar, but that.. I should do it justice and read all the comments!
Yes, I definitely find that the money adds a charge. It’s not just sharing a link – you have to get the proper affiliate link, it gives you the opportunity to wonder about recommending it and making money, and in general – when it’s about money, when it’s serious for others, when it’s about a job – I (and I’m sure many others!) go into “gotta get it right” mode, which as you mentioned with the testimonials, doesn’t work nearly as well!
Hmm, I think that satisfies the “that’s worthy enough to post” which is usually something I do BEFORE writing, rather than after. Yes, things certainly change when there’s money, external rankings, other’s “watching you”, etc.
Ha, that reminds me. I saw my 2 yr old nephew sing a song he learned this weekend. As everyone started looking at him… he stopped singing. And I realized – we often do the same darn thing, even as adults.
Money and expecting other people’s judgments makes us go all self-conscious! (and I think I’m absorbing the slang from Firefly. Shiny!)
February 1st, 2010 at 4:01 pm
Wow, no freedom even at 2 years old?! wow.
We learn it young, huh?
Thanks for posting, Avi!
February 1st, 2010 at 4:22 pm
Amazing post – and very thought provocative to me
My first thought was that I wouldtn’t comment “for the money”.
Then I thought that as I’m actually very much working on improving my money vibe I “had to” comment
Then I thought about all the trouble Jeannette would have in order to pay me the 1 dollar and considered posting but at the same time saying that I didn’t “need” the money.
But then i remembered Mary’s comment: “For me, I had no shame in posting my first comment… I wanted that dollar!” and that one actually made me smile – that’s the vibe I’m looking for and I intend to match it – thank you for the inspiration Mary
I want that dollar too
And to answer your question – yes, it’s very obvious to me, that the money thing changes my attitude to commenting
Thank you, Jeannette, for the challenge!!!!!
February 1st, 2010 at 4:59 pm
You know, Pernille, it’s kind of reminding me of how on the Bachelor last night it was clear that the girls who were willing to be assertive, go out of their way to get attention, really were getting the bachelor’s attention.
He didn’t exactly find it a turn-off or banish them from his presence. It was working for them!
And it reminds me of how in group gatherings, when the instructor asks for comments or questions, it always seems like it’s the guys who step up and are willing to take the spotlight. (Not just willing to, but HAPPY to.) Because the girls (I live in Utah, which may make a difference) are so busy being nice and polite and not taking up anyone’s attention.
I think Mary and Fen are on to something – and not just in terms of how we manage money.
Hmm … food for thought!
February 1st, 2010 at 5:00 pm
Glad to be able to inspire you, Pernille:)
Ok, here’s a fun question for all you try on that I just thought of… What if Jeannette was handing out $100,000 for each comment, instead of just $1 (Jeannette, you are soooo rich!). Would that change things? Would you feel guilty for taking the money, even though Jeannette was offering it? Would you think there was a catch in there somewhere? Would you say to yourself, I don’t deserve that much money for my measly little comment?
Me, I’d take the money and run!
Btw, it’s taken me awhile to get to this place, but I’ve got a pretty good handle on my money vibe these days. I love money, and money loves me:) It appears when I need it, and I am ever so grateful to it! Money allows me to live the life of my dreams and enable others to do the same, and there is absolutely no shame or guilt in that whatsoever!! 
February 1st, 2010 at 5:18 pm
Hmm. Hard to say for sure unless it actually happened, but I think for this particular place, it would be like this: I would probably not really believe deep down that I would get this kind of money randomly just for replying here. Not $100,000 anyway. So I would probably look at it, smile, and reply just for the audacity of it, not expecting a thing. Now if it was less, like a high-ish but still believable amount, maybe it would be different. Maybe it would also be different if it was several million dollars. I dunno.
The other week I came across a contest to win a $5000 gift card at Canadian Tire. lol. Entry was free so I said what the heck, I’m not even gonna win this and not sure what I would do with it, but who cares, it’s a way to pass the time, innit.
So that’s kinda why I think I would react that way. *shrug*
February 1st, 2010 at 5:45 pm
Well that says something, doesn’t it, Fen?
About our belief system in regards to money?
I’m sure you’re not alone in that response.
I myself have probably passed up opportunities I deemed “too good to be true” because I simply didn’t believe someone was giving that good a deal.
Like, have you seen those experiments where they film the person handing out free money on a busy street? LOTS of folks away from them like they’re nuts, or there must be some catch they don’t want to get involved in, etc.
February 1st, 2010 at 5:54 pm
OGM…I am so loving this post. I agree with Mia and the others in that when you pay for something there is the expectation of the value vs. what you are paying. It always enters into the equation because we know what we “get” when we pay for certain things and have a built in barometer about what things should cost and what we get from it. So, paying any amount of money, I would think would raise the flag of “is it worth it”? Same goes if you were getting paid FOR something.
Jeannette, if you remember when I sent the payment for the Money Mojo class (a few months later) you replied with so much gratitude and said “and it wasn’t even solicited”…it was that much more important to me to send the payment because it was purely out of the value I got and how much I appreciated what you gave and not because you were asking or looking for it. So, it was not because I felt like I’d be judged or frowned upon…but simply because I got so much from it.
We have such emotional connections to money that it is rare that we give or receive without much consideration to what it is “doing for us”. I have lightened up my money vibe so much since I have become aware of my past attitudes and challenged them.
I would post anyway…whether I got the dollar or not. I mean, after all, how can you put a value on someone’s thoughts, opinions and experiences?
Great post as usual, Jeannette!
February 1st, 2010 at 6:09 pm
I had similar conflicts to responding as other posters. Guilt is my number one un-viber to money.
With the debate to love & money. I attract love very easily. I actually have a huge love vibe going on. People will love me and it throws me off sometimes. But money. Nada. I need to find the switch in my head and flip it so I get the big “ah ha” and it clicks.
February 1st, 2010 at 6:38 pm
What an interesting post. It really makes you pause and think. I marvel at how the lure of getting paid a dollar to post will both attract you and repel you at the same time, both speaking loudly about your inner beliefs and fears, however unfounded. What a fascinating paradox.
As far as the affiliate thing goes, I feel a million percent more comfortable promoting something when I’m not getting a cut of the proceeds. I do not belong to any affiliate programs because I feel that if I rave about something, others will question the motivation behind my enthusiasm.
Also, affiliate products have lingering attachments that come along with them. For example, if I see a great movie, and I tell everyone I know about it, then that’s it. That’s all there is to it. I did my part. I loved the movie and I recommended it. It’s over. I don’t follow through with everyone to see if they saw it, and if they liked it or not. But when you have an affiliate product, it stays with you. You check to see how many people have viewed it, purchased it. If it’s not selling, you wonder if what you said was somehow not alluring enough. You doubt your abilities to promote. Etc., etc. There isn’t the same detachment that comes when you are freely recommending something.
I have forwarded people to this blog, and your ebooks, Jeannette… but I would have felt less comfortable doing so if I were being compensated for it. I guess that’s something to work on? Thinking on it from a more LOA-friendly place, I suppose if you don’t have that fear of being seen as insincere, then you won’t attract people who will distrust your motivation…?
That’s my $.02. (or rather, $1.00). It’s high time poor old two cents got a raise, don’t ya think?
February 1st, 2010 at 6:49 pm
SelfHelpGoddess… I think it would actually be easier for me if it was $100,000. Because I would think that if she could offer that much to the hoards of people who would certainly reply, then she must have billions of dollars to spare, and it wouldn’t set her back any. A single dollar seems more personal somehow. I would be thrilled to magically receive $100,000 and then I’d make sure to figure out what I had been doing to attract that opportunity to me, and keep it up!!
February 1st, 2010 at 7:38 pm
Since I live in Mexico, I do not even know if I can get paid this dollar. But I do know I have to reply to this one blog!
First, I thought, Gee, this is really a test to see if I can accept some unexpected income! Then I asked myself how greedy I could get. Then, I thought that Universe was giving me a chance to act upon unexpected opportunities. Then again, I thought to reply but give the money away… And so on, and so on.
So, literally, the chance/thought to make a (“undeserved”) buck (and “abuse someone´s generosity”) makes a difference in my system!
I still do not know whether I will receive this particular money, but just this realization seems priceless to me!… Thanks.
February 1st, 2010 at 7:40 pm
$$$ I think it is what we make it mean. When I make it mean that I am valuable or successful then I create huge walls and blocks towards the money. When I let go of the money and what it means, and pursue my purpose the money flows right in. For me it’s not about the money it’s about what feels right. And when I make the $$$ mean so much more then it stops or slows.
February 1st, 2010 at 9:15 pm
See, that’s just interesting. I actually didn’t want to post a comment, because I didn’t want to “tempt myself,” so to speak.
Yipes, that’s a neat insight to my views about money, isn’t it? O.o;
/<3
February 1st, 2010 at 10:15 pm
There is something to be said about giving clearly and sincerely. It comes from an authentic place with no hooks, or “extra energy”.
I wish we were taught classes on how to give and receive cleanly without installing hooks.
Thank you
Your welcome
Life is that simple.
Love Leslie
February 1st, 2010 at 11:01 pm
Jeannette, Wow! This was truly a sychronicity moment for me! I’m excited!
I have several products and services where I’m an affliate. I post on my blogs and occasionally softly blog about them. But in general, I’m not a “hard sell,” if you know what I mean. I just sign up for what inspires me.
I started my PrayRain journal for financial abundance 11 short days ago, then put it out to the Outsourcers group at GVU. Since then, I’ve gotten 2 referred sales in the last week from a product that no one has ever bought in the entire past year! So I got all excited because to me, this was the Universe’s way of bringing all that money to me, so easily and frequently!
Because I attributed my newfound success to your wonderful blog, GVU and your products, just today I asked, “How do I sign up for Jeannette’s affliate program?”
Really, truly, I asked! I looked around your site and didn’t see a place for the sign-up. So I thought, I’ll ask you the question later…. Now, on my way to bed, I just had to stop by your blog for some last minute inspiration before writing in my PrayRain Journal and I see that my question was answered! Now that is exciting!
It’s all about relaxing and going with the flow…so I think that people often get too concerned with the sales when they focus too much on the “how” which takes the fun out of your good vibes!
I think I’ll just be the way I’ve been approaching my affiliate work and be a bit easy about it. It’s not up to me to push hard or convince people, if I align myself and feel good!
I really would prefer that you donate the $1 for my posting to the charity of your choice. I know that I am blessed with financial blessings and there’s a lot more on its way!
Hugs,
Barbara
February 2nd, 2010 at 5:01 am
My gosh, this is highly inspiring and thought provoking at the same time. My first reaction was “no way will I post – I will look cheap”, then SHG posted and I thought “well that’s a way to see it”
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Yes, the prospect of being paid for a post does change things a lot and it says a lot about my money receiving vibe (thanks Fen for telling about your relaxed “money receiving vibe” – I think mine will change soon
Yesterday I brainstormed about comfort zones, set-points and the like and thought isn’t life all about going out of our comfort zone – isn’t that how we can truly experience new things experience- and vibe-wise?
So I do what I would normally not do and put my Paypal address in the mail text box (I thought about putting my blog’s email in it and tell you Jeannette that you would not have to pay the $) – funny enough, this is pretty daring for me in some strange way, but feels good ^^.
@Mitch & Robert: I had this kind of numbers and statistics thing going on a lot for some parts of my life (time worked on projects, sleep times etc.) but I realized, as long as the numbers aren’t right yet, when I look at them, it makes me manifest more of the same (“numbers not right”) – I figured I should write fake numbers on the spreadsheets and look at them instead, that would be loa-true. But at the time I felt kind of stupid looking at perfect (fake) spreadsheets even though I now realize this would have been the way to go. Maybe I should give this a go again ^^.
XOXO to all
February 2nd, 2010 at 8:19 am
Hi Jeannette,
I could stay on this blog all day long!!!
This article is speaking to what I’m feeling right now!!
I am planning on getting my life coach certification and gaining clients, yet my underlying fear is that once I start gaining clients, they may think I’m ‘out to get money’ and might think I have an alterior motive in my coaching/suggestions.
The first time I spoke with my first coach and was afraid that I didn’t have money for coaching, she said to me “If it [coaching] feels good to you, then its not the money that is stopping you.” This was extremely true. I shared this story with my friends, and a few jokingly said that she just wanted to gain clients. I laughed… but then wondered if people would feel the same way about me in the future…
Apparently someone needs a vibe shift around money.
Will everyone reading this please send me your positive vibes and intend that I double my income in 2010? I send love and positive vibes your way as well!
Thank you,
Amanda
February 2nd, 2010 at 8:45 am
All I know is I read your posts and every single time I think to myself, “Wow! She’s done it again. How *does* she do it? She’s a genius. Her mind, the way it works, constantly stimulated by interesting queries and juxtapositions.”
Many times I think… “She’s read my mind! I was just pondering this very same thing, some where in the corners of my consciousness…and BAM…Jeannette’s got it out swimming in the open!”
And then sometimes…like this one, you catch me completely by surprise. And I think, “There she is again, living out loud…sharing what she’s thinking about and enrolling all of us in the process, if we choose to be enrolled.”
I love that about you. I respect that about you.
OK…enough about you, or you may wonder if I’m avoiding the posed topic! LOL
Here were my thoughts in the order in which they were received:
1. Upon finishing reading the post…
Ooo, this one (post) just came out…another great one! I’m going to go ahead and comment, I feel inspired…as usual…here I go.
2. I see there have already been 50 comments!!!
I think, seriously?? Didn’t I just get this in my inbox? Now I’m thinking… Well, there’s a lot of good that’s already been said. I don’t have to comment. It’s all there…and it’s all good.
3. I sit with that…
And then I think, well…I felt really inspired to comment after reading the post. So why is my desire to comment flattened now? Because others have winningly said all the remarkable things I would pose? Maybe. Or maybe just because it’s all good…and I don’t feel the need to anymore.
4. I realize that the idea that I’d get paid to comment hasn’t really crossed my mind…
And then I think about why that is… (And THIS, my friends is why if my money vibe IS kinked at all…and it kind of is…this is it!)
Getting paid to comment didn’t cross my mind ’cause getting paid is rarely the reason I do something. Don’t get me wrong. I’m like the next person, I like to have/receive money. But, I just like to do stuff that I enjoy and I want to do it without thinking about whether (or not) someone’s going to pay me something for it. Somehow that takes the fun out of it for me…and I feel as though that lessens the value of what it is I’m doing (for ME).
**I have fun commenting here. I love to comment here. Getting paid to comment? Getting paid for something I see as fun? That’s what I want, isn’t it? Then why all of a sudden when Jeannette says I can get paid to comment does it feel different to me, a little bit? Do I believe that I can always get paid to do what I love? Do I believe that I can always get paid to have fun?
*That’s* what I’m aligning with. It’s what I want to believe…and the belief is setting in more and more every day that I live it to be true in my life.
5. Now I realized I had to comment…’cause I’m having some nice expanded realizations. (Thanks Jeannette!)
I like money…but I’m not motivated by it. I kind of wish I was. I might have more then. I do like what money provides me, freedom, flexibility, ability to be in service when and where I choose.
6. I’m commenting now and thinking…
Here’s my deal. I want money to flow to me for all sorts of reasons, from all sorts of sources…expected and unexpected. I want it to flow to me because I’m having FUN, enJOYing my life and doing all the things I choose to do.
I’ve made a commitment to living my life this way. And it’s working. At least the part of doing what I’m inspired to do, doing what feels good/fun, knowing it’s all my choice.
The part that could be flowing better is the part where money comes to me as a result of me choosing to do what I want to do…and trusting that money will meet me there.
It’s happening…and I’m pretty sure I can feel it happening more and more…
7. Another thought just in…
I realize that I feel like I have enough. (Underneath that is, I have more than some…there’s no need to need more) Hmm…is it possible that my enough-ness is a cover for a deeper story of worthiness or deservedness?
8. What if??
What if I look around and think I’m so blessed (because I do…and I am)… What if I think, well I don’t really need anymore…this is good…I’m so fortunate (because I do think that)… But what if I also think that if I had more $$$ there would be a whole other layer of freedom and flexibility beyond the amazing amount of that that I already have (compared to many others…oh oh…there’s that again…why am I basing my reality on ‘compared to others’…how often is that vibe running through me? Need to check that!)… And what if I want ever increasingly more freedom and flexibility? I do want that.
9. Whew! That was a FUN ride I wasn’t expecting! I love how your posts always draw me to the core where I can find my greatest alignment. I’m going to have fun continuing to play with this!
10. Thanks Jeannette for posing a topic (once again) that gets me thinking…and feeling…deep. And thanks to everyone else for their soulful honesty and insightful ponderings. I SO LOVE this family!!
In JOY! Debra (…and thanks to Fen if this next bit gives you kisses! Will it work here, Fen?)
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February 2nd, 2010 at 8:46 am
Hahaha…nope. Well, feel a BIG MWAH of LOVE from me and thanks to Fen anyway…I love the smootching emoticon!
February 2nd, 2010 at 9:10 am
From the fear of appearing greedy to accepting money freely, I am all over the page with my discomfort with posting a comment that will bring me a dollar. Many money memories have flooded me as I read through all of the comments.
Have any of you read/heard Suzie Orman’s belief that we all have an emotion attachment to money? Basically she witnessed her father returning to his hot dog stand that was engulfed in flames to retrieve the cash register. It had a pitifully small amount of money in it. Her father was severely burned by the metal register, incurring huge medical bills. This was her first money memory and thus her emotional attachment to it was money is more important than life.
When I was about ten my parents almost lost their farm on a sheriff’s auction. I asked my Mom where would we live and she replied honestly that she did not know. My fear around lack of money and being homeless still persists even with my LOA knowledge and owning one home though having mortgages on another and property.
I even justified posting by committing to put the dollar in my pickin’ up pennies jar that I will give to some charity at the end of a year, or telling you to give my dollar to a Haiti relief fund. (Please donate to Haiti instead of sending it to me.) Then I remembered an instance when I felt really good about being detached from money.
A few years ago I took a portrait of a business man that he used on a billboard and business cards. Instead of payment I asked him to donate what he thought was appropriate for my services to the charity of his choice. He was baffled, and asked if I wanted him to write a check out with the payee left blank so I could send it to my favorite charity. I said no and we parted. I felt really good about it. A few weeks later I received a couple gift certificates to his business. He did not mention the charity, and I admit that whenever I would drive home and pass the billboard I would wonder not only what charity he chose but if he sent a donation at all. Now that I write this I just had a thought: I wonder if I was the charity and the gift certificates were his donation. So strange that I would have that thought, but interesting how uncomfortable we get by asking someone to pay someone else for services we’ve provided and leaving the payment totally up to them. Bottom line for me is that I always felt good about doing it and still do, but the thought that I might be his charity is new and murky. If I set my rate truly unattached to the who and how much, then why should I care if I was the charity? I guess that sheds light on my accepting gifts and money vibes. I’m a work in progress and now know where I need to clean up my vibe.
February 2nd, 2010 at 10:06 am
OMG – this was so perfect. After manifesting the perfect grad school program, a good score on my Board certification exam, and my dream job with my first choice medical practice, things stalled. I started worrying about making enough money, and got stuck. And for the past couple of days wondering how I could get myself out of this belief system.
Now – aha! – if I don’t care about making money, I can go back to having a blast being a nutritionist, getting the word out about how easy and delicious it can be to eat healthfully, and already I feel my energy coming back.
Thank you!!!
February 2nd, 2010 at 10:17 am
It’s interesting to me that so many people have an issue with receiving (concretely, this 1 dollar gift from Jeannette). I can relate to that from past experiences, and at the same time I’m happy to see that I seem to be practicing receiving these days.
I have often noticed that I have an issue with giving & sharing – somehow I’m afraid that I won’t have enough for myself if I give to others. It’s funny – for the past couple of months I’ve received many gifts – both financial and others – from several people close to me. And the speed with which these gifts come to me seems to be increasing. They’re very unexpected, but I do realize that with each gift my capacity of receiving joyfully seems to expand.
And it looks like this movement is the gateway for me to be able to shift towards giving too. It’s as if I have to experience first that it’s safe & fun for me to receive gifts without strings attached. I guess that was my underlying fear, that nobody gives anything without strings attached – “If I take the bait, they’ll catch me”. But I’m continuously proving to myself, through these experiences of joyful receiving, that there are no strings attached and that it can be very, very nice to receive presents and be totally happy & joyful about them, without saying “Oh, you shouldn’t have” or “I can’t accept this.” I can accept it, and I’m learning to accept graciously & joyfully.
And from that place of comfort in accepting, I feel my stance towards giving & sharing shift as well. But I’m taking my time with it – I won’t push myself into giving that doesn’t feel right or safe or joyful to me. And even if I can never bring myself to the point where I’m happy & carefree about giving & sharing, I will still love myself. Honoring myself, including all my fears & phobias. (But deep down I know I’ll reach that point someday.)
February 2nd, 2010 at 10:35 am
I have to admit that when I got to the $1.00 experiment part of the post, I decided I wasn’t going to post, even though I had something to add. And then I read the comments, and realized how kinked my “easy money” vibe was!
I come from a large family. Grew up on a farm hearing over and over that “money doesn’t grow on trees” and that “you have to work hard to get ahead.” Got two new clothing items a school year; otherwise all we wore were hand-me-downs. As kids, our imaginations were our toys. We took flat headed clothespins and set them up like bowling pins and used marbles as bowling balls. Still laugh about that!
Spent a lot of time playing outside making up games. And we played a lot of cards because cards were cheap.
The family still gets together almost every Sunday at Mom’s. If one of my brothers is there, we *have* to play rummy for a dollar a game, otherwise he won’t play. There’s a payout for whoever wins each of the seven hands, and then the person with the low score at the end of the game wins whatever is left over.
So I play and get frustrated when the game isn’t going my way . . . even though it is only a dollar. A game takes about an hour, so a dollar for an hour of entertainment is pretty darn cheap. On a day when that brother isn’t there, we often play without money, and we call that the “kinder, gentler version.” If you draw a card and could go out, but someone hasn’t laid down their cards yet, we often keep the playing card in our hand so the other person has a chance.
All of us admit that we play our cards much differently when there isn’t any money on the table versus when there is. And we talk about how we walk away frustrated even if we only lost fifty cents. Yet if we play for fun, everybody walks away happy. Screwed up, huh?
Time to unkink the “easy money” vibe . . . and to ponder why there is such a charge when the card playing is for money. Is it the money or something more?
I love Fen’s attitude, “So, I never refuse money. Ever. If someone offers it, then I can only assume they would like me to have it. It’s not my place to worry and spend all day grilling them about whether they’re REALLY sure. I presume they’ve figured that out already.”
So thank you for the dollar, Jeannette . . . but more importantly, thank you for the eye-opening lesson!
February 2nd, 2010 at 11:35 am
Received my dollar!!! Woo Hoooo!!!! Thank you Jeannette! I have decided not to feel guilty (or any other negative emotion) about this, instead feeling grateful and lucky to be on this end of your generosity! Thanks again!! I’m gonna keep this vibe going!
February 2nd, 2010 at 11:38 am
This is my marker … everyone prior to this point should have received $1 through paypal.
(Just wanted to make it easy on myself so I didn’t have to wonder where I left off when I go to do the next round!)
Can’t wait to go read some of these great comments that I haven’t caught up on yet!!
And by the way, for the record, it is only a PLEASURE – total FUN – to send money all over the globe! Here I thought it would be a hassle?!! I couldn’t have BEEN more mistaken!! WOO HOO!!!
PS – for those of you who said to send it to charity – send it yourself. lol
(I didn’t have their emails handy, but I had yours!)
February 2nd, 2010 at 11:40 am
Was just going to write and say I got my dollar, too! Thanks, Jeannette:)
Hey, a dollar can get me a whole load of laundry in the dryer, so I really appreciate this! And I’m open to all the other ways Universe wants to help me create easy money!
February 2nd, 2010 at 11:46 am
Okay, I’ve got to laugh at this …
… this morning I also paid out affiliates for the month of January. And my top affiliate didn’t leave me electronic payment instructions when she signed up. ha!
Which makes me wonder if that fact represents that she’s not in it for the money, and that it’s no coincidence she’s also the top sales generator.
lol
This stuff just fascinates me!!
February 2nd, 2010 at 12:00 pm
Interesting … I find myself a wee bit annoyed by the fact that you’re paying $1 for this. Checking in, I’d be even more annoyed and bothered if that sum had extra zeros attached – yikes! The greater the dollar figure, the more PO’d I’d be! Why?
Because I had something to say before I was even halfway through is blog post – and for some reason, I find myself thinking my contribution is actually less valuable with payment attached… YIKES! EGAD! OMG! And all those other acronyms whose meanings I don’t know!
Brilliant, Jeannette! Did you plan it this way? Brilliance!
Thank you, MC Jeannette – I’m seeing a light from my financial life I’ve apparently been ignoring… Yikes! Egad! Omg! Other acronyms! Have I really been holding myself back because I want unfettered accolades MORE than I want abundance? Like … WTF?!
Really, that’s little more than being graciously unaccepting of others’ (including the Universe) show of appreciation of and for ME … what have I been thinking!? Nutty, I say, even if it is peanut-free -
Best effin’ money I ever spent, Jeannette –
You ROCK!
February 2nd, 2010 at 12:09 pm
For some strange reason ;o), I had shifted my vibe thus suddenly realised that *talking to herself in a stern but loving fashion* ‘hang on a minute Missy, you are busy creating money out of the ether and when it comes, you go all shy *coyly plays with the hem of her skirt like a little girl on her first day at school, head down* and think it would be bad to take from Jeannette because she is a giver?! What a mixed message you are giving Da Big U! Open your arms, Paypal account, bank account, coffers, pockets, purse, buckets and say ‘YES PLEASE! TODAY $1.00, tomorrow the woorld, MWAHAHAHAH’…ahem, sorry, got a tad carried away here! Anyway, and lo and behold, when I did not think I would get a dollar since I had posted on FB, it was there awaiting in my Inbox! Thank you Jeannette! Thank you Universe, you both rock, keep them coming regardless of the ‘cursed’ hows! Oh yeah!
February 2nd, 2010 at 12:14 pm
I am forcing myself to comment because I don’t want to!!
I am in the category of thinking that I am somehow “bad” for replying when it may mean $ to me. So weird.
I am very thankful for this eye opening opportunity to see that I just need to keep doing clearing work around the money vibe.
PS-I am really fighting an urge to further explain myself right now b/c of money being involved – so I’m signing off right now!!! even though i want to apologize, explain, hypothesize, blah blah blah.
very eye opening experience.
February 2nd, 2010 at 12:18 pm
Muchas Gracias Mi Amiga!! With JOY and appreciation I receive the $1 that has now appeared in my PayPal account.
Glad you’re having FUN with this magical little experiment…it’s continuing to be eye opening for me.
Thank you, thank you, thank you!!
February 2nd, 2010 at 12:37 pm
Thanks for the $ Jeannette. I have no doubt you’re having a ball with this.
Your comment to SHG got me thinking to the time last summer when I found a wad of cash in a mall.
The day before I’d gotten a parking ticket for $50. I was bummed, not so much that I got the ticket (I didn’t read the sign carefully). What bummed me was that none of the cars around me got tickets (despite not having money in the meters either. I felt singled out by the parking monsters!)
Since I was enrolled in the MMM class, my vibe was doing really well, because I just let the ticket roll off my back, and then the next day I found the exact same amount of cash in the mall.
At first I was really excited to see the money on the ground. I looked around to see if someone had dropped it. No one. Then I picked it up and was doing the happy dance. Then I started looking around wondering if anyone saw me. Would they judge me as “stealing someone else’s money”? Would they think I was a bad person for quickly picking it up?
I had an intense dialog with myself and finally came to peace with what I’d found, and I was grateful that I’d found it, but I thought it was so strange that my emotions ran the gamut during a 2-3 minute period.
Thank you for making me think of money again in a way that’s out of my comfort zone!
February 2nd, 2010 at 12:43 pm
I love my new name, SHG!
I might start signing my posts that way… hehe.
February 2nd, 2010 at 12:49 pm
Thank you, Jeannette, on a lesson in graciously accepting and giving money as much as a lesson on money value. Its interesting how murky the water becomes when money is involved, no matter how it comes to us. I have a friend who says that money is love, and I’ve also heard that money is just energy. Really, its how we feel about money that wigs us out, if we choose to let it.
I got so much more than a dollar!
February 2nd, 2010 at 1:07 pm
Money is love!? Money is love!!! Money is love, lalalalaaaaaa! Can you tell I am loving (moneying?!) that one?! Thank you Berta! SHG, your money vibe is spreading!!!
February 2nd, 2010 at 1:26 pm
Oh The Beatles had it all wrong, didn’t they?! *sings LOUDLY* ‘Can’t buy me looooooove, yeah, looooove, yeah, can’ buy me loooove yeaaah, yeah yeah yeah yeaaaaaaah, I’ll buy you a diamond ring my friend if it makes you feel alright, I’ll get you anything my friend if it makes you feel alright, cause I don’t care too much for money, money can’t buy me love!’. Hang on, they do mention ‘feeling all right’ though! I do not know why (?!) Jeannette but both your blog and GVU make me feel very facetious!
February 2nd, 2010 at 1:55 pm
Woohoo – my dollar arrived today together with a feeling of abundance – what an innocuous little greenback can teach you
. Thanks for the lessons I can learn here!
@Gorgeoussophie: hehe, love that Beatles song too – they definitely had good vibrations considering their tremendous success and excellent songs – hehe, and why not tickle our funny bone? humor is a much needed vibe lifter I figure
February 2nd, 2010 at 1:57 pm
I absolutely didn’t want to admit that I was horrified originally with the idea of getting paid. I mean as soon as money gets mentioned I get the heevey geevies – I mean I get what Jeannette is getting at because for me add money to the equation and suddenly it’s dirty.
But now that I am a $1. richer, it’s looking like a great idea. GRIN Actually what a great healing.
Thank you Jeannette for your brilliancy and fun. Made my day.
February 2nd, 2010 at 2:29 pm
Jeannette, re. how I went about changing my perspective on work & clients: I’ve been consistently following the advice I got in several chats with the Communion of Light over the last half year. The main points being to focus only on what feels good and to try & detach the idea of money from my work. My initial reaction was: “What? How do you expect me to receive money if not from my work & my customers?” But it does work…
They suggested to me to focus as much as possible on what feels good (or if that’s not possible to reach, then to reach for a thought that feels slightly better than the place where I’m currently at – very much in line with Abraham). And to focus on what I like & appreciate about my customers and the work I’m doing for them. And the moment I feel irritation or a negative emotion about my customers or my work, to stop working on that particular job, and only return to it when I can align with them/it in a positive way.
It soon became a habit: to look for positive aspects in my customers and the jobs I’m working on, and these days I enjoy & appreciate my customers so much that money is just a very pleasant side effect. And my customers have the same attitude towards me: they’re very kind & nice to me.
One of the ideas of the COL that I also found very interesting (in the Creating Money series) was to be completely neutral about money and to only think of it as something that always works for you. Just like you expect your vacuum cleaner or your dishwasher to work for you – you don’t make a big deal out of it, you don’t hug it or kiss it or embrace it, you just assume that it’s going to work for you when you push the On button. And when occasionally it breaks down, you don’t go all hysterical or think something is wrong with you – you just get it fixed or you replace it, and you go on with your life, and with vacuum cleaning or putting the dishes into the dishwasher.
For me, the greatest liberation has been – and that’s a movement that has set in at the time of your Money Mojo Magic course last summer – to let go of all those emotions around money and get very, very neutral about it. Even towards my customers I experience a kind of neutrality. Although I do like them and enjoy working for them when I’m at it. But I remembered a fragment from an Abraham video recently (some sort of “Best of compilation”), where they say: “It’s great that you are loving us. But we don’t care.”
Something like that…
I guess the word “detachment” sums it up for me. I’ve let go of the idea that I have to fall in love with my job or my customers or that I have to engage in a romantic relationship with money. And from that silent, serene, non-emotional place of detachment, it’s very easy to flow positive energy towards work/customers/money.
It may be a personal thing, but this is working for me.
Oh, and EFT of course! Loads of EFT to release any charge & emotional conflict about money or whatever.
February 2nd, 2010 at 2:33 pm
A projection of our power, right, John?
Quite so. Projection is a good word for it. What is electricity without voltage?
February 2nd, 2010 at 2:53 pm
Mia – I love your comments about finding better feeling thoughts. I’ve been hearing that concept for over a year and finally started figuring out how effective it is. I use it around money and everything else, and I feel great. I can see my manifestations shifting already because of it, but what’s funny is that it’s not really about the manifestations anymore. It’s about the fact that I know I can feel good no matter what, and I’m unwilling to accept anything else. Good habit to pick up, huh?
Jeannette – I was one dollar away from being wealthy, and now I’m there!
Thank you!
February 2nd, 2010 at 3:37 pm
Mitch, that’s so true: “it’s not really about the manifestations anymore. It’s about the fact that I know I can feel good no matter what”.
I’ve been thinking that often lately, that (to me at least) it’s totally not about the goals and setting the right intentions to reach/accomplish/manifest them. For me, it’s about connection to Source, and feeling good is the way to get there.
February 2nd, 2010 at 4:28 pm
Thank you for the $1.00 Jeannette!
I’ve already started receiving my passive income for February now. Great isn’t it!
February 2nd, 2010 at 4:37 pm
I’m with Fen at feeling no guilt whatsoever, for exactly the same reasons he explained. I trust people to mean what they say when they say they want to play and give money away. I consider myself an excellent receiver-very joyous and super appreciative no matter how small or big a gift is. When I find money I feel sure that it’s for me, from the Universe, because I asked.
In fact thinking back I realized that I on occasion tend to feel sort of guilty at NOT feeling guilty or like I’m wrong for feeling so good about it-weird huh? I fear being judged more than I care about the great feeling I had at receiving money. So that’s one kink I have around money.
Sometimes including money makes things more fun. I play Bunco once every month with a friend in her neighborhood and we add $5 to the pot-which makes it a lot more fun. The money gets divided into 3, the one who wins the most games, the one who has the most losses (isn’t that fun?!) and the one with the most Bunco’s. Then we play a game called Left, Right, Center, where you have a $1 for each, so $3 total. I’ve played this game with tokens and it’s not as fun as playing with money.
What if Jeannette was handing out $100,000 for each comment? First I’d be like “OMG, can this really be true, it’s that easy?” I’d feel very proud of myself for letting money in so easily that I’d rendez-vous with such a huge gift! YES for me!! I wouldn’t even think it had anything to do with actually posting a comment, even though I would post one, because it seems pretty clear that Jeannette is intent on sharing money and is us posting as an excuse to give it away-BTW she must be rich for offering this much to who knows how many people!! I’d admire her abundance mindset even more! What thoughts must she be thinking? I want to think THAT! What a great LOA story!!
(btw I wouldn’t question if it’s true or if there’s a catch if it was coming from Jeannette or someone else I trust, only if it was someone I know but then I’d still say yes and inquire about more details)
February 2nd, 2010 at 6:35 pm
WoW!! What a lesson I have received on this blog! I read all your blogs and find them quite interesting. I don’t always comment, rather I use the opportunity for self development and the theory for a book I am writing.
I am sorry though, I am not able to accept your $1.00. The email I have listed is not attached to my paypal account. Let me explain! This is funny! During last summer, I had the opportunity to volunteer to teach a class of 20 senior citizens basic computer training. I live in a remote part of Ontario Canada and much of the population is retirees. So I took part in a program of providing an opportunity to relieve lonliness and isolation utilizing computers. We spoke of backing up files and I was teaching how easy it is on today’s computers to transfer using “drag and drop” processes. Then, my hard-drive crashed and I didn’t have a backup. LOL Silly me.
My paypal info is on that hard drive and as I hadn’t used it much because I had just set the account up, I do have a clue which of the many email accounts I set it up under, but cannot remember the password as I did not keep a manual listing. Thus the lesson I was teaching, now has backup. Retrieval of my hard drive has been unsuccessful so far. Now I am looking for a local guru to see if there is a way to recover it. Fortunately, my computer was still under warranty so there was no out of pocket expense. So, please, I am not refusing, just unable to connect at this time. Thank your for your generosity.
So, my input here is that information can be priceless and if Jeannette truly did want to pay $100,000.00 or more for the comments, then her value should be respected the same as if it were $1.00. I hand out surveys to classes I teach for the feedback and it is astonishing that some people won’t write what they truly feel and that is the very information I would like to learn. Perhaps I will have to offer some cash next time! LOL The negative of it being too good to be true keeps us in the lack. Having said that, I don’t mean falling for everything that is “too good to be true” either. When you trust the source, don’t feel guilty.
Thank you everyone for your input… many lessons!
February 2nd, 2010 at 7:10 pm
Thank you, Jeannette, for the $1!
And thank you so very much for the invite!
Thanks to everyone here for their inspiring comments! The posts are so full of insight, inspiration, fun and joy! This is a great blog and a great group of co-creators! I appreciate all of you.
February 2nd, 2010 at 7:18 pm
Thank you so much, Jeannette, for the §1.00 and for the many lessons I learnt from this post and all the amazing comments!!!
The §1.00 was both my first passive income in 2010 and my first international income, so I’ve been celebrating today – woohoo – to think that §1.00 can mean so much
February 2nd, 2010 at 7:29 pm
Hi all,
First post here. I found myself aligning with SHG all down the page. My first thought also was send all the money you want. I also agreed with Mary about being an affiliate. I will not be an affiliate for a product I don’t think is really cool.
The thing is, money comes to me due to my relationship with the energy of money, and has nothing to do with hyping or complementing or raving about anyone’s products.
I will say this though. Several people mentioned that money is tied to love or some other thing. I would say that the energy of money is pure and unto itself. You can have a flow of money with no emotional attachment to it. You can have money and be a mean SOB who doesn’t give a twit. You can have money just becasue you want it.
The only relationships that exist between money and anything else are the ones you form within your own personal belief system.
That’s my point of view and I’m sticking to it. :p
February 2nd, 2010 at 7:34 pm
Oh, I put a link on my blog to this one under “Cool Blogs.” I guess I’m an affiliate now, eh?
February 2nd, 2010 at 7:45 pm
Wow, I was thinking about resistance to money all day, and here’s a blog post about it. When I realized that I was reluctant to comment, I knew I had to do so. So many excuses and reasons to not bother went through my head, and did so so easily. I’m actually shocked at how little my own thoughts and opinions. I’ve got a lot of clearing to do. Thank you, Jeanette, not just for the buck, but for the insight.
February 2nd, 2010 at 9:43 pm
Very interesting blog and great comments! I’ve been ‘on holiday’ with visitors since Thanksgiving and I’m finally back. Wasn’t sure if I’d post or not – especially since I haven’t been around lately. (ok – that’s all my head stuff that’s going on.) But I didn’t want to deprive you of the pleasure of sending me money!
Just today I talked to a Feng Shui expert about changing the direction of my front door. Our house is on a temple line (facing directly East) and it seems that that brings on the energy of a ’spiritual life’ – waiting for money to come in. I’m ready for it to come in now and she helped me shift the direction today – just nine hours ago!
The other thing that came up for me was this thinking of ‘is my paypal account set up right’? I’ve let ‘technology’ get me tangled up in the past – this is a reminder to make that a priority and check it out tomorrow.
I’m ready to receive! Thank you!
February 2nd, 2010 at 9:49 pm
Wow I have just read all the comments, i love how you get this conversation started and your wonderful community respond with such vigor and generosity.
I am with Mary on the affiliate route- have tried both ways and I find I have to be using it and like it to write about it and recommend.
Funny as you say you have a new produce but delay on promoting it? fear of success? think my is:)
Suzie
February 2nd, 2010 at 10:05 pm
Ahhh, now I feel special because I didn’t realize your affiliate program was invite only. (I emailed you asking if you had a program.) I just started a new site about Internet Marketing (a big passion of mine) but am putting it in context with the Law of Attraction. I actually did a blog post the other day where I mentioned the results I had from doing one page of my Pray Rain Journal.
But yes, I agree that for many when money comes into play there is a different energy to a situation. Hmm, in fact, I think this relates to an insight I had about giving and receiving last night. My thought is that many people have a hard time receiving because they don’t realize how much the person giving ENJOYS the giving and how good it makes them feel. Either they don’t feel they are deserving of what they are receiving or they think they are being a burden to the giver. So my idea is that if you are having trouble manifesting to take the focus off yourself and think of receiving as being a good thing to do for the giver. You’re giving them the opportunity to feel the joy of giving.
Now on the other hand, I just thought that when someone is raving about your products when they are not being compensated it’s more of a free joyous giving for the sake of giving. But when you could get paid to rave then it may lose that I’m just giving to give feeling. Soooo, in essence, it comes back to the idea that people can have issues with receiving. It’s ok to give to give, but if you give to receive then some have blocks with that.
Guess what I’m going to do with my dollar? I’m going to sign up for the two week trial at GVU! (And I’m 99.99% certain I’ll be then prepaying for the year in advance!)
I love your stuff! I get so many emails but yours I open immediately and enjoy reading.
–Stacy
February 2nd, 2010 at 10:14 pm
Hi Jeannette – Long time follower, first time blogger. Just wanted to say that I sent you one of those unsolicited testimonials and you still have it on your Pray Rain Journal website! You are right – it came from the heart. I get so excited telling people about the many things I’ve learned just from getting your ezine. I’d like to say its not true, but I do think it would change things if I got paid to tell people about you.
Let’s just keep it the way it is and I’ll keep forwarding your ezines and website link far and wide! I sincerely mean it when I say that just the thought of someone manifesting their dreams in part because I shared your info/wisdom with them is soooo much more rewarding than money.
February 2nd, 2010 at 10:22 pm
By the way….that “boyfriend” I mentioned in the Pray Rain testimonial?….married him last June
February 2nd, 2010 at 10:38 pm
Wow your post is really making me think right now. I think your post is part of the answer I am looking for. Before I read your post I was kind of upset because I have been trying affiliate marketing and I just can’t seem to make what I desire. I have so many amazing ideas in my head and when I try to execute them, they feel so unnatural. It feels forced and while I am in the process the only thing on my mind is how much money I will make, I need to improve the quality if I expect money, am I worthy of money, etc. And in the end I never make the money I desire. So since I kind of understand now why I am not making the money I desire, how can I change that behavior? How do I not focus on money if I am trying to make money? Also, thank you for the messages you spread from your blog. I always come to your or Steve Pavlina’s blog every time I need an answer. And honestly this is my first post (even though I am a frequent reader) and I am commenting for the $1. Everything I said is honest but I wouldn’t normally post it because I am a fairly private person.
February 2nd, 2010 at 11:26 pm
I can see huge healing going on Jeannette and I can see you profoundly turning a corner with this post. I think your good vibe university is going to be a huge success and I think you have recognized some ground prep you needed to do.
The money you are so gleefully sending out is going to come back 100 fold. And the love – you own it girl!
Let the balloons out!
February 3rd, 2010 at 12:06 am
Jeannette, I have to confess that my first thoughts on reading this were, “Oh Shit, I hope she’s not talking about me!” I promote you constantly because FOR ME these are the best tools out there. And I want to HELP PEOPLE! When I find something that works, I’m always shouting it from the rooftops. Secondly, I love the equal energy exchange. It feels good to me after spending time and energy telling so many people about things to have someone RETURN that energy to me! It feels like a complete cycle. I feel honored and appreciated. I love to be thanked AND being paid is a NEW way for me to explore feeling appreciated.
The money game is fun and I am playing it for the first time in my life, thanks to you! My entire experience of you is having my mind unveiled.
I also notice I am reluctant to post if I don’t read all the posts above, which is impossible because you are so popular. I had hoped (sigh) that I was rare and unique in my ravings! Thank goodness your scope and range is large darling. Everyone deserves to hear you sister! Love and thank you for helping my play with money! It’s fun!
Love, Auretha
February 3rd, 2010 at 4:34 am
I’m so GLAD that human brains are incredibly elastic!
First, I realised an hour after commenting that I’d not followed the instructions (comment and leave an email to get $1) so I thought “ha, obviously I didn’t want the money”. Because, you know, Jeannette is such a stickler for The Rules, right folks? Right.
And then I thought “well, that’s fine, I wasn’t commenting IN ORDER to get money anyway”. Which made me giggle at myself for having this elaborate conversation in the first place… I mean, lighten up girlfriend!
And then I got an email saying I had a $1 paypal payment (woohoo!! Thank you Jeannette!!) and was so startled that I laughed out loud… in the outpatients’ waiting room at the hospital (fun way to get weird looks!!)
Is there any better way to keep on lifting my vibe? I just LOVE this stuff.
February 3rd, 2010 at 7:15 am
I watched an Abe clip last night and basically the ten minute clip boils down to the how to get into the vortex is being happy with what you have now and more will come your way.
I happy with my dollar from Jeannette.
Pernille’s guest post that included flipping it to the Universe has worked for me so well. I currently am a server in a hotel restaurant, and I write “.2T” (intending on getting 20% Tip) on the top of each food order I take. I have been getting 20% tips almost every time since I started and I got a 37% tip on Monday. My initial response was to take it back to them and tell them they left too much! But by the time I reached their table I decided I would just thank them for the very generous tip; and they thanked me for spending time sharing about our area. MY sharing was a gift, I could have filled their coffee cups and left. And the grater gift that I received was their appreciation for me being interested in them and giving them info that they wanted.
February 3rd, 2010 at 7:40 am
oops, grater = greater
February 3rd, 2010 at 8:27 am
Jeannette you are a total genius! Not only have you sparked one of the most lively discussions ever, but you have “primed the pump” financially for dozens of people! (including ME, thank you very much!)
As further proof that my financial energy has shifted, I got one of those Emails this morning telling me that I have won a million dollars (of course I KNOW it is a scam, and I will NOT be sending in money to claim my prize.) But I DO take it as a sign that the universe is acknowleging that my energy has shifted and the real money is on it’s way.
February 3rd, 2010 at 9:37 am
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February 3rd, 2010 at 11:35 am
What a great exercise for us all!! I have to admit I had all of the conflicting thoughts running through my head about posting that everyone else has mentioned, even though I am definitely flowing a better (less kinked) money vibe than I used to….thanks in large part to Jeannette and this blog.
I used to struggle over accepting ‘freebies’ from anyone – even things as small as someone giving me clothing that didn’t fit, a friend trying to buy me lunch or someone doing work for free that I would typically have to pay a contractor to do – even when the person didn’t mind and it wouldn’t cost them a dime. I was too “independent”. Had too much pride to take a “hand out”. This was especially bad right after my divorce when I wanted and needed help in all sorts of ways, but when the universe delivered it, I would turn it away!! Whether the offer came from a relative, friend or a complete stranger, my first reaction was always, “no, thank you” or “I coudn’t possible let you do that”. If they insisted, the guilt and anxiety would set in over how to repay them in some way. Even if they didn’t expect it.
Fortunately, I’ve gotten really good in the last few years at graciously saying thank you and letting those types of things flow to me, often with amazing results. I get free meals quite a bit, plus all kinds of free gift cards, coupons, discounts, etc. My current (amazingly wonderful) boyfriend is the most handy person I know (one of my best manifestations of all time!) and I’ve had him do all kinds of improvements around my house I would never have dreamed of asking someone to do in the past (even a boyfriend). I recently manifested an amazing executive desk for my home office from a dear friend whose daughter sells high-end furniture (normally I would have insisted on buying it from him). And a few months ago I even accepted a $100 bill from a complete stranger on a trip to a casino with friends (saw money flowing to me before I went and the universe delivered!). I’ve got a perfect money vibe right?
Well, maybe not quite. Yet. It kinked right up at the thought of letting Jeannette give me $1. Just like it kinked up over the membership to GVU. I had to force myself not to decline both offers. So….now to tell a new story: Thank you, Jeannette, for being so wonderful and for the generous reward for my comment! And thank you for helping me see where my money vibe is still kinked so I can let go of that limiting belief.
February 3rd, 2010 at 1:22 pm
WOW … a day late to the party and so many comments already ….
I don’t **think** that I personally have a kink in my money vibe (I’ve never really been focused on money and have almost always – student days not always included
– lived comfortably due to my own income). ANYWAY … maybe it’s my practical head (again, lol), but I was thinking about my emotions around the $1 for commenting, and I just shrugged and thought that it was an overvalued exchange for my comment, as I “feel” that any value I add by commenting is dwarfed by the value that I receive from each of Jeannette’s posts compounded then by all of your brilliant insights. So, sometimes I comment to also share my thoughts to the extent it adds (a tiny bit of) value back to all of you who have given/educated me so much. I see the $1 as extraneous (and therefore unnecessary) in this value exchange which benefits me exponentially….
lol …(( scratching my head )) ….not sure what the LOA implications of this all is …
February 3rd, 2010 at 1:25 pm
Hello,
. Central to my belief about money, is that it MUST be a part of a cycle of feast and famine. My belief system is premised on waves of abundance followed by periods of shortage. Quite honestly, I now realize that I am incredibly uncomfortable with abundance in the form of money. Now that I think about it, having money goes against the grain of who I think I am deep down inside, a struggler. If I had money in constant flow, I could not play the victim. I could not get attention from my numerous “plights”. I wouldn’t be in a constant state of crisis or anxiety, fearing that (fill in the blank) would be cut off. Debt keeps me struggling and since I believe I’m a struggler, the universe is manifesting the life I’m telling it to create. Wow! I’m sorry if this is incoherent, but I’m having a major moment… I say I want money, but my money vibration is far weaker than my struggling/suffering/victim vibe, so money can only makes its way into my life in spurts. It can only come when I turn down my struggle vibe… CRAZY. I have never thought of this before.
This is a major “kink” for me…along with intimacy, but I’ll save that one for another day,
I watched my mom raise 6 kids by herself. We struggled a lot. In fact I believe we learned to tolerate struggling to much. When my mom did have money, there was never joy associated with it, only anxiety and secrecy. There was always a feeling of impending loss, even when there was money. We did not celebrate money in our home. I had no idea of the cost of things, and I was not taught basic banking skills. I just knew that when she had money the air was lighter and when she did not, it was heavy and sad. I now live this life… it’s CRAZY! I know how to attract a never ending cycle of debt, I expect it and feel, dare I say, comfortable in it. I cannot believe this has never crossed my mind… Maybe I think money is bad, or I’m not worth it. Yeah, maybe this is a worth issue? Any thoughts?
February 3rd, 2010 at 1:34 pm
Ok it’s me again, ( I don’t need the dollar, having this moment is such a gift). Might it be that my struggles are a form of distraction? Maybe I keep myself in this position because I’m really afraid of thinking about what I really desire? Maybe debt is my scapegoat; it gives me a reason to say no to the things I really want, because I am really afraid of what living freely and abundantly might feel like, or how it will effect my life. Is debt my crutch? I believe I am hiding out behind debt… I need HELP . But seriously, I need help. I’m almost 34, and I cannot believe this has never dawned on me.
February 3rd, 2010 at 1:56 pm
Thank you so much for this post! I have learned so many things from this, I don’t quite know where to begin!
Firstly, I read this blog all the time but this is my first comment.
I realised that I had something that I wanted to share on this topic but the idea of my first comment being one where I would get paid for it didn’t feel good to me. It was not because of the money but because I didn’t want it to be a hassle for you, Jeanette. I was thinking that it would take you so long to do all the payments and I wouldn’t want to waste your time – perhaps teaching me something about my values regarding time and money?
And then there was a comment from you saying that it wasn’t a hassle but actually a pleasure to be sending out money all over the world so I thought – great, I can post my comment after all, and give you the joy of sending a dollar to Scotland.
At this point, I had to get a bit of paper out in order to keep track of what all I wanted to say (in a lovely organised bullet-pointed list!)
I then thought – “how wonderful, I will now find out if I have set up my paypal account correctly and can receive payments”. I was just thinking yesterday of how it would be good if I could test it out as I am going to be opening an online store at the end of the month. (And then I noticed that Cheri got that benfit from it too!)
Anyway…. here is what I originally wanted to say on the topic of receiving money:
I used to teach relaxation classes in schools and would have regular classes that I got paid for. In one school, I set up a morning meditation group 3 mornings a week and would do another couple of other classes also, on a voluntary basis. I loved doing all of my classes, but I always felt differently going to my voluntary classes. It was almost as though if I was getting paid to do a class, it was like going to “work” and if it was voluntary, it wasn’t – even although essentially, I was going to do the exact same thing. I often wondered how to take that “free” feeling into the paid work.
I am totally going to try to take Mia’s work ethic into my new venture – thanks for that, Mia!
(This is what Mia said: “In my work, I’ve gone through an evolution where I no longer cling at potential customers for the money they could possibly deliver to me (I now realize that that’s basically how I used to look at them, deep down: I deliver their texts, they deliver the money to me). Lately I’ve caught myself several times thinking: “I don’t care if you hire me. It’s up to you. If you do, I’ll make sure I’ll have a great time at what I do, and I’ll send my best & most positive energy into the working relationship with you to make sure we enjoy being connected in this project. But if you don’t hire me: no prob, there’ll be others.)”
Thanks again, Jeanette for this post – and also to the others who I have learned a lot from – particularly Mia, Debra and SHG.
I have had this page open for so long now as I have read through the comments and made mine – I am wondering how many posts there will have been in the mean time that have something else to teach me!
Ailey
February 3rd, 2010 at 1:56 pm
Thank you so much for this post! I have learned so many things from this, I don’t quite know where to begin!
Firstly, I read this blog all the time but this is my first comment.
I realised that I had something that I wanted to share on this topic but the idea of my first comment being one where I would get paid for it didn’t feel good to me. It was not because of the money but because I didn’t want it to be a hassle for you, Jeanette. I was thinking that it would take you so long to do all the payments and I wouldn’t want to waste your time – perhaps teaching me something about my values regarding time and money?
And then there was a comment from you saying that it wasn’t a hassle but actually a pleasure to be sending out money all over the world so I thought – great, I can post my comment after all, and give you the joy of sending a dollar to Scotland.
At this point, I had to get a bit of paper out in order to keep track of what all I wanted to say (in a lovely organised bullet-pointed list!)
I then thought – “how wonderful, I will now find out if I have set up my paypal account correctly and can receive payments”. I was just thinking yesterday of how it would be good if I could test it out as I am going to be opening an online store at the end of the month. (And then I noticed that Cheri got that benfit from it too!)
Anyway…. here is what I originally wanted to say on the topic of receiving money:
I used to teach relaxation classes in schools and would have regular classes that I got paid for. In one school, I set up a morning meditation group 3 mornings a week and would do another couple of other classes also, on a voluntary basis. I loved doing all of my classes, but I always felt differently going to my voluntary classes. It was almost as though if I was getting paid to do a class, it was like going to “work” and if it was voluntary, it wasn’t – even although essentially, I was going to do the exact same thing. I often wondered how to take that “free” feeling into the paid work.
I am totally going to try to take Mia’s work ethic into my new venture – thanks for that, Mia!
(This is what Mia said: “In my work, I’ve gone through an evolution where I no longer cling at potential customers for the money they could possibly deliver to me (I now realize that that’s basically how I used to look at them, deep down: I deliver their texts, they deliver the money to me). Lately I’ve caught myself several times thinking: “I don’t care if you hire me. It’s up to you. If you do, I’ll make sure I’ll have a great time at what I do, and I’ll send my best & most positive energy into the working relationship with you to make sure we enjoy being connected in this project. But if you don’t hire me: no prob, there’ll be others.)”
Thanks again, Jeanette for this post – and also to the others who I have learned a lot from – particularly Mia, Debra and SHG.
I have had this page open for so long now as I have read through the comments and made mine – I am wondering how many posts there will have been in the mean time that have something else to teach me!
Ailey
February 3rd, 2010 at 2:01 pm
Well, somehow I managed to post that twice – sorry about that!
Actually, I forgot to mention that I also, through reading the other replies, found the wealthforeveryone.info/blog which looks great – I’m off the read more!
February 3rd, 2010 at 2:16 pm
Ailey – oh my gosh – thank you! I started squealing “AWWWWW” when I read your comment. As you can see I just started it last week, but it’s a blog I’m really getting into as far as writing as it combines my two biggest passions – LOA and Internet Marketing. I really appreciate you saying it looks great and wanting to read more! I have posts brewing in my mind constantly so I’ll be posting more soon!
February 3rd, 2010 at 2:28 pm
Hi Jeannette,
I just read The Unkink your Money Vibe report! THANK YOU. I have some work to do, and this is a wonderful starting point.
February 3rd, 2010 at 7:00 pm
“…if you don’t treat yourself kindly, it’s very difficult to treat anyone else kindly.”
I extracted the above statement from a recently received email, pasted it into “Google,” and “clicked” upon a response, that brought up www://thequotegarden.com/kindness.
There were ten pages of quotations under the “kindness” sub-title. Their nature was such as to elicit more “ahas” from me, than any other ten pages of quotations ever had. For example, here is the second quote:
“Those who do not have charity in their hearts, are suffering from the worst kind of heart trouble!” – Bob Hope.
Why do I bring this up to begin my comment on the “awesome Ms. Mawsome’s” blog subject? Because, after reading the responses posted so far, I’m certain I could extract a similar statement from most of them, that would equal, or surpass, any quotation now in existence! And this from a group of unknown nobodies*!
Offering to pay $1.00 to everyone that replied to her challenge, was a “nervy” thing for Jeannatte to do. Obviously, it could cost her a considerable sum, if hundreds of readers took her up on it. Then too, she could discover from their answers, that she had upset a considerable number of folks, by forcing them to decide if they are selfish, greedy, uncaring, or just ignorant about the truth of their relationship with money.
Now, I am not a practicing Christian, but I do feel that the teacher talked about in the New Testament, had some ideas based upon his trust of the “Father,” that the current crop of his “followers,” have yet to put to the test.
“Take no thought of the morrow, for your Father in heaven, knows of your needs even before you ask,” said the teacher.
How many of you, that have businesses, which rely upon getting clients for profitability, and who say they trust the modern version of that statement, would be willing to offer your services, on a not “pay in advance with a money back guarantee,” but “order now, and send in what it was worth to you after completion,” basis?
You could get:
1.Nothing but “deadbeats;”
2.Resenters (at having to set the price rather than you);
3.Over-payers (those who would pay more that you would have charged);
4.The incredulous (who would believe it to good to be true);
5.The awed (who would be so disarmed, they would respond affirmatively);
6.The trustworthy (who would reflect back to you the trust you placed in them);
7.Everything in-between.
You could modify the idea by limiting the “freebie” to the first 10 to 25 responders, or whatever numbers appeal to you.
Would it work?
There is only one way to find out…try it!
Arlo R. Hansen (Ihavesayso@Hotmail.com)
February 3rd, 2010 at 7:04 pm
*Every one of those “nobodies,” is a “somebody!”
February 3rd, 2010 at 8:04 pm
Haha, the awesome Ms. Mawsome! Love it!!
February 3rd, 2010 at 8:04 pm
This is the second marker for payments …
PS – I loved that too! Awesome Ms. Mawsome!! lol
February 3rd, 2010 at 9:08 pm
Wow! Thank you so much Jeannette! This is so much fun!
I always rave about you ’cause I think you’re awesome and now I have a new story to share with people! I intend that a lot more people find out about you and you get lots more raving fans!
February 3rd, 2010 at 9:12 pm
Thank you for the money! I laughed with GLEE when I saw the email from paypal! I’ve been ‘wondering’ how my paypal is set up – and I found out it doesn’t matter – the money just flows to me! Fabulous! It’s not as hard as I’ve been making it.
What a fabulous lesson I learned here – and you paid for it Jeannette. Thank you, thank you, thank you! Wow – I can’t wait to hear about the karma and the moola coming to you as you receive from what you have planted here. Blessings of abundance & love to you! Cheri
February 3rd, 2010 at 9:23 pm
Ms Mawsome-
looks like you have a new tagline- Sending you love and abundance You are one amazing person, So happy you are in my circle of wonderful people.
Love & Hugs
Suzie
February 4th, 2010 at 6:57 am
When I saw the words, “YOU’VE GOT MONEY,” that headlined PayPal’s email, a tingle of excitment surged through me at my delight in asorbing those words, even as my “self” said, “Huh,?” as I had never been on the receiving end of anything from PayPal.
Then, I remembered that this was the result of “Ms. Awesome’s” fullfilling her part of the agreement to pay $1.00 to everyone, who commented about her decision to do so.
Never, in my almost eighty-two years on this sun orbiting globe, has the receipt of just one dollar, caused me to beam with such delight! It could have been for $100,000.00 and I would not have “beamed” any brighter! After all, how is it that we are able to increase the worth of $1.00, by adding zeros (nothing) to the right of the “1″ and left of the decimal point?
So, thank you, “Ms. Awesome,” for sending a slice of the bread you’re “casting on the waters,” my way! What joy you’ve given me at such a small cost!
Arlo
February 4th, 2010 at 8:55 am
Oops! I omitted the letter “M” from “Ms. _awesome” (twice) in the above post. My appoligies.
Arlo
February 4th, 2010 at 9:12 am
Arlo, THAT is the comment I pasted and emailed to my boyfriend this morning who last night told me I didn’t make any sense, that this “experiment” didn’t make any sense, which (to me) implied he thought it meant nothing.
Thank you for making it so easy to show him why even if it doesn’t make sense, even if it’s just for fun (which it’s not – this is a HUGE learning opportunity for some of us – myself included), it’s still very worthwhile.
PS – I’ll happily take Ms. Awesome, too!! hee hee
February 4th, 2010 at 9:16 am
Thanks Jeannette for the $1 and for this post.
February 4th, 2010 at 9:59 am
I could not wait to read the comments this morning. You ALL are awsome! I feel like I’m getting a free tutorial on how to raise my vibration, be in the moment, expect pleasant surprises, and allow goodness including money to flow my way. Thanks!
February 4th, 2010 at 11:17 am
I just received my dollar. THANK YOU!
February 4th, 2010 at 11:27 am
This has been coming up here and there for me as I am a spiritual teacher and we’ve been looking into the courses that we teach and how much we charge.
We’ve also been looking at how we have no problem with spending more then we make. Especially if its for something spiritual.
Anyone else do that?
I do agree that in general money does change things. It doesn’t have to though. I think it really is the underlying intent.
Peace!
February 4th, 2010 at 5:07 pm
Thank you for the dollar – I had no idea you were actually going to take the time to do it for all of us. You are special, and sure got my money vibe going. Got me back to my pray rain journal, too!
February 4th, 2010 at 6:37 pm
thank you so very much Jeannette! You are a blessing to us all!
February 4th, 2010 at 6:42 pm
Thanks for the dollar! I guess my money vibe is not too resistant as I still received it after saying, don’t send it. LOL I have a trick I can share too with this crowd…I went to the learning store for my little girls, but ended up buying something for my husband and I…a huge stack of “learning money” looks REALLY REAL! Nice to see this huge stack of money on our desks while we work. I, too, appreciate your blog and newsletters and teachings…you are changing the world!!! Thank u!!
February 5th, 2010 at 4:51 am
What a joyride to start this day beautiful day with, reading this post and all replyes
thank you
Brought me Alot of thoughts and alot of smiles..interessting..i am never to old to learn
Receiving is a enjoying experience
February 5th, 2010 at 11:00 am
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February 5th, 2010 at 10:33 pm
I read here often, but rarely post. I read this entry a couple days ago, along with the comments, but felt no particular need to post. But, something drew me back today. As I read the comments, I began to question why I felt no compunction to comment. Was it because I felt $1 was of little value, and therefore not worth the time and effort to write my thoughts? Perhaps… and I’d like to interpret that as meaning I believe my own thoughts to be much more valuable than that!
Thanks for everyone’s wisdom. Oh, and Jeannette, YOU ROCK!
February 6th, 2010 at 8:48 am
During your life’s trip this time around, Ms. Mawsome, you may wear out many a “boyfriend,” who is unable to keep up with your pace!
If so, so what? You always receive what you are ready for, so as B.K. advises, “Love what is!”
Arlo
February 6th, 2010 at 1:28 pm
So, better late than never, right? Send me the money! LOL! (Yes, it took me this long to talk myself into it..)
As I was reading the post, I wanted to comment: “So, how much are you going to pay me for this comment?
” jokingly.
Then I read the ending, and rather disappointedly thought, “Oh, now I can’t post that”.
He he, I guess your just too far ahead of me:-)
I am thinking about joining Good Vibe U for the dollar, though I haven’t decided yet. I guess I am on to your scheme, Jeannette, of pretending you didn’t want to promote it too much, and then tricked us all into joining by sending out free money
(Just kidding, of course LOL!)
February 6th, 2010 at 1:39 pm
OMG, Arlo, I love you!!
What you wrote was just incredible! About not charging money in advance, but letting people pay what they wanted to later.
I have some long-term plans of starting a business. Ever since I found out I was a channel, I knew that I would make a living on my amazing gift.
But it didn’t feel right to me that only people who could afford it would recieve the benefit of Chris message, even though a lot of it would still be free at my blog. I also didn’t want to make a living by posting ads on the blog either.
When I read your message I had an epiphany, and I saw that there are other options. It’s just an idea at this point, but what a dream it would be to give it all away for free and people would pay what they wanted to after they have received the material.
Wow! This possibility is so much fun to think about! Thank you so much for this!
Annika
February 6th, 2010 at 4:22 pm
I’ve never done this in the history of this blog, but for this post I’m officially turning comments off now.
Not because I don’t want to pay out more dollars – but because I think everyone’s had a chance to share their thoughts and I want to make sure I am a bit nervous about not paying out on a future comment I might miss!
Thanks, everyone, for this enlightening experiment about how money changes things!
I learned a lot myself here – particularly that I wouldn’t have dared post this if I didn’t already have a proven track record for getting comments on posts. (I realized I didn’t want to come across as desperately “paying for comments” just to get traffic or conversation.)
That in itself was enlightening to me about how I still care what other people think, especially in terms of money.
With awareness – the power to change. Yay!!
PS – if you posted but didn’t see your dollar arrive, drop me an email. (For some of you international readers, you may have to login to paypal to accept your payment. Some of those payments are still showing as “pending” in my account, so claim your buck, please! lol)