Ask and It Is Given (Make Your List Today)
Have you ever had the frustrating experience of asking someone what they want for Christmas and getting a really unhelpful answer like, “Oh, you don’t have to get me anything” or “Oh, anything would be fine”?
So you rack your brain trying to think of something good, shopping everywhere for something that might work.
Then when they open it you can tell they don’t like what they got?
Okay, so you can imagine my delight when a few weeks ago my folks gave me their detailed Christmas lists.
With website addresses and item numbers.
All of a sudden I could tell this was going to be a much more enjoyable holiday.
And that my folks were finally going to get what they wanted!
Cool how it works, right? They say what they want and I get it for them.
So much easier. So much more enjoyable. So much more efficient!
You might see where I’m going with this …
… because Universe wants to do the same for you.
It wants you to have what you want.
And it will get you whatever you say.
All you have to do is be clear.
(Not pussyfooting around, not trying to not want anything, not complaining that it never turns out right, not worried about what it’ll be like if you don’t get it.)
Just straight up – “Here’s my list.”
Now my folks seem to be new pros at this, so I have half a mind to pick their brain for tips on how to properly ask for what you want.
But they are not allowed to read this post because it contains a story from their daughter’s sex life, so stop reading now, mom and dad!
Okay, so here’s what I think my folks got right:
#1 – They felt worthy of having what they want.
There wasn’t any, “Oh, don’t worry about us, we don’t need anything” or “oh, you’re too busy to pay any attention to us” martydom. They were willing to receive what they really wanted. Super freakin’ cool!
#2 – They trusted I was capable and interested in getting them what they want.
They didn’t worry that I wouldn’t know how to shop online at an unfamiliar site; they didn’t worry I couldn’t afford it; they didn’t assume I wouldn’t want to or have time to. They considered me capable and willing. Which I am.
#3 – They got clear and communicated clearly.
They delivered a list with detailed instructions! That’s practically giving a gift to me. Makes it so much less stresful!
#4 – Their happiness doesn’t hinge on it.
They’re still going to enjoy life whether I deliver or not. Their well being isn’t dependent on getting these items. They’re living the good life, every day, without me delivering presents. I’m pretty sure they’ll still love me even if I show up on Christmas empty handed.
My folks might have more tips than that, but we’ll never know because they’re not reading this, right guys?! This is your last chance, mom and dad, to stop reading.
Because I wanted to share another powerful analogy for how helpful it is to ask for what we want.
The other day my favorite lover says to me, “How come you always call the shots in the bedroom?”
My standard answer to that question (yes, I do have a standard answer because I have heard it a time or two) is ‘because I’m the girl.’
But the real answer is because I’m the one who’s willing to say what she wants. That’s the only reason why.
(Which came from plenty of past contrast in the form of bad sex. I am simply unwilling to have less than fabulous sex any more. Giving clear instructions works much better.)
Anyway … I’d been thinking about how powerful it is (in general) to ask for what you want. Rather than just be used to what you get.
So I suggested to this favorite lover of mine that he practice it himself.
“Ask for what you want,” I invited. Y’never know til you ask!
So he says, “I’d like it if there was maybe some more nudity happening here.”
Okay, that’s not exactly a request. More of a statement or opinion – and tentative at that.
Which is kind of like when the woman hints, “Hmm, the garbage is getting full,” thinking that the guy is going to know that means he should take the garbage out. That’s not clear communication. Ask for what you want.
It might take some practice, but it’s worth it.
And it sure was in his case, because I was delighted to give him what he wanted, once I knew what that was. (The truth is I have fabulous reasons to be nude, thanks to the work I did in Body Love Lab. I will show this story off all day long!)
Here’s another example of the power of making clear requests …
A member of my Masters of Creation Circle wrote the other day about how everything she’d written out on a list had come true in short order.
She had a wide variety of things on that list – and within several days everything was happening before her very eyes! In easy peasy enjoyable ways. Gotta love how that works.
It was yet another reminder how magical it is for us to get clear about what we want.
So, when it comes to communicating with Universe we know it’s helpful to do this:
- ask from a place of fulfillment, not lack (pray rain, not pray for rain)
- ask without attachment to how it’s delivered (stop thinking you know how it’s going to arrive)
- ask with expectation that it’s a done deal (expect to receive)
- get out of the way (let Universe do its thing).
I don’t know about you, but I’m in the mood to go make some clear requests.
If you care to share your “What Universe Can Do for Me Next” list, or if you have additional tips about how to make effective requests to Universe, we’d love to hear from you in the comments.