If you wonder where it is or why it isn’t here yet, change that habit and recommit to your vibrational alignment.  (If you’re not sure what alignment is, read this.  Also, know that the question itself indicates misalignment.)

If you feel anxious that it better happen soon, check for releasing attachment.

If you have trouble focusing on what you want (from what already is), amp up your appreciation and/or work on developing your focus skills.

If you can manifest “small” stuff but not the “big” things that matter, it might be time to drop the need or make it less important.

If you’re experiencing strong feelings of jealousy for others who already have it, commit to improving your belief that you can have it, too.

If you have trouble believing it’s possible, remind yourself how the system works and what your true creative power is.  Hang out with others who believe in you.

If you don’t know whether you’re “doing it right,” chill out.  Relaxing goes a long way toward becoming a vibrational match.

If it’s been a while and nothing has happened, it might mean you’re not as lined up as you think you are.  Switch up your method for creating alignment.

If you’re worried about figuring out how or trying to make it happen, remember that’s not your job.

We’d all love it if you shared your tips and resources in the comments, or even additional obstacles to play with.  Together we’ll make this a great resource for working out the vibrational kinks to get what we want!

Other times, especially if it’s a really big dream of desire, it doesn’t work like that.

If you’re new to deliberate creation, this “how to” series offers the basics to start manifesting what you want, Good Vibe style.

If you’re not new to this work, these posts will re-inspire you about how easy it is to create what you want!

This is based on my experience as a deliberate creator and law of attraction coach, as well as absorbing a wide variety of manifesting resources (including Abraham, Chopra, Dooley, Canfield, Dyer, Assaaf, McTaggart, etc.).

The name of the game in getting what we want is Alignment!

Energetic (aka vibrational) alignment is your friend. That just means feel now how you would then.   Which usually boils down to feeling some sort of ‘happy.’  (Could be secure, free, successful, acknowledged, validated, loved, whatever.)

Here are 3 steps to creating that alignment. They don’t have to be done in any particular order, and even just one of them can make a world of difference in your manifesting success:

1.  Amp Up Appreciation
Some people have a nose for spotting lies. Others are good at drawing out drama in any situation. Maybe you know someone who has a gift for turning any comment into something sexual. Powerful manifesters develop a nose for Appreciation.  It becomes natural to them – their default setting.

Appreciation is a major key to creating alignment.  Getting in the regular habit of it just takes a little practice.  Or maybe a lot, depending on where you’re at.  But growing the skills of finding things to enjoy and be thankful for creates a powerful energetic path to your biggest and best desires.

Habits that build the thankful muscle include keeping a happiness journal, reading Pollyanna, hanging out with other happy people, listing 5 things you’re grateful for at the end of every day, etc.  Read more about developing appreciation here.

2.  Recover Lost Energy
Sometimes getting what you want is as easy as eliminating a big energy drain from your life. Anything that you’re tolerating drags down your vibe, keeping you from being a vibrational match to what you want.  By plugging the energy leaks and recovering your energetic integrity, you automatically raise your vibration.

How do you release tolerations?  First by recognizing what/who they are, since many of us have gotten so used to them we take them for granted.  Once you know what your leak is, you either get rid of it or get over it.  One way or another, find a way to feel better.

I’ve seen miracles happen for people who finally divorced, quit, or moved.   It sounds contrary to the principles of deliberate creation that we take action in order to feel better (normally it’s “feel better and then listen for inspiration”), but if you’ve got something dragging you down, address it now by eliminating key tolerations to dramatically improve your attraction power.

3.  Vibrate What You Want
Whether you call it Universe, God, the Matrix, the Field, etc.- source energy matches the vibrational signal you send.  (That’s that whole “like attracts like” thing.)

To get what you want, send the signal that says “Got what I wanted!” When you offer that instruction, Universe responds in kind by delivering the goods.  No matter how crazy or ridiculous or impossible the thing seems.  (Is that a cool system or what?!)

How do you vibrate “got what I wanted” before you have it?  That’s the fun part of being a deliberate creator!  Use your imagination and experiment with what you enjoy most.  Some possibilities:

• Some people do daily visualizations, running through the movie of their dream come true.
• Some journal it out in writing.
• Some script out loud (speak as if it’s happened.  We do it at GVU every month.)
• Some use affirmations (“I am” statements being particularly popular among deliberate creators).
• Some “act as if.”
• Some simply find a way to feel now how they would then.

However you do it, when you change your signal from “I want it” to “I am loving it” you are irresistible to success.

And, this is why everyone doesn’t do it.  It’s a bit challenging to break from “reality” and pretend we already got what we wanted.  Reality often gets in the way, disrupting our signal, or sometimes people just feel foolish vibrating what isn’t real yet.

But it works when you work it.

Since Universe can only send what you signal it for, you have to find a way that says “got what I wanted.”  ”All is well here.”  ”Life is good.”  ”Thanks for the win!”  Or something along those lines.  Every time you feel a yearning, dissatisfaction, or lack of fulfillment, that signal holds up the party.

Which is also why the Appreciation practice is so powerful – because in vibrating appreciation Universe hears that you are happy and loving life.  And sends in whatever else makes you feel happy and loving life!

Even if you can’t bring yourself to pretend that your desire is now a reality, if all you did was practice believing that it was coming soon, that optimism and faith serves as a powerful signal, too.

All three of these processes lead to one purpose: align your energy to what you want.  Deliberate creators don’t wait for something to happen before they feel good and get happy.  They get happy first, and then good stuff happens as icing on the cake.

The top 3 frequently asked questions (and their answers) are here, and you’ll find troubleshooting support here.  If you’d like more input, stay tuned for the upcoming free video series at Good Vibe U.

Feel free to share your tips or ask questions in the comments below.

Happy manifesting!  :)

You’ve noticed it, too, I’m sure.  How the things you don’t care about too much come together easier than the “big deal” desires of life.

It’s why the email from an old friend pops in the day after randomly thinking about them, but the phone hasn’t rung in weeks after interviewing for the dream job.

It’s why we can manifest a free lunch in the blink of an eye, but dropping the extra weight seems next to impossible.

People ask me regularly why the stuff they don’t care about happens so quick, while the things that really matter take forever.

* It’s the difference in the energy. *

When we make it a big deal, it might seem like that would light a fire under Universe to deliver it faster.

That approach might have worked with mom when we were little (which is probably why we default to it), but Universe doesn’t work that way.

That’s because when something really matters to us – when it’s a really big deal in our life, it’s common to have a “charge” on it that isn’t conducive to true vibrational alignment.

Feel it out for yourself … when something is really important it’s not unusual to feel a slight tension or anxiety, right?  It’s a stress signal that tells Universe all is not well here, that we’re on a little bit of edge.  Which is why it can’t deliver the goods since we’re not lined up for good news.  Rather, we’re lined up for tension, anxiety, more stress.

How do we get past that in order to let the “big” stuff manifest just as quickly and effortlessly as the “little” stuff?

The answer is to find a way to feel easier about it.  To lighten up.  To relax a little.  To treat it like the big deal it ISN’T.

Dropping the “charge” doesn’t mean giving up on the desire; it just means don’t make it a ‘life or death’ matter.

Because if your happiness or satisfaction is conditional on this result, you’re signaling Universe for a delay.  You’ve got to get happy/relaxed/peaceful/fulfilled first, then it can send in the goods.

I chill out a big deal desire in a couple of different ways:

by appreciating what’s already going right, and reflecting on all the things I already enjoy about my life.  That helps me release the “need” for this next thing to manifest.  Life is already REALLY good!  This will be icing on the cake, but I don’t have to have it in order to feel satisfied.

Sometimes I just remember that Universe might have an even better plan than I did, so while this thing might seem like a fabulous next step in life, I’m open that there could be something even better.  Thus, I don’t feel as attached to my idea.

Another way to replicate that aligned energy is to practice thinking of the big desire like it’s a small one.  I remember how I felt about something that happened really easily which helps me conjure up that “no big deal” feeling, and then practice feeling that way about this desire.

Sometimes I just remind myself that everything is easy to Universe.  There’s no difference between a huge pile of money and a good song on the radio.  A healthy body is just as easy as a smile from a stranger.  We’re the ones making some things harder than others.  And we can change that.

When we stop making things a big deal, when we remember that it’s all the same and that we don’t need anything to be happy anyway, we become much more powerful manifesters.

There is a way to make something a big deal that doesn’t kink the vibe.  That’s when we have strong belief or expectation and little attachment.  So it’s not that we have to never have another big dream again – it’s just a matter of making sure the energy is lined up.

Even if it isn’t the desire that we make such a big deal, some of us put pressure on ourselves to prove our deliberate creation skills. And that’s more energy that can kink the alignment, so let’s not do that, either.  <wink>

I’d love to hear how you let go of “big deal” anxiety to create stronger alignment to your desire, as well as examples of how something manifested after you stopped caring so much about it …

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I LOVE to share Mike Dooley’s “It’s a good thing I’m rich” and Stuart Wilde’s “The trick to money is having some.”  But clients know me best for asking the question I learned from Abraham: “What’s the thought that feels better?”

What sayings are YOU known for?

1. Okay, but what do I do?  (As in, what action do I take?)
2. How long does it take?
3. How do I know if I’m doing it right?

I’m inviting readers to weigh in as well, but here’s my take on these commonly asked manifesting questions.

What actions to take?
So you’re activating appreciation, you’re dropping tolerations to raise the vibe, and/or working a manifesting technique to create alignment to what you want.  It’s pretty natural to wonder what action you should be taking to make your dream happen.

Savvy deliberate creators know they don’t have to do anything, other than what feels good. If it’s not inspired action, it will not help!  So unless/until you feel a big strong enjoyable urge to do something, skip it.  If it feels like a should, a supposed to, or any sort of effort or struggle, it’ll only slow progress.

Remember that Universe does the “hows” – you just focus on the “what.”  That’s where your true power lies.

How long does it take?
For the record, this is not a question that someone in alignment would ask.  That’s because if you’re doing a good job of appreciating life, having fun and acting as if you’ve already got what you wanted, you wouldn’t feel an “emptiness” or  impatience for something to happen.  Know that asking the question takes you out of the alignment that lets your dream come true.

Having said that, if you’ve done the work to get lined up with what you want, you’ll see signs or evidence of progress fairly soon.  A couple weeks at the outside; usually sooner.

If you’re not seeing those signs, either you’re not as lined up as you think you are, or you’re just not seeing things that are happening.  That’s a good time for a coach or group support.

Am I doing it right?
The key to knowing whether what you’re engaging is working is how you feel.  If you’re feeling better, you are on the right track!  It’s that simple.

If you’re not feeling better, then it’s time to switch things up.  The whole point of the Appreciation, Energy Recovery, and Vibrating It steps are to help raise your energy.  If you’re not feeling happier, more joyful, or at least lighter with some relief, then the work you’re doing is for naught.  In that case, chilling out may be the best solution for now.

We’ve got more FAQs about LOA posted here.  If you don’t see your question listed, feel free to ask it here.

Here’s to happy manifesting!

And we know alignment is the name of the manifesting game!

So it seems worth focusing on how to develop our appreciation skills as deliberate creators.  Here are tips for becoming a professional appreciator, but I’d love to hear yours as well in the comments.

Commit to it.
A key step to becoming a powerful appreciator is to decide it. Once you make the commitment, set an intention to create a focus on thankfulness in your life and it will serve you well.

Make a plan for it.
You’ll be more successful at building your appreciation muscle if you have a specific plan for how to engage it. It doesn’t have to be a big deal or a complex plan, but specificity supports success.  Even just naming five things you’re grateful for as you drift off to sleep can make all the difference.

Keep a happiness journal.
Make regular entries in a written journal to create a strong focus on what brings you joy.  It helps if you’re not obsessive about doing it every day without fail, but rather just making a gentle, relaxed commitment to posting regularly.  (I do mine publicly in the GVU forum.)

Hang out with other appreciators.
Energy is contagious, so by spending time with people who are natural appreciators rather than complainers sets you up for success. At the minimum, limit your exposure to those who have tendencies toward pessimism and negativity.

Study the experts.
When I hit a bit of a rough patch in life, dad insisted I read a copy of Pollyanna. She literally changed my life. Pollyanna is an appreciator to the extreme, and can’t help but rub off when you study her! Some have that same experience of Eckhart Tolle. (If you’ve got a particularly helpful appreciation model, please share with us in the comments!)

Get a dog. Or a cat.  (Or whatever else you might love.)
Set yourself up for easy, and fill your life with the things that are easy to love and appreciate.  For me, that’s animals.  For others, it could be music, good food, great books, fun exercise, a new friend, etc.

However you engage the habit of appreciation, you’re sure to find it makes a powerful difference in your vibration and thus your manifesting success.  Not to mention enjoyment of life!

Share your tips for building the appreciation muscle in the comments below …

Law of Attraction Success Secret #5: Drop the Agenda

Those of us who know how the system works can sometimes (maybe often) find ourselves working that system in order to get what we want.

That sounds innocent enough, right?  (In fact, isn’t that what we’re supposed to do?)

But if you’re ‘doing this’ in order to ‘get that’ – you’ve missed the boat.

Stay with me here, because really understanding this can be a huge boon to your manifesting practice …

You may be holding up your progress if you’re doing any of these things:

• putting together a vision board in order to manifest those things
• visualizing the desired outcome in order to create those results
• pray rain journaling to make it happen
• scripting out loud to direct what happens next
• doing nothing to make something happen (even Slackers slip!)

You guys, I probably do this a couple times every week.  That’s how easy it is to fall for!

The truth is, though, our highest alignment is found in genuine appreciation.

And we’re not truly appreciating when we’re only doing something in order to create change.  That’s doing it with an agenda.

Just like we’re not truly loving someone if we only do it to get them to love us back.  That’s not love; that’s emotional manipulation.

The purpose of manifesting techniques and exercises are to take us to a state of alignment via appreciation.

Which means: the most effective way to make a pray rain journal entry is to do it because it feels good, not to make it happen.  The real way to relax is to do it without trying to make something happen, because that’s not relaxing – that’s just efforting lying down.  The best way to visualize is to see what you want because it’s enjoyable to, not to ensure that’s what unfolds next.

Are you with me?

It means that if you’ve got an agenda to engage a manifesting method in order to create results, you would be better served to recognize that the real manifesting juice is in the vibration of appreciation.  That’s where we’ll find highest alignment to what we want.

All that means is that you’re best served when joy, love and appreciation are your real targets.

Here’s what Abe said about it recently:

“If you would spend just a little bit of time over the next few days just making lists of things that you appreciate from right where you stand, you would shore up a Grid that would begin to fill in immediately.

But if you do it because you want the Grid to fill in, rather than because you’re appreciating, then you’re not appreciating.  Then you’re trying to fill the Grid in.  And that’s what goes wrong with so many Deliberate Creators. You’re getting your cart before your horse.”  - Abraham, March 2012 in Orlanda FL

What I’m trying to convey here is that appreciation is the name of the game.  Any of those manifesting exercises we engage are designed to get us to that state of enjoyment and thankfulness now.  NOT to create that stuff we want so we can then get thankful and joyful.

Make sense?

It’s an easy distinction to miss, which is why it’s LOA Success Secret #5.  (Stay tuned for the next four.)

I’d love to hear your thoughts on dropping the manifesting agenda if you care to share.

How easy is your money?

On a scale of 1-10, with 1 being “I work like a slave for it” and 10 as “I barely lift a finger”, how easy is your money?

If you’re like many of us, you grew up believing it’s a virtue to work hard for your reward; that money was scarce and difficult to come by, and you better be careful with whatever you get.  And even to be grateful for the chance to sweat it out in a miserable job to earn it.

The thing is, that’s true.  If that’s what you believe.

But it can be also be true that:

• money is easy to come by
• that the less you work the more you make
• that the more you spend the more you have
• that earning it can be a completely joyful and pleasant experience
• or that you don’t even have to “work” for it at all

If that sounds foreign, but something you’d like to embrace, that’s what we’re doing this May.

I’m taking a group of creators up the scale towards experiencing even easier money.  If you answered less than an 8 on the ten point scale, and are keen to create a different experience with money, you’re invited to join in for a month long Easy Money course starting May 14th at 4 pm eastern.

Seats are $97 each, and include access to the GVU forums for the duration of the course.  Calls will be recorded if you can’t join in live, and access to the forums allows you to experience the power of group support even if you’re not dialed in for calls.

If you’d like to join to create Easy Money for yourself, reserve your seat by making payment of $97 below.

After sending payment, I’ll send an email with call-in details and forum access instructions.

And if you want to prime your pump right now for an easier time with money, these resources may help now:

Marc Allen on how he affirmed his way to “total financial success in an easy & relaxed manner.”
Abraham reminder on creating money without action.
Bashar on winning the lottery.

Great stuff there!  And very much in alignment with what we’ll be practicing in Easy Money next month.  See you then!

PS – current GVU members get free seats to this course.  So if you’re already a member, no need to register.  And if you’d like to become one now, you can do that here.

I get lit up every time I run across a reminder that it can be instant; or that life transformations can take place in as little as 30 days.

My own personal experience has proven how quickly Universe responds to my shifted vibe:

• my first pray rain journal entry delivered exactly what I wanted in less than 2 hours
• my first scripting exercise netted spectacular results in under two days
• I manifested chocolate out of thin air in minutes
• I turned around a screwed up dating vibe with a 10 minute visualization that resulted in HUGE success within the hour
• I’ve willed phone reps to give me good answers while on hold

So I personally know that it can happen FAST.

On the other side, I have a couple of manifesting projects that have been in the works for years.  Literally, years.

What I’ve learned from personal experience as well as working with hundreds of other deliberate creators is that the speed of manifestation is impacted by these things:

1. how badly we need it (less attachment is better)
2. how much contrast has been engaged (more is good)
3. how well we can disengage from current reality (if we’re stuck on ‘what is,’ it’s going to go SLOW)
4. how much we believe in it

Maybe a smart math person here could put that in some type of formula:

Speed of Manifestation is inversely correlated to level of need (i.e. attachment), exponentially connected to prior contrast, divided by the reality disengagement factor times belief.  ha  (I’m not the smart math person.)

But I am a smart and experienced deliberate creator.

I know that my past contrast works to my benefit – when I let go of that contrast. (Contrast meaning the “sucky stuff” or the “don’t want” of life.)  That’s why the scripting and journaling worked so quickly – I was coming from huge contrast in both those experiences.

I know that needing results sends a contrary signal to Universe, blocking the very thing I want.  (Which is why present moment appreciation is such a powerful manifesting aid.)

I know that seeing “what is” is also a hindrance to results. (Start seeing what you’re creating, not what you’ve created.)

And I know that the more I believe/expect it, the faster it unfolds.

So to allow for fast manifesting, you want to incorporate these elements as much as possible:

huge desire, little attachment, and a strong focus on and belief in success.

With those elements in play you are guaranteed to turn some heads at your crazy fast manifesting skills!  I’d love to hear your stories of fast manifesting, if you care to share …

“I cannot believe what a Jerk he is!”

“He did what?!  He is such a JERK!”

These are not the sort of thoughts I am proud to have invested in.

And yet, there I was flowing them with full force and emotion for weeks on end.  (Toward someone that I love, even!)

It wasn’t until I had thought it for approximately the 820th time (I was going to guess 200, but I think negative thoughts might be like calories – we tend to underestimate just how many there really are) -

- before it dawned on me just how familiar this “what a jerk” thought had become.

I mean, I knew this thought inside and out.  (In LOA world, we call that “acclimation.”)

This thought and I had become intimate friends.  I had spent much time with it, turning it around this way and that; looking at its jerkiness from every angle, telling everyone who would listen all about it, feeling the emotion of it over and over until it found a permanent place in my frequency field of a heart.

And that’s how I created a near and dear family member to be a jerk.

This was not conscious creation - but that doesn’t make it any less powerful.

I know from all the facebook posts railing against Monsanto, Rush Limbaugh, the computer shooting father, etc. that I am not alone in activating this thought.

Obviously we can do better.  We can use our creative power for good.

But if you ever wondered why your “I am healthy, wealthy and happy” type affirmations don’t seem to work as well, consider whether you invested in them as well as I did with my jerk mantra.  I was committed, it was frequent, and I was emotional with those thoughts.

Universe can’t ignore that stuff for long.  It gets moved to the top of the Big U’s list when it gets that much energy and attention from us.

(I really didn’t mean to work my jerk mantra so well.)

There’s solace for me in two things:

1. If I helped co-create him as a big jerk, I can co-create him as a compassionate, loving, understanding, open person.
2. and if I created a fabulous guy as a big jerk, I can work other miracles, too!

Which makes me super excited to choose a new thought to invest in starting today.  What will it be?!  Maybe …

I am SO rich!  Can you believe how rich I am?!  I cannot get over how much money keeps rolling in!  Oh my WORD!!  It is FABULOUS to be having this much fun with money!

or perhaps …

I cannot believe how much love there is my world.  Everywhere I turn, there’s MORE LOVE!  It’s amazing how much love is flowing to me and through me – can you believe this?!  It is so cool to be me!  It just gets better and better!

this might be fun, too:

there are so many hot guys around here!  It’s like they just get sexier and sexier!  I can hardly believe my eyes!  Who knew there were so many hot guys in this town?!  woot!!

How about you?

What thoughts have you been investing in lately? Are you doing it consciously, or just letting like attract like until you manifest something you don’t even want?

My note to self: leave the jerk mantra for others to play with, and engage something much more rewarding.

When we do that, there’s no doubt this spring season is going to rock!