You all know my mad love for blind kitty (aka Handsome Boy).  He’s not only my quick ticket into the vortex, but is teaching me tons about energy, vibration and possibilities. 

Here’s my latest lesson on energy shifts: 

Ever since he stepped off the threshold, kitty has been a first class backyard adventurer.  He gets to explore on his own, but eventually I call him in from the ground cover he’s hiding in, or the pine branch he’s lounging under, or the grasses he’s trekking through. 

We have a routine where I call him a couple times before he comes leaping back to my voice.  I finally realized it’s the energy I flow that makes the difference as to whether he responds or not.

It turns out that when I can’t see where he is, I call for him in a more questioning, tentative voice.  Which he doesn’t respond to.

But as soon as I spot him, I call for him differently (with more confidence) and he comes leaping home.  (It’s the cutest thing ever when he does that!)

There’s a correlation here between our successful manifesting and my success in calling kitty back in. 

When we can’t see how we’re going to get what we want, our vibration about it can be doubtful and tentative.  But doubt doesn’t signal Universe to deliver.

And waiting for the evidence before I change how I feel isn’t powerful manifesting.

Finding that confidence and creating an aligned vibration first without knowing how (or even that) it’s coming – that’s tapping into powerful stuff!

Maybe you’ll see the differences in the vibe with a live demo.  Let me go call him in now …

It works just like that every time! 

You see how this translates to our manifesting habits?

This is your invitation to look where you’re using questioning versus confident energy as you call out your instructions to Universe.

• Are you asking Universe to fill our bank account, or telling it?
• Are you hoping for a healthier body, or sure about it?
• Are you wishing for a new romance, or expecting it?

Universe responds to us the same way kitty does to me.  Once I find the “There you are!” vibe, he responds.

My opportunity is to get confident before I see where he is.  Because often, depending on what we’re creating, we won’t be able see it first.  And it would be a shame to hold dreams at bay because we can’t see “how” they’re going to happen. 

Our power is to feel it before it’s done.  That’s the energetic instruction that Universe can have some fun with.

You game?

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She believed once she had her right guy that her future would be secure, her children would behave better, her day job would become optional, someone else would mow the lawn, and her happiness level would go through the roof.

So she divorced her current husband to make room for a better one (certain that her current husband was her biggest problem in life), and eventually found a dream come true guy.

From what I can tell, this guy is fabulous: devoted, faithful, romantic, gorgeous, makes great money at a good job, treats her (and her family) like gold, was thrilled to marry her …

… and yet, this girlfriend is anything but the deliriously happy version of herself she imagined she’d be once Mr. Right showed up.

No surprise to us creators, right?

We know the fallacy of falling for the belief that something or someone will make us feel better. 

(At least – on our good days, we remember.)

We know that responsibility for how we feel is strictly ours. 

We’ve all seen what happens when someone hitches their wagon to the “circumstance” they think will bring them a “happily ever after” … either they spend their lives chasing the elusive dream that they never get lined up with – OR – they get it and are disappointed it’s not all it was supposed to be.

(Can you tell I’ve been there, done that?  I know whereof I speak.)

But we don’t have to have lived this already to understand it.  We know nothing happens that we’re not energetically lined up for, and that we are in charge of how we feel – it’s not dictated by our life circumstances.

Which is why I get a little irked every time I hear a deliberate creator talk about how excited they’ll be to win the lottery.

Before your feathers ruffle, let me clarify. 

I have nothing against money.  Especially big easy money. 

I am, in fact, a huge fan of big easy money.

But I am not a fan of seeing powerful creators attach themselves to an outcome that can’t possibly happen when they think a winning ticket will “save their day.”

If you think your day needs saving, and you think the lottery can do that for you, you are forgetting how this all works.

The same way my girlfriend was nuts to think a different guy could change her life happiness, we are insane to believe that a windfall of cash will make us feel better. 

It doesn’t.

It can’t.

Only YOU can make yourself feel better.

And when you feel better, guess what?  You don’t care about winning the lottery!

Now, I have lots of colleagues and friends (including my fabulous Dad – Happy Father’s Day, Dad!) who play the lottery for fun. 

I’m not talking about you guys. 

I’m talking about the folks who pin their hopes and dreams on using the law of attraction to win the lottery and change their life forever the better.

The Universe can’t deliver what you’re not lined up for.  So whatever you think a lotto win will do for you – you might want to bring that responsibility back home. 

Because the lottery can’t make you happy, secure, free, or even rich.  (And despite popular opinion, you don’t have to hear too many real life stories about lottery winners to know that.)

I’m also not saying winning the lotto is always an unhappy ending.  

I’m just saying lotto money will do for you whatever you’re already flowing.  (Which is why my girlfriend is her same old unhappy self with her fabulous new guy.) 

Like Alexander Green quotes in The Secret of Shelter Island, “Money doesn’t change who you are, it magnifies who you are.”

So instead of intending to win the lottery, how about instead we intend to be happy?  Since that’s all we want anyway!    

How about instead of dreaming up winning numbers, let’s take a few moments to count how we’ve already won the lottery?  (I got to be born here now!  On a planet where the skies are blue and there are over 300 brands of chocolate!  At a time where we have fabulously adventurous contrast to explore with the most amazing friends for the journey!  I could go on, but soapboxes probably aren’t the best vibe …)

My point being that if you think the lottery can change your life for the better, you are mistaken.  Only you can do that.  And when you do do that (change your life for the better), you won’t be so attached to lottery tickets.

Yes, Dad, I know – unless you’re buying them for fun.  I get it.

And the first person who posts here asking for tips on how to use law of attraction to win the lottery, I swear to God, I will make you read Money Mojo Magic or some other suitable reminder to get your money vibe straightened out once and for all.

(Although it is always fun to hear Abraham on this topic.)

While I am feeling feisty here, I am also totally open to seeing how I’ve got this wrong, if you care to share.  Or if you think I haven’t stated the point clearly or strongly enough.

Your thoughts?

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Because the vortex is where everything that we want is.

So it often leaves a person wondering, okay - how do I get in there again?

The answer is simple: Feel good.  Be happy.  Find a good reason to smile.  Relax and enjoy.  Get inspired.

I’m finding that super easy to accomplish by just answering a vortex-inspiring question or two.

Here are some of my favorites:

• What’s so great about this moment?
• Wouldn’t it be nice if … ?
• What do I love most about him/her?
• What’s the good news?
• What’s right about this?
• What went my way today?
• What did I do a great job of today?

Let’s test it out now, shall we?

Pick a question, any question (from above), or make up your own similarly vortex-inspiring question.  (Share it with us if you do, please!)

Spend a minute or two answering it and see if you don’t find a noticeable improvement in how you feel!

That’s how simple it is to practice vibration management.

We’ve really no excuses, do we?

Remember this quote from Abraham (as shared in yesterday’s Get What You Want newsletter):

“If you pay the price of happiness, the manifestation will come. We promise.”

I can’t wait to hear your answers to these questions, because I suspect we’ll be surprised at how simple the answers are as well as how effective the process is!

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Her energy work with clients across the globe helps them elevate consciousness, become more aware of energy, and surpass physical and emotional limitations. 

(She changed my life!)

But this email was a shocker. 

I would paste it here, but can’t bring myself to. 

Let me summarize briefly instead. 

It was a forwarded call to action to “flood” Obama’s email (they don’t even the respect to say President Obama) with instructions to veto the bill the Senate just passed (assuming it gets through the House) to ensure illegal aliens don’t get access to social security benefits. 

I was speechless. 

For a minute. 

And then recovered access to all sorts of my favorite sailor words.

So I’ve taken a deep breath.  And rather than just let this go and forget about it (this isn’t the first note she’s sent like this), there are a few things I want to say.  To remind all of us of, myself included, of the truth.

We know better than this!

First of all, even if you really believe in limitation of resources, even if you really believe the government is in charge of those resources, and even if you really believe there are some people who don’t deserve certain resources, the last thing that’s going to work for you is to push against it.

If you really think we’re not all one, and that how we treat another is not what we’re calling forth upon ourselves, and you really think you need to command the government into protecting your vested interests – this isn’t how you successfully create change.

How you go about it is like this:

Well, wait a minute.  I’m not finding super helpful instruction to someone who buys into – what I consider - false premises.

Because the fact is:

• we are all connected;
• what we wish upon another is what we call forth upon ourselves;
• there are no limitations unless we create them by believing in them; and
• the best way to get what we want is to focus on that positive end result rather than fight its opposite.

And guys, it’s up to us to practice this. 

We know how things work.

We are the leaders.

This fearful scarcity crap thinking is so outdated, it just won’t fly any more.  We know too much!

We are in a prime position to be more aware and diligent about what we are creating vibrationally.

Believe in your abundance, know that no one can prevent you from it (but yourself, and even then only temporarily), and that we can all have what we want – our happy endings fit together perfectly.

This is a clarion call to everyone out there who understands that at the foundation of our world is the law of attraction.  If we don’t change old habits, who will?

Okay, our kids will. 

But let’s not wait!  Let’s show them the way.  Let’s set the example for powerful living! 

We know too much to do it otherwise.

And I’ll start …

• by finding peace with those who do it different;
• by embracing my brothers and sisters who believe other than I do;
• by sending love to those who are discretionary about theirs;
• by remembering that we’re all deliciously human, even the ones on pedestals;
• by embracing the contrast and knowing it’s just taking us to even better places.

Now that feels better. 

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Last night I saw something that many of us have done to the detriment of our success.

You saw it, too, if you’re a fan of The Office.  (Which, even though it’s tv, it’s close enough to real life that it counts.)

Last night, Michael Scott didn’t realize he was being “set up” by Pam and Jim when Pam invited her girlfriend to join the office in an after hours gathering. 

After smooth introductions and enjoyable conversation over a game of pool, Pam, Jim and said friend all agreed Michael was a hit.  He was funny, relaxed – making a great impression.  Pam’s girlfriend had only good things to say about him.

Everything was headed in the right direction!

Until Michael realized it was a setup.  (He can be a little slow on the take.)

It dawned on him that he was on a date.  With a pretty girl!  Who seemed to like him!!  The dream was within reach!

That’s when Michael lost his head. 

He ran out to his car, took off his tie, put on a ridiculous hat (attempting to be cool and hip), and adopted an entirely new persona as he tried too hard to impress the girl he realized he had a chance with.

Of course it was all downhill from there. 

(Downhill in a bad way.  With that girl, anyway.)

I recognized this rookie move because I’ve done it myself.

I temporarily forget about the weight I’d like to drop, go about enjoying life, and then weight magically drops.  (Of course when I’m not focused on it.)

Once I realize it, though, I pull a “Michael Scott” and get tense and anxious. 

My mindset is akin to: “Something seems to be working; I’m on a roll; how can I leverage this momentum; what am I doing right that I can do more of”

 … and poof!  Just like that, the weight loss party’s over.

I’ve experienced it in career opportunities, too. 

A great possibility shows up when I was least expecting it (although I journal for success, so it can’t be too big a surprise).

But then I’ll get a little kinked about not wanting to ruin the big chance; and it  seemingly slips through my fingers while I’m watching.

To me, this is a lesson in staying loose, easy, relaxed.

Because working too hard at it can ruin our already unfolding success. 

Anyone out there who can relate, or is it just me who holds the market on Michael Scott sabotage moves?

Let’s share our tried and true methods for avoiding this fate!  How do you avoid spoiling success when you start to get attached to it?

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So I dialed him up and asked how he was doing.

He was taken aback by my call, which he explained at dinner a couple nights later.

Apparently just a few hours before I rang, he’d been thinking of me. 

In a not-so-nice way. 

He had said to himself that he was done with this “one way friendship” where he has to make all the efforts to connect and I only respond occasionally to his messages.  He was fed up that I never took the initiative to reach out.

So it spooked him a little when I rang just a few hours after he mentally wrote me off.

He thought this was more evidence that women respond best when treated somewhat disdainfully, because they dismiss “nice guys” who do all the right things.

And he shared a bunch of examples from his own life and women he knew to prove his point:

• Like, how when he shows up at the club not looking or smelling his best, women are all over him.  But when he cleans up nice, he doesn’t get any attention at all.
• Or when he shows no interest in a girl, she’s practically pounding down his door.  But when he says and does all the right things, she doesn’t want anything to do with him.

I know there are dating experts out there teaching guys to “pick up chicks” by being somewhat condescending and withholding to women.  And getting results from it.

But I don’t think the proper conclusion here is that women need to be treated poorly in order to capture and maintain their interest. 

The only reason anything changes is because the energy changed.  And there are lots of ways to create those energetic changes.

Like giving up your resistance about being the only one who calls – that’s one way to shift the energy. 

(As proven last week, it gets results.)

Changing the story you tell is another way to shift the energy dynamics. 

(Maybe instead of saying “She never calls,” it might behoove one desiring change to entertain a story that goes more like “She’s probably thinking about me even when I don’t know it” or even “She’s good about staying in touch.”)

Another way to shift the energy dynamics in the relationship is to … well, this is where I open it up for conversation with you.

How do you shift the energy when the relationship could use some tweaking?

Looking forward to hearing from you!

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Question: Is it confusing to the Universe or even contradictory to have a dream, but still go about daily life in the normal way?  Does going about your real life (in a positive state) overrule the bigger dream? 

Maybe the real question is how do you go about your “regular” life while you are waiting for the bigger dream to happen?

Who hasn’t wondered this one before, right? 

Like, if my dream is financial abundance, but I’m scraping together change for a grocery run, am I confusing Universe with contrary signals?

Or if my dream is to be healthy and fit, but I can barely stand up when I get out of bed, how does that work?

Or if I’m dreaming of self-employment, how do I go to my job every day?

Looking forward to your insightful responses!

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We went to Macaroni Grill and I ordered the warm spinach salad.  (With garlic and goat cheese – mm mm!!)

But I only ate half to save room for dessert: “rich chocolate cake topped with homemade ganache and pecan pieces” with chilled whipping cream on the side.  Seriously, the description doesn’t do it justice – it’s delish!

Dad orders some lemon cake thing that sounds good, but I know he’s gonna wish he had chocolate.

My brother doesn’t order dessert; I’m thinking it’s because he’s happy to share ours.

The fabulous waitress brings two desserts and three forks and I can hardly believe how mouth-watering the cake looks. 

(I’m such a smart girl to have only eaten half my salad!  And what was dad thinking?!  Lemon?  Sure it’s good, but compared to chocolate?!  Oh my.  Rookie move, dad.)

Dad and I offer to share with brother, but he fends off yet another invitation by responding with a finger pointed to my cake, as if it were poison straight from the devil, “This is 1,000 calories” and pointing to dad’s, “That’s 200.”

For a moment my head spun.

He knows the calorie counts?!  That’s bad enough.  Even worse: he cares?!   

It spins even more when it registers: wait, this cake is a thousand calories?  Oh, that sounds like a lot.

Who brainwashed my brother into believing chocolate cake or 1,000 calories are bad things?!  Did his skinny wife trick him into not enjoying food any more?!

Apparently so.  He’s not having even a single bite.  He’s for real.

Did he die and go to hell?

Or maybe is an alien?

Or … was my brother the only smart one at the table?

Maybe I was a bad influence, running amok in life.

His wife is very thin, even after five kids.  Is that how she does it?

I thought about it today as I finished the rest of my (now deliciously cold) spinach salad.  (He was right that it would keep well.)  I realized that chocolate cake was important enough to me that even if 1,000 calories were a bad thing – I’m on board.

But it made me wonder, what am I vibrating that I can share a table with someone who judges 1,000 calories and deprives himself of the pleasure of chocolate cake?  (Or even lemon cake, if chocolate doesn’t float his boat.)

Which, I will say, dad did eat half the chocolate cake.  Told you so.

We know how this works – if I see it in another, that means I’ve got it in me.  And if I’m depriving myself of life’s pleasures, I want to know about it!   

It made me think of Abraham’s track the other day about how if you’re surrounded by needy people, that doesn’t necessarily mean you’re needy, too, but that you do have needy activated somehow.  Maybe it’s that you strongly don’t want to be around needy people.  Either way, somehow needy is activated in you.

So, what was I sensing at the lunch table?  Judging and deprivation.  How might I be flowing that? 

And if to you that sounded wise and willpowery, that just goes to show we don’t have the same vibes flowing.  Or the same taste in dessert.

Easy answer once I looked: I was judging someone who seemed to be depriving life pleasure.

Enjoyment is one of my core values.  There’s not a dog’s head I’m not gonna scratch when I pass by, or a single great song I’m not singing out loud when I feel the urge, nor a fabulous rain storm that doesn’t make me say, “gosh, what a gorgeous day!” when I skip out to check the mail.

Which means I’m likely gonna get wet, I might get fat (if I believe in 1,000 calories) and I’m certainly going to embarrass myself singing out loud.

My tombstone should maybe read: “She loved life!”  If it says that, I went to my grave a happy girl.

So instead of judging my brother as the poor guy who doesn’t let himself enjoy 1,000 calorie cake, I’m going to practice some live and let live. 

Like Abraham says, life’s a buffet.  We’re not all gonna do it the same way, and we’ll enjoy it way more when we don’t blame others for their choices.

So he’s not wrong for skipping dessert; the terrorists aren’t wrong for blowing up buildings; the child molesters aren’t wrong for .. dang, that one trips me up every time. 

But I get the gist and I see my chance.  To love life even more by letting others do it their way.  There’s no right, no wrong … just more cake for me. 

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(Then I’m done talking about it, because this is not the story I’d like a repeat of.)

Backstory: When you’ve got a lot of animals in the house, it’s crucial to keep up on maintenance if you don’t want it to smell like a farm or a zoo.  (No offense to farms or zoos.)  So if I sound neurotic, it’s only because I have a zillion animals (as my boyrfriend says) and a nice house. 

So when pit bull Joe left a big doo-doo on my favorite rug, I was not happy. 

After all, he’s an adult and he’s supposed to be house-trained!  He’s old enough to know to take advantage of a potty break, and certainly old enough to hold it for an hour until someone gets home! 

Ridiculous!  (In a very wrong way.)

Anyway, it was not easy cleanup, so it felt like time to call in the professional.

Ned at Abacus Cleaners knows the routine well (he’s been my guy for over a decade) and popped over to do his magic on all the carpets and rugs. 

Before 24 hours had passed, Joe did it AGAIN.

He left another doo-doo on the same rug, in the same spot, and just as hard to clean up.  (You fellow dog owners know what I’m talking about, right?)

This shouldn’t even happen once a year, and here it was happening twice in 24 hours?!

I was … not happy, to put it mildly. 

After I fumed about it, I realized Joe practically had to go on the rug again because I was flowing such huge resistance about it.

I mean, pretend you’re Universe and all you hear from Jeannette is “blankety blank poop on the blankety blank rug from blankety blank dog.”  If you’re Universe, you gotta figure out how to get more poop on the rug.

The poor dog didn’t have a chance with the vibe I was flowing: HUGE resistance to poop on my floor.

That was the story I told the client who really really didn’t want to experience another breakup, and the other client who really really didn’t want to have to travel for work (she wants to stay local so she can get a DOG, believe it or not!), and the other one who really really didn’t want to go broke. 

Yeah, let me tell you how that works out … 

… it doesn’t.

The resistance is a magnet for it.

We all know this. I’ve written about it before and probably will again.  Because until we get it figured out, the reminders keep coming.

So our opportunity is to make peace with doo-doo on rugs.  And breakups, and going broke, and jobs that suck.

Not because we give up wanting it to be different, or thinking it could be different – but because as long as we need it to be different it can’t be. 

And all the action in the world I can think of to take cannot override my vibe of resistance. 

But seriously …

Peace with poop?  Really?

Yeah, really.  Unless I want more.

That’s my homework this week.

What’s yours?

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What if we could outsource our vibrational work the same way we outsource things like lawn care, dog walking, and personal shopping?

I mean, what if we could hire someone else to improve our vibe?

Does that sound ridiculous?  Lazy, even?

The truth is I suspect we’re already doing this – to a certain extent. 

Isn’t that what I’m doing when I watch a performance of Irish dancers or go see a great movie?  I do it because it makes me feel good.

Or this example: I’ve got repeat clients who put me on the payroll just because every time they involve me in what they’re up to, their belief in success skyrockets and success follows. 

So they’re leveraging my services to get to a higher vibe.  See what I mean?

And that’s what my work is all about – helping folks get to better vibrational alignment.  Which might be happening just because they invite me in on their party – doesn’t even matter what we talk about or do.

Although part of what I consider my job as their coach is to see them succeeding.  So I’m adding to the vibe of their success by entertaining those thoughts of it.

But this work isn’t completely outsourced if the client is still involved, right?  Like, I don’t hire a guy to grocery shop with me.  His job is to shop while I’m doing something more enjoyable. 

You know how they showed in the quantum physics research that just the mere intention to measure the subatomic particles altered those particles?  That you didn’t have to actually observe them in order to change them? 

Just planning to do it made a difference in the structure of “reality.”

And – stay with me, here – you know how sometimes people start feeling better just because they finally made an appointment with the doctor?  (Before they even see her?)  Or how you get an idea for making more money, and more money comes in some other way?

I’ve had new clients tell me that even before we had our first session, just making the decision to hire me was when things started going their way. 

I’ve felt it myself.  Years ago I set up an appointment to talk with Sharon Wilson about hiring her after hearing her free group call.  But by the time we chatted a week later, so many things were happening that I didn’t see the need for her help anymore.

She said she got that a lot. 

I suspect something gets activated within us just by getting in the field of someone who believes in your possibilities.

Here’s more proof that something’s going on:

My ex-boyfriend’s parents put names of people they know who are struggling in some way on their church prayer roll.  I’ve seen the folks benefit whose names they’ve written down.  Whether those people knew they were being prayed for or not, and whether they even believed in that church or not.

So why isn’t there an official LOA Manifesting group that you could retain to help create what you want?  (Or is there??)

For a while I had an EFT guy on my payroll, where his job was to tap on whatever issues I emailed him about.  (It’s called surrogate tapping, right?)  Whatever I gave him to work on, I felt better about. 

He said it works because we’re all connected.

So … all this gets me to wondering how we could put this to work for our vibrations even more than we already are.

Could we hire someone else to vibrationally manifest something on our behalf?  I want to know your thoughts and experiences.

Go ahead and call me crazy; tell me it doesn’t work.  I just want to flesh this out with you all.

And maybe an experiment is in order!

Update: by popular request in comments, the Outsourcerers are officially called together!  I’ll put more info online asap, but here’s a great visual in the meantime:

Here’s another update: check you all out on YouTube (compliments of one of our OutSourcerers):

And this just in – another great OutSourcerers video full of your inspiring words:

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