Contradiction in Manifesting Weight Loss?

December 12, 2011 | 45 Comments »

how to manifest weight lossAn astute reader asked about a conflict she saw in my instructions for using law of attraction to lose weight.

I had written about “loving it to lose it” – saying that when we resist extra weight, that’s exactly what we create. Extra weight.

So to lose pounds, the first step is to get out of resistance and (eventually & ideally) into appreciation.

This reader asked how does that instruction jibe with the common LOA knowledge that what you focus on grows?

She shrewdly concluded that according to the law of attraction, whatever we pay attention to is what we get more of, so why wouldn’t paying attention to extra pounds (even in a state of love) just attract more extra pounds?

I suspect she might not be the only person wondering about this seeming contradiction, so I wanted to post here to give others a chance to “weigh in” with their thoughts on the subject.

My personal take on it is that Universe knows what we want (Abraham would say “it’s in your vortex”). When we find a way to enjoy, appreciate, feel good, and get happy Β – or even just drop a little resistance and get to neutral – that’s what allows our desire to manifest.

That’s why loving our bodies “as is” can lead to weight loss. What I’m focusing on as I love my body as it is, is love for my body. When Universe gets that signal from me, it sends in results/reasons/evidence to match that love.

It does seem contradictory, though, doesn’t it? “Love it to lose it.”

There is a trick here, though. If I’m loving it in order to lose it – that’s like love with an agenda. And love doesn’t have an agenda.

So you can’t really love it just to lose it. You love it, and then you lose it. (Subtle but important distinction.)

It would be like saying to my boyfriend that I love him as long as he does what I want him to. That’s not love.

I personally know that every time I feel hung up when my body doesn’t look how I prefer, it stems from resistance to how it is. And that resistance stymies any “positive” change. Β The fact that I even think of it as “positive” change reveals a judgment, though, doesn’t it?

Turning to you smart creators to offer your thoughts, experiences and insights on this subject. Thanks in advance, everyone!

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45 Responses to “ Contradiction in Manifesting Weight Loss? ”

  1. The problem is focusing on the weight at all.
    When you’re focusing on losing weight – you’re still focusing on the reality that you have weight to lose.
    The key is to feel good.
    To love yourself.
    And your body.
    Then you’ll get more things to love.
    And you’ll feel better in the process.
    Make peace with where you are, first.
    Feel good where you are, first.
    Then you’ll get more to feel good about.

  2. I couldn’t have said it better, Christy.

    Thank you!

    You do LOA weight loss coaching, right? I think that’d be great for readers here to know about savvy sources for those services!
    πŸ™‚

  3. It’s all about feelings, isn’t it? The goal is to feel good. You think you will feel good when you lose weight but really, don’t you want to lose weight to feel good?

    So if you focus on feeling good no matter what, at some point, you will have to acknowledge how amazing your body is. How it serves you. And if you have extra weight, that extra weight is there for a reason. For me it was because I felt invisible at some point. So I can appreciate my body for that! Of course, as soon as I thank my body for following my exact instructions, the weight goes down, and then I feel even better!

    When you start feeling good, the universe gives you even more reasons to feel better!

    How does it get any better than that?

  4. It took me a while to really “get” that myself, Sophie. That I didn’t really want to lose weight – I really just wanted to feel better.

    I was making my body responsible for that, but the truth is that’s my job.
    πŸ™‚

  5. Jessica Vazquez says:

    Dear All…

    This topic is very close to my heart. As you might now know I’ve been able to release 25pounds (and counting!!) of excess weight in very few months this year(without giving up Nutella) πŸ˜›

    What worked for me is LOVING AS IT IS. The trick is: focus on what you are TRULY GRATEFUL NOW. Your glowing skin, your strong arms, your feet, your sparkling eyes. Parts of you that are already great.. and from that, the appreciation and focus, expands.

    Perhaps you might find it hard at the beginning, since you might only see “those fat rolls” around you. But, you can find that slightly sparkle that you DO like about your body. If liking seems “hard”, start with RESPECT. Respect your body…

    We all know that affirmations won’t work unless you really, truly “believe” them. So what worked for me in early stages are: “I’m willing to love my body”. “I’m learning how to love my body”… “I’m learning to take care of my body”. That was true!!!

    I even hired a personal image coach, and splurge in clothes (yes, size 18, and so on). Almost immediately, I liked MORE what I saw in the mirror, and when you like/respect someone, you provide only what feels best. (Lots of self care in the form of sleeping, hot baths… etc).

    Soon (VERY SOON) my body started to change. Then I focus on “My body IS GETTING stronger”… “My arms ARE GETTING slimmer”, “I’m releasing excess weight”,

    and my favorite one: “It is easier and faster than I thought before”

    Right now, I’m on the final stage, where I’m switching identity. It is very different to be a “fat person who is losing weight”, than to be a “slim person with some temporal extra weight”. It is A WHOLE NEW PERSPECTIVE.

    Want some pictures of the before and after?
    http://www.amateyadelgaza.mx

    Drop me an e-mail if I can help.

    EnjoyLife,
    Jess

  6. Jessica, that’s what I love most about your work as an LOA weight loss coach – you’ve been there, done that yourself personally!

    Congrats on your success, and thank you for explaining it so succinctly here.

    You rock!!

    PS – what’s your English site URL? I know people will want access to that one, too!

  7. Cyndi says:

    That WAS very shrewd! And a great question to ask too. The phrase that keeps on resonating with me is “what you focus on, expands”. However, we also are putting out our message to the Universe in the form of vibration, not words. So, we could say we love our bodies, but our emotions and feelings will give us away every time if that is not the case. Yes, what you focus on expands, but we’re not focused on our body…we’re focused on how we FEEL about our body. And, I remember what Esther said about her pillow…how she would rampage about how much she loved that thing. I guess it’s best to start with the things that are easy to appreciate and just let the rest be what it is. Really beat the drum of the things about your body that are working. Lather, rinse and repeat. πŸ™‚

  8. Loved this point you made, Cyndi:

    “So, we could say we love our bodies, but our emotions and feelings will give us away every time if that is not the case. Yes, what you focus on expands, but we’re not focused on our body…we’re focused on how we FEEL about our body.”

    I think that really nails it!

    I KNEW we were going to get great answers here! Thanks, everyone!

  9. Jessica Vazquez says:

    AW!! This topic is very close to my heart. As you might now know, I’ve release 25pounds (and counting!) in very few months, without giving up Nutella πŸ˜›

    I totally get it. What worked for me in early stages was to focus on FEELING GOOD. I find parts that I DID LIKE about my body: my sparking eyes, my strong arms… It might seem “hard” but you can start then with RESPECTING your body. I started with affirmations “I am willing to respect my body”, “I’m learning how to love my body” “I’m experimenting a new way”… etc.

    I focus on felling good, and also LOOKING the best I could. I even hired an image consultant, and had a shopping spurge (yes yes, size 18 clothes).

    Almost immediately, my body started to change. And I focus on affirmations, that I truly believed: “My body IS CHANGING”, “my arms ARE GETTING stronger”, “I feel goooooood”. And my favorite of all: “It is easier and faster than I thought”

    Remember: Alignment is THE thing.

    Right now I’m at the final stage, where I’m ready to IDENTITY SHIFTING: It is very different to be a “fat person who is losing weight”, than to be a “natural slim woman, with a temporal excess of weight”. You see the difference? THIS IS KEY!!!! This is why I’m not afraid any more of gaining back, because that is not me any more.

    Want some peak preview of my before and after pictures?
    http://www.amateyadelgaza.mx

    Please drop me an e-mail if you think I can help
    jess@enjoylife.mx

    EnjoyLife!
    Jess

  10. Caroline says:

    As I see it, there is no contradiction if it’s not the fat or extra weight you are focusing on. Though you could love a little extra (my breasts are fuller, my wrinkles have disappeared, I won’t die of starvation), focusing on loving your body attracts a more loved and more loving body. And what does that look and feel like? If you focus on the miracle of how your body knows how to breathe and pump blood and digest without interference, know that your body takes what it needs from the foods you eat and eliminates the rest and you can appreciate that it can deal with anything you put into it or do to it and most of all thank it for showing you the balance of your vibration, you have the power to love it no matter if the tank is empty or full. When you love and appreciate your body, it responds to that love by working more efficiently and communicating clearly with you what it wants and needs. As your relationship with your body grows into a more loving and caring one, it responds and shows you what it wants to be fed with, how it likes to move and celebrate life. When your body and mind are on the same page, you begin working together. As you please it, it pleases you back. As you already know, the reason you want to lose weight is because you believe that in the losing of the weight you will be able to love your body and yourself more. Isn’t that backwards? If you loved your self and your body now, there would be no struggle to get somewhere you’re not- aka resistance released and isn’t that what it’s all about?

  11. Caroline, I LOVED this:

    “As you please it, it pleases you back. As you already know, the reason you want to lose weight is because you believe that in the losing of the weight you will be able to love your body and yourself more. Isn’t that backwards?”

    You offer weight loss support too, right? Would love a URL if you care to share!

  12. Thank you, Tshombe, for such a thoughtful reply!

    I particularly liked this: “In our quest to change our outer appearance for reasons other than an expansion of who we are (Appreciation and Love), we set up resistance or an incongruency that keeps us confused as to why we aren’t losing the weight when we seem to be focusing on losing the weight.”

    Reminds me of that book title: “working on yourself doesn’t work.”

  13. Leigha says:

    Ooooohhhh…What a great question! Weight Loss and LOA…My favorite topic!!! πŸ™‚

    And everyone here has added such a great response! Weight Loss seems to be so “elusive” and “tricky” compared to other “goals” and LOA. But it’s really not.

    It is such a counter-intuitive move…being “ok” or “loving” what IS when we don’t like it.

    I would re-assure the reader that it is IMPOSSIBLE to attract more of what you DONT want; when you move from resistance to LOVE no matter what the focus is πŸ™‚ If you are focusing on loving your body “as is”, (with a little more to love πŸ˜‰ …wahoo…you are there! You are on your way to “attracting” your ideal body.

    One thing that has always stuck with me…is that when we learn to appreciate and love our bodies now…then in the “future” when we have the bodies we WANT..we are there for it…we are there to appreciate and love that body too. But if we stay in resistance then even when/if we get to where we want to be…we miss it..we aren’t even there for it…we are still trying to get somewhere..just some food for thought πŸ™‚

    For more information on LOA and Weight Loss ..my website is
    http://www.aligned-weightloss.com πŸ™‚

    I LOVE the picture! Great post Jeannette!

  14. I can sense why you have so much fun as a weight loss coach, Leigha – your energy for this topic is vortex-inducing in itself!

    And I know what you mean (from personal experience) about how if we don’t find the love for our body, then even if/when we get what we thought we wanted, it won’t be so fabulous. (“But if we stay in resistance then even when/if we get to where we want to be…we miss it..we aren’t even there for it.”)

    Thanks for posting, my friend! πŸ™‚

  15. Jessica Vazquez says:

    Tshombe, thank you… I find RELEASING helpful.. because if you “lose” something, you might want to “find” it,,, huh?

    πŸ˜›

  16. Well put, Stacey. And thanks for the ebook plug, Tshombe!
    πŸ™‚

  17. Tshombe says:

    I think that sometimes language may trip us up because all of us create our own subjective meanings. This example is such a good one!

    Thank you, Reader & Jeannette! πŸ™‚

    There isn’t anything inherently problematic with focusing on weight loss (or anything else we desire). Indeed, ‘focus’ is an important aspect of deliberate (and not-so-deliberate) manifestation.

    It takes focus to (or a ‘paying attention to’ as the reader put it) launch the rocket of desire in the first place that then exists in The Vortex awaiting our emotional congruency to catch up with it.

    The challenge is lack of emotional congruency, not the focus. In the case of not being able to lose weight, we’re resistant to weigh loss, but very relaxed emotionally with keeping it (or even adding a few extra!).

    This “relaxation” is probably better described as ‘comfort,’ or ‘what we know,’ and because we know we always struggle with weight loss, we by habit give that struggle-with-weight-loss emotional attention.

    As for appreciating and loving our bodies as they are and how they serve us, there’s no contradiction with how the Law of Attraction works. This is because Appreciation and Love are who we are. In our quest to change our outer appearance for reasons other than an expansion of who we are (Appreciation and Love), we set up resistance or an incongruency that keeps us confused as to why we aren’t losing the weight when we seem to be focusing on losing the weight.

    In reality, we focusing on either how hard it is to lose weight or on how ugly or unattractive we are and if we could just lose weight we’d be perfect (or something similar).

    In order for clean manifestation to occur, it’s helpful (if not essential) to start from a slate of neutrality. In other words, there aren’t any contradictory intentions or worry about not being able to achieve what we want, or feeling less-than because we’re overweight.

    As Sophie pointed out, there may be a very good reason a person might be holding on to extra weight. For here, she felt invisible. Her emotional strategy was to (I’m going on a limb here, as I have no information to back this up) hide behind a few extra pounds.

    When she became visible to herself, realizing her defense mechanism was no longer needed, she released the weight. She didn’t so much as “love the fat” (though you could say that she did “love the fat,” by appreciating why she manifested it to protect herself) as loved herself.

    Does any of that make sense?

    I guess basically what I’m offering is that it’s natural to expand and send out rockets of desire in order to be and express in the world more of who we are.

    When we think we can’t have it more than we believe we can by giving emotional attention to that, it holds in escrow what we consciously (say we) want until we become congruent with it.

    “Paying attention” to what-is in the sense of accepting, loving and appreciating it does not create more of what-we-don’t-want. Instead, it creates an open space for us to move quickly to our next stage of experience…once we’re vibrationally aligned with it.

  18. Tshombe says:

    Jessica, I love your new identity, formerly a β€œfat person who is losing weight”, to now a β€œslim person with some temporal extra weight.”!

    Congratulations πŸ™‚ And your before/after pics are amazing.

    (There also is power in using words like “releasing” as opposed to “losing,” because oftentimes there is empowerment attached to the former which may not be present in the word “loving”)

  19. Tshombe says:

    Love it, Cyndi: “start with the things that are easy to appreciate and just let the rest be what it is. Really beat the drum of the things about your body that are working. Lather, rinse and repeat.”

    Isn’t that what deliberate manifestation is all about: EASY!

    My suspicion is that Jeannette’s new book will be all about what you just summed up: http://manifestingmadesimple.com/

  20. Stacey says:

    Vibration management is key to weight management.

    When you hold negative feelings (frustration, despair, etc.) around your weight, you’re simply blocking your positive intention to lose the pounds.

    Loving ‘what is’ is the first step towards releasing the resistance that holds you apart from what you want. Once you let go of the resistance, it’s easier to find better feeling thoughts, visualize and take inspired action.

    The statement, “What you focus on grows,” applies to the expansion of your negative feelings around your weight(which inevitably leads to sabotaging behavior- overeating, starving yourself, etc.)

  21. Akira Dawn says:

    That’s a very interesting question! My sense of it is the same as many others here, with a slight shift in the definition of ‘loving it to lose it.’

    It’s the idea that you must accept where you are (not resist it – not even worry about it, just allow it to be whatever it is) in order to shift into who you are becoming.

    You become the person who weighs less by focusing on what you want, and letting yourself be who you are. People don’t want to lose weight – they want to be lighter.

    If you want to lose weight you will – and then you’ll gain it back so you can continue to be the person who wants to lose weight! Oops.

    The difference between love and acceptance is that acceptance is an inactive form of love. It allows and makes space for without pushing again or measuring.

    Like a reed in the storm, you bend with the wind while still continuing to grow into your ultimate form – which has already been decided.

    Everything else is just details, if you allow it to be – not news or even a measuring stick by which to judge and compare. Just details to experience and allow on the way from here to there.

    Love πŸ™‚
    – Dawn

  22. MissyB says:

    An expert dieter is me ! The moment I worry that I am getting bigger…the quicker it goes on. The moment I’m desperate to get rid of it…the more it sticks with me.
    I noticed something this summer though…I realised how some foods made me feel pants. Refined sugar and chocolate in the masses I was eating seemed to make me feel soooo tired. Bread and stuff gave me a belly even a pregnant mum wouldn’t be proud of…and it felt so uncomfortable. Food was literally making me feel dreadful.
    As all I wanted to do was feel better, I cut down on the foods that left me feeling less than well. No elimination…just reduction. I focussed on just wanting to feel better by paying attention to what food left me feeling like.
    And I feel better. And I’m a stone lighter. No effort.

  23. Oh my, Dawn! That is an interesting way of putting it!

    (if you want to lose weight, you’ll create being the person who wants to lose weight. hmm!)

    And it clicked a few light bulbs for me – thank you!!
    πŸ™‚

  24. I love your effortless lightening up experience, MissyB! Just by doing what made you feel better.

    Makes perfect sense in an LOA way.

    Thanks for posting it here!

  25. This is how Paul & The Communion of Light talk about this paradox:

    “When you are focusing on any topic with love, you are literally finding the wanted end of the thing. This applies to anything at all.

    It’s the resistance to the unwanted thing that brings about more experiences and more reinforcement of what you are literally declaring to be true and that you know you don’t want. Focusing on the unwanted aspect of whatever it may be is attaching you to the thing in its current (unwanted) form and finding reasons why you are right that it is unwanted.

    When you begin to change your mind about what you have created that you don’t like (the unwanted thing) and you bring the eyes of love to your creation, you will begin to untangle from the unwanted aspects of it and start finding examples of why it is a wanted thing.

    This aligns you powerfully with your vibrationally reality which is only populated with the wanted aspect of anything you have ever imagined in your life.

    When things come into your life in an unwanted aspect, it is because of your resistance to what you are translating from the vibrational reality to the manifested reality as the manifestation occurs.

    In a very practical sense, when you look at the fat in your body, it can be very useful to look for reasons why having fat is helpful. If you are accustomed to looking at fat as an unwanted thing, this may not immediately feel good but it will feel better.

    In other words, if you are accustomed to feeling despair about the fat in your body, anger may be the next better-feeling point of attraction for this fat. Then irritation, then confusion, then boredom, then hopefulness, on and on. Not exactly in this specific path, but definitely in a series of ever-expanding thoughts that progressively feel better and better.

    There will then come a time, sooner or later based on your resistance, where you will feel joy and love about the fat in your body. And that’s where you will know the freedom you are looking for.

    For in this moment, when you are no longer resisting fat and you are now in appreciation for all that it has done with you and for you, you will be able to joyfully experience yourself and you will not be surprised at all as you get more and more evidence of how the fat in your body is moving into the form that reinforces the joyful, loving, and appreciating place you have brought your point of attraction to. And that form will likely be one where the fat cells lay themselves down and release what they have been storing.

    Now, we are not saying that you have to get there and stay there, but the more you are willing to embrace your creation and find the thought that feels better about it, the more quickly you will change your experience of it vibrationally and thus your manifested reality will shift accordingly.”

    Thank you Jeannette for the question!

  26. COL, I appreciate this suggestion to find the positive things about “fat”:

    “In a very practical sense, when you look at the fat in your body, it can be very useful to look for reasons why having fat is helpful. If you are accustomed to looking at fat as an unwanted thing, this may not immediately feel good but it will feel better.”

    and I love the ease you bring to this topic with this conclusion:

    “Now, we are not saying that you have to get there and stay there, but the more you are willing to embrace your creation and find the thought that feels better about it, the more quickly you will change your experience of it vibrationally and thus your manifested reality will shift accordingly.”

    Thank you for chiming in on this. Your perspective is always appreciated!

  27. Lin E says:

    One of my favorite Abraham tapes deals with a question about why a woman believes she is carrying extra weight… she’s says it’s for protection. Esther replies, “what’s it protecting you from, sharp things… We think you’ve had too much therapy.” OMG, I love that. I agree. We over-analyze this. The question isn’t so much about the weight as it is why one over-eats. Over-eating is an attempt to “not deal” with the uncomfortable emotions. Deal with the emotions… the goal is to feel inspired to take action to get fit and healthy. Thought work works!
    LOVE this post, Jeannette!

    http://www.theworstmother.com

  28. Lin, I haven’t heard that exchange with Abe but it cracks me up!

    I imagine some who might be attached to their stories may not appreciate that thought, but for many others, I imagine it lightens their emotional load significantly.

    About the “overeating” … we were on a GVU call the other day reviewing Paul McKenna’s I Can Make You Thin. In that discussion I noted that LOA savvy folks sometimes buy into the thought that the amount of food (or the amount of exercise) makes the difference. I have had enough personal experience with that, and seen plenty of it around me, to know that’s not always the case.

    So while it isn’t about the amount of food taken in, I think what you’re saying is that whatever energy is inspiring a person to find comfort in food, it’s THAT energy that could use aligning. Not just eating less.

    Because we know it’s not the food – it’s the thoughts about the food. (Most people are well trained to believe that more food = more weight. Even deliberate creators have a hard time shaking that one sometimes.)

  29. Jeannette,
    I really enjoyed this post. It’s timely too as I’ve been working on “loving it to lose it” too. I do think one of the key words you used was “neutral.” When we are not emotional in either direction (positively or negatively) about something we become free! To see your body and love it – as it is – is thoroughly liberating.

  30. I agree, Angela. For many who are interested in losing weight, just getting to a NEUTRAL place about their body would be a major improvement.

    Jeanna Gabellini told me once that a helpful key is to recognize that you don’t have to accept this body how it is FOREVER. Just right now. It’s temporary. I could feel in those words there was something helpful.

  31. Danae Sinclair says:

    Hello Jeannette,

    As usual, this post is right on time… I’ve been dropping a layer I put on when I was feeling very unsafe about life (returning to paid employment, giving up a bad relationship).

    I’m now eating consciously & sparingly – I’m practicing intermittent fasting & Paleo-dieting. I do so because I asked for a miracle & these methods were shown to me. I love the feeling of control this gives me.

    I’ve experienced a great deal of satisfaction each day as my body has returned to its natural shape – I love what is happening to me! (we’re talking about less than 5kg here).

    The past day or so, as I draw closer to my ideal weight/shape, I’ve been slightly panicked – eating more & less consciously. The resistance has crept back in.

    Reading through the comments in this thread has reminded me to focus on my desired outcome – but also to get into a place of love & gratitude toward my body & weight.

    I’m going to stay focused not on fat/losing/weight but on revealing my true self – and THAT feels great.

  32. Danae, you make a good point that Leigha Pitcher shared in one of her recent blog posts, as well.

    Sometimes when we are manifesting what we want, our inspired action might look like something very traditional like a diet or exercise program. I know a very savvy deliberate creator who is using Weight Watchers to create her ideal weight!

    But you also made another excellent point: this is ongoing “work” to focus on what we want and not fall back into old patterns of dissatisfaction with ourselves or our bodies.

    Congrats on your success and thanks for posting here! πŸ™‚

  33. Sin says:

    I am totally in agreement with you Jeannette. By focusing on how much I love my body and not losing weight, I can eat anything I want and do not gain any weight! Have applied this intentionally and lost 1 size in a couple months.
    Anything is acheivable, even having the perfect shape and weight of our choice!

  34. Sin, I LOVE hearing from people who have practiced this successfully!

    Thank you for taking the time to add your inspiring experience here!

  35. DT says:

    Enjoying the blog a lot!
    Just FYI…. the word you want to use is ‘jibe’ not ‘jive.’
    πŸ™‚

  36. Thank you for that, DT.

    I always thought everyone else had it wrong. lol

    Good to know!! πŸ™‚

  37. Ashley says:

    This is an interesting topic.

    I tried for many years to love my body, focusing on the positive aspects of how well it worked, the things I liked about it etc. The bottom line is that I couldn’t do it. Underneath that positive attitude I was unhappy with it. I think it is the rare person who is completely happy with just the way they are. I think for most people, using the positive body imagine approach is an unrealistic way to lose weight. I’m pretty sure that most people that are saying that they are happy in an overweight body aren’t being truthful with themselves about it.

    Being unhappy in an overweight body was the motivation for me to really understand what I didn’t want (didn’t spend anytime dwelling on this) and change the focus (quickly) to what I did want. Once I was focused on what I wanted (I call this the manifesting stage) things just clicked together to make the weight loss easy. The weight loss part was easy because I really dug the process. When the weight started to come off I was saying “More of that pretty please!”

    The appreciation part really comes into play in keeping the weight off. I so love wearing skinny jeans that are called “Rock Star” and being a single digit size. How fun is that?! I love the way I look now but more importantly I love how my body moves and how strong it is. I love, love, love it. I can do everything so much better. All of this is such a Vibe lifter that my world has been rocked in so many ways because of it but it all started with recognizing what I didn’t want and to change the focus to what I wanted.

  38. Ashley, I think what you’re talking about is that you had such peace with what was that love for your overweight state was easy and natural.

    But that makes me wonder to what it was you did want – when you said you changed the focus?

    At any rate, I think the helpful point you’re spotlighting is to realize that love for one’s self may start with peace for how it is and then grow into love.

  39. Mara Enid says:

    This post reminds me of the experience of a good friend. She was resisting buying clothes of a larger size even though her clothes were tight because she wanted to lose weight. But she tried for months and couldn’t seem to lose it. Finally, she gave in and bought the bigger size. She realized how much better she looked in clothes that fit and right after that, she started to lose the weight.

    I think for her, she had to start appreciating how good she looked before she could lose the weight and continue to improve and appreciate how good she looked.

  40. Mara, I LOVE her story!!

    “Finally, she gave in and bought the bigger size. She realized how much better she looked in clothes that fit and right after that, she started to lose the weight.”

    What a great path – giving up resistance, finding her way to a higher level of enjoyment and appreciation – leading to fabulous results! Of course, I think appreciating how she looked WAS the fabulous manifestation in itself – but it’s very cool when it transforms the physical, too.

    Thanks for sharing, Mara!

  41. LovelyMe says:

    Wow, it’s been a while since I’ve posted on your blog, Jeannette! I sure do miss it!

    Okay, so about focusing on what is unwanted (or appreciating WHAT IS) to get what you want. I’d like to say that it really depends on HOW you are focusing on WHAT IS. If it’s from a place of LACK, or DESPERATION, you end up frantically manifesting the UNWANTED, because your emotions are so intense and charged, you can’t help but do anything else.
    When focused on from a place of APPRECIATION, you are ALLOWING the Universe to pull from the Vortex and deliver you NEW things.

    Here is a quick snippet of my manifesting story that directly relates to this. I’ll do my best to keep it short and to the point!

    I launched a rocket of desire to move. I had no money saved, didn’t even have a bank account, and was just a college student still living in my family home. The atmosphere was not only getting toxic, but the state of my beloved childhood home was rapidly deteriorating. No one helped me with the cooking or cleaning, and I was sick of it all.

    Due to listening to Abraham daily, I finally made a decision: I would love WHAT IS. I would treat this house as if it were just my own and I was the only one who lived there – meaning who else would do the chores? I would, and I would do them with care and appreciation. I stopped complaining and just looked at my house with appreciation.

    The second thing was that I gave up thinking about “how to get there from here” completely. Not only could I not see how moving was possible for me at all, but I also knew and believed that the HOW was not my business anyway.

    Within a few short months, I was given an opportunity to move that suited my every need. I couldn’t think of one good reason to not go for it.

    If that isn’t how LOA works, then color me confuzzled!

    -LovelyMe

  42. I always LOVE hearing your stories, LovelyMe!

    And this one highlights exceptional manifesting skills in particular. You rock!!

  43. Katy says:

    LovelyMe I love that story! Good for you! I did that a while a go with a job I was tired of. I kept my eyes/ears open for something new and different, but decided while I was at the current job to find things people I could appreciate. I always could! Funny, I’m in a similar situation now, lol and I’m trying that all over again!

  44. LovelyMe says:

    Thank you Jeannette and Katy!

    Katy – good luck! All the best to you. This served as a good reminder for me πŸ™‚

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