Deliberate Creators Do It With Alignment

October 21, 2011 | 19 Comments »

make a decision and align with itToday I had an exceptionally delicious lunch at my favorite Mexican restaurant.

I wondered about it, and the only reason I can figure it was so good was that I ate refried beans without judgment.  Normally I order black beans, but today’s dish came with refried.

I used to think refried beans were worth skipping.  I mean, “everyone knows” black beans are better for you, so that’s what I always went with.

But the refried beans were soooo good!

Which is easy to experience when I’m choosing what I want and enjoying it in the absence of thinking I shouldn’t be or it’s not good for me or whatever other thoughts spoil the party.

It made me think of a recent client looking for reassurance on a big decision about a breakup.  Her head was spinning about whether she was taking the right road.  The problem is when you’re flowing that much doubt, no action will serve you.

Whether you’re ordering lunch, engaging a coach, saying “I do,” signing a mortgage, taking a job or whatever action you’re taking, it’s best to do it without mixed vibrations.

Do it with alignment.

Now that’s a good bumper sticker: “Deliberate Creators do it with Alignment.”  🙂

That’s how we want to do it – whatever it is.  All the way on board with it.  Whichever path we travel doesn’t matter as much as the feeling behind it. We handicap our success when we entertain second thoughts or question whether we made the right choice.

No one wants to start something with one foot in and one foot out.  Not you, not your boss, not your boyfriend.  Doubts and second thoughts keep us from a really good time.  Whether it’s a job, a marriage, a move, a medical treatment, an exercise plan, or even just a meal – if you’re gonna do it, get lined up with it.

How to do that?

I think the reason it happened at lunch today was because I’ve been practicing judgment free living with food.

I realized a couple months ago I had truly arrived at this judgment free place when I opened the cupboard for a snack and chose almonds over Oreos without any congrats to self for picking the “healthier” option.  It used to be when I reached for almonds I would think “Oh look, I’m making the healthy choice!” but this day I reached for almonds and felt absolutely no pride or satisfaction whatsoever!  Almonds were no different to me than Oreos. They were equal in my mind and in that moment I knew I had achieved a milestone in judgment free eating!

When you’re getting conscious about lining up with a big decision, here are a few tips for alignment:

1. Free to Choose

Start off by giving yourself complete permission to choose.  It’s harder to get genuinely excited about something that you’re not really free to pick or to leave behind.  You can embrace the freedom to choose by remembering that it isn’t even your action that matters – it’s your vibration.  That should give you more wiggle room in feeling free to choose.

2. Identify Easier Path

As you consider options, feel out which one will be easiest to align to.  When I was deciding whether to quit my corporate job or build a coaching practice on the side while keeping the paycheck, I knew quitting would activate financial fear.  But I also knew finding the good vibe while spending the majority of every day doing something I hated was a bigger challenge.  Quitting was an easier path to manage then staying.

3. Spotlight Why

Before you take the leap, remind yourself why you’re choosing this.  Get a good spotlight on reasons why you believe this is the way to go.  “My heart tells me this is right.”  “This is the best investment I could make in myself.”  “I believe these doctors know what they’re doing.”  “They probably don’t even use lard in refried beans any more anyway.”

4. Attention Forward

My grade school teacher used to say “eyes forward.”  Meaning, don’t pay attention to anyone else – eyes up front.  That works here, too, in terms of get your attention on what you want, on what you’re creating.  We don’t let our mind linger on negative what ifs or heavy doubts or allow it to second guess or make up ugly stories.  We commit.  We CHOOSE it to be the right thing.  And if we need to remind ourselves on occasion why we chose it, then we do so.

If your better feeling thought is to remember that it all works out, and it’s not such a big deal anyway, and there’s no such thing as failure, and everyone has to have a starter marriage, after all, … whatever thoughts feel better, use them to strengthen your alignment.

Remember: your action doesn’t matter nearly as much as your vibration does.

I’m all for taking the actions that make it easier for us to flow a good vibration and to expect good results.  I set myself up for easier beliefs about success by taking strong actions regularly.  Once you choose an action, though, as my favorite new reality host would say, “Make it work.”  (I just discovered Project Runway this fall!  Love you, Tim!)

I’d love to hear from you guys your tips for getting lined up.  Please share your thoughts and suggestions in the comments.

PS – even if you’ve already made your decision it’s not too late to line up with it retroactively.

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19 Responses to “ Deliberate Creators Do It With Alignment ”

  1. Stephen says:

    Let’s hear it for bean alignment! (insert Bronx cheer!)

    I decided I was not going to fear my food. If it tastes good, I eat it. Especially if it’s cooked in Lard.

    My most reliable measure of my alignment is how much fun I’m having. When life is fun I am aligned. When I am fun, life is aligned.

  2. I like your approach, Stephen, and seek to emulate it even more than I already have.

    Thanks for the bean cheer! lol

  3. Parul Bhargava says:

    I’m smiling ‘coz this has been the theme of the week for me… “to want or not to want”. 🙂

    Thank you for clarifying…. 😀 :My action doesn’t matter nearly as much as my vibration does. 😀
    ~ Hugs

  4. Yes, Parul, Universe has a funny way of matching our vibe no matter WHAT action we take.

    Which I’m sure is why even though I delegated responsibility to deliver material to coach training students to a very capable virtual assistant, my frustrated vibe in not doing a good job of that myself (before I outsourced it) is carrying through to the new arrangement.

    I was frustrated that I wasn’t keeping good track before; and the frustration continues in recordkeeping and everyone getting on the same page even though there’s a great guy in charge of it now. I took the action, but didn’t work on the vibe.

    D’oh! lol

    Thanks for posting – always good to hear from you! (And intending we talk soon!)

  5. sarah says:

    Jeannette- Fab post as usual and perfectly timed! On the brink of self-publishing a book and spoke with a PR firm who were perfectly awesome people- and when I told them what I was dreaming of …they began to tell me all of the reasons it was unreasonable…..extremely unlikely- essentially all the evidence to make a case AGAINST my dreams……I felt my sky high vibration in both cases going….wa wha waaaaaaaa (sound of sad trumpets, lol)….and I thought…NO- I know what alignment feels like (I had it five minutes ago, lol) and this is not where I want to go.

    So, even though it may make no logical sense to traditional PR agents…I am taking the road less travelled cause its the one that FEELS REALLY GOOD to me…..headlights/spotlights
    F O R W A R D
    and keep the dancing, singing, dog-walking, cuddling and music coming, lol!

    Thanks for the fantastic reminder/touchstone. Peace out, up and over, Sarah

  6. Good for you, Sarah! I enjoy remembering at times like that that if it doesn’t feel good, it isn’t true.

    Can’t wait to see your beautiful book! 🙂

  7. Leigha says:

    I love this post!! It’s so timely for me too 🙂 I love that you loved the refried beans!!

    I went out to dinner with my family this week and I couldn’t decided between a blue cheese hamburger or the “healthier” chicken and salad entree…I went with the chicken and salad…and as I was eating the yummy chicken, I thought “Would I have rather gotten the hamburger?” and I quickly said to myself, “NO way..this is what I want!” 🙂 and I thoroughly enjoyed my meal 🙂

    I learned this a few years ago….In the past I’ve noticed that once I’ve made a choice and I start second guessing myself, it takes the enjoyment out of what ever it is I’ve chosen…so wether it’s eating, or sitting at a table (thinking I should have sat at the other table because that group seems to be having more fun) or whatever activity….once I’ve made a choice….I play the game of…”and this is what I want”, and it keeps my vibration up and allows me to really enjoy what is going on in my life right then…it’s such a “freeing” feeling!

    I love this “your action doesn’t matter nearly as much as your vibration”…

    Thanks for the great post Jeannette!!

  8. You know, Leigha, I think there’s been a lot of research on this topic. Like how we have a tendency to like something more after we’ve chosen it. Although the whole “buyer’s remorse” phenomenon contradicts that.

    At any rate, I love your habit of MAKING it the right choice once it’s made. Thanks for sharing that practice with us!
    🙂

  9. Stephen says:

    emulate my approach? Jeannette, you inspire my approach!

  10. Then we make a good team, my friend. 🙂

  11. Shannon says:

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    Great post! Especially since when it came in I just started eating a hamburger/pasta/tomato sauce dish I made with spare ingredients in the pantry. Not exactly the “raw food diet” I’ve been trying to stick too. But, I am perfectly OK with it as it is very filling so I won’t be starving in 30 mins (like usual) and I don’t do it for every meal.

    I love what you said about “free to choose.” I actually use this a lot in my sober life. I quit drinking 5 years ago and I think one of the main things that has kept me sober is the fact that I can CHOOSE to have a drink or not. No one is stopping me. I just CHOOSE not to have one today. Options and choices can be very empowering – I think sometimes we get caught up in doing what we think people expect of us, what we think we “should” be doing or not doing rather than what WE want to do or would choose for ourselves.

    …and, my life has gotten SO much better since I realized that there IS no failure. What a joy!

  12. Shannon says:

    [MARKED AS SPAM BY ANTISPAM BEE | Spam IP]
    Great post! Especially since when it came in I just started eating a hamburger/pasta/tomato sauce dish I made with spare ingredients in the pantry. Not exactly the “raw food diet” I’ve been trying to stick too. But, I am perfectly OK with it as it is very filling so I won’t be starving in 30 mins (like usual) and I don’t do it for every meal.

    I love what you said about “free to choose.” I actually use this a lot in my sober life. I quit drinking 5 years ago and I think one of the main things that has kept me sober is the fact that I can CHOOSE to have a drink or not. No one is stopping me. I just CHOOSE not to have one today. Options and choices can be very empowering – I think sometimes we get caught up in doing what we think people expect of us, what we think we “should” be doing or not doing rather than what WE want to do or would choose for ourselves.

    …and, my life has gotten SO much better since I realized that there IS no failure. What a joy!

  13. Oooh, yes, Shannon! Especially for those of us who have “freedom” as a core value, remembering that power to choose is extremely effective!

    (I get the feeling we have that in common.) 🙂

    Here’s to failureless joy for us both!

  14. Ruby says:

    You know my story of identifying the easier path! And I am loving it, no stress! I am going to do what feels good… because that’s the only way that is fun!

  15. I love your commitment to the feel good vibe, Ruby!

    Kudos to you!

  16. Stacey says:

    “Do it without mixed vibrations.” There’s an ancient text that talks about the results of being double-minded. It essentially says that when you’re seeking wisdom from the Universe, you should ask in faith—not doubt.

    It’s one or the other. You’re in alignment (belief/expectancy) or out of alignment (fear/doubt). Great reminder!

  17. Stacey, that is so funny. Someone was just reading that passage to me the other day.

    I get it Universe! I am hearing it. 🙂

    Thanks, Stacey, for helping me get such a nice spotlight on being of one (aligned) mind.

  18. Tshombe says:

    “The problem is when you’re flowing that much doubt, no action will serve you.”

    I don’t know if the emphasis you put on this was intentional or not, Jeannette, but the double-meaning is perfect.

    In one reading of the sentence, it means “doing nothing” WILL serve you. In the same breath, the sentence means any action in the state of doubt will NOT serve you.

    Brilliant.

  19. Ahhhhhh … I had not seen it that way, Tshombe – but you’re right, it works just as well! ha!

    Thanks for that insight into my own sentence. 🙂

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