The Ins & Outs of Facebook Marriage
I’m no expert on virtual marriages, but I’ll share why I said yes to a facebook husband and how it can be a helpful manifesting tool …
What is a facebook marriage?
The unromantic answer is that it’s when you mutually agree to tag someone else as your spouse. Meaning, it’s a marriage on facebook only, not real life.
You can find the definition in Urban Dictionary here.
What does it mean to be facebook married?
Just like with anything, including real life marriages, it means whatever you decide it means.
For me, it’s simply another way to have fun. Real life marriage turned out to be rather challenging when I said “I do” 20 years ago. Either I’ve gotten better at being a wife, or facebook marriage is sooooo much easier to enjoy! (Smart money’s on the latter.)
Why would anyone want a facebook marriage/spouse?
Depending on who you marry, of course:
- it can be fun
- it can liven up a boring timeline
- it can be good practice (sort of like how people adopt pets before they have babies)
- it can minimize flirtations from others
- and for me it took the sting off of a recent breakup.
But for deliberate creators it can do one better: put you in the vibe of being romantically attached.
Sometimes conscious manifesters wear rings to replicate the feeling of being married, or sleep on one side of the bed and clear out half the closet, or stock their sweetie’s favorite snacks in the house.
This is just another creative way to send the signal to Universe that says “I’m taken!”
I’m finding the additional benefits of having a great facebook hubby include receiving sweet notes, getting support in my business, someone to celebrate wins with, and he even sends presents! Plus, it’s just plain fun to talk about my “facebook husband.” To top it off my mom gets a facebook son-in-law. It’s fun for the whole family! ;)
Does it spill into real life?
I’ve never met my facebook husband in real life (which may be the undiscovered secret to a happy marriage), but we do talk on the phone regularly and exchange emails. You get to make your own rules.
How do you get facebook married?
Well, someone’s got to propose, and someone has to say yes. After that, you decide whether you celebrate an engagement with friends or just flip the switch online to say “married.”
Jeff proposed via email after he heard about my real life breakup (I think he was just offering a sweet condolence, but I liked the idea so much I emailed back “YES!” and switched my status before he had a chance to say “j/k.”)
What do you do with/for your facebook spouse?
Whatever you two like. :)
How do you get facebook divorced?
Let’s not spoil a good thing just yet.
(But I will say there were a couple times I asked myself this question during the presidential election. I couldn’t believe I married someone without inquiring about his political beliefs! Oh, what we do for facebook love.)
What’s the downside?
- You’ll likely be doing a fair amount of explaining to friends and family who don’t know what facebook marriage is.
- You might steer away potential love interests who think you’re truly taken.
- Health insurance companies don’t recognize facebook spouses as qualifying for benefits. ;)
Say again what this has to do with manifesting?
For me, it’s fun, it’s light, it makes me laugh. That’s reason enough.
But it also helps me feel like I have a functional committed relationship on the books. (That’s practice I can use.)
I’m not actually intending to get real life married again, so it’s not like I’m using my fb hubby to activate the “husband” vibration – but it is helping me have a happy experience of “marriage.” Even if it’s a virtual marriage. And that is a good thing in my book.
PS – I like facebook friends just as much as facebook husbands. Friend me up if we’re not already connected.