I didn’t think I’d be in that category (since I stopped getting invites to my folks’ dinner years ago), but minutes ago I realized I am facing a challenge this year.   

I’ve got some manifesting to do before the holiday!

In fact, I’m getting a little heated because of what just transpired between me and this year’s Thanksgiving dinner hostess, my sister-in-law.

What’s got my panties in a twist?   The email she just sent.  Here’s how it went down:

(Backstory is I challenged her during an innocent girls’ lunch out a couple months ago when she said Obama was a Muslim and a terrorist and had a black aura.  I said he was not and did not, and things have been funny between us ever since.  And I don’t mean funny “ha ha.”)

When I recently ran across this interview, I thought she might appreciate hearing straight from The Man himself what his religious perspective and affiliation was, so I sent this note:

thought you might be interested in knowing more …
http://blog.beliefnet.com/stevenwaldman/2008/11/obamas-interview-with-cathleen.html

(It’s an insightful interview with Obama from 2004 on his experience with religion and spirituality.) 

She sent this back (yes, I do feel like a schoolgirl right now, thank you very much):

Not interested…..:)  But I did read some of it…. No one can tell me that someone that attends a ‘church’ where the pastor totally hates America (why is still living here?) and goes there for over 20 years and is now the president elect….and won’t put his hand over his heart and say the pledge of alligiance….anyway, I am glad he got elected.  I am really tired of Bush bashing and it would have continued for McCain…but the media is so far left, that Obama and the democratic congress can do no wrong……..  I hope for the working people of this country that Obama is successful and his regime is able to what is it I heard ‘heal the country’….

I haven’t heard you comment on his comment about shelter dogs….that they are all mutts and he has to have a special hypo-allergenic dog for his family….so, he won’t be rescuing a dog for the white house….:(

So then I said (yes, this was an intentional jab):

Oh my gosh, your aura feels a little black to me!!  lol

Hey, are you going to the West Valley council meeting tomorrow re the gas chamber?

(More backstory: animal care has always been our FIRM and SOLID common ground, as she’s an active foster mom and would likely strongly support the meeting on stopping the new shelter from incorporating a gas chamber as a method of euthanization.)

She responded that she was going, but why was I? 

Which I took as an insult; like why would I care about stopping animals from dying horrible deaths in the gas chamber, since I have been Obamanized - that’s what she called me a while ago.  Obamanized.

(I realize now she likely didn’t mean it that way, but rather as a “you don’t live in that district, so why would you go” question.)

Then, still trying to find our mutual feel good, I asked if she’d signed the petition encouraging Obama to adopt a hypo-allergenic dog from a shelter, and she said:

haven’t seen the petition….I just heard his comments and knew it would be interesting…from what I still here, they are still looking for their dog….but I am sure they have several breeders lined up already….:(

Which, in an animal rescue person’s world, breeder is a four letter word.  (I’m not saying in MY world, but those in rescue generally don’t feel kindly toward breeders.)

That’s when I realized I don’t want to eat with her.  The holiday suddenly feels kind of gloomy.  I’d rather have mac and cheese with friendly dogs.  And my clear-aura’d President Elect.

Luckily, while this was unfolding, I was on the phone with life coach Janie Behr, who just happens to be offering a free teleseminar series starting this week on Holiday Coping Skills.

“I’ll be there!” I told her.  (Thursday, 11/20 at 8 pm est.  Dial 724-444-7444, then 32711 #, then 1#.) 

But I didn’t want to wait till then to find my feel good.

So here I am, where I know lots of people go for the holidays, and usually am so grateful that I am not.

I’d love to hear your strategies and solutions for enjoying challenging holiday interactions with family you might be priveleged to avoid the rest of the year.  Here’s what I’m going with in the meantime:

1. Deep breath.  (ah, even just ONE feels better!!  RELIEF!)

2. What do I love about my sister-in-law?  Well, she’s willing to cook for someone who’s been Obamanized.  She’s going to the council meeting to voice her opinion for animal welfare.  She remarried her ex-husband, which shows she’s capable of forgiving and loving despite challenges.  That feels better.  She’s got a huge heart for animals, too.  That automatically makes her easy to love!

3. General appreciation next: cute kitties sleeping on my lap.  Who can be upset with these two contentedly purring away right here??

4. When my sweetie called just now I told him all about my exchange with his sister.  (Russ is also suspicious of Obama, until he saw the 60 Minutes interview last night.  “Seems like a good guy,” he says.  Yay!  One more Obamanized!) 

After I recounted the exchange, all Russ laughingly said was, “Would you like a break tonight?”  I thought that was so sweet of him to ask.  “Yes, I’d LOVE a break.”  Great, he said, meet me at 5:30 wherever you want and please bring my bowling ball that I left at home.

Oh, he’s not thinking of me as much as he doesn’t want to drive all the way home for his bowling ball.

And that made me laugh - that he totally wasn’t buying into my big bad story.  Gotta love that guy sometimes.  Refusing to go with me where it doesn’t feel good, which loosens my hold on the negative as well.

With that I’m feeling it shift.  This exchange is already part of my past.  I’m in charge of my holiday again. 

I’m in charge of me.  And how I feel. 

And I get to have dinner at my favorite Mexican restaurant tonight because I’m bringing the ball!  lol

When I’m feeling even better, I’ll probably remember how to focus on what I want, release judgment, see the mirror, let go of the charge, not care what others think, hang out with folks who don’t buy into my sad stories and question my thoughts and all that good stuff, but in the meantime, I’m just happy not to be sweating it out any more.

So let’s hear it - what are YOUR coping strategies? 

PS - the caption on this great photo says “Set Aside Your Differences.” This is an image I’ll take with me to dinner next week!  I mean, if Hans Solo can toast a Stormtrooper - surely I can too!
 

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Steve Pavlina on how sharing your shame (being 100% authentic) can release the resistance

Kim Falconer on how astrology is law of attraction in action

Philip Harris on why the Dog Whisperer should be part of Obama’s administration, since if we emplemented Cesar’s understanding of energy we could turn this economy around!

So much great material out there!  In fact, please share your favorites with us as well, whether you wrote them yourself or found them in your internet meanderings …

Thanks in advance for sharing the info wealth! 

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Abraham on Wall Street

Don’t you love it?! “Strong asking and a little allowing goes a LONG LONG way!” 

woo hoo!! 

(And with this I am now inspired to learn how to post video on this blog!  But in the meantime, just click on the link above and enjoy!)

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Dreams do come true! Talk show star Oprah Winfrey revealed this week that she uses a vision board to visualize her goals and harness the power of intention. So what did Oprah have on her vision board? The gown she intended to wear to a very special event - the Obama inauguration.

Here’s what Oprah told a New York radio station on Tuesday:

“I was speaking with Michelle (Obama) and Caroline Kennedy and Maria Shriver - we were all doing a big rally out in California. At the end of the rally Michelle Obama said something powerful, ‘and I want you to leave here and envision Barack Obama taking the oath of office.’ I created a vision board. I had never had a vision board before. I came home, I got me a board and put Barack Obama’s picture on it and I put a picture of my dress I want to wear to the inauguration.”

So, everyone, what’s on YOUR vision board?

WAIT A FREAKIN’ MINUTE!

What’s even MORE cool about this story?!  That our soon to be First Lady practices - and encourages others to practice - powerful visualizations!!  HOLY HANNAH!!!

Anyone else got goose bumps???

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1. It’s easy to mistake the vibe. 

Even when I was making a full time living as an LOA Coach I occasionally managed to fool myself about what my vibration really was. 

Example from years ago: One day a client slot opened up, so I vibed “new client.”  Said the words I always said, felt the feeling I always felt.  That’s how I filled every opening.  And they always manifested within 24-48 hours. 

Two days later there was still no new client.  I was like, “What?!”  They’re always here by now!

But I knew enough not to get hung up on “they’re not here” since I’d just reinforce that reality, and I went about my business not giving it any more attention. 

Five days later I finished the second of two big projects I’d been working on for a while.  As the last email was sent off, I took a deep breath of relief, put my hands behind my head, leaned back in my chair, and spontaneously said, “NOW I’m ready for my new client.”

And in that moment I felt the TRUTH of my “new client” vibe.  It wasn’t until then I realized although I said the words the week prior, I didn’t really FEEL the new client feeling.  What I felt was more like “got an open slot, should probably fill it, I’m super busy, but gotta fill the slot.”  It was a mixture of “should” and “brakes.”  Know what I mean?  I was oblivious to it.  And I do this stuff for a LIVING.

Not until I felt the pure clean easy desire for it that day did I realize I’d been fooling myself the week prior.  And with that true new client vibe, within two days I had three wonderful folks show up, one of which was my first celebrity!  (woo hoo!)

I remember Jeanna saying she was in the hot seat telling Abraham that she was vibing “milk” for her step-daughter but getting “pop.”  (Step daughter was intaking much more sugar than Jeanna thought healthy.)  Abe said Jeanna was confused about her real vibe - that was she stuck on pop, nowhere near milk.  Made me feel better that I have good company in this misidentifying-the-vibe thing.

2. Acceptance is the first step to change.

This one took a while to sink in, too, even though I was well versed on “Resist = Persist” and the importance of releasing resistance in order to allow what we want.  I knew it intellectually, but what it looked like and how to manage it was a long learning curve.

Needing something to change is in and of itself resistance. 

There was plenty of practice for me when it came to dropping ten pounds.  I thought I could just manifest a couple pounds right off, but when that didn’t happen immediately, I eventually understood it was my opposition to them - my lack of acceptance and love of them - that kept them firmly in place.

I’ve also noticed this when I need foster kitties to be healthy, or my foster dog to get adopted, or my boyfriend to be amenable.  All that need for change has to go before any of it can happen.  When I make peace with sick kitties, bad dogs, and irritable boyfriends, guess what?  They get better, get adopted, and get friendly.

Pretty cool how that works - although it took me a while to remember this in (what I considered) high stakes situations. 

3. We’re doing this ALL the time. 

Every moment creates the next.  All thoughts count, not just the ones we pick on purpose when we sit down to do our formal manifesting work.

In virtually every moment we’re anticipating the future; visioning what we see happening.  And usually we’re very realistic and practical about it.  (If not downright negative.)

That habit of anticipating what’s coming next doesn’t leverage our creative power - unless we tend to envision dream come true outcomes.  Which, some people do.  I don’t happen to be one of them.

And I’m not saying we should always reach for the highest thought possible - but at least recognize those mundane thoughts (let alone the negative ones) take up valuable real estate.

So when I anticipate a busy day, or imagine someone reacting badly to what I’m about to say, or wonder whether the restaurant will be closed …  hello!  Use your power, girlfriend!  (That’s me talking to myself.)

Let’s hear it from you folks.  What were the eye-opening realizations that led you to harness your creative powers?

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Some even said if they had seen this (gracious and classy) side of McCain during the campaign, we may have had different results.

That’s interesting.  It made me wonder how much of what McCain did and said during the campaign came from him and how much was directed by others (who told him what to do & say to improve his chances).  ?

And how some of the criticism of Palin was that her “handlers” scripted her every move and word; that they’d taken the likeable Sarah out of the equation and ruined her confidence in the process.  Many said she’d be better off just being her natural self.

On a related vein, I’ve noticed occasionally when someone interviews me, the conversation before (and after) the recording is often more relaxed, casual and entertaining.  When we’re live the discussion sometimes gets more stilted, formal, and careful.  Not always, but sometimes.  (I love the exceptions, which I’ve had many of recently!)

Have you noticed that at times in your own life?  When we think we’re “on,” or when something “big” is at stake, our energy sometimes shifts in ways that doesn’t always serve.  Sometimes it makes us tense or anxious, or leads us to behave out of character.  (Certainly it does the opposite, as well, like when a “high stakes” situation calls us forth in a positive way - and we are unusually brilliant or eloquent or considerate.) 

What I’m getting at is that when we aren’t true to ourselves it doesn’t lead us to where we want to go.  When we start pretending or cautioning or taking action that isn’t in alignment with who we really are, we don’t come out winners - however we personally define that.

It’s crucial to remain true to yourself - no matter what’s happening. 

How else could we enjoy the ride, anyway?  And isn’t that what it’s all about? 

Our true selves are fueled by love.  If we take any action that isn’t in alignment with love, we leave our true selves behind and we’re not aligning with results that thrill and delight us.

Doncha think?

Example, all my best dates were when I was being myself, rather than being a good date.  (And I know the difference!)  My best writing is when I write from the heart, not from what I think my editor or clients want to hear.  My best days are when I follow the inspiration within, rather than let something else guide my choices.

Why would it be any different when the stakes get higher?  (Which is just a perception, not a reality.  Although I admit, to me last night’s election did feel like lots was at stake.)

Am I making this up - or do you also have experiences that show being true to your nature serves you best?  I’d love to hear about it …

PS - in the meantime, I have to admit I’m puzzling over how Abraham didn’t find much hope with a candidate who inspired feelings like this all over the globe, not just here in the U.S. 

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When I picked him up last night from Humane Society along with two other orphans, the shelter workers warned, “Watch out, one of them is a terror.”

Really?  A twelve ounce terror?  Hard to believe.

But on the way home one tried breaking out of the carrier with an angry meow the entire trip.  That must be the one, I thought.  The other two kitties huddled together in the back of the carrier trying to get as far away from him as possible.  He even attacked the syringe I offered through a hole as entertainment.  Things that make you go hmmm ….

Once home he wasn’t any happier to be out of the carrier and in the cat tower.  He wasn’t even content when I gave him free rein in the office.  In fact, he didn’t stop complaining until he had the entire house to explore.

Which is when he hissed at every cat who came near him, and even those he approached on his own.  He jumped right in the middle of my snake plant, which never looked this bad - even after several other active litters.  Then he peed in the cat bed while I pleaded “no no no no no.”

Okay, so maybe he’s a terror after all.  I called the volunteer coordinator (my ex-boyfriend) and suggested maybe this little guy would do better with someone else.  (Actually, I was thinking the rest of us would do better if he were gone.)  He said he’d see what he could arrange.

I began justifying my wimp out call.  “He’ll destroy the office.  I can’t leave him loose in here - if I did he’d take down everything on the board and the bookshelves.  These two other kittens won’t get any peace.  And I can’t lock him up in the tower because he’ll cry the whole time.  And I can’t have that background noise for phone sessions.”

So this morning when this lonely little guy jumped up to take down the “Serenity” card from the bulletin board, the words that went through my head were, “Just what I thought!”

• Just what I thought. 
• I KNEW it. 
• Told you so. 
• That’s what I expected.
• even “I always wondered …”

These phrases are tip-offs to where we use our creative power.  Because if it’s Just What We Thought, then we’ve obviously been flowing energy toward that manifestation, and that makes us responsible for it.

Not the Kitty of Terror.

That guy got labeled from the get-go and here he is just living up to his label.  As we think, so shall it be. 

I helped create this Terror - by thinking him to be one.

So when I returned him to hopefully a new foster home today, I asked my ex to please not use the words Terror or Monster with whoever handles him next.  How about “feisty” or “playfully active”?  Instead of justifying my returning him by explaining how awful he was, I told how he slept peacefully in my lap this morning next to one of the other kitties.  And that he’d probably just had a rough couple of days and was undoubtedly not himself, and that he’d make a great cat for someone who appreciated a “front and center” feline friend.

Which leads me to ask, who have you labeled in life?  Whether it’s our Nice Boss, Bitter Ex Wife, Inexperienced President or our Slow Student - check in on whether those labels serve or not.  Since it is as we think, let’s be sure we think something that takes us TOWARD what we want, rather than away from it.

(Says the girl who just returned her terror.)

Former terror, that is.  From now on, I’m thinking of him as the one who gets what he wants and brings smiles everywhere he goes.  Ah, that feels better!

I realized my thoughts also sabotaged me yesterday when my bank wouldn’t cash a check from one of my clients.  (”Just what I expected,” I realized while waiting for the teller to return - although it was too late to effectively turn it around.) 

These thoughts of ours - the whole world unfolds according to them!  Isn’t that fascinating?!  And fun?!  It sure can be when we learn how to play this game.

Would love to hear what you’ve been thinking repeatedly, and how labels are working (or not) in your life.  We all know awareness is the ticket - so let’s increase it here and now!

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The fact that my boyfriend doesn’t vote - at all - never has - even in this historic election - is not just embarrasing but astounding as well as completely contrary to what I was taught by my veteran father political research colleagues. 
 
Voting is simply what we do.  It’s not optional in my world, so I was shocked to learn my sweetie doesn’t exercise that privilege!

In fact, I was shocked not only that he doesn’t vote, but that he ADMITS it!  To his blogging girlfriend!  (Isn’t that alone reason enough to get out and do it?)
 
But I got off my high horse about it when I realized I might not be using my own vote as powerfully as I thought.
 
Because there’s a difference - sometimes a dramatic difference - between the vote that goes on the ballot and the one logged by Universe.
 
For example, I have to admit I’ve been to the polls before not so much to cast a ballot in favor of one candidate or issue, as in opposition to another.
 
Ever done that?
 
If so, and if you’re law of attraction-savvy, you know you actually added power to the very candidate or position you were against.  That’s how it works.  (That “resist, persist” thing, you know.)
 
We’re well trained in our deliberate creation studies to focus on what we want instead of what we don’t want, but I can’t say I always practiced that in the voting booth!
 
Which is why I realize my sweetie may have offered a more positive contribution with his complacent absence at the polls than I have by doggedly casting a strongly-opinioned vote.  If I’ve got attention on what I don’t want, I’m just adding more power to that no matter what it might say on the ballot.
 
That’s not to say I recommend abstinence from voting, but I HIGHLY recommend we all be more aware of how we cast our vibrational vote.  Which is all that matters anyway - the vibration!
 
If I march out on November 4th to vote against what I perceive as reckless and dangerous leadership, I actually add energy to the very thing (or candidate) I don’t want.  On the other hand, when I cast my ballot in favor of what I see as a step in the right direction, I help create that outcome.  ‘Cause I get what I vibrate.
 
Make sense?
 
So not just this election day - but every day - ensure you direct thoughts in a way that supports what you want, which simply means focusing on it rather than its opposite.
 
Although I know some politicians give us great material for getting derailed on that, consider it good practice to get even more deliberate in how we cast our vibrational vote.

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He created it by first recognizing the desire - “I want to have dinner with a beautiful girl.”  Then he stated it out loud: “I am dining with a fun beautiful girl tonight.” 

Then he “acted as if.”  He saw the Godiva chocolate store in the hotel, went in for raspberry truffles for his as of yet nonexistent dinner date, which is when a beautiful young fun girl nudged him in the back of the knees to get his attention. 

Hours later after a whirlwind of dining, dancing and (probably) some drinking, he was back in his own hotel room at 4 am.  He was quite proud of himself, and I admit, I am too.

As we were laughing about his first deliberate creation success, he said “I knew if anyone would appreciate this story it was you.”  Ha!  I like being the kind of ex-wife who can delight in hearing her former husband romance another woman. 

I asked if I could blog about it.  He said, “Sure, but don’t call me your ex.”  He hates that term. 

But it’s practically a term of endearment for me.  I think it’s a fortunate man who makes it to my ex list.  He’ll get more love as an ex than most men do as a husband or boyfriend.  (Slight exaggeration, perhaps.)

What’s even more cool is when I get hired to help others accomplish this same thing.  They want to relinquish the traditional experience of divorce or breakup and instead create a fulfilling friendly relationship with a former spouse or partner.  Certainly that’s using our power for good, right?!  (Or maybe that’s still up for debate as per our last post!)

Some folks assume I’m friends with exes because I ended the relationships.  They say, “It’s easy for YOU because you’re not the one getting left behind.”

Well that’s just not true.

In fact, the times when I was the dumpee (vs. dumper) were my best chances for ongoing friendships - since if it’s me initiating departure, their ego seems to have a harder time thinking nice thoughts about me.  (The other impediments generally include new girlfriends/wives.)

But how I got to be such good friends with the only man I’ve ever said “I do” to was not what you might expect.

I credit it to the night he walked out of the house looking like a million bucks and smelling even better (on our date night, no less, which we’d implemented when the marriage road got bumpy) and he said, “I’m going to do what I have to do to be happy; you should do the same.” 

Well, I knew exactly what that meant!  There was no talking about it; his mind was made up.  He was gone.

And I cried.  And cried.  All night long.  And felt betrayed.  And abandoned.  And rejected.  And scared.  And angry.  And a failure.  And alone.

All of it.  It was quite the solo pity party!

And the next morning, I was done with it.  I was done being sad and feeling depressed.  I had traveled that road to the end.

The next day I bounced off to work with a spring in my step.  (For real - not faking!)  All the bad feelings were done and gone.  ?!  Sounds bizarre, I know. 

I was still getting divorced, obviously; I still had a husband who (apparently) didn’t want me, and who (apparently) wanted other women, but that wasn’t going to ruin my life or even one more day.

As I waited at the bus stop I heard someone approach from behind and I called out “Good morning!” in the most sincere singsong voice I’d heard from myself in a very long time.

That was the beginning of my friendly divorce and becoming even better friends with my ex.  I attribute much of it to “feeling all the feelings” and letting them process right on through.  Not getting stuck in them, just letting them come - and go.

(It maybe also helped that the person I called out a cheery “Good morning” to at the bus stop turned out to be super handsome.  There is definitely life after love, huh, Cher?  hee hee)

This is what I mean when I say this place is crawling with fabulous people.  They’re right under our noses when we just look for them - whether they’re the ones we’re married to, divorced of, or waiting for the bus with.  That doesn’t mean we have to make something work with a person we’ve grown apart from, but it also doesn’t mean we have to cut off the love in order to move on.

After all, we live in an “AND” Universe.  We can have our cake AND eat it, too. 

What does that look like in terms of relationships?  Where have we limited ourselves as to what we believe is possible?

I see an opportunity right under my own roof right now, and will have fun bringing more AND into my current love life.  The same way I’ve learned how to work less AND enjoy more money; to work out less AND be more fit; I intend to bring more ANDness to my relationship with Russ.

The food for thought here includes manifesting by acting as if (way to go, Kev!), “feeling the feelings” as part of the allowing process, finding ways to feel better (handsome men at bus stops!), dropping conventions about how it’s “supposed” to look (divorce=ugly), and being willing to let more of the good stuff in. 

I’d love to hear your thoughts about relationships and their evolution, as well as your range of experiences in deliberate and maybe not-so-deliberate creation of them  … ?

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Here’s, Skye Alexander, from the intro:

Magick is “creating a mental image of the result you intend to produce, then fueling it with your will and emotions.” 

She says underlying all magick is a simple physics principle that before something can materialize in the physical world, somebody first has to imagine it.  That energy is the raw material that makes up our Universe.  And that by molding energy, you literally create your own reality.

Sound familiar??

Yeah, to me too! 

Anyway, this girl’s not joking.  It’s a for real deal book on magick!  The contents include a wide variety of “spells” and call for things like moonlight and gemstones and flower essences and hair clippings and pentagrams and other things that might make a person think “witchcraft.”  At least it did me.

(Don’t ask why I was surprised to find that in a book called “Naughty & Nice Spells.”  ?!)

Anyway, I’m reading and thinking … is she a witch … or a deliberate creator??  And is there a difference??

In “about the author” it says Skye is a “practitioner of the occult arts.” 

Okay, that kinda sounds like “witch” to me.

This book sounds a LOT like what I teach clients to do has got my full attention and eyebrows raised, if you know what I mean.

Sidenote: wow - just read my vision statement for Good Vibe Coaching which says “bring infinite magic and endless possibilities to light for all.”  Hmm!  (I didn’t spell magic with a k, though.)

Anyway, Skye says, “most black magick is performed by ordinary men and women who don’t even realize they’re doing it.”

Which makes me think of how my energy worker told me that gossip is a form of black magic (projecting negative energy onto another).  Another ‘hmm.’

So now I’m thinking this magick and witchcraft thing might be closer to ALL of us than we realize!

Example: when clients ask whether they can get their ex back, or their boss fired, or the interviewer to pick them over the others, or their boyfriend to think it’s no big deal they made out with their ex-fiance (oh, that was mine) … when I get questions like that, I squirm just a little bit.  Because the answer makes me slightly uncomfortable, and it’s the one most LOA experts don’t offer. 

Most people say, “No, you can’t create on another’s behalf.  You can’t make someone else do something.”

That’s not what I say.

Because you can.

And yet, the fact that we can doesn’t mean we should, right?

AND … that doesn’t mean we aren’t already doing it … WAY more than we realize! 

Not consciously, by any means, but I suspect most of us have had moments where we strongly wished a particular outcome on another. 

In fact, I saw the divorced girls do it on The Amazing Race last week.  One girl wished bad things on a fellow team and good things on themselves.  I remember laughing, “It doesn’t work that way, girls!”

(And no, I’m not saying I can get the President to appoint me to the Supreme Court or Russ to start bottle feeding kittens - although that one’s tempting! - but there’s a lot more leeway in affecting others than you might be aware of.  The fact is our energy already impacts those in our lives.  The question is how are we using that power?)

So when my client asks me if she can get her husband to be more supportive, or if I can help him improve his sex life with his wife, or if she can get her true love back in her arms … are they inquiring about black magick?

Skye seems to think so.

And my discomfort with those questions leads me to believe I might be on the same page as Skye.

Perhaps it’s just time for me to get over the term “magick” and “witches.”  That’s probably the lesson for me here.

But whether we call it being a deliberate creator, a wizard, “lucky” girl, or whatever label we use - we’re basically talking about managing energy to produce results we want, right?

So is there a line we cross when we impose our will on another person’s reality?  Is it wrong to wish a boyfriend to propose?  Or a girlfriend to have a stronger sex drive?  Or a boss to overlook our error?

Maybe crossing the black magick line is a little like pornography: hard to define, but you know it when you see it.  ha

I know this much for sure: when clients make inquiries like this, I ask them to focus on what they REALLY want.  Get to the essence of the true desire.  Take the name or the face off of it and let Universe deliver it in whatever way is best - and be prepared that that may be different (sometimes VERY different) than what they had in mind.

Skye says, “Many spells are considered ‘bad’ because they are manipulative” and that love spells are the ones people most often misuse.  Skye’s suggestion to handle this dilemma is to to add a “disclaimer” at the end of your spell, something like ”if this is for our highest good.”

I was trained to use the phrase “this or something better.” 

Black magick and deliberate creation - that’s what I’m wondering about lately.  And the ”moral code” associated with using the law of attraction. 

So let’s hear it.  What are your thoughts on manifestations when it includes others?  What’s your comfort level in this area and how many of you have engaged in “gray” magic, if not black?  lol  (I’m laughing because, remember, this question comes from the girl who manifested her boyfriend thought it “no big deal” that she made out with an ex!)

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