I don’t see too many folks getting hung up on joyful events, whereas it seems more common for someone to dwell on an experience that brings grief, anger, resentment, or other emotional pain.

I’d never given it much thought until browsing the bookstore yesterday I happened across this intriguing title: Working On Yourself Doesn’t Work.

The authors share three principles to transforming your life, including that

• whatever we resist persists (we know that one well) 
• you can only be with what is right now (theme of allowing, being present, and no judgment, although I could be remembering this one wrong)
• and the third one I especially liked: Allowing yourself to be with it will complete it

With that third principle (which clients will recognize from the Tom Stone homework I often assign of feeling your feelings fully), the authors suggest releasing any agenda of getting rid of something, and rather letting yourself be with it fully.  Then whatever it is will complete.

They told a personal story that involved the experience of physical pain, but shared that we also see this with emotions as well.  Like how happiness is often fleeting, while sadness can last for weeks.  Or longer.

What’s gives?

The reason, they say, is that when we don’t let ourselves feel something or be fully present to what is, it will continue.  Conversely, when we do allow ourselves to feel it fully, it completes. 

(Whoa, thinking of the physical examples of orgasms vs. headaches.)

Anyway, since happiness is easy to feel fully, it completes faster than things like sadness or grief or anger which we might not be as willing to fully feel.

Interesting, huh?

Some of you have heard me tell the story about how I accidentally practiced this several yeras ago when my dog Sophie died at home: 

It was the first time one of my animals died at home when it was just the two of us.  Usually I’m either at the vet’s office, trying to keep it together.  Or the vet is at my house, and I’m trying to keep it together.  Or I’m with a (human) friend, trying to keep it together. 

This time there was no reason to keep it together.  After Sophie died at the front door, I walked to the back porch, sat down on the top step in the sun, hugged my knees to my chest, and let myself be sad.

I was REALLY sad.  I was so sad, I remember being in absolute awe of how sad I was.  I actually observed it with the thought, “Man, look how SAD I am!  I didn’t know anyone could BE this sad.  This is really sad!”

I felt it intensely; it was the saddest I’ve ever been. 

For about four minutes.

And then it was gone.

Just that like that.

There was no more sadness.  Instead, just peace.

It was really bizarre – and cool – that the sadness could be that strong, without being overwhelming.  And then be gone, just as fast as it came.

When I ran across Tom Stone’s “feeling fully” work a few years later, I realized that’s what I had accidentally practiced that day on the back porch.  I let myself feel the sadness all the way.

And when we do that, it completes pretty quickly.

I thought it was a useful awareness when it sometimes seems like happiness can be so fleeting while other feelings seem to drag on forever.  This seems like a pretty good key as to why that’s the case, and how we could work with it differently if we wanted to.

Anyone else have experience with this? 

Ha – or does anyone have any experience with resisting happiness to make it last longer?  (I’m not sure I even want to attempt that experiment.)

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We went to Macaroni Grill and I ordered the warm spinach salad.  (With garlic and goat cheese – mm mm!!)

But I only ate half to save room for dessert: “rich chocolate cake topped with homemade ganache and pecan pieces” with chilled whipping cream on the side.  Seriously, the description doesn’t do it justice – it’s delish!

Dad orders some lemon cake thing that sounds good, but I know he’s gonna wish he had chocolate.

My brother doesn’t order dessert; I’m thinking it’s because he’s happy to share ours.

The fabulous waitress brings two desserts and three forks and I can hardly believe how mouth-watering the cake looks. 

(I’m such a smart girl to have only eaten half my salad!  And what was dad thinking?!  Lemon?  Sure it’s good, but compared to chocolate?!  Oh my.  Rookie move, dad.)

Dad and I offer to share with brother, but he fends off yet another invitation by responding with a finger pointed to my cake, as if it were poison straight from the devil, “This is 1,000 calories” and pointing to dad’s, “That’s 200.”

For a moment my head spun.

He knows the calorie counts?!  That’s bad enough.  Even worse: he cares?!   

It spins even more when it registers: wait, this cake is a thousand calories?  Oh, that sounds like a lot.

Who brainwashed my brother into believing chocolate cake or 1,000 calories are bad things?!  Did his skinny wife trick him into not enjoying food any more?!

Apparently so.  He’s not having even a single bite.  He’s for real.

Did he die and go to hell?

Or maybe is an alien?

Or … was my brother the only smart one at the table?

Maybe I was a bad influence, running amok in life.

His wife is very thin, even after five kids.  Is that how she does it?

I thought about it today as I finished the rest of my (now deliciously cold) spinach salad.  (He was right that it would keep well.)  I realized that chocolate cake was important enough to me that even if 1,000 calories were a bad thing – I’m on board.

But it made me wonder, what am I vibrating that I can share a table with someone who judges 1,000 calories and deprives himself of the pleasure of chocolate cake?  (Or even lemon cake, if chocolate doesn’t float his boat.)

Which, I will say, dad did eat half the chocolate cake.  Told you so.

We know how this works – if I see it in another, that means I’ve got it in me.  And if I’m depriving myself of life’s pleasures, I want to know about it!   

It made me think of Abraham’s track the other day about how if you’re surrounded by needy people, that doesn’t necessarily mean you’re needy, too, but that you do have needy activated somehow.  Maybe it’s that you strongly don’t want to be around needy people.  Either way, somehow needy is activated in you.

So, what was I sensing at the lunch table?  Judging and deprivation.  How might I be flowing that? 

And if to you that sounded wise and willpowery, that just goes to show we don’t have the same vibes flowing.  Or the same taste in dessert.

Easy answer once I looked: I was judging someone who seemed to be depriving life pleasure.

Enjoyment is one of my core values.  There’s not a dog’s head I’m not gonna scratch when I pass by, or a single great song I’m not singing out loud when I feel the urge, nor a fabulous rain storm that doesn’t make me say, “gosh, what a gorgeous day!” when I skip out to check the mail.

Which means I’m likely gonna get wet, I might get fat (if I believe in 1,000 calories) and I’m certainly going to embarrass myself singing out loud.

My tombstone should maybe read: “She loved life!”  If it says that, I went to my grave a happy girl.

So instead of judging my brother as the poor guy who doesn’t let himself enjoy 1,000 calorie cake, I’m going to practice some live and let live. 

Like Abraham says, life’s a buffet.  We’re not all gonna do it the same way, and we’ll enjoy it way more when we don’t blame others for their choices.

So he’s not wrong for skipping dessert; the terrorists aren’t wrong for blowing up buildings; the child molesters aren’t wrong for .. dang, that one trips me up every time. 

But I get the gist and I see my chance.  To love life even more by letting others do it their way.  There’s no right, no wrong … just more cake for me. 

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1. Leverage details but don’t attach to them
Much of Mike’s material encourages deliberate creators to focus on specific details of the end result we’re manifesting. 

But he makes an important distinction in that we don’t focus on those details in order to create those particular results.  Rather we just use them to get in the feeling of what we want.  That’s the only way those details are helpful. 

In Mike’s words, “The details are visualized to get you excited about your end results, not to be your end results.”

If we get hung up on a particular job, or person, or weight, that’s when the details don’t serve us.  But we can imagine those details since they’re often helpful for creating the feeling state of what we want.  Just don’t lose sight of the big picture.

2. Things will still look weird
Evidence of progress toward our success is often easy to miss.  Mike specifically said, “… the miracles of progress are usually invisible.”

So you can’t really say, “It isn’t happening.”  Because just like on a cross country road trip – you could be 24 hours away from your final destination, and things could still look really weird.  Doesn’t mean you’re not almost there.

So don’t worry if things aren’t looking like you thought they would.  It doesn’t mean you’re not making progress.

3. Why believe in limiting beliefs?

That wasn’t exactly the way Mike said it, but it was clear he does not invest much (if any) time exploring and resolving internal limiting beliefs.

Instead Mike believes that by taking action you automatically navigate around limiting beliefs.

I sure haven’t practiced that personally, but I’m willing to play with that idea!

There’s actually lots more to share with you, but I’ll save it for later! 

(If you’re interested in getting your hands on Mike’s material directly, here’s an affiliate link for that.)

In the meantime, I’d love to hear your thoughts on anything here that sparks your interest!

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(Then I’m done talking about it, because this is not the story I’d like a repeat of.)

Backstory: When you’ve got a lot of animals in the house, it’s crucial to keep up on maintenance if you don’t want it to smell like a farm or a zoo.  (No offense to farms or zoos.)  So if I sound neurotic, it’s only because I have a zillion animals (as my boyrfriend says) and a nice house. 

So when pit bull Joe left a big doo-doo on my favorite rug, I was not happy. 

After all, he’s an adult and he’s supposed to be house-trained!  He’s old enough to know to take advantage of a potty break, and certainly old enough to hold it for an hour until someone gets home! 

Ridiculous!  (In a very wrong way.)

Anyway, it was not easy cleanup, so it felt like time to call in the professional.

Ned at Abacus Cleaners knows the routine well (he’s been my guy for over a decade) and popped over to do his magic on all the carpets and rugs. 

Before 24 hours had passed, Joe did it AGAIN.

He left another doo-doo on the same rug, in the same spot, and just as hard to clean up.  (You fellow dog owners know what I’m talking about, right?)

This shouldn’t even happen once a year, and here it was happening twice in 24 hours?!

I was … not happy, to put it mildly. 

After I fumed about it, I realized Joe practically had to go on the rug again because I was flowing such huge resistance about it.

I mean, pretend you’re Universe and all you hear from Jeannette is “blankety blank poop on the blankety blank rug from blankety blank dog.”  If you’re Universe, you gotta figure out how to get more poop on the rug.

The poor dog didn’t have a chance with the vibe I was flowing: HUGE resistance to poop on my floor.

That was the story I told the client who really really didn’t want to experience another breakup, and the other client who really really didn’t want to have to travel for work (she wants to stay local so she can get a DOG, believe it or not!), and the other one who really really didn’t want to go broke. 

Yeah, let me tell you how that works out … 

… it doesn’t.

The resistance is a magnet for it.

We all know this. I’ve written about it before and probably will again.  Because until we get it figured out, the reminders keep coming.

So our opportunity is to make peace with doo-doo on rugs.  And breakups, and going broke, and jobs that suck.

Not because we give up wanting it to be different, or thinking it could be different – but because as long as we need it to be different it can’t be. 

And all the action in the world I can think of to take cannot override my vibe of resistance. 

But seriously …

Peace with poop?  Really?

Yeah, really.  Unless I want more.

That’s my homework this week.

What’s yours?

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Two days after publishing his book, the author learned he was a victim of Bernie Madoff. 

The expert on gullibility lost over $400,000 in an investment scam.

At first that just sounds ironic – the expert on gullibility being taken in by a shyster.

But then yesterday someone at Good Vibe U reminded me of the brilliant Jill Bolte Taylor talk at the TED conference. 

Jill is the neuroanatomist who spoke about how fascinating it was to have a stroke as a person who had studied the internal workings of the brain for years. 

Odd, right?

Then I was thinking about my boyfriend’s cousin, Sheldon.  He’s a politician (or rather, was) here in my home state whose father was killed by a drunk driver when Sheldon was just a teenager.  During Sheldon’s lengthy political service, he was a strong advocate against driving under the influence. 

Last month he resigned from the state senate two days after being arrested for drunk driving.

My first thought was, “What the hell?!” 

But this is no secret, and it’s not ironic or coincidence.  It’s just vibrational alignment at work. 

Does it kinda though make you think twice about what you might be lining up with, that maybe you didn’t necessarily mean to? 

It did me.

I listened to Abraham counsel a person (the Toronto 2009 workshop) who believed that because she spent her days working with poverty clients she was impeding her own financial abundance by doing so. 

I personally spend a lot of time talking with and writing about people who experience struggle in exercising their deliberate creation skills.  Should I get more spotlight on success stories?!  lol

In my former work I used to preach to employees that whatever you do, do NOT spend your retirement money!  Do not, do not, do NOT spend your retirement money on anything other than retirement! 

(Because everyone who quits their job cashes out.  Bad idea in financial planning world.)

And then I quit my job and started liquidating my 401k to cover expenses while I built a coaching practice.  ha

We get what we think about, right?

I’m curious about your take on the subject.

What about the woman who is passionate about children’s vaccinations reform?  Or the guy who actor who immerses himself in the new role to the point of “becoming” the character?

(Or for that matter, the pilot who trains for emergency landings?)

How do we do what we love and feel passion for without experiencing the dark side of it?

(Although Jill’s experience could hardly be called dark!  Quite the opposite, it sounds.) 

I guess my question is, is it possible to live by the sword without also dying by it?  In fact, maybe the question to ask is how we live by the sword and also thrive by it. 

Maybe it’s as simple as holding that intention in mind.

What’s your take?

PS to Kim – I had to use your gorgeous photo for this post since I couldn’t imagine a better looking one with a sword in it nor a better example of someone who flows the good vibe no matter what she’s involved in!

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(Roxy had a bunch of teeth pulled last week and is on pain meds and antibiotics.  As a feral in pain, you might imagine she’s not the easiest cat to medicate.  Thanks, Verrall, for saving the day!)

Anyway, my ex asked why I was on the computer on a Sunday morning. 

I showed him an inbox with over 120 recent emails from paying clients, people who want to be paying clients, colleagues proposing collaborations, etc. and told him I also needed to submit a Catalyst article and get a new blog post up. 

That’s why I’m in the office on Sunday. 

Even though it also happened to be Valentine’s Day, it’s a year round phenomenon that many of these client emails are from people frustrated with their love lives. 

• One client is upset that her love interest is unavailable to her,
• another is frustrated she hasn’t been able to manifest the relationship she wants,
• another is confused that his love interest is aloof,
• another is discouraged she has no love life whatsoever, etc. etc.

My ex (who says he can only preach law of attraction, not practice it) said to me, “If it’s work, it doesn’t work.”

I interpreted that sentence as helpful words for someone trying too hard to manifest a relationship. 

Turns out he meant them for me, about spending Sunday on an overflowing inbox with writing deadlines and a phone that kept ringing.

“You meant that in terms of people who are trying to find love and create a relationship, right?” I asked him. 

He rolled his eyes at my ability to miss the point and said, “For everything.”

For everything. 

• For trying to force a relationship that isn’t flowing,
• for trying to control the uncontrollable,
• for trying to make money that isn’t there,
• for trying to keep up when there’s too much to keep up with.

If it’s work, it doesn’t work.

Okay, maybe I get it.

When we try too hard (or try at all) to make something happen, we keep that very thing from happening. 

Not that “work” is bad in and of itself.  It’s just when it feels like work, in a hard and exhausting way, rather than in an enjoyable and uplifting “flow” kind of way, that it’s not serving us.

We know the difference, right?  If not, we’d be well served to get a handle on it.

It’s just like Abraham’s upstream vs. downstream analogy.  When we’re paddling upstream, we’re headed in the exact opposite direction of what we want, because everything we want is downstream.  And it’s not hard work to float downstream.

Ever since Fen posted in the Good Vibe U forum about “Allowing vs. Doing” I’ve been thinking about how sometimes it is enjoyable to do something, rather than just twinkle our nose and have it done immediately.  (Although there are times that “instant” is my favorite way to go.)

Like putting Good Vibe U together – that’s been “work,” but fun work.  Mostly, anyway.  The fabulous Kelly Livesay was happy to load content to it, but I rather enjoyed the process myself.  (Even if it wasn’t the smartest way for me to spend time.)

I could tell when it crossed the feel good line, and started to feel a little heavy.  Which was my sign to back off till it got fun again, which it quickly did once it had a little space.

Our opportunity as deliberate creators is to be sensitive enough to recognize once we’ve engaged the push or the try or the hard work energy.  That vibe won’t take us where we want to go.

So if my love-challenged clients would read blog posts (it amazes me how many don’t), I would point them to this one: 

Reminding them that if the relationship isn’t flowing naturally, that’s our cue to get looser, get easier, to shake it off and get our focus on something that does feel good.  To take a deep breath, relax our grip on it, and remember what is right about the world.

For those who are looking for a more potent reminder about how this all works, Terry DeMeo and Martha Beck and I are offering a four call series on the topic of attracting extraordinary relationships starting next week.  And no doubt Michele Woodward and I will explore it after we talk about money, which starts next week as well.

(Sheesh, told you I was busy!)

And I already know I’ll be quoting the wisdom of the Good Vibe community in the comments you share on this subject. 

Which, brings me back to why I’m still sitting in my office chair on Valentine’s Sunday morning.  This is without a doubt one of the things I love most in life – engaging with you on the fascinating and somewhat challenging subject of deliberate creation when it comes to love, money, and everything else we ever wanted.

Life is good, huh?!

Happy Valentine’s Day, lovers.

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Our very own Self Help Goddess shares her recent breakthrough about manifesting love and romance in her life. 

It’s a timely topic with Valentine’s Day right around the corner, so here’s Mary on manifesting relationships:

With February 14th approaching, I was thinking about love and romance.  As I contemplated the idea of relationships (I’m not currently in one), this thought occurred to me:

Am I am looking for a relationship right now to reap the benefits of being in a partnership, or to avoid being single? 

The question hit me like a ton of bricks!  The distinction is subtle, but important.

When most people think about relationships, they think of spending time with their partner, having someone to share their life with, being able to share their innermost fears and desires with a trusted companion, etc.  And sure, I would love to have all those things! 

For me, though, I think that up until now in my life the real motivation to be in a relationship has had less to do with sharing my love for someone and more to do with resisting being alone. 

And we all know that “whatever you resist, persists.”

I spend so much time focused on “not being alone” that I actually end up creating the experience I don’t want: that of being alone!  The men I attract into my life are either unappealing to me or unwilling/incapable of commitment, so I just end up feeling alone (the very thing I was trying to avoid in the first place). 

I’ve been beating my head against a wall trying to figure out why this has been my experience, but now I can see it’s the result of where I’ve been putting my focus: I’ve been focusing on not being alone versus focusing on the experience I want: a loving, fulfilling relationship! 

This got me thinking about how many of us spend time moving away from something we don’t want versus moving towards something we do want.  It can apply to money, weight loss, career success, romance, anything! 

In fact, I think it’s just in our DNA to recognize situations we don’t want to be in and avoid them at all costs.  For example, our ancestors had to constantly be on the lookout for wild animals and know how to escape if they were confronted with one in the wild!

But while it may seem like focusing on things you don’t want to create is beneficial because we think it will help us steer clear of them, the law of attraction dictates that we get more of whatever we’re focused on. 

Therefore, even if your attention is on avoiding or resisting a particular circumstance, you’ll just end up getting even more of it because you’re still focused on it! 

Many people are constantly focused on money and wonder why it’s not appearing more abundantly in their lives.  In essence, they’re trying to avoid the experience of not having enough money.  If you’re focused on the lack of money, however, or on how you don’t have as much as you’d like, then it’s that experience of not having as much as you’d like that gets created over and over again.  

In my situation, the constant preoccupation with resisting being alone is just leading to more of the same, being or feeling alone.

So, what to do if this phenomenon resonates with you? 

1. Know that whatever you spend the majority of your time focusing on is what gets produced in your life.  Even if you are focused on moving away from something, you are still focused on it!  If you notice your attention is on something you don’t want, shift your thoughts to what you DO want.  You might have to say out loud to yourself, “That’s not what I want!  What I do want is….”  You can literally take control of your thoughts and steer them in a new direction, just as if you were captain of a ship.
2. Try feeling love and compassion for that part of yourself you’re trying to avoid.  In my case, it’s the experience of being alone or single.  Can I just accept that part of myself, and love it exactly as it is?  Can I befriend it and even embrace it?  In the money example, try flowing unconditional love and acceptance to the part of yourself that feels poor or without money.  This helps release the resistance you feel towards a particular situation or circumstance in your life. 

By resisting something you are actually keeping your attention on it, which keeps the situation squarely in place.  Whatever you are focused on is what you attract, whether positive or negative. 

As you release resistance towards a situation you’ve been avoiding, don’t be surprised if suddenly whatever you were wishing for rushes into your life.  Since you’ve made peace with the situation and aren’t spending all your time giving it attention, you’ll begin focusing on actually having the thing you desire in your life. 

Once that happens, it’s only a matter of time before you manifest your dreams and desires right before your eyes!

Mary is known online as the Self Help Goddess because she loves finding, reading, and reviewing the best self help books and products on the market to help others create their ideal lives.  Visit her at www.selfhelpgoddess.com or on Twitter as @SelfHelpGoddess.

Nice observation and insight, Self Help Goddess!  Thanks for sharing it with us here!

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Not just because it had a happy ending, but also because it seemed to defy all odds to qualify as an outstanding real life miracle.

I wasn’t alone in enjoying coverage of the event, as google reveals over 6 million hits for “Hudson plane.”

Recently, an Abraham workshop participant asked the question about how many people had to be aligned in order to allow that particular miracle to unfold.

Abraham’s answer is why I’m writing about this topic today.

While the guy asking the question viewed the Hudson River event as if it were a miracle of alignment that the pilot was able to land the jetliner without suffering any casualties, Abraham offered an alternate perspective:

Yes, this pilot managed to land in the river without sacrificing any lives.  But this same pilot also managed to rendezvous with a flock of birds that required the emergency landing in the first place.

Abraham said this pilot’s extensive training for flight emergencies made him an excellent match for experiencing a flight emergency. 

While we celebrate his ability to have managed it extremely well, it might be worth noting that a pilot who doesn’t attract emergencies might be something to celebrate, too.

Yes, I get it.  Training for trouble makes us more likely to attract trouble.  And is trouble what we really want?

But it was such a cool story!  How boring would life be if everything always went perfectly?!

And that’s exactly what Abraham shared at the end of the conversation about the perils of training for trouble – we do like our dramas. 

Don’t we?

Abraham added that in our culture it’s rare we’re not being warned or trained for some sort of trouble somewhere along the line, but that’s our opportunity as deliberate creators – to choose consciously what we’re attracting into our lives. 

Sometimes maybe close calls are exciting, and sometimes maybe they’re worth skipping altogether.

What do you guys think?  If you had the choice (which we do), would you choose no trouble at all?  Or are there some challenges you wouldn’t opt out of?

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There are some fabulous folks that give rave reviews to my work – whether it’s the ezine, the Catalyst articles, the blog posts, or the ebooks.  

Which I greatly appreciate!  (Not just because it helps spread the word, but because it’s nice to hear my material is worthy of raving about!)

When I see that happening, I often invite the raving fan to sign up for my affiliate program. 

Since they’re already sending me business, I figure they may as well get compensated for it!  Which sounds good to them, too, since they’re already doing the “work” of promoting Good Vibe stuff – it’s easy for them to keep doing what they were already doing.

So I send them the affiliate link (which I don’t advertise anywhere – it’s by invite only) and they sign up. 

And then something very interesting sometimes happens.

It seems like overnight their authentic, genuine rave reviews turn into something that sounds more like a traditional marketing pitch. 

It’s as if now they’re trying to convince someone, rather than just sharing the love.  Or they’re efforting towards results (trying to make something happen) instead of just enjoying the opportunity to share a resource they found valuable.

It’s like once they’re promoting me for compensation – things change!

(Not every time, but sometimes.)

Maybe it’s something else in play, but part of me wonders if this change came about because money entered the picture. 

• Like, now that they’re getting paid for raving it takes the joy out of it. 
• Or makes it feel tainted or less pure. 
• Or they really really want to see some money come in as a result, so they try extra hard to be convincing – whereas before they didn’t care if you believed them. 
• Or maybe they don’t want to let me down, or really want to contribute to my financial rewards for what they think of as great material.

Which makes me wonder what charge I might still have on money, because if I suspect I’m seeing it in someone else, it’s gotta be part of me, too.

So this is our opportunity to get curious about how or whether money affects us in our own lives.  Would you approach something differently if money weren’t involved?  Or if it were? 

I wonder if I got paid for fostering these animals .. (which some people do!  A friend of a friend makes half her mortgage payment by fostering a couple of dogs from California!) .. I wonder if I got paid for fostering if that would change the way I did it or how I felt about it.

Or blog posts – I’ve seen others writing affected when they started making money from their blog (for better and for worse). 

Or that job I used to hate – the only reason I went was because of the money.  (I think that’s a pretty good indicator of something worth changing in life.  There are simply too many ways to make money than to keep doing something we don’t love!)

Maybe the way you run your business would be different if you weren’t worried about how to make money.  If you were already rolling in it, what would you do or feel different about it?

That’s not only worth thinking about, that’s worth changing now – if you’re interested in aligning to more money, that is.  (Because if you’ve got a negative “charge” on it, you’re repelling it.)

But maybe you don’t care about making money.  And my suspicion (as well as personal experience) is that when that’s the case, you can’t help but make more of it.

Another example I’m entertaining: what if I paid for comments on this blog?  How would that change things?  I’m imagining a couple of things might happen:

• Some people wouldn’t post because they wouldn’t want me or others to think they’re posting just to get paid.
• Others might post who normally wouldn’t have, just to get extra money in their pocket.
• Some might be more thoughtful in what they post, since they might feel like they needed to be worthy of the payment.
• I wonder if the generous love and joy that you guys naturally bring would change?

What a curious thing money does sometimes, huh?

This is an opportunity to get more open (or at least more neutral) about money if we find it’s kinking the vibe at all. 

As usual, I’m curious about your thoughts! 

In fact, should we do an experiment?  It would be easy to Paypal $1 to every poster (if you include a real email address where you type in your name) and we’ll see if it does change anything.  It could also be a good opportunity for you to see if money affects how you do things!  (I know a dollar isn’t much, but pretend it is.)

Let the experiment begin!  lol  I’m officially paying for comments on this post!!  oh my gosh.  (And not spam comments.  Those guys still get filtered and deleted as usual.)

This isn’t to bribe you, though – just to see if anything changes once money is involved!  May be interesting, huh?!

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Debra’s isn’t the only success story that’s been reported back to us.   You OutSourcerers are pretty freakin’ cool!

After writing that post, it became obvious that tapping into the collective power for deliberate creation is happening in lots of ways already: Global Coherence Initiative, The Intention Experiment, regular prayer groups, etc.

In fact, it’s making me think it might be fun to harness that power she’s leading in the OutSourcerers forum at Good Vibe U (www.goodvibeu.com) to one particular person at a time.  (Today we do Fen, tomorrow Bridgette, etc.) 

Like the power of a laser, instead of a bunch of random flashlights pointing here then there.   Just a (fun) thought! 

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Anyway, I’m posting today to let you know that we are slowly but surely gathering numbers over at Good Vibe University.

I haven’t done any big formal public announcements or anything about it, because frankly I’ve got nothing but scrambled thoughts about how to do that.

I know how it’s supposed to be done, but I can’t bring myself to do it.  I refuse to take action that isn’t inspired.

Michele Woodward posted on her facebook page the other day that she is tired of being sold to.  I totally know what she means!

In fact, this week I unsubscribed from several ezines of people whose work I tremendously respect – I just couldn’t read it any more because it was so … traditional.  With a pitch here, a promotion there, and maybe you’ll find a worthy article underneath, maybe not.

It’s so time to do it different, I’m just entirely sure what different looks like.  !

SO in the meantime, I sit here with a gorgeous new place for creators to hang out, and no idea how to share it!!  lol

It’s just hilarious to me.

In a delightful way.

I love that I’m not relying on old methods.  (How old can they really be, when the internet is still young?)  I’m just not sure what “new” and “authentic” is.

But it will come to me, and until then I promised doors would open in January 2010.  And they are.  If you feel inspired to join us there, you are officially invited and very welcome to!

My next formal entry going in my Intentions Journal is inspiration for how to share the news about Good Vibe U.  My latest baby and true love.

• It’s the project that made me prefer “work” over showers, over meals, over dog walks, over blog posts, over chats with friends, over much of the stuff I used to make generous time for. 
• It’s what I lie in bed about being too excited to sleep (finally got Paul McKenna to make me sleep – thank you, Paul). 
• It’s what I talk with Russ about every time when he asks, “How was your day?”
• It’s what makes me realize my biggest and best and oldest (deliberate) intention is coming to powerful physical fruition: to talk with others who are interested in law of attraction! 

About the ins and the outs of it, the challenges and the tips, the stories and the support!  A perpetual gathering for people just like me who want to be more powerful creators and talk with their own kind!

To know that we’re not crazy, we’re not alone, and that we’re actually getting really good at this deliberately creating-our-reality stuff!

Man, if I didn’t know better about how it all worked, I would think I owed Universe big time for giving me this.  This dream come true.

Anyway, that’s where I’ve been if it seems like I’ve been laying low.  I’ve been behind the curtain getting things ready for you.  I hope you like it. 

Scratch that!  I intend you LOVE it!!  Even half as much as I do would be a lot of love to flow.  

So until I feel some inspiration about how to properly share the news with the rest of the world, it’s just you all and me hanging out there. 

And that’s a party I like the sounds of. 

First group call starts next week!  You don’t have to enroll to listen in, although I’m still finding the right setting that allows the public to access dial-in info. 

Call archives and discussion groups are for enrolled members only (helps pay for the lights and faculty and ensures we get committed creators – not random naysayers – in those conversations). 

(I’ll post dial in info here if that’s not in place by Feb 3, but I’m sure it will be.)

I’d like to send a big fat thank you to all of you who helped inspire this gathering – both here and at Good Vibe U.  You are exactly who I had in mind when I was creating a good time for myself!

PS – thanks for your votes on what to call this place!  I’m confident the answer will reveal itself soon.  And remember to check out Debra’s post before you turn off the computer today.  She shows how you all are rockin’ it!

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