When Ben Affleck picked up his Oscar for best picture (Argo), he shared his thanks for those in Hollywood who taught him that you can’t hold grudges.
“It’s hard, but you can’t hold grudges.”
Those impactful words reminded me when I asked dad (whose motto our whole life was “buy American”) what in the world he was doing as the proud new owner of a Toyota.
He answered, “I don’t hold anything against anyone any more.”
I wondered what that would be like to just decide to give up all resentments and grudges; to replace judgments with peace; to shake hands instead of draw lines?
Well, I’d like to find out. If dad can do it, surely I can, too.
And if Ben believes this practice is so crucial that he shares it in his acceptance speech, it’s probably worth checking out.
Deliberate creators know that alignment is the name of the game in living the good life. And it’s hard to be lined up when you’re carrying heavy resentments and nurturing old wounds.
So wherever we might be holding something against another, it’s worth rethinking our way to vibrational liberation.
- for the past bosses who didn’t do right by us
- with the former sweethearts who didn’t keep promises
- on the family members who didn’t know any better
We’ve probably got a variety of opportunities to clear the air and live grudge-free. And it all starts with the conscious intention and commitment.
Which is worth choosing, because how cool would it be to genuinely say, “I don’t hold anything against anyone any more.”
Pretty smart, dad.