How Does Your Question Feel?

February 12, 2009 | 25 Comments »

question-mark“Why not me?”

That’s the question I happened to hear in two different client sessions this week. 

One client asked it with an air of hope and optimism; the other with a sense of despair and frustration.

It struck me how the same words, the same question, had such different vibrations associated with it.

Why not ME??

Why NOT me?

hee hee – I  love how this deliberate creation work calls for a willing awareness of the energy flowing amidst all these words.

The “why not ME??” client was focused on how things seemed to be happening for others but not for her.  She felt overlooked and falling behind.  (Until we refocused, of course, which she quickly engaged.)

The “why NOT me?” client could see lots of reasons why things should be and could be coming together for him.  He could have been singing the “future’s so bright, I have to wear shades” song.  His energy felt like it was a no-brainer that success would find him.

So my question to you:

How does your question feel?  Are your words encouraging an empowering feeling within?  Or a limiting one?  Are they positive, or are you headed for trouble with them? 

Pay attention .. and celebrate your ability to fine tune your way through this manifesting process.

Fun stuff, huh?!

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25 Responses to “ How Does Your Question Feel? ”

  1. MsNikki says:

    OMG!!! I swear there must be something going on in the stratosphere because lately every blog entry has coincided with an equivalent event in my life!

    A friend was laid off in January and then found work in her field (rare as all hell) within a month’s time frame! As soon as I read her email last night, I became extremely envious. (Envy is the *one* emotion that gets to me every single time! I have lost friendships over it). Needless to say, I called my boyfriend and cried into the phone about it. I said/cried verbatim, “Why her and not me and so-so?” The response that I received with crickets chirping in the background was “You need to learn to be happy for others despite whatever ‘setback’ you feel you are on.” (Why do I stay with this dude????)
    This was very hard for me to do since I was Shrek-green w/envy. I am still thinking about this one…

  2. Well, you’re not alone, Ms Nikki, and the good news is you are not only AWARE of it, but you have the courage to look at it. That’s huge! That’s what allows shifts to happen.

    🙂

    Thanks for reading, and especially for sharing your thoughts and experience, Ms Nikki! Much appreciated!

  3. Ohhh, “as you wish” – what a fun phrase to remember to play with, Dr. Jenn!!!

    Thank you for that!

  4. Dr. Jenn says:

    I love this!! This is a fab example.

    I’d like to see the whole world shouting, “Why NOT me?”

    And passersby, shouting back, “As you wish!”

    And then, someone, somewhere, waves a little magic wand and, “It is so!”

    Then we’d all be living a fairytale existence! 😉

    Dr. Jenn’s last blog post..Section 6- Perfect Partner Process Downloads

  5. bonni says:

    There’s a book out there on this topic. I can’t recall the name offhand, but it’s got “Afformations” in the title (yes, I spelled that correctly). The premise of the book is that we often ask ourselves really damaging questions, like “What’s wrong with me?” (implication: there is something wrong with me) or “Why can’t I do this?” (implication: I can’t do this) or “What else can go wrong?” (implication: something else will go wrong) and so forth.

    The book proposes using positive questions as affirmations, so you ask yourself things like, “Why is my life so enjoyable?” and “Why do the things I want manifest so easily and effortlessly?” and “Why am I so happy?” and so forth.

    I don’t personally use questions as affirmations most of the time (though I am very fond of “How cool is this?” and “Why am I so happy?”), but I definitely “got it” when it comes to asking myself leading questions! I have definitely gotten out of that haibt. How good is that? 😉

  6. Janette says:

    Heheh, hitting those nails on their poor defenceless heads yet again!! 🙂

    I struggled with envy for YEARS (and occasionally still do) – until a wise friend pointed out that every time something good happens to someone else, it’s just the universe reminding you that anything is possible.

    So now, when I see a someone with something I want, I say to myself “what that person has, the universe now also gives to me in perfect ways”. It almost always works – whether it’s a gorgeous car; a beautiful house; a bidding war at a book fair for a first novel 10 minutes after it’s been submitted… oops, did I say that out loud??? ONLY KIDDING 😀

    Janette’s last blog post..The Universe loves me!

  7. Mm, way to spotlight the power in rephrasing a question, Bonni!

    I’m with you – I especially love the “Why am I so happy?” question – it works! Thanks for clueing me/us in to that one!

  8. Yes, nice trigger for a turnaround, Janette! And that blog post title of yours sounds very relevant.

    Thanks for reading and especially for posting! 🙂

  9. MissyB says:

    When things have gone wrong for me, I’ve always had the weight on my shoulders with the classic statement “why me ?” My mum says, “why not you ?” A reminder that I am no different to anyone else. I have the potential to be unlucky or lucky just as much as the next person in the queue or the Queen of England. I’d rather choose lucky though so I have.

  10. That says it well, MissyB – we have the potential to be either, why not choose what we want?!

    Well said, my friend. Thank you!

  11. MaryK says:

    Hi Jeannette!

    This is such a good reminder that the energy behind our thoughts is what really matters in our creations, not just the thoughts themselves.

    What’s funny to me is that in certain situations in my life I ask myself, “why NOT me?” However, in other circumstances I ask myself the same question like this, “why not meeeee?”

    For example, when it comes to creating money and success, I feel like there’s no reason I can’t be as successful as anyone else out there. I tell myself it’s easy and that money and success are on their way to me as we speak! Yet when it comes to relationships, I look around at everyone else who’s in a healthy relationship and play the victim: “Why can’t I have that?? When will it be MY turn?” Probably not the best vibration to be sending out to the Universe 😉

    Thanks for the reminder that it’s not just the questions we ask, but how we ask them!

    -Mary
    http://www.selfhelpgoddess.com

  12. Kim Falconer says:

    Oh Jeannette, this is a wonderful reminder of how to fine tune our thoughts. Sometimes the gremlin ‘why me?’ can slip in under the wire, hidden in the emotions stated above…like envy, jealousy..those ‘survival’ emotions that can be particularly raw…primitive. Hungry.

    If I feel like I’m getting the short end of the stick, even for an instant, I turn it around saying, ‘I’m doing this. It’s MY creation.’ That’s me taking my power back from the illusion–back from ‘reality’. ‘Why me’ can only exist if we think there is something out there bigger than we are.

    Perfect for V day (someone on twitter called it ‘spot the singles day’.

    Anyone alone on Valentines Day feeling a little ‘Why not me can take a deep breath, exhale and blow away the illusion that we are alone, ever.

    We’re creating everything for a reason!

    Thank you, Jeannette, for another perfect reminder!

    🙂 Kim

  13. Jim Patterson says:

    Questions such as “Why not me?” ( or even “Why me?”) have become as alien to me as depression and and anger…

    Why, you ask?

    These types of questions are tied to the kind of thinking that Eckhart Tolle calls “egoic”, or centered on content and not on who we really are. If I spend this moment asking either of those questions, I miss what this moment of my life is offering me, and right now is the only moment I have so these questions are life stealers.

    I call any thought patterns “Life Stealers” if they distract me in any way from living in the present moment. Time may be fluid and relative to Einstein and other Quantum Physicists but we still experience our lives in a linear fashion and so to spend our time with questionings that distract (and therefore detract) us we lose life…

    There is also the fact that these questions are centered on the “negative” emotions of jealousy or envy. All Affirmation is creative, generative and therefore Life centered. Negation is destructive, dissonant and therefore death dealing. So allowing our minds to run amok with questionings such as these is hurtful.

    You could even say that the question IS the answer…

    Jim Patterson’s last blog post..Understanding The Pervasive Cause And Effect Reversal

  14. Jim Patterson says:

    Questions such as “Why not me?” ( or even “Why me?”) have become as alien to me as depression and and anger…

    Why, you ask?

    These types of questions are tied to the kind of thinking that Eckhart Tolle calls “egoic”, or centered on content and not on who we really are. If I spend this moment asking either of those questions, I miss what this moment of my life is offering me, and right now is the only moment I have so these questions are life stealers.

    I call any thought patterns “Life Stealers” if they distract me in any way from living in the present moment. Time may be fluid and relative to Einstein and other Quantum Physicists but we still experience our lives in a linear fashion and so to spend our time with questionings that distract (and therefore detract) us we lose life…

    There is also the fact that these questions are centered on the “negative” emotions of jealousy or envy. All Affirmation is creative, generative and therefore Life centered. Negation is destructive, dissonant and therefore death dealing. So allowing our minds to run amok with questionings such as these is hurtful.

    You could even say that the question IS the answer…

    Jim Patterson’s last blog post..Another Great LOA Author – Judge Thomas Troward – The Hidden Power

  15. Andy Bailey says:

    mine is “will there be time later?” always trying to get everything done right now before something else big comes along before I’ve finished. kind of hectic but I’ve moved mountains this year already!

    Andy Bailey’s last blog post..Blogger CommentLuv gets updated with new features

  16. MaryK says:

    You know what’s funny? In some areas of my life I say to myself, “Why NOT me?” But in other areas I say, “Why not meeeee?”

    For example, with regard to success and wealth, I tell myself I have the same right as anyone else to have those things and that they are right around the corner! However when it comes to dating and relationships, I play the victim and look at all the happy couples around me and say, “when’s it going to be MY turn??” As Kim mentioned above, tomorrow is a great day to practice turning this vibration around and realizing that there really is something bigger out there… thanks, Kim!

    -Mary
    http://www.selfhelpgoddess.com

  17. Ann Strong says:

    Hey Jeannette,

    Just yesterday I was thinking of the power/energy of certain questions and lack of in others.

    I wasn’t thinking of the “why not me” variety, but rather the kind of question around something we’d like different. One of my least favorites these days: why is (you fill in the blank) happening? One of my favorites to turn that around: what would it take to bring about (you fill in the blank)? I love that question. It almost always immediately puts me in vibrational harmony with whatever I’m desiring!

  18. Tristin says:

    Hi Jeannette & all your lovely group!

    I am feeling a little low because I decided to break up with my Boyfriend, because strangely enough, I asked myself the same question I think…like why is it that I do not have a loving truely Committed and fullfilling relationship at 37yrs young? And I’ve never been proposed to…

    I had a good cry the other morning, when I imagined what it would truely feel like to have the Man of my Dreams want me enough to Marry me…and I sobbed and sobbed, at how good it felt, and yet how I had actuallly really deep down felt that I was not really worthy of it, like I really felt like it was O.K, if he didn’t want to Marry me and make future plans with me…I still loved him….

    But after my Sobbing, crying soo much I was heaving for breath, I realized I doo want to feel soooo loved that sum1 really wants with all his heart to Marry me..and I DO deserve it!

    And with this realization, I have moved forward to open my life to what I truely desire!

    I want to Vibrate with sum1 who wants the same as me…

    Great Timing for your Post Jeannette!
    Love & Light
    Tristin X

    • I could feel the liberation in your post, Tristin! Kudos for opening up and allowing forward movement. It does take some time, and no one can dictate how long that’s supposed to take. Sending good thoughts your way, my friend! 🙂

  19. Leah Bach says:

    Hi Jeanette! What a great loving colunm…

    I love that we are talking about this. My sudden life altering realization was that I am in perfect vibrational alignment at all times. Crazy. I thought that I needed to be different, better, stronger, practise harder… but I don’t. I get exactly what I ask for.

    Why not me? is a self fulfilling prophesy because it says “not me, everyone else BUT me”. I have learnt to focus my attention on what I want. Focus the attention. It has been awesome, I feel so complete, in control and available to the world. So simple. lb

  20. Michael says:

    This is such a great topic. Shifting just a bit of attention makes all the difference. I’ve noticed that I have this ‘little kid’ in me that learned the world wasn’t safe…but what I’ve taken to doing is shifting that ‘little kid’s’ perspective into ‘what an exciting, adventurous kind of world’. Some days this works better than others, but the more I practice, the faster I get.

  21. Kevin Boon says:

    Thanks Jeanette,

    This is very good point… the words we use are usually minor compared to the emotion or feeling (positive or negative) that we put behind the words.

    Kevin

  22. Anna says:

    I am reminded of my favorite scene in A Christmas Carol with Alec Guinness, when he wakes up Christmas morning and realizes he’s alive…

    “I don’t know why I’m so happy! I don’t deserve to be so happy… I can’t help it — I just am!” And then dances about, singing his blissful enthusiastic joy!

    Would that THIS was what first came to people’s minds upon hearing the name of Scrooge…

  23. Lori says:

    Even though I know it is necessary to turn negative mantras into positive ones, a reminder like this post is always helpful to keep me on track, so thanks! I’ve had my share of letting myself feel jealous about things, particularly others success on Etsy.com (I have shop there) and I used to really let it get the best of me. It still happens from time to time so this really helps me turn the ‘why not ME’ into a ‘why NOT me’. 🙂
    I’m grateful I found your blog, it is helping me get back on track with loa after being “off the wagon” of it all for so long. Your posts are encouraging and I look forward to your teleseminar next week. 🙂

  24. Thomas Regal says:

    Another great post, Tristin. Our words have tremendous power and should be considered with the highest regard. Words are thoughts made physical and had a direct impact on our personal development, success, happiness, and finances. Speak word that have power and authority, speak “as if”.

    I’ve posted on this blog before and I highly recommend Brian Maxwell’s “How to Overcome Fear and Create Fortune” free e-book because it’s truly the handbook for success in today’s economy.

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