How Easy Is It – for Real?
I’m walking a line now between ease and effort.
On the one hand, I’ve undertaken some endeavors, like running, that take effort. I’m having a BALL with it!!!
At the same time, I know the value of alignment. I know ease. I know allowing. And, I LOVE that.
So, my question is, do you walk a line between ease and effort? Or is it all ease?
In either case, how does it look for you?
I love that question, Nneka.
In fact, I was thinking about this subject after reading Susan Hyatt’s newsletter yesterday where she wrote, “This needs to be said a billion times more because we all keep forgetting:”
Building the beautiful life and career that you crave … will not always feel “good.”
Just like building the strong, resilient body you want … will not always feel “good.”
Sometimes, those 5:30 am burpees will seem like the worst idea you’ve ever had.
Sometimes, your trainer will seem like the living embodiment of Evil.
Sometimes, your mind will play tricks on you. Trying to convince you that you don’t really want … what you want.
Sometimes, you will shake.
Sometimes, you will doubt.
Sometimes, you will burn.
The burn will be temporary.
The burn will be worth it.
The burn means you’re moving closer and closer …
… to a deeper, sweeter and better kind of “good.”
You know what’s been said a billion times?
That there’s no gain without pain. That we have to push through the resistance in order to get what we want.
Which I disagree with completely.
Pushing through resistance doesn’t pay off. Ever.
As Abe says, “Unhappy journeys don’t have happy endings.”
There is no reason to suffer, struggle or push our way to success. Not only is it not the best way there, but it often takes us in the opposite direction.
And that’s not to say that sometimes, like Nneka when she runs, the effort isn’t enjoyable. Sometimes it feels wonderful to work up a good sweat or to stay up all night on the newest project.
(Big clue: if you’re having a ball with it, you’re in alignment!)
But when the effort doesn’t feel good in some form or fashion, you are not headed where you think you are.
Effort can feel good. Stretching ourselves can be a joy. Working hard can be our absolute favorite thing to do.
When it does, we are golden.
But when it doesn’t, don’t fool yourself.
Your inner guidance will tell all you need to know about whether this serves you or not.
If it doesn’t feel some sort of good, it’s not the right path.
So Nneka, to answer your question about how I walk the path between ease and effort … if the thing isn’t calling me, I’m not going. I respond to whatever’s pulling me forward. I don’t push myself where I think I’m supposed to go. And I certainly don’t resort to bribing myself to get through something.
If my inner guidance isn’t a thumbs up on it, I’m taking a pass.
That doesn’t mean I lay on the couch all day twinkling my nose to have magical things unfold in my world. (Although that can be fun, too.)
I personally am a huge fan of writing blog posts, for example – and this is work! I also like working in the garden, and sometimes I enjoy cleaning the house or getting on the elliptical. (For real.)
This weekend I’ve giving a keynote that makes me a little nervous. But it’s a good stretch, an exhilarating one – not a painful one. I will sweat, but it’s the good sweat.
(I suspect Susan and I are in agreement on this, even though it may sound like we’re delivering different messages.)
Much of the joy of life is in the doing of something. But if there isn’t joy in it, I’m not going. And someone’s promise of the joy that comes afterward isn’t enough to get me there. My inner guidance knows better than they do.
There are too many other things I could be doing that are joyful from start to finish. Knowing what I know now, I simply wouldn’t spend my time anywhere else.
And of course, I know LOA savvy people who feel very differently about this than I do. I’d love to hear from you guys on this.
What are your thoughts about how easy it can really be?
PS – in full disclosure I actually have no idea what a 5:30 am burpee is.