I Found My Line (LOA & Miscarriage)
I tend to roll my eyes whenever I hear a conscious creator draw the line on where law of attraction works.
Because it’s in effect everywhere.
There isn’t any part of life that operates outside the “like attracting like” system.
None. No exceptions.
But when I got a note today from a self-professed new student of LOA who wrote about how her vibration created her miscarriage, I suddenly discovered where I drew the line on LOA.
In fact, just yesterday I heard Abraham say, “You can take this LOA crap to a wrong level.”
That was in reference to when Esther didn’t speak up about her bad feeling at the sorting of luggage by cruise ship baggage handlers. (From the Aug 2012 Seattle workshop.)
The young mom writing me had found a peaceful place with her “baby who was born sleeping” (the sweetest term I’ve ever heard for an experience that can permanently take the wind out of anyone’s sails), but I know other conscious creators sometimes struggle to make sense of their role in manifesting something as unwanted as the death of an unborn child.
I am not the expert on this topic, but here’s what I do know …
… any thought that doesn’t feel good isn’t true.
Abe tells us the fact that the thought doesn’t feel good means your inner being won’t join you in that thought. So you’re perceiving the situation in a way that Source doesn’t any time you think a thought that feels bad. Meaning, it’s bogus. You got it wrong.
(No worries, it happens to the best of us. Every day.)
Okay, so to me it does not feel fabulous to think that a mom’s vibration could cause her unborn baby to change his or her mind about being here.
Babies aren’t afraid of contrast. Some of them choose it on purpose to get a head start on all the fabulous things they’ll put in their vortex to manifest later in life.
Here’s the thought that does feel better to me when it comes to understanding miscarriage. (Which means it’s closer to the truth than any thought that feels bad.)
Actually, it’s worth noting that the thought that feels better to me may not work for you. So, this can be a very individual process. Feel free to customize your own better-feeling-thought.
Here’s the thought that feels better to me … (and this may very well be the strangest and worst analogy that ever came to mind, but I’m rolling with it):
You know how when you’re at a party and your friend is going to the john so he asks you to hold his drink for him?
Well, you’re a friend, so of course you’ll hold his beer for him. No big deal.
Did you create the holding of the beer? Well, you were a co-creator, sure. But it was his idea. He’s the one that has to pee or check his hair or whatever is calling him to the john. You are in this together, but he was really driving it.
You’re just the good friend who’s willing to hold two beers till he gets back.
That’s the extent of your role.
You did your buddy a solid.
It’s not your “fault” he needed to go. You’re just at the party together – and yes, you’ve got an extra hand to hold another beer.
These babies have their own intentions. They have their own reasons. They have drives and inspirations that you aren’t necessarily privy to.
You’re just along for this part of the ride.
This isn’t about you as much as it is about him and his journey. So I would ease up on trying to understand how you created a baby’s ‘undoing.’ You didn’t.
And did you notice there how the word ‘undoing’ doesn’t feel so fab? Another indicator we’re misperceiving the truth.
Because babies can’t be undone. In fact, all of us are eternal and everlasting. (That thought feels better to me than the prior one – which means I’m getting closer to truth.)
Some people find it easier to blame themselves than it is their unborn child, but in actuality there is no one to blame and there is nothing gone wrong.
That one can be a tricky thought to grasp at first, but remember – any thought that feels better is closer to the truth.
I suspect the “newbie” to LOA who wrote me this morning is already way ahead of me on this. Like I said, she sounded pretty peaceful. But I’m writing this for creators who haven’t found their way there yet.
Some may interpret this perspective as a bit anti-LOA, but I don’t think it really is when we understand what it is to be a co-creator.
And for the record, I am not saying that death is like taking a bathroom break at a party.
Although, hey … that may very well be the most accurate analogy that ever came to mind.
(Since death isn’t what most of us have been trained to think of it as.)
What I am saying is that these sweet souls have their own reasons for what unfolded. You were just the good friend willing to help out when the favor was asked.
Hold your head high. Not everyone is capable or willing to hold a buddy’s drink at the party.
Disclaimer: this can be a tender topic, and I don’t have any personal experience with it. So please take what I say with a thousand grains of salt, and find your own way to a truth that serves you. Which simply means – find the thought that feels better.
And God bless all the friendly beer holders at the party. You guys rock.