The Time I Got Schooled About Allowing

September 16, 2015 | 82 Comments »

How to Allow & Practice SurrenderEvery now and then someone writes with an urgent question about manifesting something fast, because things are dire and getting worse unless they can use law of attraction to turn it around now.

This is the story I share about how I got schooled in the LOA way to handle situations like that:

Years ago I went to a massage therapist who was highly recommended by a good friend. “You’ll love her,” Lanaiya told me. “She’s amazing.”

And this masseuse was different, I’ll say that. She didn’t do just regular massage – she “read energy patterns” and saw things in your field – the sort of stuff you wouldn’t expect from a regular therapist. It was intriguing.

But I did question her accuracy when she told me I needed to learn how to allow.

Excuse me?

Clearly she doesn’t know who she’s talking to.

I am the Good Vibe Coach. I am a manifesting maven. I know all about allowing. Don’t tell me I need to be better at the surrender. I know all about that. I study Abe; I teach this stuff to others – for a living, for hell’s sake! This is what I do.

But fine. She can say what she wants. I’m not going to be rude.

So the session’s over, I’m her last appointment of the day, and we walk out to the parking lot together.

That’s when I asked her something about herself, and it prompted her to tell this story:

Just a few weeks ago she’d been working for a real estate company as an in-house masseuse. It was an okay gig, regular money, regular hours. Highly stressed people, but it kept her employed.

Until the day it didn’t. The market had turned, money was tight, and they let her go.

No notice.

No severance.

No clientele. No network. No backup plan.

And to top it off she had no savings and no rent money. (No rent money! The Capricorn financial planner in me was alarmed to hear that part!)

She had no answers, no solutions, no ideas.

And she thought, “Wow, something really good must be getting ready to happen.”

(Really? That’s what you thought? You know what I’d be thinking? Holy shit, I better get a job!)

But she didn’t think that.

She didn’t scramble. She didn’t stress. She didn’t plot or strategize or try to figure it out.

She allowed it.

In fact, she says she “surrendered into it.” Like falling back into it, trusting that she’d be safe. She imagined falling into a “soft, warm, puffy cloud,” she said.

Because something this big doesn’t happen unless something really good is coming, she told me.

“Alrighty then,” I thought. “You’re crazy. You need to get this handled.”

And then she tells me what unfolded …

That weekend she got invited to a party by a friend.

She had nothing else to do, so …

(Really? Nothing else to do? Like updating a resume, or spreading the word that you’re looking for work? Or asking the folks for a loan? I think you’ve got plenty of other stuff to do besides have a few drinks, girl!)

But no, she had nothing else to do, so she went to the party.

It turns out her friend threw this party in her honor.

The friend wanted to introduce her to all her other friends who she knew would LOVE to experience the gifts of this energy-working massage therapist.

So she gave a little sample to a couple girls right there at the party, and they LOVED it! They couldn’t get enough! Everyone wanted a turn with her!

They started booking her for private sessions.

And then raved about her to other friends and family. And she got booked some more.

Indeed, I realized, that’s how I found out about her. Lanaiya raved, said I absolutely must go. And there I was.

And actually, when I paid her, I wrote the check out for a couple extra sessions because I thought my folks might like to see her, too.

So … not only does she find the money for next month’s rent as a result of these sessions she’s doing, but she also raised her entire income level, upgraded her clientele, created her own schedule and work space, and enjoyed her work vastly more because now she had clients she could do this cool energy dance with. (The real estate agents hadn’t been into it so much.)


Now I understand why she would tell me I need to become a better allower.

I did not grasp the level that she was practicing it at. That’s what allowing looks like. That’s what surrendering makes possible.

That’s what it looks like in the real world.

And that’s what I aspire to … to be that trusting when it looks like things are going wrong. To be that open to positive change when it doesn’t look like I wanted.

(It’s like the same reason why the DUI driver is the one to walk away from the accident – they have no resistance flowing.)

I’d been properly schooled on the art of allowing.

So when someone writes in dire straits and absolutely must manifest something fast because things are going to hell in a hand basket, this is the story I tell. And it’s the story I remind myself when I get anxious about things …

“Something really good must be getting ready to happen.”

And it will, as long as I don’t resist and I don’t scramble. Just surrender to it all – and accept all party invites. 🙂

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82 Responses to “ The Time I Got Schooled About Allowing ”

  1. ada says:

    Thank u. It felt like it was directed towards me and right on time. I cannot emphasize enough how important your blog is to me thus making you an integral part of my life. Thank you for sharing and doing what you do.
    Also thank you everyone for all the valuable comments on this blog. I have learned a lot from them.

  2. Mary says:

    Wow. Just… wow. She is the queen of surrendering! It is quite amazing that people can be such great allowers. It makes us believe we can get there too. I am so grateful for stories like these, thank you for sharing! Great post!

    • Jeannette says:

      Right?! That’s exactly why I tell HER story whenever I’m talking with someone about allowing. Even all these years later, that’s a skill level I still aspire to.

      Thanks for reading, Mary! 🙂

  3. Heather says:

    This article is such a valuable gem, Jeannette. Thank you for sharing.

    And I love reading about your inner thoughts. They are so real.

    And yes, I learned this very well, too, that, something really WONDERFUL must be getting ready to happen.

    And it was SO true when I allowed it, meaning relax and know it.

    Thank you again fora wonderful article, I will read again, again and again. 😀

    I love it.

    • Jeannette says:

      I have this visual, Heather, of how she “falls back” … I mean, there’s a way to do it with eyes closed and fists clenched and bracing for the worst, but we’re still doing it because we know we’re supposed to (and we think we’re doing it, but we’re so far from it it’s not funny) – and then there’s HER way of doing it … fall back, smile on your face, trust in your heart, completely at peace, looking forward to the fun.

      I can’t believe I can’t remember her name. I’ve been telling her story for years now!

      • Heather says:

        Oh, yes, Jeannette. Here I read again and yes, I noticed that part:

        falling into a “soft, warm, puffy cloud,”

        And thank you for elaborating that part in your answer, 😀 I appreciate it.

        The part about DUI driver though… 😀

        They don’t have resistance because they have no clear thinking about the consequences, is that right?

        I don’t like the idea about being like DUI driver but I appreciate if you elaborate on that bit as well. 😀

        I want clear understanding on every part of this article, just in case you know. 😀 😀 (And I want to ALWAYS be ready for something wonderful is about to happen. )

        Thank you AGAIN Jeannette. 🙂

      • Heather says:

        And I like the picture too. 😀

        falling into a “soft, warm, puffy cloud,”

        And I know what you mean when you said, eyes closed, fists clenched..

        And the way you explained hers:

        fall back, smile on your face, trust in your heart, completely at peace, looking forward to the fun.

        Yes, totaly different fall backs. :sigh: 😀

  4. Ming says:

    Jeannette, since I am doing some reflecting on my birthday. I had to look if my memory was correct the very first time I emailed you in tears: here’s what you wrote me:

    Allow allow allow, my friend. And then allow allow allow some more.

    It has served me well huh? 😉

  5. Sabs says:

    Just – wow. No other words. Definitely something I’m going to be chewing on for a bit.

    • Jeannette says:

      It’s one thing to talk about the concepts, but when you hear a story like that that’s unfolded in someone’s real life, it brings it home in a different way, doesn’t it?

      Glad it translated as intended. Thanks for posting, Sabs! 🙂

  6. Elaine says:

    Awesome story! A good lesson for all I feel.

    • Jeannette says:

      It definitely taught me some humility, that’s for sure! lol

      I agree, though, Elaine – I think many of us can learn from her example. Thanks for checking it out. 🙂

  7. Great lesson on surrendering to the Universe. I am etching the phrase, “Something really great must be coming for this to happen” into my phrase book of mantra’s.

    • Jeannette says:

      That’s a good go-to vibration when ‘trouble’ hits, isn’t it? 🙂

      On another note, I’d love to read your book of mantras some day, Dr. Ian!

  8. Nikky says:

    Wow Jeannette loved loved this post … Incase I haven’t said this enough to you already over the years …. I love your blog and you 🙂

  9. kelli says:

    I loved this post and it is a great story and a perfect example. Like you, I think I can sometimes think I am in a state of ‘allowing’ even when I’m not. I think that is something that comes in degrees, and it can be easier to do in certain circumstances than others, depending on what we are trying to manifest, why and how badly we want it or think we ‘need’ it to happen.

    When I feel like I am struggling with something, I usually get some sort of epiphany or manifest something that clues me in that I wasn’t as aligned as I thought and I’m like…oh, that’s why nothing was happening

    • Jeannette says:

      Yay for those insights that enhance our awareness, Kelli! Of course, it’s one thing to realize we’re not fully allowing and another to actually get there, but you’re right – it’s a process. And one worth being very gentle and kind with ourselves when we’re in it.

      Thanks for adding to the conversation here, Kelli! 🙂

  10. Della Monk says:

    Wowza! I also feel like this post is meant for me, because I’m in a similar position. There are times when I’m tempted to panic, but thus far, I’ve been able to resist that temptation and trust. It’s really hard sometimes. I really like the idea that something big must be going to happen, too. I met a woman last night, whom I never see, while I was on a short after supper walk, which I rarely do lately, and she gave me money for a job I’ve yet to do. So, yes, I’m learning to trust. And the Universe is already giving me signs.

    • Jeannette says:

      Woo hoo for seeing the signs, Della! Yeah, an experience like this will give you master skills in allowing, huh?

      Kudos to you for walking the talk. (And I’m sending good vibes for things continuing to unfold in delightful and enjoyable ways for you!) 🙂

  11. Tammy says:

    Yay!! This is great, love and allowing! Thank you for reminding me what allowing really feels like.

    • Jeannette says:

      I wish I could properly credit the massage therapist who taught me this, but I’ve forgotten her name, if you can believe it. I’ll never forget her example, though.

      Thanks for reading, Tammy. 🙂

  12. Gabi says:

    A flood of tears of joy just washed over me. Thank you Jeannette…thank you, thank you, thank you!

    • Jeannette says:

      I’ve probably told this story three times in the past week, so it seemed worth writing up for those I don’t get to talk to every day.

      I’m not saying it’s easy to practice what she did, but she sure offers a good example of what it looks like when we do.

      Sending good thoughts and big love your way, Gabi. 🙂

  13. Heather says:

    And yes, I read it again. 😀

    And I noticed the last sentence. (The first time round I was too excited to write the comment that I missed it.)

    Just surrender to it – and accept all party invites. 🙂


    What a great party is waiting everyone at GVU (Good Vibe University Party!!!) 😀 😀

    Thank you Jeannette.

    Is the scholarship is still available if anyone wants to accept this great party invitation? 😀 )

    • Jeannette says:

      One of my favorite things at GVU these days is your Self-Love leadership, my friend. So excited for what you’re bringing to the party!

      (The scholarship special will be available again next year at back-to-school time. Although ANY current member can always get switched over to that plan any time just by asking.)

  14. Maria Lesetz says:

    This is an awesome story, Jeannette! Thanks for sharing. That is pure allowing energy … Yes yes yes! WOW! Love it!!! 🙂

  15. Cheryl says:

    Jeannette, I so loved reading this! And the amazing thing is that I didn’t even click on the link. I had wanted to but then got distracted and when I came back to my laptop, there it was!! So I knew instantly there was a message for me..The reminder to let go, surrender, allow…is so much appreciated.

    Thank you so much for your amazing posts and humor and all that you do!


  16. For a hundred, no a thoisand, reasons, this is my favorite thing you’ve ever written Jeannette!

    Woo to the effing hoo!

  17. The best blog ever! Truly.

    • Jeannette says:

      All these nice comments you guys are leaving are starting to sound suspiciously like something I might have scripted, once upon a time. lol Thank you, Judy!! 🙂

  18. Karen says:

    Wow, awesome story….wouldn’t it be nice to have such trust….I love knowing there are such masterful manifested out there. I should go visit her….

  19. anonymous says:

    Thank you for sharing this wonderful story Jeannette. 🙂 Such a great reminder to allow, relax, and know that everything will be taken care of! Allowing feels so good and freeing. I love to tell myself when I feel worked up about a problem, “just go do something fun!”

  20. Lissette says:

    I mostly lurk, but this brilliant story on allowing inspired me to post and to thank you Jeannette for all you do to make GVU such an amazing place!

    Love it!

  21. Mary says:

    I love this story too. How nice to just skip the angst and go right to the solution. I want to be like her when I grow up.

  22. Layan says:

    Simply incredible article! For some reason I got goosebumps while reading it! Thank you Jeannette 😀

  23. TB says:

    This is also why kids are better natural manifesters, than adults–they have that child-like faith and trust. It’s crazy, but a couple of days ago, I was researching ways to believe like a kid again, and was frustrated because many of the search results were overly religious in tone.

    I thought, “Damn, I wish I could find an explanation that was more spiritually based.” Today I checked your site and Voila! This article was the first thing I saw.

    • Jeannette says:

      Wow, you’re right, TB – I hadn’t thought of it in that way, but kids don’t have the “worry” skills that many of us adults do, huh?

      Here’s to being more childlike in that respect! 🙂

  24. Namaste says:

    Another great post Jeannette =)

    I’ll be pondering this during my time on the treadmill today. Thanks =)

  25. Elle says:

    Best story ever!

  26. Gail says:

    Truth: Attraction is manifested “so long as I don’t resist and don’t scramble.” Attracted to this story, it invites a spirit of trust. Enjoy envisioning more hearts touched with each retelling.

  27. Ena says:

    I LOVE this story Jeannette!

    I got a glimpse of this level of surrendering once and it was when I found myself in a situation that many things crumbled in my life in a short period of time (relationship, job, miscarriage)…

    I think what ’caused’ this kind of feeling inside of me, was the belief that ‘I’ve got nothing to loose any more’ (of course that was not true, but..)

    I love when Deepak Chopra says: ’embrace the uncertainty, it’s where all the creativity is..’

  28. Mia says:

    Thanks, Jeannette! Yet again this is exactly the message I need at that point in my life. “Something really good must be getting ready to happen” – that’s so uplifting!

    Have you ever read Tosha Silver’s writings, especially “Outrageous Openness”? Her teachings are all about how to surrender and “let the Divine take the lead”. I like her unique approach (roughly based upon the work of Florence Scovel Shinn)- it’s different from the usual LOA stuff but I find it inspiring.


    • Jeannette says:

      I keep meaning to get my hands on that book, Mia. It’s run across my radar a couple times – I will add it to my amazon cart now. Thanks for the tip! 🙂

  29. Karen says:

    Yes! Why am I getting teary-eyed? Yes! Just yes!

  30. Peter says:

    Jeannette I love and appreciate your work so much you are great I always receive a post from you blog in times of turmoil so I would just like to thank you of that. And thank you Namaste for your posts through Facebook

  31. Barbara says:

    This is a gem of a story with such a treasure within, Jeannette! While I am pretty good at the “It will all work out” vibe because “I’ve been there before and it always works out comfortably,” I really could benefit from adding the “something really good must be getting ready to happen” into my mantra when things get “kinked.” That just FEELS so much better, more exciting, with an anticipation of good things to come! So I think I’m going to write it down on an index card in a prominent location so I see it and say it everyday, actually. I think that will serve me in “allowing” more when unwanted contrast comes along as I’ll already be in the practice of feeling that.

    Thank you for this!

  32. I keep thinking about this post and noticing how, even after nearly 30 years of practicing this very powerful idea of allowing in every conceivable place, there are still some very subtle but quite interesting places where will find that I have smoothed over and placated contrast and then announced to myself that I was allowing, when I wasn’t really.

    In fact, this morning, I was very much delighted to find some highly crunchable contrast that got me all excited about all the good stuff that is coming from it!

    But first I had to realize that I had made a placating decision that Paul & The COL refer to as “eating your peas first,” a phrase I absolutely love!

    So, now I’m actually leveraging the contrast in a big way (just took a break from it to post here), and looking forward to what happens as a result, because I know it’s just going to be awesome!

  33. Love, love, love this!!!!!

    This is also the level of allowing to which I aspire. I’m getting better and better at it. The last few months, I realized that I didn’t quit my job to do my business full time.

    I quit my job to run this experiment: Allow more. Effort Less.

    I want my allowing skills to be 100 times better than my ninja project planning skills that made $20 million in a year.


  34. Loulou says:

    What perfect timing – as always!
    Thank you for posting Jeanette x x

  35. ketan Damor says:

    Amazing story, thanks for sharing.. I learnt greatest lessons from.

  36. Lightline says:

    Hi Jeanette and LOA experts, I am new (probably 3 weeks old since I have been practicing LOA).It is for the feelings I have that I AM with him, talking, messaging, meeting etc. I would like yur opinion on:
    1. I don’t visualize at specific time. but I do feel the feeling many times a day.
    2. I don’t get jittery when I see him (he is at work with me, different building and projects though). Rather I always get a smile. I am pretty good at throwing out the “otherwise” feelings out of mind.
    3. It is scary that I have this strong feeling that we are always connected, he is always near me (not always physically but through feelings).

    In that context, I would liek to know, if I am a good manifestor? What else I should try to be where I am?

    I have been feeling a lot of good changes in me like – I am smiling quite often. I am able to change my mood with positivity etc. Nothing is forced at the moment.

    Please answer. Thank you for answering me. 🙂

  37. Lightline says:


    Thanks for your reply. 🙂 You made my day!


  38. Camille says:

    This now ranks among my favorite posts from you. I am so incredibly grateful you shared. Thanks Jeanette!

  39. Barb says:

    Thanks for that story – a good reminder as I, like so many others, have some ongoing issues that I just have to relax about, know I’m where I should be and that they will pass and even better things are in store for me! ????

  40. Barb says:

    Thanks for that story – a good reminder as I, like so many others, have some ongoing issues that I just have to relax about, know I’m where I should be and that they will pass and even better things are in store for me! ????

  41. Heidi says:

    I just have to tell you that I did not read this article the first time I saw it posted. When it came up today on my facebook feed I figured I better check it out. And it’s a good thing I did because now I have even better understanding of what allowing is, can never have enough of that. Thank you so much for everything you do. And I’ll make sure the next time you have a blog post I’ll read it the first time (and probably many more times again). ♡♡♡

  42. Cindy says:

    Awesome article with impeccable timing! I love your energy and your style of writing. Thank you for sharing your gift!

  43. Sharon says:

    Truly a powerful article on “allowing.” All can relate to that feeling of desperation and being a Capricorn, I could relate to what you meant but I am learning to let go and know and allow. Thanks so much for this, an all-important, reminder.

  44. Octavia says:

    This is amazing. I read this post and it resonated with me. I have been waiting for my Australian visa to be granted since 25 September. I live in South Africa. I am booked to be on the Vortex of Attraction South Pacific cruise, which sails from Sydney on 21 October. Since the day I applied for the visa I have been planning my trip with the knowing that I am going and the universe will find a way to get this visa approved. In the next three days my flight leaves to Australia.

    This post came to my email at the PERFECT time. As I read the article I literally felt the resistance melt inside of me and I just allowed the process. A few minutes later I opened my inbox and there was my Visa granted notification! hahahhahaaaaa the better it gets, the better it gets!

    Thank you Jeanette. I know I will meet you at one of the Abraham-Hicks events someday. Maybe Cancun 2016?

    • Jeannette says:

      Ha! What a wonderful story to read, Octavia! Congrats on getting your visa – and yes, maybe we’ll meet up at an Abe event someday! 🙂

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