If It Makes You Feel Better …
Can you throw a proper pity party?
Are you willing to think nasty thoughts when the occasion calls?
Sometimes our success is held up specifically because of our unwillingness to do (or think) what feels better.
That’s easy to happen when what feels better isn’t particularly pretty or socially approved.
So let’s remember how the system works …
Good vibrations beget good manifestations.
Which is why deliberate creators are so focused on flowing the good juju.
The problem occurs when we’re hesitant or unwilling to do what it takes to get to those good vibrations. We inadvertently hold ourselves in perpetual limbo by not being willing to engage thoughts or actions that feel better.
Whatever could I mean by that?
Sometimes the path to higher vibrations means traveling through some dark territory.
Like when we’re afraid of the news the doctor just delivered.
Or jealous of a colleague’s success.
Or ticked off when someone doesn’t deliver what they promised.
Lots of us have been conditioned to avoid “negative” places, either because it doesn’t fit our self-identity as a “good” or spiritual person, or because we don’t want to be judged by others, or we’re nervous we’ll get stuck if we go to the “dark side.”
There can be a variety of reasons we might not be willing to go through dark places, but someone who knows how the system works recognizes it’s sometimes required travel on the path to good vibrations.
Because if we aren’t willing to feel our feelings, and make the journey up the vibrational scale to better feelings, we’ll stay stuck in what we’re trying to avoid.
You might not immediately spot some of these as “better feeling thoughts,” but trust me, on some occasions they were just what I needed to break my evil spell:
- “He can suck it.”
- “She can suck it.”
- “They can all suck it.”
- “I hope they’re miserable together.”
- “He is going to regret that he ever messed with me.”
I know. Not pretty.
And sometimes, it’s where we gotta go on our path to feeling better. Not always, but sometimes.
My favorite story of this is when a neighbor and I were talking about what to do with another neighbor who was causing mayhem in the hood. We were at our wits’ end trying to fix things and felt completely disempowered. She said, “Look, I know how stereotypical this is sounds (she’s Mexican), but I think we should slash his tires.”
We’re both nice girls, so when she said that we burst out laughing! It was the funniest, most relieving thought we’d engaged in the whole conversation! And it was magical. That laughter dispelled the negative energy we’d built up around the problem. And no, we didn’t slash any tires. But it sure was funny to think about it at the time.
Speaking of slashing tires, sometimes it’s action we resist on the path to feeling better. But there can be magical vibrational movement when we unfriend the sister-in-law, take a sick day to spite the boss, or tattle on the guy who did us wrong.
(Very often just a rich visualization of those actions can create the same energetic effect. Which I recommend before actually resorting to strong action in the heat of the moment.)
My point is this: when we refuse to engage a thought or action that doesn’t seem “nice” or “good,” we may be stalling our highest alignment.
So remember that if it feels better, it’s in service to your vibrational upgrade.