Invite Your Problems to Stay
Super excited about this guest post from Nancy Barry-Jansson! I asked her for it after she mentioned this on a GVU call, and am thrilled you can also hear it Nancy’s own words by clicking the audio button below. Enjoy!
If you’ve been reading Jeannette’s blog for a while, you’ve read about the importance of letting go of resistance. Now, you may get the idea and logically understand the reasons, but still find yourself surrounded by persistent contrast.
Think about the recurring issues and “problems” in your life. If you are like most people, it won’t take you that long. You’ll know the answer immediately!
So, the important question to ask is, how does your body feel when you think about these topics, even the ones that you think you have been addressing?
Is it possible you are more in resistance than you realize?
Recently I watched one of Spiritual Catalyst and Spiritual Teacher Teal Scott‘s videos where she discussed this very topic. First she answered a question related to achieving wellness when someone is not experiencing that, but her response could easily apply to anything we want that we are not currently experiencing. So, in this example, just substitute your issue for the term disease.
Teal Scott said:
“Every disease is a teacher. So, one of the best things you can do if you are sitting in a diseased state, is to give it permission to be there for as long as it wants to be there.”
she also said…
“You can’t be at war with any aspect of What Is, and be winning. You can’t be at war with any aspect of What Is, and be benefiting in any way.”
That’s pretty profound, but it makes sense since every subject vibrationally contains the problem, the solution, and everything in-between. By labeling a current life situation as a “problem”, or feeling negatively toward it, we are automatically standing vibrationally opposite of any solution(s). As long as you feel sad, mad, frustrated, or irritated with a situation, that emotion is your indicator that you are vibrationally too far away from the solutions to *even be aware* of them!
To see a solution, we must release the resistance to the problem and line ourselves up vibrationally with the possibility of solution(s). Yeah, I know. Easier said than done when you are being reminded every second of your illness, or have no clue how you will pay your bills, or keep having that *same argument* yet again with your beloved.
So, how can you begin to line up and let go of resistance to your “problems”?
Teal suggests we stop labeling our experiences as problems, and instead see them as our friend and teacher who has an important message for us.
So, that might look like:
1. Acknowledging the “problem.” Formally acknowledge and welcome it into your life, since it’s been there anyway. By shining a light on it, it can no longer lurk and wreck havoc in the background. Invite it in to be your guest for as long as it needs to be there and get comfy. Pull up a chair or poof up a pillow on the couch.
2. Start a loving dialogue. Grab a journal if that feels right to you, and start by admitting how you have felt about it in the past. Let it know that you are willing to see it now as your best friend and teacher. Ask it what it is here to teach you, and let it know you appreciate any insights it would like to share with you throughout the day.
3. Check in with it often. For the rest of that day and week, consciously notice what related thoughts pop up that feel good (which means you’re on the right track to get the lesson) or which ones don’t feel good (which means you are resisting it). Raising your awareness on this subject and being open for the lessons will benefit you tremendously.
4. Express appreciation. Every time you consciously notice a related thought popping up, regardless of how it feels, say Thank You to your new friend/teacher and really feel that appreciation. Feel good about becoming more conscious and appreciating the lessons … even if you are not sure you fully get them, yet.
5. Trust the process. Know that when you have learned what this experience came to teach you, it will leave on it’s own. In the meantime, get comfortable and relax.
But, wait, Nancy…by welcoming the problem and appreciating it, aren’t we focusing on it and fueling it with our attention?
That’s a great question.
Actually, with our conscious attention and positive energy, we are fueling it to move along. What we push against and resist, is what persists. As Jeannette has shared before, our joys often seem fleeting because we don’t resist them, and so like any emotion that is not resisted, they seem to quickly move on. When we make our “problems” our friend, instead of an enemy, we open the door to the alchemical powers of love and compassion to transmute the energy as we reap the benefit of the lessons.
On this journey, your souvenirs will be the lessons you learned, a new appreciation for the teacher, and feeling empowered to welcome in new friends/teachers the rest of your life.
What are your thoughts about this approach? Are you willing to invite your “problems” to stay?
Nancy Barry-Jansson is a long-standing Good Vibe University faculty member and the creator of AffirmingSpirit™ Blank Affirmation Cards and the Six Steps to Powerful Affirmations free eCourse, both of which can be found online at AffirmingSpirit.com.