Know Core Values for Manifesting Success

September 18, 2012 | 14 Comments »

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How can knowing your values help you manifest what you want?

Well, just knowing them can’t.

But knowing and honoring your core values will definitely help you get what you want.

Because when you live your values, you live in vibrational alignment.

And we know that’s the sweet spot – alignment is what allows our best manifestations to unfold.

A core value is simply what matters most to you in life; it’s what makes you who you are. As in, without it, you just wouldn’t be you.

For some that might be humor or generosity. Learning or spirituality. Creativity or connection. The list goes on.

So how does one live their values?

It starts with identifying them.

There are a couple ways to do that:

One is to narrow them down from a list. You can do that here.

(Some coaches don’t like that approach because sometimes we choose values we think we should have, rather than what is really true for us. For example, parents feel guilty if they don’t pick “Family” and lots of folks choose “Honesty” even though that isn’t really a core value for most.)

The other method to identify your core values is to recall a recent time when you were at your best, having the time of your life. On Cloud 9 and loving it!

As you revisit that experience, ask yourself what elements were present that made that so enjoyable for you. Those key elements are clues to your values.

For example, I recently had the time of my life at the sheepdog trials in Heber. Why was that so fun for me? Dogs!! Hello, dogs, dogs and more dogs! Plus, they were so well trained – they were the best in the business and so impressive to watch! It was delightful! And then there were the Splash Dogs, which was so much fun it was off the scale! I loved talking with other dog lovers! The whole day was really really  fun!

What were the elements that made that so enjoyable for me? Animals & Nature, for starters. Mastery, for another. Connection (with others who were passionate about this stuff, too.) And it was Fun!

No surprise that my core values list includes Nature, Connection, Mastery, and Fun.  🙂

Next recall a recent time when you were having an awful experience. Where nothing went your way and you were just miserable. Identify what was MISSING that made that experience so unpleasant. Those elements are also clues to your values.

I personally like to combine both of those approaches to help a client identify their core values.

Once you know your values ( it can be a process, so be patient with yourself while they reveal themselves to you), write them down where you’ll see them daily. Now it’s just a matter of choosing in favor of your values as often as possible.

Like when you’re choosing between going to a movie with a friend or staying home to read a new book – which one better helps you honor your values?

When you’re choosing jobs, lovers, even what to wear today – pick the option that best allows you to experience a core value (or two) and you’re guaranteed to have a better time with it than if you hadn’t.

And a good time equals alignment!

That’s how knowing – and living – your core values can make you a better manifestor.

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My promise to you: when you live your values, you will feel better than ever. You’ll feel more yourself, more alive, more fulfilled, more satisfied, more in JOY.

And in that sweet spot of alignment, Universe will yield the good stuff you’ve been wanting.

If you’d like more help with identifying your values, download my free ebook here. It’s a great resource for clarifying what matters most to you.

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14 Responses to “ Know Core Values for Manifesting Success ”

  1. Dana Boyle says:

    I can’t tell you how true this is in my life. I’ve recently revisited honoring my values in my business, always, no matter what. It resulted in firing a couple of clients, returning to some core rules and boundaries that I had started to allow to be softened, and standing in my power and success again.

    It’s easy to forget to honor your values, and it’s even easier to spot when you’re doing it, because it doesn’t feel good and “bad” things start to happen in your experience.

    The good news is you can always return to your core values. Mine are connection, kindness, sensuality, family and bliss.

    I bet an interesting exercise would be to evaluate the different areas of your life and whether you are in alignment in those areas based on your values. I bet lining up in an area that isn’t lined up will help with manifestation in all areas. Just a hunch from my money vibe tune up days.

  2. I agree, Dana!

    I think that when we’re not honoring our values, we’re not in integrity, i.e. – misaligned. Wherever that might be happening in our lives is worth looking at and changing.

    Knowing our values also might help explain why some things feel so bad whereas other experiences we can easily take in stride. If something was in violation of our core value, we would feel it especially strongly, huh?

    Thanks for posting on this one, my friend!

  3. Evan Griffith says:

    One of mine’s gotta be lightheartedness, Jeannette. You know how I know? I keep coming back here!

    Seriously, your breezy way of discussing ANYTHING, forbidden or mundane, is infectious.

    There are only a few — very few — others who do this so well on the Internet (OK, only one other I can think of really). You are in your own league. And you do it with such brio, while making every message meaningful and impactful to boot . . . makes me want to get a DNA transfusion.

    Can I borrow a strand of hair?

    Evan

  4. Evan, that is my favorite compliment of the day! THANK YOU!

    And I might say the same of your own writing at http://www.freakybeautiful.com/

    Really delicious stuff you’re posting there! 🙂

  5. I wanted to pass along a couple of additional questions that wonderfully expand upon this exercise. I got these from Tanya Geisler’s free ebook, The Joy Pages, where she has a similar values exercise. They really clarified things for me:

    Once you determine your ten most deeply resonant values, rate how well each of them is currently expressed in your life on a scale of 0-10. (That was very revealing to me.)

    Then ask yourself, “What if they were all a 10?” Wow, imagining that just blew my bliss out of the water!! I return to that amazing feeling regularly.

    To top it off, “If they were all a 10, what would you be doing?” For me, this question is a fantastic open doorway to walk through to visualize how I want to create my life.

    My values were: beauty, creativity, freedom, harmony, honor, openness, quiet, spirituality, success, trust. But I’m going to do the exercise again using your list, in case my choices have changed! Thanks, Jeannette!

  6. Julie, that is fabulous!

    I may edit the post to incorporate those questions in it – really powerful stuff!

    I was going to suggest to people that they revisit this exercise annually or so since it does seem that our core value list can change over time, but I don’t exactly understand how that can be if it represents the CORE of who we are. How can THAT change?

    And yet, I find that my list has changed slightly over the years.

    Anyone know why that is? Am I mistaking values for needs?

  7. Stephen says:

    There is nothing about us that does not change “over time.” There is no such static state in the universe. Even the center of the wheel turns as it rolls.

  8. About knowing your partner’s values – I wanted to share that when we know what matters to the ones we love, it’s easier for us to support them in experiencing those values. And when they’re living their values, and we’re making it easy for them to do so, that’s a match made in heaven! (They may even think you walk on water!)

    For example, I knew that two of my ex’s values were competition and athleticism. Which is why I knew not to try to pull him away from time on the golf course or his bowling leagues. It’s why I knew to ask “how’d you do?” when he came home, because it mattered to him. I didn’t have to go golfing with him, I just supported his choice of it for himself.

    Oooh, and with our kids! This comes in handy, too ..

    Some parents – not all, but some – try to choose values for their children. But I think we’re hard wired with these, so it’s better to help identify your child’s values than try to ingrain the ones you’d like them to have.

    How do you spot your partner’s values? You could always ask them to do the exercise, but I think it’s easy to tell if we just pay attention to what matters to them. What do they prioritize? Or what are they NOT prioritizing that’s costing them a sense of well-being and satisfaction?

    If we look for when they’re at their best and having a grand time, we’ll pretty soon see patterns that can lead to identification of a core value. 🙂

  9. I have now done the exercise again, several months after the first time. Six of the ten words on my values list did change, but I think not the real meaning of them. It was more like a refinement: I found better words to match my core vibration. Creativity became vision; openness became warmth; success became richness; quiet became presence; trust became wisdom; spirituality became joy.

    Stephen, I agree it is the rolling wheel moving ever toward more expansion and love.

    My best clue for finding your core values is:

    1. Narrow your list down to the pertinent ones (I had 37)
    2. Clump them roughly into groups that revolve around the same idea, so it’s easier to choose the best one.
    3. Then look at each word and ask yourself, “If this were a 10 in my life, would it feel like bliss beyond belief?” Watch how fast they sort themselves out! Haha!

    I adapted this idea from Tanya Geisler’s Joy Pages as mentioned above, which can be found free at http://www.tanyageisler.com/the-joy-pages/

  10. Janette says:

    Wonderful! All of it – post, comments, the works. You guys have lit up my morning big time. I especially love the suggestions on what to do once you have your list. Gonna have some big fun with this one! Squeee!!!

  11. Ann Harrison says:

    Something I heard years ago (maybe at CoachU?) was that, by taking a look at your most recent bank/credit card statements, you can see what your true values are… they’re what you’re spending your money on!

  12. Tammy says:

    Oh my gosh Jeannette! I followed this exercise and found that one of my core values was Adventure. If you had ever asked me if this was one of my core values, I would have said NO WAY!

    But after doing this exercise, I think the picture in my head of Adventure was distorted because when I looked at what really excites me, what my most happiest moments are, so many of them do have to do with Adventure.

    Thank you so much for the aha moment!!!!

  13. ssahib says:

    In this day and age it is easily to loose your sense of self, morals, and values. The taste of success changes our outlook on life, but like you said it is very important to hold on to those core values. I have recently moved out on my own, and I have been reevaluating what I value in my life. It is what we value that dictates the way we respond to the unpredictable events in our life. By analyzing our good and bad experiences allows us to see how we can deal with future situations in a better manner, a redesign our thought process. Thank you so much for this wonderful post. It has really struck a cord in my heart!

  14. Kitty says:

    Jeanette, you nailed it! What are my core values?!

    Yikes after all the work, meditation, etc., it is hard to pin down. For once, I am not pushing charging through, just letting my core values show themselves to me. Nature, Spirit, Life Long Learning are the three I got so far.

    How valuable too, as my job has taken me to the BIG CITY and I have drifted from nature and now can at least take a walk in the forest or by the shore on the weekend.

    Knowing core values so good!

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