Law of Attraction La La Land
I remember once talking to a coach who told me she could maintain an optimum vibration while her marriage was in the active stages of failing. I will fully admit I laughed, out loud. Not too surprisingly, I haven’t heard from her since.
This is not unlike the many well-intentioned, well-trained law of attraction geniuses who are in a marriage that is abusive on some level or a job that is draining their life blood, who are looking the other way – in the name of law of attraction. La la tra la la. I know the song, because I’ve been there.
We’re trained to do it. We practice it. “Tell a better story.” Don’t put your attention on things that don’t please you. Focus on what you want. Focus on what you want. Focus on what you want. Don’t look over there if you don’t like it.
So, we engage in distraction, or disillusionment.
However, here’s the rub.
The foundation for law of attraction is self love. “Law of Attraction” without self love is going to be LOA gone terribly wrong. When we’re engaging in a situation daily that is hurting, it’s like being a frog in a pot boiling slowly. It’s freaking hot, and it’s honestly painful, but on some level you just don’t notice it. However, on some level you do. On some level that broadcasts to the Universe you are in serious peril and pain. So, because the Universe always responds to our dominant vibration, when you’re boiling to death, telling a better story with a smiley face sticker on it, isn’t likely to result in smiling faces.
There is no Law of Attraction practice without self love. I recently interviewed someone who said she never uses the words self love because they are so hard to define. She only talks about behaving lovingly toward yourself. Truth be told, staying in a situation that’s hurting you is not behaving lovingly no matter how hard you’re trying to tell a different story. It’s virtually impossible to legitimately shift your vibration on any subject when you’re boiling to death slowly.
Lisa Marie Hayes is a Relationship Coach and host of Relationship Rx on Blog Talk Radio, where today she launches a new interview series: The Top 10 Most Influential Women in Coaching. Find Lisa on twitter, facebook, and pinterest.