Live It Like You Picked It
Not wanting something is like turning on a powerful magnet to make it happen.
The more we don’t want it, the stronger we magnetize it.
(Think cancer, terrorism, crooked politicians, etc.)
It’s why my girlfriend attracted weird guys and married men while I was having nothing but great romances.
It’s why my colleagues had issues getting paid when that was virtually an unheard of experience for me.
I just didn’t worry about it the way they did.
Anything we’re trying to avoid is having the opposite effect. It just activates it and calls it forth.
That’s why it’s worth engaging a different relationship with the things we don’t want.
Instead of resisting it, or even trying to make peace with it, I’m using a radical alternative:
Like it’s what I wanted all along. Like it’s the best thing that could have happened. Like this is Universe answering my best dream come true.
Because if you can approach it that way, it will become that for you.
Recently the IRS sent me a little letter asking for big money. (Except it wasn’t a request exactly. It was more of a “you will do this” notice.)
Which wasn’t my favorite thing, to say the least.
In fact, for years, I have nurtured resistance for this very experience. I knew it was there cooking all along – and I tried not to be afraid of it. But there it was, just the same.
Maybe it was an inherited fear, maybe a cultural one. Wherever it came from, it’s fair to say that the IRS is on my top 10 “don’t wants” list.
Which is, I’m sure, why they’re writing me. I was a big magnet for it due to how much I didn’t want it.
So to expect any sort of happy ending here, I knew I had to find a way to drop the resistance and make some peace.
With my usual techniques falling short (yes, it shifted it somewhat, but I could still feel the charge that was there), I turned to a more extreme approach for neutralizing resistance:
Live it like I picked it.
Engage this experience like it’s the best thing that could have happened. As if I chose it on purpose. As if talking to the IRS, having the privilege of being on their radar, is a dream come true. Like I just won the lottery. Like I’m the lucky girl they picked to talk to!
When I can approach it that way, things are bound to unfold better than when I was being dragged kicking and screaming into it.
It’s only my perception that this is a bad thing that makes it so.
When I’m willing to change my mind about it, the experience changes, too.
And this holds true for whatever we might be resisting – bad breakups, divorces, bankruptcies, losing our jobs, losing our homes, having cars stolen, etc.
In fact, I’ve heard Abe share how Esther, in the heat of contrast, will turn the vibe around by naming ten good things about it.
Could I name ten good things about getting this attention from the IRS? Well, I’m the best there is, so if anyone can do it, it’s me. (That’s my little pep talk to get good at this list-making challenge.)
What’s the good news about getting this letter from the IRS?
- It’s teaching me one of my greatest fears isn’t that scary after all. I got this!
- It’s actually not that bad a request. I can totally do what they want.
- Based on the information they have, they were right. It’s not their mistake.
- And it is a mistake. A fixable one even. This could end up making me money.
- This could be what prompts me to seek out a proper tax person at last.
- I’ve got plenty of time to deal with it. The IRS doesn’t operate that fast.
- This is helping me straighten out my IRS vibe once and for all!
- I get a chance to practice my manifesting skills here. woo hoo!!
- The people I’ve talked with so far about this have been very nice and helpful. It’s actually been a rather pleasant experience in that regard, believe it or not.
- I learned a lot about systems, and software, and myself. And the power of my vibe.
I was stretching by the time I hit #9, but that was easier than I thought!
This is helping me remember who I am and how I operate. There’s no such thing as a real problem unless I decide to make it one.
And in the big scheme of things, this is, as my dad would say, “Rich people problems.” This is not a real thing to worry about! (Not that anything is, but especially money!)
Sometimes we learn that best by actually going through it. As is apparently the case for me.
You’re invited to “live it like you picked it” the next time a big bad monster appears in your life. Remember who you are (eternal and divine) and how you roll (you’re a master).
You know how this system works and you’ve got good skills to bring to the party. Fear can be fun for a minute or two since it runs the whole expansion routine, but don’t let it get crazy on you.
You know too much to play it that way.
(That’s my truth pep talk for both of us.) 🙂