LOA Lottery Insanity
There’s a girlfriend I haven’t stayed in touch with who used to believe that once she had the right man in her life, everything would be as it should.
She believed once she had her right guy that her future would be secure, her children would behave better, her day job would become optional, someone else would mow the lawn, and her happiness level would go through the roof.
So she divorced her current husband to make room for a better one (certain that her current husband was her biggest problem in life), and eventually found a dream come true guy.
From what I can tell, this guy is fabulous: devoted, faithful, romantic, gorgeous, makes great money at a good job, treats her (and her family) like gold, was thrilled to marry her …
… and yet, this girlfriend is anything but the deliriously happy version of herself she imagined she’d be once Mr. Right showed up.
No surprise to us creators, right?
We know the fallacy of falling for the belief that something or someone will make us feel better.
(At least – on our good days, we remember.)
We know that responsibility for how we feel is strictly ours.
We’ve all seen what happens when someone hitches their wagon to the “circumstance” they think will bring them a “happily ever after” … either they spend their lives chasing the elusive dream that they never get lined up with – OR – they get it and are disappointed it’s not all it was supposed to be.
(Can you tell I’ve been there, done that? I know whereof I speak.)
But we don’t have to have lived this already to understand it. We know nothing happens that we’re not energetically lined up for, and that we are in charge of how we feel – it’s not dictated by our life circumstances.
Which is why I get a little irked every time I hear a deliberate creator talk about how excited they’ll be to win the lottery.
Before your feathers ruffle, let me clarify.
I have nothing against money. Especially big easy money.
I am, in fact, a huge fan of big easy money.
But I am not a fan of seeing powerful creators attach themselves to an outcome that can’t possibly happen when they think a winning ticket will “save their day.”
If you think your day needs saving, and you think the lottery can do that for you, you are forgetting how this all works.
The same way my girlfriend was nuts to think a different guy could change her life happiness, we are insane to believe that a windfall of cash will make us feel better.
It doesn’t.
It can’t.
Only YOU can make yourself feel better.
And when you feel better, guess what? You don’t care about winning the lottery!
Now, I have lots of colleagues and friends (including my fabulous Dad – Happy Father’s Day, Dad!) who play the lottery for fun.
I’m not talking about you guys.
I’m talking about the folks who pin their hopes and dreams on using the law of attraction to win the lottery and change their life forever the better.
The Universe can’t deliver what you’re not lined up for. So whatever you think a lotto win will do for you – you might want to bring that responsibility back home.
Because the lottery can’t make you happy, secure, free, or even rich. (And despite popular opinion, you don’t have to hear too many real life stories about lottery winners to know that.)
I’m also not saying winning the lotto is always an unhappy ending.
I’m just saying lotto money will do for you whatever you’re already flowing. (Which is why my girlfriend is her same old unhappy self with her fabulous new guy.)
Like Alexander Green quotes in The Secret of Shelter Island, “Money doesn’t change who you are, it magnifies who you are.”
So instead of intending to win the lottery, how about instead we intend to be happy? Since that’s all we want anyway!
How about instead of dreaming up winning numbers, let’s take a few moments to count how we’ve already won the lottery? (I got to be born here now! On a planet where the skies are blue and there are over 300 brands of chocolate! At a time where we have fabulously adventurous contrast to explore with the most amazing friends for the journey! I could go on, but soapboxes probably aren’t the best vibe …)
My point being that if you think the lottery can change your life for the better, you are mistaken. Only you can do that. And when you do do that (change your life for the better), you won’t be so attached to lottery tickets.
Yes, Dad, I know – unless you’re buying them for fun. I get it.
And the first person who posts here asking for tips on how to use law of attraction to win the lottery, I swear to God, I will make you read Money Mojo Magic or some other suitable reminder to get your money vibe straightened out once and for all.
(Although it is always fun to hear Abraham on this topic.)
While I am feeling feisty here, I am also totally open to seeing how I’ve got this wrong, if you care to share. Or if you think I haven’t stated the point clearly or strongly enough.
Your thoughts?
You are so rocking the point Jeanette!
It is so so so true when you deliberately create you don’t care about all the thing you thought you did prior.
Good money vibes forever!
Thanks for the vote of support on this one, Karen!
Your comment is making remember Gregg Braden who said that once you know – TRULY know – you can create whatever you want, the funny thing is that you don’t really have to have anything any more. I’m not living at that level on a day to day basis, but I sure have had glimpses of what he’s talking about.
Again, thanks for reading and for launching the conversation, Karen.
“I’m just saying lotto money will do for you whatever you’re already flowing.”
I like this- pretty much anything can be substituted for ‘lotto money’ and remain true. Just serves as a good reminder to me to keep my vibe in check before going through with whatever I expect to bring such’n'such a result. Not to allow myself to get caught up in expecting what I’ve always gotten. Anyway. Cool quote.
EXACTLY what I was thinking, Bixx. I wondered why I got hung up on “lottery” as the topic when you could put ANY subject in there and have it be just as true.
And you’re right, we’ve all got our “such’n'such”s, don’t we? ha
Thanks for chiming in here, Bixx!
Hola Jeanette,
Didn’t you mention in MMM that a
majority of lotto winners end up
in worse financial conditions than
before they had won? Interesting fact
that. I am not going to say that I
have not fallen for that trap before
once, twice, or thirteen times. Always
reinforces the lack!
I do like counting the ways that I have
already won- I got the most fab flat iron
on sale and both my wallet and hair are
much the straighter for it!
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MsNikki, I have read (and do quote) reports saying that a surprisingly high percentage of lottery winners are (supposedly) financially worse off years later … but, you know how those studies are. (We create the truth, rather than discover it.)
So it’s probably worth taking any of those statistics with a grain of salt. HOWEVER, the point is still valid that we still need to manage our vibration rather than expect that a financial windfall will make us happy ever after.
LOVE your ability and willingness to focus on wins already present! Thanks for sharing that, MsNikki!
Brilliant Jeanette,
I love the story, I too have friends that think that when they have “the ideal Man” their life will be perfecta and all their challenges will be solved.
I know that once I am in the flow and I allow, the abundance does flow and I am easy big money. Having had money and lost it I know know this was a lesson for me too……
Thanks for writing this.
Suzie, I smile every time I see your gravatar!
Glad to know I’m not the only deliberate creator who learned this money stuff through personal experience. lol
I have a little bit different take on buying lotto tickets. I call them Schrodinger’s Lotto tickets. I buy scratch offs and then keep them a while before I scratch them. In the meantime, I use them as tools to visualize what myh life will be like if I win big. That makes it a little easier to visualize the life I am creating because the biggest thing I visualize is freedom from worry about money which reduces my stress and makes me very happy.
Jackie, that sounds like a highly empowering take on lotto tickets! I love that you’re using them to amp up visualizations, and it’s easy for me to see how having unscratched tickets laying around WOULD enhance the money freedom vibe. Like, I’m so free from worry about money that I don’t even care if I’m sitting on a big winner! lol And that this habit draws out (magnifies even) the possibilities.
Thanks for sharing your take on how lottery works for you and your manifesting habits, Jackie.
Jeannette..I LOVE this post (gee, get the feeling I’ve said THAT before
First of all, I couldn’t agree with you more. What’s funny is that I’ve never been interesed in the Lottery, even before I knew about LOA and deliberate creation, I just never believed I would win, so there was no fun in playing. Never had the dream about what life would be if I won..none of that. So, without even knowing what I was doing, I was creating resistance to the whole idea of it.
I have thought about it in the exact way you described and it always felt like a huge ticket to disappointment to me. If someone were already in vibrational alignment with it, the actual receving of the money would not really make much difference in their life.
And if they were not in alignment with receiving that much money, they would sure enough “lose” it one way or another in a fairly short period of time. It has been proven time and time again, without even the mention of LOA. Studies of lottery winners have shown that people’s happiness levels return to the level they were BEFORE they won the money in a relatively short period of time.
Really makes you think about what it is we are really after when we purchase ticket. Of course, a great vibe lifter and fun exercise is to fantasize how you would spend the money and how you would feel IF you won. Get into the winning feeling and you will win, whether you play or not!
Laura, this subject is really lighting me up these days, when you said, “… people’s happiness levels return to the level they were BEFORE they won the money in a relatively short period of time.”
Those set-points – and how to quickly, effectively, and permanently adjust them – is what I want to explore more with myself and clients.
Such good stuff there!
I also like your inquiry about what we’re really after when we purchase the tickets.
In fact, maybe some of you lotto players could share that here? I am more than a little curious about what other motivations and inspirations are behind your support of the lotteries.
Always nice to see you here, Laura! Thanks for adding to this conversation.
OMG, are there really over THREE HUNDRED BRANDS OF CHOCOLATE???????
*whooshes straight into the vortex of deliciousness*
Oh wait … was that not the point of the post?
Heheheheh.
I LOVE this post and I LOVE the feisty. I also realise I’ve developed some resistance around this because I have been AVOIDING buying lottery tickets because I don’t want to be tempted to hang my happiness/security/wealth on a big win.
And that’s just more resistance, right? After all, who am I to deprive the Universe of one possible way it could deliver my money to me, if I’m making that decision out of yet another type of fear?
It’s this kind of circular logic that makes me laugh – and also makes me very grateful there are over three hundred brands of chocolate.
Ha! Vortex trip – I know that path in, too, Janette! lol
(That’s what I read online about over 300 brands, but I bet there are more than that because I personally must have tried at least 150 of them. ha)
You know where I think a lot of folks find the resistance with the lottery, too? When their tickets don’t payoff. I think it takes a focused creator to be able to buy week after week without feeling like it’s not happening or it hasn’t happened yet.
And we all know what that signal creates. (Or doesn’t create.)
But I’m off topic, too. Back to the chocolate! hee hee
Nice to see you online again, my friend. Big love …
“We’ve all seen what happens when someone hitches their wagon to the “circumstance” they think will bring them a “happily ever after” … either they spend their lives chasing the elusive dream that they never get lined up with – OR – they get it and are disappointed it’s not all it was supposed to be.”
What think you of this: The Circumstance = My Happily Ever Now. ? ?
As in “I hitch to my Happily Ever Now wagon brings me all kinds of winning tickets, like handsome men and purry cheetahs, dreamy homes and things all Neat-ah” ? ? ?
“Happily Ever Now!” ha ha! I LOVE it, Annettie, and of course you would be the one introducing me to that phrase/concept!
Fabulous!! Thank you for that!
I love this advice. I totally agree and need to work on this myself, not so much with money or the lotto though. Thanks! Deb
Yeah, I’ve got my own, too, Deb, that get disguised as “things that will make me happy.”
God bless us for our willingness to look and learn, huh?
And to have a sense of humor about ourselves through it all!
Thanks for reading, and especially for adding your thoughts, Deb.
HI Jeanette
I see this all the time with clients – it’s the ‘when I have/am … then I will feel/happy/safe/secure/free..’ equation – what you’ve pointed out that NOTHING outside of yourself will give you what you are seeking – it is all inside – the outside just reflects that whole inner world.
Here are some more indicators you might be in that when/then trap: “if only…”, “I hope that…”, ” want to but…” [these were mine this morning with a cranky call form my mother! 'If only my mother wouldn't be such a pain in the bum' followed by tears. Oy! It's not my mother's responsibility to manage MY vibe].
Thanks for the reminder – back to feeling good
Can SO relate, Zoe! Mine often shows up as “he should” or “he shouldn’t” and I find myself blaming my sweetie and his actions for my mood.
Happy to say I’m finally getting a handle on how to release the habit of holding off on satisfaction with this body till it looks or weighs what I think it should. But that one’s been a long time coming.
Your words of wisdom on that topic have helped me tremendously.
Brilliant post, Jeannette. Thank you for the reminder once again!
Thanks, Marci. I’m glad it landed as intended: helpful reminder.
I think this article is hypocritical. First you say that you think big easy money is great, but then you berate those who want to win the lottery by saying money will not solve their ills. Well, it won’t solve the ills of someone who acquires it by those other means, either! You are discriminating solely on the basis of how the money was obtained. And that means you didn’t think this through.
Obviously, money IN ITSELF is not going to make someone’s life complete. Nor are other people IN THEMSELVES going to make someone’s life complete. But there is nothing wrong with money, as you say, and there is nothing wrong with other people being awesome, also as you say.
So in the part about money you tripped up. There ARE people whose major problems WOULD be solved with the application of some money. No, it won’t make their lives complete by itself, but if some of their problems are money-related, what matter the source of the money? It’s all just money. Neither the serial number on the bill nor the denomination indicates how it was obtained.
We know that being filthy rich has its own problems, but they tend to be different kinds of problems than those of the poor. There is a famous quote, although the name of the author escapes me at the moment, to the effect of “I would rather have the problems associated with too much money, than those associated with too little of it.”
I understand that your main point is that happiness (at least in many ways) comes from within. But your argument about the lottery in particular fell completely flat.
No, winning the lottery is not likely, all by itself, to suddenly turn someone’s life into an orgasmic fantasy. But neither is making a fortune in the stock market, or by some other means. Certainly one should not COUNT ON winning the lottery (any more than counting on making a fortune in the stock market or by other means), but you make it sound like a bad thing, when in fact there is absolutely nothing wrong with WANTING to win the lottery.
Hi Jeanette,
This was a great post – so full of truth.
In my past I was a private banker and worked with two separate lottery winners. Both of them had so many problems after winning the lottery that I think their lives were better before!
I agree we have to focus on the happiness and quality of life we desire for ourselves, not on the money.
I thought about that as I wrote this piece, Anne, that it isn’t just lottery money that we can get off track with thinking will solve all our problems, but money in general, in fact ANYTHING outside of ourselves.
I tried to convey that in the post, but apparently didn’t make that point clearly enough.
Your second paragraph I totally agree with. But the following one, I’m not on board with. (Not to say you’re wrong, I just don’t believe that “there ARE people whose major problems WOULD be solved with the application of some money.”
That’s exactly my point of this post – money doesn’t solve problems.
You also said, “winning the lottery is not likely … to suddenly turn someone’s life into an orgasmic fantasy. But neither is making a fortune in the stock market, or by some other means.” Which I think is well-said and easy to agree with.
It’s just that I hear a lot of manifestors working on winning the lottery, which is why I focused on that particular topic for this post.
But the point is that we can’t create something we aren’t already vibing. And if we’re already vibing it, we no longer “need” that thing to get us there. (Which also ironically makes us a better match to it – which is why the rich get richer and the poor get poorer, right?)
Whether it’s a man or a job or a lottery win or a bikini body or an ocean-front house – those are all the “middle man” things for what we really want: to simply feel better.
Thanks for the chance to expand on this more deeply, Anne. Nice to meet someone else who can get a little feisty with an opinion about life & LOA, too! lol
To clarify: I understand you were referring to people who are COUNTING ON some kind of miracle to save them. And to that extent I agree. But wanting something and counting on something are two different things.
Angela, how cool that you’ve had direct experience with others on this topic!
I like this quote from you so much I may go in and find a place to work it into the original post: “We have to focus on the happiness and quality of life we desire for ourselves, not on the money.”
So well said!!
Thanks for that, Angela.
Well, I think of winning the lottery when I feel like what Abraham says, when I am trying to use the law of attraction to help me out after I have jumped out of a plane!
Enjoy the ride.
Janette, I am with you 300 kinds of chocolate is absolutely vortexy!
Anne Observer, what Jeanette is saying applies to getting any boatload of money and thinking it is going to solve any problem. It is ok to want to win the lottery but expecting it to change your life is a whole other story.
One of the things that I have discovered about being a deliberate creator is that when the goods come, it is just there. It is not a bells and whistle thing. It is just the next natural occurrence when your vibration is all lined up.
Here is to luscious dollars and earnings and winnings!
Sometimes, Iyabo, I imagine that your name must mean “love” in another language.
(Did I tell you about the dream I had about you the other night? Oh yeah, I put it on your facebook page!! lol)
Anyway, yes, “Enjoy the ride.” HA!
You crack me up.
And let me just take this public opportunity to thank you for the money belief re-writes you’re creating for folks at GVU. Your Money Mindset Mastery program packs a punch!
We’re very lucky to have you there.
And to Anne on your second comment: I agree the vibrations of wanting something and counting on it are very different. A subtle distinction to those who might not be used to feeling out the truth of their energy, and an important one!
Thanks for adding that.
Jeannette,
I think what you’re talking about is getting stuck in the Step 1 of deliberate creation (the ASKING) and trying to control the Step 2 (the HOW it will be delivered). Whether it be about money, love, career, or some other intense desire that we think will make us happy, we don’t allow it in when we are constantly in the Step 1 and trying to control Step 2. We certainly cannot do Step 3 (the allowing of it in) by trying to hold on to Step 2 (the how).
So anytime people try to figure out the HOW (Step 2), it’s going upstream, isn’t it? I like to think of going downstream as floating in an innertube–no need for oars! Woo hoo!
I don’t necessarily think that asking to win the lottery is a bad thing as Abraham says, “there isn’t anything we cannot have or do…” But if it’s meant to be the solution to making one happy (the HOW we think being financially free will come about–step 2) then it probably doesn’t feel too good. And feeling good is how we best allow it (Step 3).
So if the idea of winning the lottery makes you feel good and one can just play with that energy, without vibrationally feeling that it’s the answer to all things, or that you need it, you can win the lottery (and are probably more apt to hang on to the money, too).
I find that I’ve gotten quite good at casino wins. I’m not attached. I’m not playing to make me happy. It just feels good to play. I’m enjoying it and I win. I reach for my intuition and play what feels right and I’m a casino jackpot winner! Woo hoo!
P.S. Just a note that a vibration of feisty-ness may attract feisty!
Oooh, yes, Barbara! You’re reminding me of Mike Dooley’s Matrix and how when we attach to the specifics, we’re doing ourselves in. Mike says what we want to attach to is HAPPINESS.
Give the Universe some room to play with.
Hey, have you heard Abraham talk about casino wins, by any chance? I seem to remember them saying that a gambler has a BIG vibration to buck from the casinos – because they’re so strongly flowing the energy of keeping your money. Or something like that.
Anyone know that one?
And yay for feisty!! I do love it when people engage!! (Nice observation on your part about like attracting like.)
Tee hee to the vibration of feisty.
Jeanette, did you sign up to have the most public vibration ever?
I love it. Because you are such a teacher, I love how it comes up just in time for us to learn something juicy from.
Thanks for the love and yes, my name is love!
LOL
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Iyabo, I think it comes automatically with a big mouth and an intention to live with transparency, authenticity and openness. lol
Something I’ve been thinking about lately, and this post w/ comments seems to bring it to a point even more…
I’ve realized just how easy it is to create. For instance, your friend DID create that “new” fabulous man. What she didn’t create was her happiness. That’s what is so amazing and crazy about LOA! We create what we “think” we want, and it actually happens, only we sometimes find out, it wasn’t really what we wanted. Oops! Such as with some of the lotto winners. It is all the other “stuff” that the lotto win would bring that they really want, but instead of focusing on that stuff and the happiness factor, they focus on the win itself, no? (The ones who don’t win presumably focus on lack; the ones that win but lose it all are ones that focus on the win only)
Sometimes I catch myself being intimidated by LOA because I know how EASY it is for me to create… I better be careful and direct it to my truest heart’s desires, and not what my mind is telling me I want, ya know?! And I certainly appreciate deliberate creation with such respect that I am in awe.
I’ve manifested plenty of things that were not quite what I had expected. I think I’ve shared before the time that my life was a whirlwind of chaos and I was so overwhelmed that I found myself constantly wishing for time to stop so I could take a break; I could get off the merry-go-round of life for a bit and recuperate without “losing” time. So… all my clocks and watches stopped working (not just batteries, actually broke)! Ug! Big U really has a sense of humor, no? haha! When I realized what had happened, I laughed my butt off! Anyhow, it meant that I had to be clearer about what it was I really wanted to create.
I feel as though I went off topic a bit, but I think the lotto topic is just another example of really KNOWING what it is that we want to create in our lives, not just choose something with our head (as if trying to analyze and problem solve). Just another way to say the same thing… “fixing” doesn’t work!
No doubt, Jessica!
I’d need more than two hands to count how many times I’ve done that myself. (Create the thing I thought I wanted only to realize that wasn’t really it.)
Agreed when you said, “It is all the other “stuff” that the lotto win would bring that they really want, but instead of focusing on that stuff and the happiness factor, they focus on the win itself, no?”
Money’s just the medium – whether it’s to put the roof over our heads or get the medical attention or designer clothes or transportation to see the world – what we really want isn’t money. Even those who say they want money just for the sake of money (I have had a client or two actually tell me that), I think it’s the FEELING that money gives them that they’re really after (whatever that feeling might be).
I love the example you shared (and your beautiful sense of humor about it) in getting time to stop!! lol
What a hoot you and Universe are having together!! Thanks for the smile tonight, Jessica.
PS. My gram plays lotto and scratch tickets for the mere fun of it! AND she wins a lot, but as much as she enjoys a win, she enjoys the pleasure of scratching the ticket, the excitement of not knowing if this is a winner, etc. Then if it is a loser, she is fine with that! She knows that the next ticket will be her winner! It is so fun to see her face light up. You know like little kids when they scratch a ticket. They just have fun scratching and if it is a winner, it is like frosting. My gram is one of the most frugal people I know!! It is crazy the way she can pinch pennies, etc, yet there she is playing her lotto, just for fun, in moderation. What a sweetheart she is, I can’t help but smile!
Now THAT’S the example that I think works really well, Jessica! Someone who’s playing for fun, not as a means to an end.
The picture you’ve painted of your gram is making me smile, too. (Again!) lol
Hahhaha! I’m glad you clarified! Cos I’m a deliberate creator and I am totally excited about winning the lottery
I AM!! I’m not ‘working’ on winning or waiting for it to ‘someday’ do what I want cos I’m very happy right now AND I sure as heck am gonna be just as happy when I win. So there. So there. So there. *wooshes away on her lotto breeze*
Ok I just read the post (had only read the 1st few lines before I jumped in to comment, LOL) and I’m gonna differ.
“”So instead of intending to win the lottery, how about instead we intend to be happy? Since that’s all we want anyway!”
Yes AND how about intending to be happy and rich and whatever else we want? Happiness is already mine. I’m not intending winning lotto to be happy. I know better than that
What I want to do with lotto money is keep $5-10 million for funding LOA courses and projects all over the world for kids. And $1 million for GVU projects.
Till then, I can do things in a small way and keep dreaming of when I’ll be able to do it in a BIG way.
I see everything right and good with that.
“”How about instead of dreaming up winning numbers, let’s take a few moments to count how we’ve already won the lottery?”"
How about doing whatever one wants to stay in the vortex?
Dreaming of winning the lottery and dreaming up winning numbers makes me totally trip out in happiness so I shall continue to do that (and continue to win a bunch of times, thank you very much
I already have a super awesome life, and while I don’t say money will buy me happiness, money CAN help fulfil many of my dreams on a faster, bigger scale.
Whether I win lotto or not (of course I will!), I’m gonna help change the world one mindset and traveller at a time. Woot Woot!
Tia, your first response is exactly what I expected from you. Someone who is an example of what it looks like to play for fun, not for “fixing.”
But your second response has me puzzled.
I wonder how this result, when you said: “What I want to do with lotto money is keep $5-10 million for funding LOA courses and projects all over the world for kids. And $1 million for GVU projects.” – how will that make you feel?
I’m guessing it’s gonna be something along the lines of happy or feeling good or something in that neighborhood.
Which is the real end result, right?
Even when we’re doing something for another (something considered a ‘selfless’ action) it’s really still a ‘selfish’ action, because we do it in order to make ourselves feel better. Or in anticipation that it will do so.
There’s no getting around that.
Seems to me you’re just dreaming up even bigger happiness than you already experience, no?
You finished with this, though: “Dreaming of winning the lottery and dreaming up winning numbers makes me totally trip out in happiness” which was my whole point of this post, and exactly what I expected from you on this topic. (That happiness is ultimately what it’s about for you.)
If lottery wins (imagined or real) are your method of getting happy, more power to you!! That’s what I’m saying it’s all really about anyway – getting happy!
That’s a bullseye, in my book.
I love this post and all the responses. I so relate! I mean, oh boy did I do the ‘Man will make it right’ thing until that light bulb clicked.
I can only add, and this I got form YOU, Jeannette, if you think the lotto (whatever) will ADD to your life, you may want to loosen your grip on reality. As far as I can see, ‘reality’ ain’t where the action is! How did they put it in the Matrix? There is no spoon.
There is no lotto.
There is no perfect man, or job or home or magnificent treasure ‘out there’. ‘Reality’ is not where you’re going to find it. Reality is a glimpse in the mirror.
In other words, if you aren’t seeing it, then it isn’t in you.
When we see the world as projection,a representation of ourselves, it turns everything on its head (or arse). A startling experience but when the dust settles we can see the light–we are ‘it’, the light of consciousness, dreaming wild dreams.
Everything we can ever want is within, because that’s where everything is.
How do you feel now that you won the lottery. Better yet, how do you feel now that I won and am giving you a lot of the winnings? I bet you feel really good! So, why would you not expect to be able to attract that? Ok, I understand your point on this. You should get your life together first and then attract all the money, then you will be truly happy with the winnings. Being happy is the whole point, not just the money. How have I done with this reply?
“Reality is a glimpse in the mirror.” Whew!! Goose bumps!!
I can’t imagine a better way to say it, Kim. This really hit home: “Everything we can ever want is within, because that’s where everything is.”
It’s where everything comes from. And to think there’s anything “outside of us” is to forget our true power.
And I suspect anyone struggling to pay the rent won’t find any comfort in this.
But realizing it changes everything.
Thanks, Kim.
Right, Leo. What I think you’re saying is that we shouldn’t expect that something happens and then we feel better.
Since everything is happening according to how we feel (or how we feel colors our experience of everything that happens), our power is in feeling how we want to feel FIRST which lines us up with all the stuff we wanted. Which we don’t really need any more anyway, since we got what we REALLY wanted when we found the FEELING place.
I think we’re on the same page, right?
Actually, being able to do that (with the $$) goes beyond feeling good or happy, it’s a feeling I can’t quite describe .. something way bigger than happiness. Like a mission, a purpose and while I’m all about feelin good, this is not the end result I’m after when I talk about big money (because it’s not just for me).
That result looks like a world where people believe in themselves and each other, create community and changes in the fabric of society. It’s a deep yearning for connection and oneness and I want others to experience that too.
Money won’t change what I do, it’s just a means to reach more people and touch more lives on a larger scale. Now I’m getting all serious and thoughtful on us!
Ahhh I know that’s what you meant to start with
– I just wanted to point out that wanting to win lotto and thinking that it can change people’s lives for the better is not as far off as we think and I get tired of hearing that money doesn’t bring happiness.
I do believe that money brings a certain amount of happiness, esp if I can help change people’s lives ie, some circumstances to an extent, the same way I believe it won’t make a *huge* difference in the long run or be sustainable unless someone’s mindset changes.
Money can buy temporary happiness but it won’t be sustainable without being in alignment. Maybe I’m running around in circles here, esp as I know what you mean and agree, just as you know what I mean and agree … LOL!
Sounds like we’ll need new lingo for the level of happiness you’re manifesting, Tia.
My favourite bit Jeannette?! And as I did not know how to bold it, I have framed it with ***!
‘We know the fallacy of falling for the belief that something or someone will make us feel better.
***(At least – on our good days, we remember.)***’
That tiny sentence, Miss J across The Pond, coming from a Master Manifester, and to which I can relate so wholeheartedly, has just made my day! Have I told you lately that I love you?!
Indeed, Gorgeousophie, just like Kim said above, I’ve had my moments of believing I’ll be happy when … (Russ makes up his mind, the dogs stop pooping in the house, etc. etc.)
But we DO have our good days, don’t we?
LOVE YOU, TOO, Gorgeousophie!
Well, I see what you mean, and in general I agree with you that looking for our counting on some miracle to make our lives better is not a good thing. But I still disagree with you about a couple of things. I do know people who have genuinely had bad fortune; who have had things happen in life for which Karma would not account: the good people who have had a family member with cancer and medical bills that cost them their worldly goods and drove them into the poorhouse, just for one example.
I do not know if you have ever been there, but sometimes even a little money can make a major difference in someone’s life. When you have none, the barriers to making any in an honest way can be enormous. You can be the most upstanding and hardest-working person in the world. Try to get some money when you have NONE. I dare you. It is not an easy thing.
Imagine you have no money. NONE. No friends who will take you in. You do not have a working telephone, or a roof over your head. No automobile. It doesn’t matter much how much of a hard worker you have been all your life. You show up at a job interview malnourished, with bad breath and wearing greasy clothes. You are not likely to get hired. The state agencies that offer help are ONLY available by telephone, a few hours a week, and even if you beg enough money to put in a pay phone and dial your fingers off during those hours you are lucky to get through. (Yes I know that sounds unlikely, but it’s real. If you don’t believe me, I can record the standard message from just such an agency and give you a link to it.)
Are you honestly telling me that a few hundred dollars would not make a difference in this person’s life?
I understand that this is about good vibes, and that I am writing about rather unusual cases, but they exist. I have seen them myself. So do not disparage the power that a little money can have. Even a little bit can actually save lives. That may be an indictment of society today, but it is true, nevertheless. For your average person, with a job and a home and so on, gaining wealth may not be the key to happiness. But some people, some GOOD people, would give a lot to be an average person with a job and a home.
So, GoodVibesCoach, you might not be on board with that paragraph I wrote, but I have seen it work with my own eyes. It might not be the common case but it is real. You might not like the idea, but to deny it is to deny reality.
I am not trying to drag down this discussion. On the vast majority of things I agree with you. But I don’t believe in glossing over realities, either.
I will not belabor the issue further. After all, I do understand that this is supposed to be about Good Vibes! And I appreciate that. But when I see something that I think is wrong I think it is also wrong to not step up and say so.
Anne, it sounds like we differ on some pretty big points. I’ve come to believe that thinking I know what’s “good” or “bad” for myself, let alone another person, is faulty thinking.
Not saying that’s how it IS, just saying that’s what I believe.
But I’ve had the personal experience enough times in life where something I would have labeled “bad” turned out to be the best thing that could have happened – and heard others share the same experiences – that I finally realized it’s no use trying to think I know what’s right or wrong or good or bad.
I actually prefer the thought, “It’s all good.” And with a little creative thinking, that’s an easy one for me to get on board with.
Including this discussion! woo hoo!!
And truly, the best part of this has to be that we are ALL and EACH making it up for ourselves. So whatever we choose to believe, that’s how it is. For US, in our world.
Could we HAVE a better deal than that?! I don’t think so.
Thanks for contributing here, Anne. You’re speaking to a perspective that lots of people feel but won’t share out loud. I can hear the cheers from people across the globe reading your posts and glad that you said what they were thinking.
Great point, as usual, Jeannette — everything we’ve ever wanted is because we THINK it will make us *feel better*, so reaching first for *feeling better* will attract more of what we’re really seeking!
When we love our work, have fun every day, and earn more money than we ever thought possible, things like the lottery fade into the background. I’ve also noticed when we are really happy, it’s really easy to ignore painfully miserable people who only enjoy picking fights or seeing others be miserable.
Many blessings,
Nancy
Speaking of cheers … did you hear mine, Nancy, when I read this in your post? “When we love our work, have fun every day, and earn more money than we ever thought possible, things like the lottery fade into the background.”
I GET that! (Oh, goosebumps again!)
And I realize I’ve heard the “masters” say that before, but didn’t really get it until you said it now in just those words.
THANK YOU, Nancy!!
Jeannette, I completely and utterly agree with you, and I have to say that this post is long overdue!! I was trying to express this sentiment the other week on GVU, but you did a much better job at it than I did.
I think people get into the trap that thinking that winning the lottery is the ONLY way they can get money and make their dreams come true… and that is so utterly wrong! The Universe has millions of possible ways to give us money and help us achieve our dreams, and sometimes money isn’t even needed! But when people place all their eggs in the “lottery basket”, they are really short-changing themselves because they are shutting themselves off to all the possible ways that Universe could deliver them what they want.
Just the other day I received an affiliate check from someone that I don’t even have affiliate links up for anymore!! But somehow I made some affiliate sales and received a check completely out of the blue. Sure, it wasn’t 20 million dollars, but I’ll take it nonetheless! Not to mention the countless number of “free” vacations I have earned in my lifetime that were paid for entirely by someone else. If I had been waiting around for enough money to pay for these vacations, I would have missed out on them entirely!
Sure, I would love to win the lottery just like everyone else, but I know I don’t *need* to in order to receive the money I want/need and create a magical life. I’ve already created a life I love, and I’ve never even purchased a lottery ticket!
Good stuff, Jeannette!
You’re making me think, SHG, about the way we tend to tie money and dreams is curious, isn’t it?
On Star Trek, I never saw anyone being held back by money. And before money was invented, how did people go about following through on their dreams?
Someone in the best blog contest wrote about how at first her goal was to be in the top ten finalists. But she realized she already won when she read a few comments from people about her writing and the impact it had in their lives. THAT’S when she realized she was already a winner.
I wouldn’t be surprised to learn that many of us use money (or lack of it) as an excuse. An excuse to stay safe, a reason to not risk failure, a trick for staying in our comfort zones – even when those zones are uncomfortable.
Anyone who makes money (and its presence or absence) more powerful than their own ability to choose how they feel and what their experience in life will be – well, that’s their choice.
SHG, you always do make me think in bigger ways than I was before you showed up. I love that about you!
Nancy! Little shocked face Little shocked face Little shocked face! Now, now, to whom are you alluding!? Hehehe!
Anne Observer, you do have a point about how money can enhance someone’s life however it seems to me that you have gone off on a tangent which has little to do with what Jeannette said in the first place?! Or am I utterly and blissfully mistaken?! But hey Dude, everyone is entitled to an opinion and all I can say is that to be free to express it is one HUGE blessing!
Amen to that, Gorgeousophie! (Our freedom to choose!)
And I’m also off on a couple different tangents than my original point too, I suspect. lol
Fabulous blog! So, attach to the outcome of the feeling you want – happy, secure, carefree, etc and the outcome is already manifest in your life!
I still have a hard time agreeing we should attach to ANYTHING, but yes, get happy and you got what you really wanted!
Unless you’re Tia, in which case it’s bigger than regular happiness. (Which I believe if anyone will lead the way to, it is Ms. Tia Sparkles!)
Look at you, all with your “feisty” on!
Ah, so very well stated Jeannette! I did chuckle when I read that bit about “if I didn’t state it strongly enough”! I think you were quite clear, Ms Muse..er Ms Maw!
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Just last month I read an article about the couple who won the largest lottery in Long Island history last year in Newsday. The article made it very clear that while their lives were quite different now – they didn’t feel any happier. In fact their children liked it better before they won because their parents were much more available to them then.
The only thing that makes for happiness IS happiness! Of course it is quite possible to have the big easy money AND the happiness – as long as feeling good remains the priority.
I’ve heard Abraham say things like – you don’t want to win the lottery of water – you don’t want to drink 10 gallons at a time – you want just enough at the right time – same with money.
Rock on with your feisty self,
Dr PhilGood
I like how you’ve stated this, Phil.
It reminds me of how Nancy on a GVU thread saw someone doing something and she said that is SO not in my pie! (Reference to Abe talking about how we each get to make our own pies. Just because one person likes strawberry rhubarb doesn’t mean we all have to eat it. lol)
So this concept of Big Easy Money AND Happiness is one that suits me. I’ll pick it. Money is welcome in my party! It’s not conditional on my party that it be there, but like someone quoted Dolly Parton below, if I get my choice, which I know I do, I’m picking Money can be part of my pie.
And I have nothing against those who choose otherwise. Everyone doesn’t have to agree with me in order for me to enjoy my choice. I perfectly understand that we all get to decide for ourselves.
What I AM for is making the conscious decision. Knowing we have the power to choose.
Wait, am I on another tangent again? lol
Wonderful blog post. Oh freaky that I found this, because I’ve been thinking about how fun it would be to win the lottery and all the things that I could do, but I wasn’t focusing on how wonderful my life is now (that was sort of an after thought to this lottery fantasty).
A few years ago someone told me that I’m responsible for my own happiness and it changed my life. So empowering, but it was difficult for me to shift into this new mindset.
This post is so wonderful, because when The Secret hit the world, everyone I knew that read the book was trying to attract lottery money – I told a friend that if she focused on how broke she was, then a lottery winning wouldn’t change that broke feeling and the money would go away, because she’s attracting lack, not abundance. She didn’t understand.
LOA is a very difficult concept to grasp at first and then one day it clicks. But little reminders along the way keep us on track.
In my opinion, you are one smart cookie, Kimberly: “… if she focused on how broke she was, then a lottery winning wouldn’t change that broke feeling … ”
Thanks for posting!
That is an excellent point, Kimberly!! If you’re trying to win the lottery in order to get away from feeling broke, then your vibration is focused on “broke” and that is what you will attract more of. Same thing goes for wanting a relationship because you are resisting being single or alone.
What a great reminder that we are always attracting to us what we are FEELING, whether or not we want more of that!
Oooh, and you DID make an excellent point of that on a GVU thread, Mary! Thanks for the translation to other life aspects here.
Important point!!
Jeanette,
First of all, you rock! This is a great post.
This past week, I found out that I attracted a large sum of money from an unexpected source. Though I’m highly appreciative, the whole thing feels like a combination of relaxed and deep appreciation.
I think I’m better able to allow these bigger sums because I’m getting better at allowing the Universal Manager to do it’s job. Thank goodness!
Thanks for your awesomeness Jeanette.
Yay for letting Universe do the “work,” Paul!
Although, I will acknowledge that for some of us who have different habits, relaxing appreciating and allowing CAN seem like work at first. lol
The redirection of thought DOES take effort!
Thanks for sharing, Paul. I always smile to see you here!
I love reading comments! I made notes this time because I have things pop into my mind and then forget them by the time I’m done reading! haha!
1) Sonia Choquette refers to money as “liquid creativity” and this has served me very well! It puts money in terms of assisting us to express our most powerful, creative selves!
2) Charlie and the Chocolate factory?! Poor family who plays the candy lotto- for the fun of it- not per the greed as the other children. So, that family was able to truly benefit from the “lotto”… although fictional, I’m guessing it can represent that modern day family that Anne was talking about perhaps? Just curious about this example that popped into my mind! That family found happiness while poor, so to me, is a great example! They didn’t complain, they just wanted that experience and it turned out in their favor in so many ways!
3)I like the reference to water and not drinking 10 gallons at once. Perfect. Is there a reason to win the lotto for that much money? Why not just win (or manifest easy money another way) for just what we need at the time? Can it be considered gluttony? What I mean is that you don’t want so much money that your choking on it or not know how to handle it?! For instance, wanting so much money to fund LOA projects, wouldn’t you start the project and then the money would follow? It seems to me it is out of order… If you are vibrating a “LOA for kids project around the globe”, then you’d set out on that mission and all the resources would fall into place, including money!
So why not just manifest the amount we actually need for our current creation/project? It just seems that if we wait to act on our creations for the “win” then we are not actually vibrating our creation. It isn’t that big money is bad to me, I’m just chewing on the idea that “extra” money is the energy equivalent of having our home filled with clutter. It is all energy, but what do we really need to handle at any given time?
I have another interesting study that I was told of, but I will have to find my notes in order to mention it here. It is a graph, so I’ll have to describe in words… but I really want to share it! I think it will be interesting point!?!
Great topic, once again!
I’m going to do the same thing you are, Jessica, and make notes before I forget them as I read your whole post!
1. I like Sonia’s way of thinking about money!
2. It seems to me we can easily find examples on all sides: people who felt their life experience enhanced after money showed up, people who found their life experience detracted after money showed up, people whose life experience isn’t affected by money.
Which seems to me proof that it isn’t about the money. lol
Money doesn’t make or break us. Even though we can find examples of time where it seems like it did, or it seems like it didn’t – the fact that both those examples exist tell me that Money isn’t the differentiating factor.
3. No DOUBT on the ‘how much money do you really need in your bank account’ for hell’s sake?! (Oh shoot, my feisty’s back on!)
HELLOOOOOO!!!!
Oh boy. I should move along.
4. Come back with your description of the graph, please. Looking forward to hearing about it.
WOW! I saw this blog post when you had only 4 comments, then said I would come back to comment later and now you have 56 comments! Oh my God!!! You really “spark” a lot of scintillating conversation Jeannette — that’s for sure!
I do LOVE this post for many reasons. 1) It resonates with me in more ways than one (all of which I will describe in my comments below) 2) It speaks to the essence of “pulling the curtain to seeing behind the scenes” of what our initial desires are. Obviously, behind Lottery Curtain #1 is NOT just a big pile of money that we can only play and roll around in — it is SO much more than that! 3) It triggers some of my own beliefs around winning the lottery and makes me think on a deeper level about what that strong desire is all about (although, as you know me, I do think on a deeper level and I have a good sense of how it would make me FEEL!)
So, here goes my frank and blunt comments about the topic. Some of these comments may surprise you and some may not, but nonetheless, I would love to share my thoughts:
1) I DO want to win the big JACKPOT lottery (but don’t worry I am not going to ask you how to “align” to make that happen! . Now, I know what that is about. It’s all about a feeling of freedom, security, being able to do whatever I want, whenever I want for however long I want to do it. (And there is a whole lot more of seeing the vision of what I would do with all that money — I have envisioned it, felt it and actually felt a pure sense of joy throughout my entire body when I imagined it — THAT can ONLY be good!) Now, in my present life I DO have a feeling of “freedom” and I continue to look for things in my present moment that will make me feel exactly how I would feel when I would hit the jackpot. Sometimes I even find myself saying (in response to something that just happened in my life) “I feel like I just hit the jackpot!”
2) Even as a Law of Attraction teacher, I know that some of my beliefs need to be challenged. For instance, I may feel right now that the “lump sum from a jackpot” is what will give me the financial means to allow me to do the Road Trips I so love for 3, 4, 6 months straight if I want to and I could do them in a big luxury RV (similar to Esther and Jerry’s monster bus). Now, on a practical level I know that I could manifest doing something like this in different ways — however, our brains tend to go to the HOW that we can perceive in that moment (which can be a dangerous thing because we are cutting off all other possibilities!)
3) I have always loved making money and attracting an abundance of it to me. Again, it is definitely because of the “feeling” it gives me, but nonetheless, it is something that has been important to me in my life because of all the “options” it has provided for me. I do play the lottery on a regular basis and most of the time I come from a light-hearted place when I check my tickets. Matter of fact, it is those exact times that I win something, vs. the other times where I am looking to win! Reminds me of an Abraham-Hicks event where the woman was asking about finding her ideal mate and the answer back to her was when you are feeling so good that you FORGET that you even are looking for your ideal mate, that’s when he will show up. So, lesson is … for me … don’t look for it, just come from a place of FUN and light-heartedness and don’t put any attachment to winning. If you do … GREAT! If you don’t … GREAT!
Ok, I think I posted a lot here. I will read it again and if I have more to say on the matter I will come back. Can’t wait to hear your feedback on my comments!
As always … thanks for the food for thought! (And by the way, maybe you should consider being a Sensory Scientist for Chocolate companies — THEN, you will definitely be tasting 300 or more varieties — I know someone who does this and they LOVE their job!)
HUGS,
Maria
Indeed, Maria, not just our initial desires, but also our limiting beliefs.
(As I recognized one or two in myself in the comments I’ve responded to here.)
Yay for feeling the jackpot in your present day life already! (And I don’t just mean when you’re visualizing the win.)
Your “don’t look for it” advice reminds me of the Watched Pot post. And I LOVE this from Abraham that you shared: “Reminds me of an Abraham-Hicks event where the woman was asking about finding her ideal mate and the answer back to her was when you are feeling so good that you FORGET that you even are looking for your ideal mate, that’s when he will show up.”
You know someone who HAS that job? Oh my gosh.
See, the lottery can’t TOUCH that kind of an experience for me. lol
WOW!!! Cool job!!!!
“”"For instance, wanting so much money to fund LOA projects, wouldn’t you start the project and then the money would follow? It seems to me it is out of order… If you are vibrating a “LOA for kids project around the globe”, then you’d set out on that mission and all the resources would fall into place, including money!”"”
Yes of course! Abosutely right! I said lotto cos that’s what this post was about. And I mean it to come any which way it does. It’s not out of order at all Jessica, but thanks for allowing me to clarify.
In fact I was going to add that to my earlier post and left it out, shld’ve just said that at the outset to avoid this misunderstanding
My point was/is: it makes me happy to imagine windfalls and as long as I’m not attached to lotto (I’m not) and am having fun with it, I’ll keep doing it. All good right?
My thoughts are EXACTLY the same as most everyone who commented & J as well – I just pointed out a small distinction ie, “a certain amount of money will bring happiness depending on one’s circumstances” before I went on to add that:
1) being happy / having fun is # 1 and
2) money will not sustain happiness unless we’re already happy or change our mindset to be happy
As for money being extra un-needed energy – that’s a brilliant point, hadn’t thought of that before! I see it as a matter of perspective. One perspective could be that extra money / energy is clutter, and another could be that it’s a vortex waiting to be dipped into
The best part? We get to choose what we want it to be.
I have definitely seen Tia’s vibe go sky high (or felt it, I guess you can’t really SEE that – ooh? Limiting belief?? ha) .. I have seen Tia’s vibe go SKY HIGH when she’s talking about the lottery and winning it.
It definitely works for her. From what I’ve seen.
Tia- I love your ending “The best part? We get to choose what we want it to be.”
Thanks for clarifying. By the way, I only used your example for sake of having one. I wasn’t choosing your post specifically, for any reason. I just figured it was a great example and I could relate to it!!
Thanks!
Anne Observer – the movie Pursuit of Happyness with Will Smith came to mind in reading your post. It’s a true story of a man who finds himself homeless with his young son and how he managed to get a placement in a share trading company eventually to become a multi-millionnaire himself. The movie is about self-respect, not about money.
It wasn’t the money that helped him – though he did experience relief when he had a few hundred dollars from making a sale – but he was still miserable and terrified. It was his dogged determination and his refusal to see himself other than as successful and deserving of respect that changed his circumstances. Money didn’t change his vibe and then the change the outcome – his constant diligence in remaining positive and focused made the difference.
I don’t think any of us can look at someone else’s circumstances and know that it was good or bad – even looking at someone with cancer who is made homeless by the bills. I read all the time of people who have found the vastest sense of peace through awful circumstances – including Echart Tolle (homeless and depressed now an international spiritual leader) Joe Vitale (homeless and now teacher of mindset and marketing on international stage, Tony Robbins – from bankrupt to long-standing personal development guru, and others on their deathbed through disease or accident who finally discover the oasis of peace within.
In none of these cases is it ever money that provides the peace – the peace comes from within despite the external circumstances – and from there the external circumstances change.
I’ve lived a lot of my life with very little money with very few possessions but never felt poor, but I did often feel stress and worried. It was only when I started to change my relationship with money -to see it as a lover and a friend and an expression of love did it start to flow in abundance and to feel more peaceful and happy with myself- a reflection of my own inner sentiments.
How can you feel wealthy when you have no money? It’s the same question over health – how can you feel healthy when you have cancer? Having had cancer and known what it is like to be completely disabled by disease, the only answer is – you have to feel healthy when you are sick, in spite of being sick – you have to feel wealthy, in spite of being broke – there is no other alternative if you want to experience something different. Focusing on what IS changes nothing – the feeling change then the world changes around you to match. A dose of health or a dose of money will change nothing – maybe a breath of relief – but unless you change focus and feelings, the default pattern of poverty/ill health will return.
Thanks Jeannette for creating this space for reflection.
Ooh, Zoe, that’s making me think (you’re talking about the Will Smith movie) about how relief CAN come from having some money flow in, which the relief happens because we’re thinking different thoughts and that emotional guidance system of ours reflects it accordingly, AND the relief can also come from finding the new thoughts with or without the money shows up.
The thoughts (that inspire relief) are NOT conditional on the money.
I like how you wrote that this movie is not about making money, but about self respect.
And you especially are in a position to make this point: “I don’t think any of us can look at someone else’s circumstances and know that it was good or bad.”
Right.
Thank you for that.
In fact, if this blog had a spotlight function, I’d be pointing it at your post right now.
Namaste.
Ooh Kim, I love it – there is no lotto. Nice one!
Of course, there is still chocolate. And always will be….
Janette, That’s what I’m talking. There is whatever we say there is. There is whatever we ‘observe’. Whatever we put our attention on
Like this forum! xxx
I would like to take this opportunity to thank you, Janette and Kim and everyone else, for bringing this blog to existence with your attention to it!!
I love this blog topic! It’s something that I’ve seen again and again too and I love that you’re feisty. Nice to see some of that once in a while! I love that about you!!
Like someone else said you can insert so many other topics besides a man/woman, winning the lottery because what you’re talking about goes right to the heart of a joyful life experience day in and day out.
I have just listened to and abe YouTube video that speaks PERFECTLY to this, especially the second part. The topic is gravity and ageing http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=tXp63D0nNO8
A quote from it:
What we are saying to you is, it has to matter to you first and foremost how you feel and everything else will fall into place. But when you say, ‘OK, I’ll flow the energy so that I can get from wrinkled to
not wrinkled,
now you’ve introduced wrinkled into the vibration and you’re not flowing the energy.
So until you make it about joy and only joy, you usually don’t line up with the energy that you’re looking for.”
Brilliant addition to this conversation, Flavia: “So until you make it about joy and only joy, you usually don’t line up with the energy that you’re looking for.”
Thank You does not do justice to express the gratitude I am flowing to you right now.
This is my first post after several years of reading this blog and enjoying it. I just wanted to add that I really feel aligned with what Anne Observer was saying – or at lest what I understood her to be saying. As a very young person I survived a very bad, long-term situation of extreme poverty. I still, after many years of trying to come to peace with how children in bad situations and LOA make sense together, have some confusion around this issue. Nevertheless, I know in every atom of my being that I did not want or did not attract the extreme poverty I lived through. I also know that money would have made a profound difference – from adequate health care basics and beyond. It is difficult to understand the comments of folks who seem to minimize the ability of money to change things. A dose of money will change a great deal – even save lives.
Thanks for coming out of the woodwork to comment on this one, Beth!
Not sure this is really the place to go, but I wonder if you’ve seen someone in extreme poverty who doesn’t know they’re in extreme poverty and hasn’t been taught that it’s bad or unwanted? Or a rich kid who was so unhappy they ended their life?
Or a person who has all the money in the world but no cure exists or no doctor available to fix it?
Money is just a means to an end. It’s only ONE means, and it is only that – a means. Money isn’t what we really want. I think we get in trouble when we start confusing money as the end, rather than just seeing it as a means.
Nice to hear someone sticking up for Anne’s perspective here! Thanks for voicing your thoughts, Beth.
As Tom Gray eloquently stated in his song made famous by Cyndi Lauper, “Money Changes Everything.”
And to quote Dolly Parton, “I’ve been rich, and I’ve been poor, and believe me honey, rich is better.”
As long as we keep up the good vibes, getting rich fast should be a happy thing. While there are tales of things gone awry after lottery wins, the same is true for some who got rich fast in other ways, like sports stars (good example is Met’s player Darryl Strawberry) and music stars (Michael Jackson?).
And just as there are many happy stories about rich sports stars, music stars, business owners, bankers, inventors, investors,
there are many happy stories about lottery winners. There’s a particularly inspiring story about Cynthia Stafford (worth googling) and how her huge lottery win was totally sane and good and happy.
Also,someone who went to my high school won the lottery and sent greetings to the school alma mater that they were appreciating living the good life, spending much time scuba diving in Australia. Seems like a good thing, methinks?
Yes, winning the lottery can change things for the better.
And yes, certainly the money could arrive in many ways.
Regardless, in keeping with the good vibes, wouldn’t allowing and welcoming big easy money, even if it arrives via lottery win be a good thing?
I will be the first to agree that there is nothing wrong with money (in my mind, anyway), Anita!
I know not everyone does agree, so I don’t consider that a Universal opinion, but it is one I have gotten on board with.
Anita?! I googled her! Thank youuuuuuuuu! Along with the sunshine, being alive, counting my multifarious blessings and smiling, it has made my day and delighted my heart! Have a look, Fellow creators, I am sure it will make your heart sing too! http://www.huffingtonpost.com/2010/04/01/cynthia-staffords-112-mil_n_521759.html And for all of us, particularly Tia I guess, here is what Cynthia says at the very bottom of the article!
‘Stafford’s advice to others who want to give back?
“If you want to do good for others, start now,” she says. “Don’t wait for the perfect time, because it doesn’t exist. Don’t wait until you have a certain amount of money in the bank, because giving back is not all about money. You can always give of yourself, your time, your services, your energy, and your talents.’
Inspiring, moving and beautiful!
We have an article (or video?) somewhere in GVU about that girl, Gorgeousophie. She talks about how she created her win, I do believe.
Let me find that …
To Anne Observer and Beth: Have you ever heard of Abraham Hicks? Here is a good place to start:
And if you maybe feel like checking out abraham-hicks.com – you might find a lot of very useful and clarifying info there! 
But the bottom line, that I had heard many many times before and I thought that I got it, actually finally made absolute sense to me AFTER reading this post! (THANKS JEANNETTE!! 
) And the point is that ALL WE REALLY WANT IS TO FEEL GOOD! And the things we focus upon, those we think will make us happier, are there to help us grow further and allow more.. The shorter or longer emotional journeys we take to get to where we believe we want to be- is what life IS! The joy is not in getting the stuff! It is in the journey of life itself! Now is as good as it gets! So why focus on realities that makes us feel bad? There is so much good stuff to choose from that is there for us right now! Just make PEACE with the rest!
It has never been about the money! It has all been about the FEELINGS! The better feeling places I was so desperate to find! And I believed that more money will bring me there! The truth is that I can create the goodfeelings myself! Right now if I want to! 
I don’t need more money to get into the Vortex and yet being in the Vortex is all I want anyway! Cos that’s where all my stuff is! 
Money is not the solution to all your problems – the right attitude is! 
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=U_nuiT6NGmM&feature=PlayList&p=5C5863BBEE08D340&playnext_from=PL&index=0
and
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=r4zhwaCBvLo&feature=PlayList&p=5C5863BBEE08D340&playnext_from=PL&index=1 – about winning the lottery!
My history with money falls down to two places: nothing at all or too much to handle! And I’m still learning to get stable!
I have been obsessed about money and focused on lack and angry about it etc.. -Makes me laugh out loud now!
So, you don’t really want to win the lottery- you just want to feel better! You don’t really want more money – you just want to feel better! And do you really need somebody else to make you feel better? Like the perfect boyfriend? Really?
And to make myself clear for those who might have misunderstood what Jeannette was saying: There is nothing wrong in playing the lottery IF it makes you feel good! BUT if neediness or desperation or any other negative emotion is attatched to this process, then you will not like the outcome either!
You’ve got all the power to turn your life around inside of you! It has always been there! Nothing and nobody outside yourself can mess your reality up, unless you let them…
Hehe.. Feel a bit feisty myself around this subject.. (Not the usual me
) Must be a virus going around.. 
Jeannette, I so love you! And a great post!
xxx
Kati, look at you spreading the good vibes all over this place!
I LOVE you!!!
Will you please come back again soon?! This blog wants more of YOU in it!!
I’ve never been remotely interested in winning the lottery and never play it. For me personally, playing the lottery only has a kind of “wasted money” vibe.
I agree that money doesn’t bring happiness and that happiness is truly an inside job. I’ve learned to be more alert of the “I’ll be happy when …” trap in my own life. Definitely one of the most important life lessons for me!
However, I do understand where Anne Observer and Beth are coming from, too. If you are living in fear because of the lack of money, if your security is being threatened, you do feel that money would indeed make your life happier – or at least easier and less precarious.
I know this is not (completely) in tune with LOA but this discussion reminds me of a fact that has often been mentioned by happiness researchers and positive psychologists during the past few months and years: A study has shown that for those people who truly live in poverty (minimum subsistence level) money *does* bring more happiness. However, as soon as a certain income level (middle class, I think) is reached, more money does not equal more happiness. There’s no clear-cut answer though – there are lots of really poor people in third-world countries who rate themselves much higher on the happiness scale than, for example, us Western Europeans do …
Here’s a great article on that very topic:
http://www.newsweek.com/2007/10/14/why-money-doesn-t-buy-happiness.html
And as it seems: Money doesn’t buy happiness but happiness does indeed buy money!
Wow – I almost completely forgot to mention that back about 3 years ago a woman who was part of my Abraham/Meditation group in NY hit the lottery 3 times in 6 months! She would play the daily numbers and said spirit gave her numbers to play – she won a few hundred thousand dollars and bought a house in Colorado and lives there now. I remember our whole group sitting there with our jaws on the floor as she told us the details!
She did say that money has always come to her easily and so there you have it!
Dr PG
I’ve been hanging back on this one, reading all the comments and chewing on the topic for a couple days. I finally feel compelled to add two comments to the mix:
First, I find it fascinating that so much discussion can be generated by a deliberate creator’s stated intention to win a lottery. Why such a desire is any different than others confuses the heck out of me. As you say, Jeannette, the key point is whether you want what you want because you think it will “save the day” or whether you’re happy and now you’re ready for even more fun.
But as for the thing that’s wanted? I don’t see how the lottery is any different than any other desire. How is it different, say, from someone who has a little idea for a product or a book and intends to create multi-million dollar success with that ida or book. Do you realize the extraordinary confluence of events that must occur to take that idea to that kind of success? The orchestration involved is at least as complex as that behind a lottery win. The odds of achieving that kind of success from idea to millions (if you believe in such things, which anyone who understands the law of attraction must not, I would think) are astronomical, certainly no worse than those of winning a lottery. And yet, very few law of attraction experts would chastise someone for envisioning huge business success as long as the person envisioning success wasn’t doing it because they thought everything would be okay once they had that success.
I have heard/read many say that the problem with the lottery is that too many people lose in order for one to win. Isn’t that the case with huge success too? How many people have laid out LOTS of money in order for J.K. Rowling to get her millions? She won. They lost. Yeah, sure, they got a Harry Potter book or movie ticket, but did it enrich their lives in a way commensurate with the money spent? We could debate that until the cows learn how to turn their milk into cheese all on their own, but the thing to remember is that in business success, one person gets lots of money and lots of people put money out in order for that to happen.
I think the lottery is just a way to think about receiving money. It’s no worse, or better, than any other money vehicle people can imagine creating. Some will take issue with that and say, but wait–with a business, you have to work at it. Well, there’s work (uninspired action) and there’s work that’s more like play. That play is no different than someone doing whatever lights them up and buying lottery tickets at the same time.
No one ever has a problem with a business goal. You yourself, Jeannette, deliberately created your coaching business. You did it to create a source of money. No–you didn’t need it to be happy, but you did intend for it to bring you money, and if it hadn’t? If you were living on fumes right now and about to go bankrupt, how would you feel?
This brings me to the second comment. As someone who did set out to create a flow of income and didn’t line up with it properly and is now facing bankruptcy and possibly worse, I can definitively say that money does make it easier to find reasons to feel happy. Even Abraham says that money makes our physical existence easier. Money touches nearly every aspect of our physical existence. Anyone who can blithely say that money doesn’t buy happiness is someone who isn’t in the middle of financial disaster.
Can you be happy with no money or while in the process of having your financial world fall apart? Yes. I can attest to that too. I can find ways to focus that make me feel good, and I know that’s my work right now. But I also know that if I had a steady flow of income and no debt, feeling happy consistently would be easier. Right now, I have to make a concerted effort to turn my attention from the bankruptcy process and what’s not in my bank account to my adorable dog or the lovely breeze making my wind chimes play for me or my husband’s love. I have to yank my thoughts back from all of the “what is” that’s a big yucky mess. If that “what is” was financial abundance, I could look at any part of my life and feel good. It’s like the difference between having a porthole through which to view the ocean and a huge picture window.
One last thing. My husband happens to be one of those people who intends a lottery win, but he actually doesn’t intend it so much as he already has it. In his mind, he’s a lottery winner. He feels RICH. He buys tickets to win his NEXT lottery, and he enjoys the heck out of doing that. So far, he hasn’t won a big one in our “what is” reality, but he doesn’t care because he’s already done it–that’s how it feels to him. He’s happy. I’ll let you know what comes of that.
I have a point that I can’t really wrap my head around here. And it could be because I’m making it too hard or I have some big block on this. But here’s my thing right now – I’ve been downright miserable because I don’t have enough money. I’m not talking I’m whiny because I don’t have millions, I mean I’ve been feeling so horrid because I don’t have enough coming in to pay all my expenses.
So in this instance I have to say that the outside thing – the money – would make me happy. In other words, having the outside thing would help get to the inside thing of happiness, if that makes sense. Well, ok, maybe not life of my dreams, everything is perfect happy, but just not so miserable. And having that relief of that money would be the springboard to actual happiness.
So while money doesn’t instantly equal happiness and joy, at least having enough brings relief. And not having enough brings huge misery and stress.
I guess I am reaffirming your point that happiness doesn’t come from the cash but from within, but I do think that having at least enough money to take care of yourself (since that’s how things are set up – ie. the mortgage co only wants money and if I don’t give that to them it means I’m homeless) has to be there or it’s going to be really tough to have the space to get to happiness.
I’ve read the Cynthia Stafford story – cool beans! But, Soph, you slice of utter Gorgeousness, after reading all that I wrote, how in the world did you still think I’m waiting to win lotto before I start doing things I want / making a difference? I’ve been doing it all my life and I continue to do it every day, lotto or no lotto. Andddddddd how much FUN would it be to win
Mmmm money! I love Money! Mmmm!! Moneyyyyy Gimme Gimmme Yummmyyy Yummmyyy Moneeyyyy!! LOL! *giggles*
I’ve been drawn again and again to this conversation. I thought I had the concept nailed, but today… epiphany! I have equated money with freedom, and the feeling of relief. I get it! It’s RELIEF and FREEDOM that I seek. Go straight to the feelings of relief and freedom, of feeling good, of having fun. The rest will follow. Even if it did not (which is really not possible, after all), with the feeling of relief and freedom present, the money doesn’t matter. YES!
Thank you, Jeannette. Thank you to all who have joined in this conversation.
For those of you who are interested:
At HayhouseRadio.com I stumbled into a rebroadcast of an older show and she was talking about this lotto subject! I thought she explained the vibration well.
It is Louise Hay, Experience Your Good Now, from May 19,2010.
You’ll have to register I think to listen to the old broadcast.
Thanks, Jeannette!
Love to be here! Will never leave! 
<3
Marci, I love your comment!
I get you and I so agree! 
This could be a little off subject now, but maybe it helps:
For those of you who live in lack, here is how I got out of debt: I stopped fuzzing and worrying about it! Period! It wasn't easy at first, because I had made a big thing out of the money subject (I was in a big black hole), but then I made a decision and stubbornly refused to look at the lack! I let all the negative feelings go by affirming that: This situation is healing.. (Cos it made me feel RELIEF! What ever makes you feel relief while looking at your current financial situation, will work for you!
) The outside world only mirrors what is going on inside of us! And everything we create is only TEMPORARY anyway, unless we hold on to it! (what we do by thinking about it) So, I stopped that! I made peace with my current financial situation! AND LET IT BE THAT! I decided not to be bothered by it anymore and I focused on happiness instead! The feelings of happiness and freedom! (Somehow I had managed to make myself believe that they will come with money..) Every little thing that made me feel good- I focused upon and I savoured it! And I ignored all the people who had something negative to say about money, too! And then, before I knew it, money started to flow in along with lots of other amazing manifestations that I had been waiting for.. And the better I feel, the better it gets! It is supposed to! It is the LAW! 
P.S. From the decision to actual real money- there was almost a WEEK in between!
(and before that I had been living in lack for years!!)
The way we feel about money is the way how money shows up in our experience! And that goes for everything else too!
Just find the happy stuff in your life and keep your mind occupied with that! Everything else will come! Yes, money included!
Happy journeys to you all!
‘We could debate that until the cows learn how to turn their milk into cheese all on their own’. LOL! That did make me laugh out loud Ande, thank you!