LOA Success Secret #3: Make Friends with Problems
This LOA success secret took me a while to embrace, even though I’ve been hearing it from Abraham for a while.
I’d originally approached conscious creation as a way to get what I wanted to ensure a smooth, easy road in life. If I could just get my thoughts right, life could be relatively problem-free.
Or so I thought.
That’s not actually how the system works.
Whether you call it problems, contrast, the unwanted, the undesired, blankety blank crap, or whatever we bump into in life that we don’t want any part of – it’s not actually a failure of the system to experience that.
Rather, it’s part of the system. Indeed, it’s a crucial first step for how life gets better and better.
Here’s how I understand it:
all of our new desires are fueled by (or sourced from) a “don’t want.” We want health more than ever when we’re sick. We want prosperity when things feel tight. We want companionship when feeling lonely.
So all those desires originated from something that didn’t feel so fab. And desire is what fuels our expansion.
Which means it’s actually a good thing when we run across something we don’t like. It means life is about to get even better!
That is, as long as we don’t stay stuck (i.e. focused) on the crappy problems. Since we get what we focus on, if I’m all panties-in-a-twist about what’s gone wrong, then guaranteed I’m creating more things going wrong.
But when I can appreciate the role this “contrast” has played, knowing that it’s leading to even better things (as long as I don’t overly dwell on the ‘problem’), then life can’t help but get better.
So that’s actually two reasons to make friends with what doesn’t seem very nice in life (losing a job, getting dumped, going broke, getting sick, etc.):
- The first reason is that it’s what leads to things getting even better than they were before,
- and the second reason is that if we don’t make some sort of peace with it, then we get stuck in it!
And we know too much to play it that way!
Since resistance is all that keeps us away from experiencing our biggest dreams and desires, dropping resistance (coming into alignment) is the name of the game.
One of the ways we most often kink the vibe is being upset with contrast.
When we instead see contrast as our friend, something we welcome and even appreciate, our dreams come together beautifully.
In fact, one of you readers shared something recently that I absolutely LOVED. Kate wrote about “exciting cosmic ordering” in reference to some major unwanted stuff. Which was fabulous, because it shows how much she gets that something great is on the heels of something ‘awful’ when we learn to ride the vibrational wave.
That doesn’t mean we don’t feel out the not-so-fun emotions when they come up in response to what we don’t like. There is an appropriate time for swearing, crying, and feeling sorry for ourselves.
But when we really do let ourselves feel it out, it passes relatively quickly. And we can then get on with the next step of allowing the next cool thing that this beautiful problem has fueled for us.
Like I said, even after I understood this process theoretically, it took a while for me to be able to see a problem and be grateful for it. I’m still learning to make that a habit, but when I do, I minimize the time spent out of alignment which makes dreams manifest that much bigger, better and faster.
Sometimes the easier first step is just to make peace with the problem, if we can’t actually celebrate it for where we know it’s taking us. One way or another, though, learn to drop the resistance to what you don’t want, in order to get on with a lovely life.
Here are a couple of inspiring reminders I found on Pinterest about embracing the challenges we occasionally find in life:
Would love to hear your tips on how to drop the resistance to life’s ‘problems’ if you care to share …