My Manifesting Love Story
Here’s my latest big adventure in manifesting …
Last year as I felt the contrast in my love relationship and caught myself trying to “figure things out” – I realized I’d be better off with a more aligned approach.
So I got focused on what I wanted – in a high level, big picture way – and then turned it over to Universe.
I gave the vibrational instruction (by focusing on the idea, image and feeling) of being in a happy, loving relationship and having the time of my life with a great guy.
I let go trying to figure anything else out, knowing Universe would coordinate the details. All I needed to do was get OFF the contrast, and ON the happy result I wanted. If I needed to do anything, it would be made clear in the form of some inspired action or internal nudge.
Sure enough, within two weeks I got a crystal clear signal that this was not my guy.
Seriously, I’ve never had such clarity in my life. I think angels must have delivered that message personally – it was SO clear!
When you get clarity like that, you can’t ignore it! Especially after you purposely asked for it.
So I cut him loose that night. In a very loving and respectful way. (I did good for a girl who hadn’t practiced a breakup speech!)
And it was done.
But by the end of the week, I was in the breakup from hell. I’m too LOA savvy to elaborate, but many of you who were in touch with me at that time know I’m not exaggerating when I say it got ugly.
Me, the Good Vibe Coach, who can do breakups in the vortex, was in the breakup from hell. I felt like a manifesting failure!
So we’re doing the worst breakup I’ve ever had in my entire life, but my wise coach told me this is his breakup, too, and I can’t deny him his process. And if he’s gonna be a beast, I can’t control that. Fine.
Which meant I had to give up thinking it should be a parting with love and light on both sides.
That was a challenge. One I failed at many days.
I mean, in the face of some really ugly stuff, I was trying to –
- dial in on the best of who he was
- find compassion by seeing things from his perspective
- and wish him well rather than curse him.
I built some muscle on this one! That focus did not come without effort.
But I eventually got pretty good at making positive aspect lists, and fast forwarding to the time when I would be happily ensconced in a new love affair, at which time it was really easy to only wish the very best for this ex who was going all out to make life hell.
I began to stop fantasizing about his demise, and started wishing good things for him – that he would be able to connect with someone with love and respect and generosity and other good things. I imagined how great it would be if we had the kind of ex-relationship where I could help him succeed in a new romance. (I figured I had good insight for him!) I imagined the kind of woman who would love and adore him, the way he deserved to be loved.
And I focused on the things that I did appreciate about this long drawn out ugly breakup. Believe it or not, there were some things:
- It gave me a chance to be sure about where I wanted to live
- and how I wanted to structure my finances as a single person again.
I realized I wasn’t interested in moving or living alone again. (It makes me laugh when I think back to how I dragged my feet to cohabitate with him – I thought that would be SO hard to enjoy a new house and another person under my roof! And here I was now not wanting to give it up.)
When people would ask how the split was going, I could feel myself struggling to answer. What they expected, and in many ways what I expected, wasn’t what was happening. Sometimes it was great and sometimes it was awful. Sometimes our path was clear and sometimes it wasn’t. I could feel the “should” about how things were supposed to proceed getting in the way of how things actually were unfolding.
So I just let it go.
I decided to let it be whatever it was going to be. I didn’t know what to call it or how to explain it. But I would simply do my best to make the best of where I was right now.
Although I did relocate the guns to a trusted friend’s house, just in case. lol
That’s been a while ago.
Two (reluctant) love interests and a new year later – my ex and I are still under the same roof together.
Living more happily than ever before.
No one is more surprised than I to read those words. But the truth is I’ve never felt such love, respect and appreciation for him – or from him.
Our life together has never been this easy or free. It’s based on enjoyment, with very little struggle involved. Even when a little challenge does crop up, it (usually) quickly becomes a source of laughter.
I don’t know what’s happened, other than that I got really good at appreciating him. And he stopped taking me and our life together for granted.
I never would have guessed – when we were in the middle of all that contrast – that he would be the next guy in my vision of a fabulous, loving relationship. (I thought he was the guy I needed to ditch in order to find that!) My best dream I could conjure up was that we would eventually become good friends as exes.
I guess that’s what’s happened. That, and more.
My ongoing intention is to continue holding this relationship loosely, and allow Universe to continue coordinating my happy ending. I don’t know what tomorrow holds (although we are going to Maui this fall, so I have some idea what the future holds) but I promise to keep using my positive focus skills and be open to whatever results best match the love vibe I conjure up.
It seems to be a pretty good formula for living “happily ever after.”
And that is my law of attraction love story for today.
Not what you expected, right? Me either, it turns out. 😉
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