My Manifesting Love Story
Here’s my latest big adventure in manifesting …
Last year as I felt the contrast in my love relationship and caught myself trying to “figure things out” – I realized I’d be better off with a more aligned approach.
So I got focused on what I wanted – in a high level, big picture way – and then turned it over to Universe.
I gave the vibrational instruction (by focusing on the idea, image and feeling) of being in a happy, loving relationship and having the time of my life with a great guy.
I let go trying to figure anything else out, knowing Universe would coordinate the details. All I needed to do was get OFF the contrast, and ON the happy result I wanted. If I needed to do anything, it would be made clear in the form of some inspired action or internal nudge.
Sure enough, within two weeks I got a crystal clear signal that this was not my guy.
Seriously, I’ve never had such clarity in my life. I think angels must have delivered that message personally – it was SO clear!
When you get clarity like that, you can’t ignore it! Especially after you purposely asked for it.
So I cut him loose that night. In a very loving and respectful way. (I did good for a girl who hadn’t practiced a breakup speech!)
And it was done.
But by the end of the week, I was in the breakup from hell. I’m too LOA savvy to elaborate, but many of you who were in touch with me at that time know I’m not exaggerating when I say it got ugly.
Me, the Good Vibe Coach, who can do breakups in the vortex, was in the breakup from hell. I felt like a manifesting failure!
So we’re doing the worst breakup I’ve ever had in my entire life, but Lisa Hayes gave me good coaching. She said that this is his breakup, too, and I can’t deny him his process. And if he’s gonna be a beast, I can’t control that. Fine.
Which meant I had to give up thinking it should be a parting with love and light on both sides.
That was a challenge. One I failed at many days.
I mean, in the face of some really ugly stuff, I was trying to –
- dial in on the best of who he was
- find compassion by seeing things from his perspective
- and wish him well rather than curse him.
I built some muscle on this one! That focus did not come without effort.
But I eventually got pretty good at making positive aspect lists, and fast forwarding to the time when I would be happily ensconced in a new love affair, at which time it was really easy to only wish the very best for this ex who was going all out to make life hell.
I began to stop fantasizing about his demise, and started wishing good things for him – that he would be able to connect with someone with love and respect and generosity and other good things. I imagined how great it would be if we had the kind of ex-relationship where I could help him succeed in a new romance. (I figured I had good insight for him!) I imagined the kind of woman who would love and adore him, the way he deserved to be loved.
And I focused on the things that I did appreciate about this long drawn out ugly breakup. Believe it or not, there were some things:
- It gave me a chance to be sure about where I wanted to live
- and how I wanted to structure my finances as a single person again.
I realized I wasn’t interested in moving or living alone again. (It makes me laugh when I think back to how I dragged my feet to cohabitate with him – I thought that would be SO hard to enjoy a new house and another person under my roof! And here I was now not wanting to give it up.)
When people would ask how the split was going, I could feel myself struggling to answer. What they expected, and in many ways what I expected, wasn’t what was happening. Sometimes it was great and sometimes it was awful. Sometimes our path was clear and sometimes it wasn’t. I could feel the “should” about how things were supposed to proceed getting in the way of how things actually were unfolding.
So I just let it go.
I decided to let it be whatever it was going to be. I didn’t know what to call it or how to explain it. But I would simply do my best to make the best of where I was right now.
Although I did relocate the guns to a trusted friend’s house, just in case. lol
That’s been a while ago.
Two (reluctant) love interests and a new year later – my ex and I are still under the same roof together.
Living more happily than ever before.
No one is more surprised than I to read those words. But the truth is I’ve never felt such love, respect and appreciation for him – or from him.
Our life together has never been this easy or free. It’s based on enjoyment, with very little struggle involved. Even when a little challenge does crop up, it (usually) quickly becomes a source of laughter.
I don’t know what’s happened, other than that I got really good at appreciating him. And he stopped taking me and our life together for granted.
I never would have guessed – when we were in the middle of all that contrast – that he would be the next guy in my vision of a fabulous, loving relationship. (I thought he was the guy I needed to ditch in order to find that!) My best dream I could conjure up was that we would eventually become good friends as exes.
I guess that’s what’s happened. That, and more.
My ongoing intention is to continue holding this relationship loosely, and allow Universe to continue coordinating my happy ending. I don’t know what tomorrow holds (although we are going to Maui this fall, so I have some idea what the future holds) but I promise to keep using my positive focus skills and be open to whatever results best match the love vibe I conjure up.
It seems to be a pretty good formula for living “happily ever after.”
And that is my law of attraction love story for today.
Not what you expected, right? Me either, it turns out. 😉
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