The Power of Ingratitude
So, for those of us who are inundated with holiday reminders to be appreciative, let’s look at when it serves us to be ungrateful:
When it makes you happier …
Actually, ingratitude isn’t known for making us feel better. Feeling unthankful is kind of the opposite direction of happiness. hmm. Let’s try again …
Because it attracts more good things …
Yeah, not so much. When we’re focused on things we don’t like, we’re attracting more things we don’t like. So lack of thankfulness isn’t likely bringing good things in.
It makes the world a better place …
Ausonius once said: “Nothing more detestable does the earth produce than an ungrateful man.” I, for one, prefer to be around appreciative people than chronic complainers and I know I’m not alone. So this reason doesn’t really fly, either.
Ingratitude isn’t looking all that powerful yet.
But there are at least two times when it probably really is genuinely empowering to feel unthankful.
That’s when you feel unthankful. Because feeling what you feel is the only way to go. And we don’t get out of a particular feeling state by avoiding, denying or resisting it. We move through it by feeling it.
So when you feel unappreciative, own it. That’s when it’s a good time feel ungrateful.
The other truly empowering element of ungratefulness is that it spotlights what you DON’T want, and that contrast just inspires more desire. That is apparently an important part of the manifesting equation. One we often forget.
So it can be argued true that ingratitude does serves us in a couple of ways.
But by far and away, if you’re looking to live a life you love and to get what you want, appreciation is probably the way to go.
And that’s probably why we hear so many reminders to consciously and deliberately redirect our thoughts to feel thankful. That’s where the sweet spot is.
Here’s to finding your sweet spot this Thanksgiving holiday, and (most of) the other days, too.