Q&A: Spouse’s Lack Spoiling Party?
From our Good News about Sucky Paydays post, Dana asked this most excellent question:
I would love to hear your perspective on when you share finances with someone and they are constantly focusing on the contrast. I recently saw a clip from Abe that addressed this by saying, you know what? I love you so much, I don’t care what you think.
That’s perfect advise and a great way to think about it, however, what if your money mate does more than think? What if they want to bring up their perceived lack, struggle and worry every couple of days and figuratively stomp their feet about it until you are not happy anymore?
What if they perceive your happiness as deluding yourself and being irresponsible? What if they literally throw a fit until you are knocked off kilter and forced to “worry” with them, even though you know it’s all fine and plenty more is coming?
What’s the perfect LOA way to prevent that kind of constant barrage from affecting your perception of payday? Are shared finances a recipe for LOA disaster? LOL!
You can tell she’s already ahead of the game with her ability to laugh as she asks the question, but what other words of wisdom would you share with someone who feels challenged in how to manage their partner’s habitual focus on problems?
I predict your responses to this post will be a valuable resource for many a creator!