Rooting for Alignment
Each weekend when I drop my foster kitty off to be shown at an adoption event, I invite angels to hang out and make sure all goes well for her.
Except the call to angels isn’t usually that generic.
It usually goes more like: “help her find her perfect home” and “keep her safe and happy in the meantime.”
As in: I know what’s best for her, and that is a quiet day at the adoption event until a stable, loving family who has a good history with cats comes along to claim her and devote themselves to her lifelong well-being.
Which seems like a no-brainer of an intention to me, but what if she’d do better living in a family of dog-lovers? Or with a single person who moves all over the country? Or with an irresponsible owner who lets her outside for big adventures?
(I do, and my cats love it!)
Regardless, my prayer/intention today was a simple: “I’ll see you in a few hours.” Then I asked angels to make sure she comes home tonight.
(Not what foster moms are supposed to wish for.)
This isn’t the first time I’ve had trouble letting go of a foster animal.
But it is the first time I’ve been this conscious about the conflicting and potentially misguided prayers I offer.
One week it’s “deliver her to her perfect family” and the next it’s “bring her home to me”? It makes me realize just how micromanaging I can be.
Because all I really want for her is whatever she wants.
And the truth is I don’t know what that is.
Maybe she wants to be free to roam the world without supervision, or to call it good and get run over next week, or to play rough with young children, or to be the only cat in the house, or … maybe she doesn’t give a rip. I don’t know.
But I see that my opportunity here is to relax and let go. To let her alignment look like whatever it’s gonna look like, and not let that jeopardize mine.
This routine might seem silly with the foster cat, but we do this same thing with ourselves and our loved ones, too.
We might wish for:
- our brother to find the right girl and settle down (I actually wish for mine to live it up while he’s still single!)
- or for our kids to get accepted into the right school and succeed there
- or for our spouse’s business to take off
- or for mom’s test results to come back negative.
But how can we know what someone else’s best and highest alignment looks like?
Or even our own, for that matter?
Earlier this year my highest alignment actually involved a breakup with my boyfriend. I cannot tell you how much better life has gotten as a result of that altercation! And it’s not what I would have picked in advance, were I choosing from the menu of life experiences.
But it profoundly contributed to a stronger alignment, deeper appreciation and higher quality of life for me.
So what do we know about alignment?
We know it’s a feeling of thriving, passion, aliveness and delight. And that it’s got lots of joy and love and appreciation mixed in.
Other than that – could we really say the specifics of what alignment looks like? Especially someone else’s?
What if it’s that they/we flunk out of school and travel the world with the wrong guy? Or lose our home in order to be free to move at last? Or go head to head with a life-threatening illness in order to better know the delicious value and purpose of life?
I heard Abraham say two things along these lines today:
One was on a workshop CD where they said we don’t really want money; rather, we want alignment. (We think money brings alignment, but in fact alignment brings money.)
So you might be manifesting money thinking it’ll contribute to your greater alignment and enjoyment of life, but in fact, that would be backwards. That’s a typical example of how we sometimes misdirect our manifesting efforts.
The other was on a video clip where they said most of us have a problem rooting mom across the finish line of death, but what we’re really rooting for is alignment. And we can’t say what that is for another.
(If you play it, listen to the very end when Abe says it’s debatable about whose life was saved!)
My takeaway is that we’d do well to let go of manifesting the details and instead just root for alignment, trusting that Universe can answer that request better than we can imagine.
I might be a big talker today because the phone just rang and my first thought was, “They better not be calling to say Luna got adopted.”
As long as we’re enjoying the process, right? lol
And that I am.
If you have thoughts on this topic, you know I’d love to hear them.