On a recent call with Relationship Coach Lisa Hayes, Robert shared the colloquialism that a chased dog will always run.

Very true!

And not just for dogs.

Desperate energy sends anything running!

I’d just emailed a family member telling them to make peace with impending divorce – because this clinging to the marriage was making their spouse want out all the more.

Robert’s comment reminded me of the trick that savvy dog owners use to get a loose dog to come home.

You simply get in front of the dog so they can see you, then run in another direction.

They follow.  They can’t help it.  Even if they’ve fallen for it a hundred times before, they have to join the running pack leader.  It’s what they do.

So I get out in front where Stinkerhead Koda can see me, which sometimes involves fast running.  I know neighbors think I’m nuts as I run barefoot across lawns and down streets in a totally different trajectory than the dog is, but that’s okay.  This is no time to worry what neighbors think.

(Just like in LOA work.)

I get out in front and then make a noise to be sure he knows where I am, then start running in a direction that leads us home.  (Even a big circle works.)

I can run right into the garage or backyard or front door and he gleefully follows.

Unless I turn around to try to catch him. Which sends him in a different direction immediately.

Or if I lose speed, he loses interest.  It’s got to be a full on sprint to keep him engaged!

I’ve learned not to look back to make sure he’s following, because a leader of the pack doesn’t wonder about that.  I have to run with confidence that he’s right behind me.

And it works like a charm!  (I’ve done this with enough foster dogs as well as my own to know its reliability.)

This is very similar to engaging the energy of whatever in the world we want to come to us.

1. Get out in front.
2. Be someone they’re happy to follow.
3. Show it a good time and it’ll join the party!

How does that work with men in the dating world? Have a good time with or without them.  Let them follow.

How does it work with money? Don’t make your happy life dependent on it showing up – get out, do your thing and it will find you.

The same with health, jobs, success, etc.

We lead with the energy that requires it to line up with us.

Joy, happiness, freedom – all those vibes work great for getting what we want to follow us home.

Or in the case of dogs, simple running will do.  hee hee

You know I love a post that gives me an excuse to use a dog photo!  Although this one would work best with video …

In fact, on the call Adrienne offered to run up and down the streets of New York to see how many men she attracted.  lol

Anyway, my invitation to you is to see where you’re “chasing” and start leading instead.  You’ll like what happens next.

So I dialed him up and asked how he was doing.

He was taken aback by my call, which he explained at dinner a couple nights later.

Apparently just a few hours before I rang, he’d been thinking of me.

In a not-so-nice way.

He had said to himself that he was done with this “one way friendship” where he has to make all the efforts to connect and I only respond occasionally to his messages.  He was fed up that I never took the initiative to reach out.

So it spooked him a little when I rang just a few hours after he mentally wrote me off.

He thought this was more evidence that women respond best when treated somewhat disdainfully, because they dismiss “nice guys” who do all the right things.

And he shared a bunch of examples from his own life and women he knew to prove his point:

• Like, how when he shows up at the club not looking or smelling his best, women are all over him.  But when he cleans up nice, he doesn’t get any attention at all.
• Or when he shows no interest in a girl, she’s practically pounding down his door.  But when he says and does all the right things, she doesn’t want anything to do with him.

I know there are dating experts out there teaching guys to “pick up chicks” by being somewhat condescending and withholding to women.  And getting results from it.

But I don’t think the proper conclusion here is that women need to be treated poorly in order to capture and maintain their interest.

The only reason anything changes is because the energy changed.  And there are lots of ways to create those energetic changes.

Like giving up your resistance about being the only one who calls – that’s one way to shift the energy.

(As proven last week, it gets results.)

Changing the story you tell is another way to shift the energy dynamics.

(Maybe instead of saying “She never calls,” it might behoove one desiring change to entertain a story that goes more like “She’s probably thinking about me even when I don’t know it” or even “She’s good about staying in touch.”)

Another way to shift the energy dynamics in the relationship is to … well, this is where I open it up for conversation with you.

How do you shift the energy when the relationship could use some tweaking?

Looking forward to hearing from you!

I was wanting to work as a coach but unemployed when a job came along that seemed to have potential, so I took it.  It was immediately apparent that it was totally out of alignment. (Inconvenient hours, irregular schedule, no energy to do anything after work.)  I would tell myself that I was an amazing coach and that the perfect job was coming, but …

… it was very hard to keep the energy up in that situation. It became even more clear when I got sick and was in bed for 3 days!  So I decided I needed to remove myself from that situation to clear the energy and get back on track. I quit yesterday and already feel tremendous relief. So, here is the question: 

Is it possible to remain in a situation that is so far from what you are trying to manifest and still keep the vibe strong enough to move beyond it?  Or, it is just more energy expended that ends up showing up as resistance?  Would love to know your experience with this and I am sure others would too.

This is Jeannette again and I can sure relate to Laura’s question.  While wanting to start my coaching practice, mentor coaches advised I not give up my day job.  But while working that job, I was so unhappy that nothing good got invested in my practice.  It wasn’t until quitting that I felt the relief that allowed me to begin stepping into alignment with success as a coach.

Putting that kind of financial pressure on myself wasn’t any sort of pleasure, but would it have been possible to manage my vibration at work to make for a smoother transition into coaching?  Knowing what I know now, I may have handled things differently back then.

But I’d love to hear your thoughts and experiences about situations like this!  (Thanks in advance for your insights and shared experiences.)

“Why not me?”

That’s the question I happened to hear in two different client sessions this week. 

One client asked it with an air of hope and optimism; the other with a sense of despair and frustration.

It struck me how the same words, the same question, had such different vibrations associated with it.

Why not ME??

Why NOT me?

hee hee – I  love how this deliberate creation work calls for a willing awareness of the energy flowing amidst all these words.

The “why not ME??” client was focused on how things seemed to be happening for others but not for her.  She felt overlooked and falling behind.  (Until we refocused, of course, which she quickly engaged.)

The “why NOT me?” client could see lots of reasons why things should be and could be coming together for him.  He could have been singing the “future’s so bright, I have to wear shades” song.  His energy felt like it was a no-brainer that success would find him.

So my question to you:

How does your question feel?  Are your words encouraging an empowering feeling within?  Or a limiting one?  Are they positive, or are you headed for trouble with them? 

Pay attention .. and celebrate your ability to fine tune your way through this manifesting process.

Fun stuff, huh?!

Some examples could include the car tags are expired, the desk plant is withering, the family dog is overdue for a dental, your shoes don’t fit right, neighbor noise keeps you up at night, your mother-in-law drives you nuts, you work too much overtime, you don’t eat a decent lunch, a bulb is burned out in the ceiling light, your credit card is maxed out, etc.

Your job is to identify and eliminate the things that are draining your joy from life.  Here’s how to get started:

Jot down a list of a dozen or so things you’re putting up with, whether it’s in your physical environment, relationships, health, finances, work, self-care, whatever. Think about what’s bothering you – what you’re tolerating in life – and write it down.

This list is your customized path to a cleaner vibration! As you eliminate each toleration, you bring yourself into closer alignment with the good stuff.

Your work is to knock out each item on your list. You may find one pivotal toleration that eliminates several others. Or you might want to start with the easy ones first to get immediate energy for resolving the “big ones.”

If you’ve been honest in writing down what’s bothering you, you’ve got at least one or two that you think are too big to handle. Trust me, you can. That’s where your challenges – as well as your rewards – await.

Either change the way you feel about it (yes, it can be as simple as a choice), or eliminate it. This isn’t necessarily an overnight process, but it is a crucial one because these tolerations are kinking your vibe. Getting them handled will bring you into alignment and nuclear-launch your manifesting success!