Sometimes the best way to release the “want” (when we’re really kinked) is to say “screw it,” “whatever,” “oh well,” etc.

MissyB wrote in the last post’s comment section that it’s simple, yet hard to do.  @ScientistCoach tweeted last night that: “Sometimes [it] is so difficult to just let go. Any tip?”

And Pernille’s “flipover” method lit you up as a great way to release the desire after claiming it.

So I thought @ScientistCoach’s question deserved a chorus of responses from you Good Vibe Gurus about how best to let go.

I suspect we’ve covered this before, but I couldn’t quickly locate where (although this post is relevant), so here’s a great opportunity to remind how to let go when we really, really want something.

Turning it over to you: what’s worked for you – in real life – to let go and surrender the resistance that often goes hand in hand with strong “wanting” energy?

Following is an excerpted question from a note that came back after I offered coaching on getting out of “asking” energy and into “allowing” energy (re moving from step 1 and into step 3), without giving up the desire:

Q: “I DO feel good even though it is not here yet.  However, I cannot escape the “when the hell is it going to show up??”  I almost feel like saying- forget it universe, I don’t want it!  I have said- Ok, Universe, I am letting it go, you make it happen.   But, since I have ‘let go’ I want it to manifest now.  I don’t get why it wasn’t manifested!”

She continues:

“Honestly maybe I don’t know how step 3 feels.  I’m beginning to feel like this is a hopeless cause! I feel like it will never happen. I have not felt like this before. It could be because I was seriously expecting to manifest this goal immediately after speaking with you.”

We know what Abraham says about desire and allowing:  

(excerpt from the January 2008 Mexcio cruise workshop):

“You cannot continue to tell the story of where you are and move in the direction of [what you want].  Your work is about letting what you’ve asked for, be.”

Abe continues with an explanation of the difference between pure desire and yearning: 

“Pure desire is: I want it, I got it, it’s coming, I know it.    Pure desire has no doubt woven in it.  I’m a worthy being, life has helped me know that I want that, and I’m looking forward to watching the natural unfolding of it, because I’ve asked for it and it’s done. 

“Yearning is: I haven’t had it, but I’ve really wanted it, and I’ve done the work and I’ve wanted it well.  And see my book, I’ve written it down 1,000 times.  I really want it.  And it hasn’t come yet, but I know it will, I know it will, I know it will, I know it’s coming, I know it’s coming, hasn’t come yet, I know it’s coming, I know it’s coming, I went to that workshop, I know it’s coming, I know it’s coming, he’s got it – damn!  I know I can do this, I’m really good at this, I know I can do this, I’m getting kind of sick and tired of it, I know I can do this, I know I can do this, I’ve wanted this my whole damn life, and it’s about time that it starts coming to me because it’s not fair …”

(I laugh every time I listen to that one!  It’s a classic!)

Abe says you want to feel fresh and light and free and frisky about your desire.  That “when you want something purely, it feels good.  And when you talk about it you get that rush.  And when you want something that you don’t believe, that you doubt, then it feels like work.”

I know many of us accidentally get into the allowing space by giving up – that’s what’s sometimes required to eliminate the negative “charge” we have on it after frustration has built to this point.  But there’s a better way …

So the question becomes when you’ve been wanting this thing long enough to be frustrated that it hasn’t materialized, how do you get yourself in a space of allowing at that point?

Can’t wait to hear your words of wisdom and insights from personal experiences, everyone!

So it seemed appropriate to have the subject of letting go be our next Q&A post for everyone to weigh in on. 

Here’s the succinct question from Maryann:

“I have really struggled in the past with the “Letting Go” step of the Law of Attraction process. I’m starting to get a handle on surrendering and realizing how much resistance that I had from trying so hard. Do you know of any other resources or any other suggestions that may help with ‘giving up’?”

Another woman writes in:

“I understand how important it is to release attachment to my desire; I just don’t know how to.  How do you do it when it’s something you really really want?”

I’ve got a feeling everyone reading this has felt this challenge, whether related to weight loss, love, money, or the American Idol winner (hee). 

And because we’ve all felt it, I believe everyone reading this has helpful insight to offer Maryann and others struggling with this aspect of manifesting! 

So basically, we know that needing something desperately introduces the kind of resistance that actually keeps it from happening.  Cool, we get that. 

But how do you let go of something that you’ve got your heart set on?

In traditional Q&A style, I’m turning this one over to you all.  Thanks in advance for your wise, humorous and helpful responses!

YOU ARE IN HIGH DEMAND!

Since the last Q&A post on getting a relationship where you responded with amazingly insightful, wise and compassionate support, I’ve been inundated with others wanting you to answer their questions as well!

Are you up for it again?!  I hope so!

This one comes from Tracy, who I fell in love with the first time I read her short note asking if she could ask a question.  She’s not just a sweetheart through and through, she’s also a law of attraction savvy creator who asks a (couple of) common and important manifesting questions.

Here’s Tracy:

Using the Law of Attraction you can be, do or have anything you want; and I believe that. But I have a few questions. Here’s a little background.  

 

What I want is for my husband to love me again. We’ve been together 23 years, 2 kids. Last August he told me he didn’t love me anymore.  I know I manifested this situation—I was totally out of alignment for about 6 months due to sickness and I was surrounded by 7 couples who were ending their marriage or at least thinking about it. I spoke with these people all the time and talked about it with my husband. So I know how I got to this place. But I thought Abraham said that if we manifest something we don’t want we can undo it. However, I’ve also heard them say (and others) that you can’t make someone feel something they don’t want to feel; that the Law of Attraction only works on yourself.

 

For the last 8 months I’ve been believing, expecting and visualizing that we’re together, very happy and in love.  I’ve been doing the 68 seconds, and the positive aspects and the affirmations. And I must be in alignment because the overwhelming feeling of joy I feel during these times is something I’ve never felt before, it’s incredible and wonderful. I can feel this way for days and days at a time. But nothing. And I’m not asking for him to instantly love me again, I’d be good with him just liking me for now. I know there is no time limit that you can put on something that you want. But Abraham says that once you’re in alignment with yourself and what you desire (which I believe I am because I can’t imagine feeling any better than what I feel right now. It’s an incredible natural high) that these things will start to rush in.

 

I don’t know what to do, I’m afraid to give up because it could be right there just about ready to manifest but at what point do I know that wanting this is not serving me? But what I want feels right and I’m so grateful for the pure state of joy I feel about everything in my life.

  

 

So here are my questions:

1. Can the Universe, Source or God override what you are wanting?  That they decide what is in your best interest, and how would you know?

 

2. When do you know to let go of what you’re wanting?

 

3. Explain alignment. How long do you have to be in alignment for something to happen? And when you aren’t in alignment, how far does it set you back, is it like starting over? And does my husband need to be in alignment for this is to happen?

Any guidance would be greatly appreciated.

Okay, Good Vibe Community … let’s hear your input for Tracy!  What words of wisdom, experiences or resources do you have to share?

Thanks in advance, and I’ll see you in the comments!