The Attachment Test
Here’s a quick quiz to help you know whether your manifesting process could benefit from some “letting go” practices.
It’s easy to believe our happiness or well-being depends on certain outcomes – like becoming financially stable, recovering our health, finding a good partner, etc.
But whenever we think we have to have specific results before we’ll feel good, that spoils the party. That perspective tells Universe we “need” something to happen in order to be happy, and that’s a game without any winners.
Take this short test to see if attachment to your desire might be spoiling your results …
Of the following groups of statements, choose whether statement A or statement B is more true for you:
A: I enjoy thoughts and visions of my dream, even before it manifests.
B: I engage thoughts and visions of my dream in order to manifest it.
A: I enjoy real life as it is now.
B: I’ll enjoy life when my dream materializes in real life.
A: It thrills me to see someone else who has what I want.
B: It frustrates me to see when someone else has what I want.
A: I don’t work too hard at making this dream come true.
B: I work really hard to make my dream come true.
Scoring: if you answered all As, you’re probably not hindered by attachment. Congrats on your alignment!
If, on the other hand, you’ve got a couple Bs sprinkled in there, it might be time to get straight with how the system works.
Conditioning our emotional state on external things is not how we achieve alignment – and alignment is what it’s all about.
There’s nothing wrong with desire – having a dream is what fuels a life that just gets better! It’s when we hold out on happiness until we achieve that dream that we run into trouble.
The bottom line is that if you can honestly say you’ll be happy whether this dream materializes or not, you’re probably not attached.
This excerpt from Hammered ‘s main character Atticus sums up the concept well (he’s addressing his dog Oberyn, thus the bone metaphor):
It is good to have a dream so long as you don’t let it gnaw at the substance of your present. I have seen men consumed by their dreams, and it is a sour business. If you cling too tightly to a dream … then you miss the felicity of your heart beating and the smell of the grass growing …
Your dream should be like a favorite old bone that you savor and cherish and chew upon gently. Then, rather than stealing from you a wasted sigh or the life of an idle hour, it nourishes you, and you become strangely contented by nostalgia for a possible future, so juicy with possibility that you feel full when you’ve eaten nothing. And when the time is right, you bite down hard. The dream is yours. And then you chew on the next one.
As I succinctly learned from Abraham: the sweet spot for manifesting is to be happy with what is and looking forward to what’s next.
When you’re there, you can be sure attachment isn’t holding up your expanded good life.