The Art of the Good Life
Many of you know, from posts here and at GVU, that my year evolved from fairly significant contrast into a real life dream come true.
It finally feels like I’m in payoff mode from rather dark days.
I know how the system works, and yet still marvel at how amazingly delightful life is unfolding.
You already know this routine, too, but it’s worth repeating so we aren’t holding up our happily ever after any longer than we already have.
This is my take on how to get from dark days to the center of life’s sweet spot:
It all starts here, with what we don’t want.
It’s easy to conclude when we’re living what we don’t like that we’ve messed up somehow. That’s not the case. This is part of the process.
It means we’re doing it right.
Something fabulous is getting cooked up in this process, so we don’t judge ourselves for it or wish it away, because life doesn’t evolve without this step.
The heartbreaks, betrayals, disappointments; financial fears, health scares, job losses – all the frustrations and anxieties … this is where the good stuff begins.
All there is to do in this phase is be willing to feel the feelings. (Resistance is not the way to go.)
So we’re knee-deep in the crap, and it’d be easy to get stuck there if we keep dwelling on it.
But conscious creators knows better.
We know that once we’ve milked the contrast, it’s time to “take the bounce,” as Abe would say. That means refocusing in a way that puts us in vibrational alignment to good things.
We can do that by:
- imagining what that contrast is creating next
- finding something – anything – to feel better about (a good meal, a purring cat, a happy memory)
- learning to chill out about what we’re in the middle of (even if it’s just remembering it’s temporary)
… or anything that makes us feel even a little bit better.
Your emotions are your guidepost here. Whatever thoughts and actions feel better – go there.
I like to think of this step as Tony Robbins turning his gaze off the wall and onto the track.
3. Relax & Enjoy.
It’s tempting to try to sort a mess out ourselves when life goes wonky. But that routine is for muggles.
We employ our magic abilities best when we tend to our vibration.
And yes, sometimes doing something directly related to the crappy situation is what makes us feel better.
But often what works best is making a little room for Universe to sort things out according to our refocused vibe.
Don’t try to make it happen yourself.
Chill out a little bit. Tend to how you feel, find ways to upgrade that, and let Universe do the heavy lifting on your behalf.
If you feel called to anything in particular (via inspiration or joy or even relief), go there. It’s good for you.
This is the time to show Universe that you’re not stuck in the vibration of contrast. That you in fact know all about good vibrations.
When you prove yourself a match for a good time, that’s when things start to come together.
It has to. That’s what the law of attraction is all about. We get what we vibrate.
It’s not necessarily easy to feel good when life still looks crappy, but that’s the mark of a conscious creator. You’re not dependent on conditions for how you feel.
And that’s all it takes.
This isn’t rocket science.
The main tricks are to not get caught up in contrast, not to try to figure it out yourself, and to have the cojones to do what feels better.
You can do that, right?
It might take a few days or a few months, or if we’re slow students who really like to milk a bad time, maybe a few years. (Please no, though. We’re too smart to suffer that long, right?!)
Life will fill in with all the good things that that prior contrast cooked up, and then eventually we start all over again with new contrast.
That’s how life keeps getting better. It’s an ongoing ride, if we’re lucky.
The good news is we get plenty of chances to get the hang of this. Universe doesn’t ever give up on us. And the longer it takes, the better it gets when we finally get there.
So go have some fun cooking up your happily ever after, and let me know if there’s anything I can do to help. 🙂