The Time For Better Feeling Thoughts

November 21, 2016 | 25 Comments »

When It's Time for a Better Feeling ThoughtRight after the election I heard a fair number of LOA-savvy people say that it was simply too soon for a better feeling thought.

They said first they had to grieve, or be angry, or pack for Canada before they could even think about finding their way to better thoughts.

Okay, for the record, those guys completely misunderstood what a better feeling thought is.

Because better feeling thoughts aren’t always love and light. They aren’t always vibrating on the peace, happiness and joy frequencies.

Sometimes they include swear words.

And wishes for revenge. And curses on others for audits and STDs and jury duty.

Sometimes our better feeling thoughts are things you would never post on facebook. Or even whisper to a trusted friend.

Sometimes the thought that feels better is dark. And foul. And nasty.

Not always, but sometimes.

When that’s the thought that feels better, though, you’d be very wise to let yourself go there. Because that’s your ticket to even better feeling thoughts.

Sometimes you have to go through those dark neighborhoods to get to lighter places.

This is what I want you to remember …

A better feeling thought is exactly that: any thought that feels better. And sometimes that thought isn’t always pretty!

Remember how this whole thing works:

Any thought that makes you feel better just upgraded your vibration as you engaged it.

As you continue reaching for other thoughts that feel better, you continue to boost your vibe.

And sometimes the territory we’re in is dreary. In that space, the thought that feels better isn’t always one of rainbows and unicorns.

But if  you keep engaging the process, it won’t be long before your better feeling thoughts evolve into something different altogether.

You just have to trust the process.

Here’s an example of the evolution of my better feeling thoughts after a particularly bad breakup:

  • What am I going to do? Life as I knew it is over. This is devastating.
  • How did I screw this up? What is wrong with me?
  • You know what – it’s not me, it’s him. He is a bad man. How did I not see that?
  • He will regret the day he crossed me. He is going to be sooo sorry.
  • He’ll never have it as good with anyone else as he did with me.

(That revenge theme lasted longer than I’m proud of. But there it was. Judging the process defeats the purpose.)

And eventually it evolved to:

  • You know, it wasn’t all bad. I learned a lot. There were good things that happened during our time together.
  • He was good to my dogs. And I got a lot of work done. He couldn’t be all bad. Maybe he’d like to be friends some day.
  • It’s going to be okay. I’m going to be okay.
  • There are a lot of amazing people out there that I get to experience next.
  • Holy hannah, these men are amazing!!! How did men get to be this fabulous?! omg!! I’ve hit the dating jackpot!
  • How fun is it to be single?! How cool is it to be me?! I am really rocking this party!!
  • I hope my ex is finding someone special, too. I really hope he finds lasting happiness. He deserves it. We all do.

Starting out with wishes for his happiness would not have worked.

But letting myself entertain the not-so-nice better feeling thoughts did eventually lead to the higher-minded, more loving thoughts.

My point being, it is always time for a better feeling thought.

You just have to open your mind about what that thought might be.

Remember Abe’s vibrational scale –  we don’t get from despair to joy without traveling through anger and revenge.

If you think it’s too soon to find a better feeling thought, then you’re doing it wrong. Sometimes the better feeling thought is angry. Sometimes it’s foul. Sometimes it’s ugly.

Go there anyway, and continue reaching for the next thought that feels better.

It’s a process that won’t fail you as long as you continue engaging it – and best of all, don’t judge yourself for what feels better.

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25 Responses to “ The Time For Better Feeling Thoughts ”

  1. Karen says:

    And then there are people like me who hang onto better feeling thoughts right out of the box the first week after the election, then fall apart with depression and anxiety the next. But know what? I just kept reaching. “what feels better to me than depression?” oh yeah, migraine is better than depression. Then I didn’t sleep well for 4 days and indeed got a headache. Had nightmares. And for the weekend, smelling turkey roasting in the oven on a cold, rainy day was such a good thought I went for it. Then roasting veggies, being creative in the kitchen sounded so good, so I went for it. The house really needs cleaned, but I feel better. It’s ALWAYS about the better feeling thought. That’s all there is to remember when it gets really dark: It’s ALWAYS about the better feeling thought. That is where you put your foot next. And yes, as you said, the better feeling thought isn’t always love and light, but whatever you have to do to get there.

    • Jeannette says:

      Karen, you also make a great point about the power of the better feeling action, too. Thanks for that.

      And here’s to brighter days ahead. 🙂

    • Nancy says:

      Sometimes we need to be destroyed so better growth can happen.
      Expressing feelings of this whole process is good as long as you are striving for the end goal, good growth, open minded.

    • When nothing makes sense and everything appears to be going wrong

      There is a blessing of such joy your spirit will be overwhelmed

      You are being given a glimpse of heaven and a clear communication from the supreme being … all is well, I am always here for you, remember? let me do the work think about me and watch your life change and the troubles will dissolve
      Remember who you are, I am always here you are never separate from me. Let me carry the load let me recharge your batteries let your spirit rest I am here you are loved

      Thank you for coming
      The Supreme Being

  2. Dana Bouse says:

    Brilliant as usual! Buzz or no buzz, you’re a wiz with down-to earth LOA savvy concepts! She (that’s me) bows at the brilliantly buzzed, beautiful, bad-ass blogger you are! LOL

  3. Barbara says:

    Thank you for the reminder of how we move ourselves up the vibrational scale of emotions! Love it!

    • Jeannette says:

      I didn’t highlight how personal this process is – how the thoughts that work for me likely won’t work for someone else, which is why it’s important for us to find our OWN better feeling thought.

      But you’re right, Barbara, it’s all about moving up the vibrational scale.Thanks for reading. 🙂

  4. Carmen says:

    Honor all feelings, including the negative ones! Once I learned that, I no longer felt guilty for having a negative feeling or two. So, because of that, I feel ten times better!

    • Jeannette says:

      It seems like it would be the opposite, doesn’t it, Carmen? But it’s so true! Honoring the feelings and engaging the better feeling thoughts just leads to better feelings. So cool how that works!

      Thanks for reading and for posting. 🙂

    • Flamingo says:

      That’s good to know, I am going through a really tough time at the moment and look for the gold nuggets in every day, ie a snuggle with my cat, a friend telling me I am a good person, etc.

  5. Shan says:

    This resonates with something I wrote somewhere in GVU (can’t remember where) about when my neighbour’s daughter screamed at me when I was empathising with her mother about her partner’s (daughter’s father) death. I totally needed to speak with a couple of people saying what I thought about the daughter (negative things). Energetically, I needed to release this and that was my way of doing it. However, it did not feel comfortable for that to go on for too long, as, when the energy had shifted, it felt like doing that was hurting ME; and certainly not taking me where I wanted to go. And I began sending her love energy.I also made sure I looked after myself by creating better feeling thought; one of which was, the same day, whilst still feeling fragile, taking myself out to sell some jewellery of my mother’s – and getting £75 for it!
    It’s quite subtle, for me, when one needs to make the shift. I also feel that what you are saying, Jeannette, is about accepting ourselves exactly as we are, and validating whatever need I have in the moment. Brilliant!

    • Meg says:

      The day after I cried, talked to my Mom, and then she reminded me that there’s still work to do. Then I was lucky to have a client session where my client asked my peurmission to bring myself and my family and the IS into her sacred drum circle and pray for us (my client is Canadian). Then I got to talk with other LOA savvy creators and ask WTF? It felt good to curse. And then I noticed how people started to come together, organize and show support. There was a love rally Sunday in my town. I am loving how people are waking up and getting involved. Paying attention and double checking facts before they post them on Facebouok. Intentionally spreading more messages of love. Contacting their Congressional representatives. Really getting involved. It’s like the best wake up ever – yes, some will see it as cold water in the face. In order for things to transform, they need to be brought out into the light.

    • Jeannette says:

      That’s a great story of how the “feel good” evolves when we allow ourselves to follow it, Shan! Thanks for posting and reminding us that it IS about self-love and acceptance. 🙂

  6. Meg says:

    The day after I cried, talked to my Mom, and then she reminded me that there’s still work to do. Then I was lucky to have a client session where my client asked my permission to bring myself and my family and the IS into her sacred drum circle and pray for us (my client is Canadian). Then I got to talk with other LOA savvy creators and ask WTF? It felt good to curse. And then I noticed how people started to come together, organize and show support. There was a love rally Sunday in my town. I am loving how people are waking up and getting involved. Paying attention and double checking facts before they post them on Facebook. Intentionally spreading more messages of love. Contacting their Congressional representatives. Really getting involved. It’s like the best wake up ever – yes, some will see it as cold water in the face. In order for things to transform, they need to be brought out into the light.

    • Jeannette says:

      “It felt good to curse.” It’s surprising to me (although it probably shouldn’t be by now) how often and how well a good curse word works to lift my spirits. lol

  7. Carla says:

    I am always grateful for the reminders. Sometimes even the old hands at LOA and Manifesting just get overwhelmed and forget the basics. I appreciate Jeanette’s willingness to break it down so it becomes practical steps and offer it in a manner that if someone were willing to work off the info found in articles and newsletters they could still do themselves a world of good. Go Jeannette!

  8. april says:

    I love your post, Jeannette. I feel guilty when I have vindictive thoughts, think nasty words, etc., towards people I feel have betrayed me. This post helps give me permission to accept these thoughts as necessary to ascend the emotional scale.

    Also, I just thought of another comforting thought regarding our near-future president. Both previous Bush Presidents are not fans of him, and there are other prominent Republicans who are not fond of him. So we’re not alone in our disapproval.

    • Jeannette says:

      Yes, April! We have full permission to reach for whatEVER thoughts feel better! Without guilt!

      In fact, I can even do it with a little pride knowing not everyone is as good at this as I am. lol

      Here’s to letting ourselves go wherever it feels better. 🙂 🙂 🙂

  9. Mia says:

    Maybe it sounds strange but sometimes the thought that feels better for me is just simply:

    It’s okay for me to be sad and tired.

    Or:

    I’m allowed to be unhappy.

    It’s surprising how much relief this can give me – and relief is a good first step, isn’t it? 🙂

    • Jeannette says:

      That doesn’t sound strange at all, Mia! I’m so glad you posted that here.

      I agree completely that relief is a great step, and just allowing ourselves to feel what’s up can be a tremendous relief! So many conscious creators think they’re not supposed to feel bad, or that it’s undoing all their other work, so they resist the crappy feelings. But that’s not in best service to our vibration.

      Thanks again for posting, Mia. 🙂

  10. Joanne says:

    Great reminder and off the back of Mia’s comments, finding relief is always a great step and something that works wonderfully for me (thanks Abe for the years of reminders)…. and so much relief can be found through thoughts of self care that simply give us that gentle boost in the right direction 💜

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