Transforming Tolerations: Brian’s Tutorial
Can I just say how much I love this community? In response to comments on the Plus 8 Upgrade post, Brian Freedman was kind enough to prepare this tutorial on transforming tolerations …
When your energy is going in two directions, that is when your energy splits from one focused direction into two opposing directions, which is why it’s called “split” energy.
You want your energy focused in one direction.
Split energy is when your thoughts are on one action, but you’re doing something else. You’re not present to what you are doing now. You’re focused on what you should or need to do (the future) or what you think you should’ve done differently (the past).
For example, “I really want to relax, but I should be doing the dishes.”
You want to relax, but you’re focused on something you don’t want to do that you think you need to do. So, you just kind of sit there, not relaxing and not doing the dishes – splitting your energy.
It’s better to line up your energy. So you either line up with relaxing, and soothe yourself that you will do the dishes later. Or do the dishes now and relax later.
Don’t do the dishes when you want to relax, and then even though you’re doing the dishes, you’re still thinking about not liking this and wishing you were relaxing instead.
That’s splitting your energy, because you’re focused on something else than what you are currently doing and judging and offering resistance to your current action, conditions and what-is.
Here is an Abraham quote from San Diego, CA, January 2016:
Line up with it, before you do it.
If you’re gonna do it, line up with it.
If you’re not gonna do it, line up with not doing it.
But don’t decide to do it, and not line up with it.
And don’t decide not to do it, and not line up with it.
Because, you split your energy.
So, if you want to, or rather, feel it’s important to do the dishes, then make peace with it and focus on the positive aspects.
I’m not suggesting you necessarily feel happy, orgasms and joy about doing the dishes. Ha! You just want to at least be comfortable with (no longer pushing against) cleaning dishes. Focus on what you appreciate about it and the value it brings.
Here is a Doing the Dishes rampage:
I like having clean dishes. I like having a clean kitchen. I like having a clean and comfortable living space. I like feeling pride in what I do. I take pride in taking care of myself and my family. And I like knowing that when I need a bowl, or a plate, or a spoon or a fork, it’s there for me because it’s clean. I like having clean dishes to eat off of. I would rather eat off a clean dish than a dirty dish.
Having clean dishes really adds to the whole pleasurable experience of eating.
And you know, maybe I don’t have to do all the dishes. Wouldn’t it be nice if my partner and/or children cleaned some? My partner does do the dishes sometimes. Sure, it may only be occasionally, but it does help, and I do appreciate it.
I can allow myself the freedom and relief to do dishes at my own pace. I don’t have to do them all at once. I can do the dishes at a pace that I am comfortable with. I like that. I like feeling comfortable and relaxed when I’m doing the dishes. 🙂
I make too much of this. It’s easier than I’m making it out to be, and there are a lot of positive aspects about doing the dishes that I have started giving my attention to. And it feels better to focus on the positive aspects than it does to focus on the negative aspects.
Focus on thoughts like that for a couple of minutes to get in alignment and raise your vibration on the subject.
You have aligned your energy, and now cleaning dishes (or whatever task you were not wanting to do before) has more ease in it, making it more appealing, which flows into all other areas of your life as well.
Brian Freedman guides people to align their feelings and beliefs with themselves and others (noting that the relationship you have with others is a mirror reflection of the relationship you have with yourself). He establishes the connection between the thoughts you think and the emotions you feel—focusing on enhancing your emotional awareness—helping you to feel better.