When We Have Different Dreams

November 10, 2012 | 13 Comments »

Pushing against each other's dreamsA scene from the movie Cloud Atlas got me thinking yet again about a subject that’s come up for me a lot lately:

how to get what you want when others want the opposite.

The movie includes a disturbing situation that inspires a young woman to risk her life to create major social change.

When questioned as to why she would be willing to give her life to this cause, she says that remaining silent is not an option, so she must fight.

That’s where I was myself a couple months ago when I felt it my public service duty to alert others to a company’s business practices.  The company didn’t appreciate my blog posts about the whole ordeal, and threatened my aunt and I with a $1.5 million lawsuit.

Which is when someone suggested to me that fighting fire with fire wasn’t likely to work well.  (Thank you, Parul.)

At the time I was still working my way through the vibrational scale, but with the help of a few friends eventually realized that alerting others to their wrongdoings wouldn’t change wrongdoings.  It could only grow wrongdoings.  If I wanted this company to do better business, I should talk about the good business they did, not the bad business I experienced.)

But, we all benefit from a little contrast once in a while … so no harm, no foul.

Fast forward to our presidential election campaign here in the U.S., which has been one of the most vitriolic campaigns in American history.  The major theme has included an “us against them” mentality as Democrats and Republicans fought for winning votes.  (Much of which wasn’t clean or some of which wasn’t even legal.)

Both camps strongly wanting a different outcome than the other.

(Or do they?  Don’t we all want a safe and prosperous country to live in?)

Maybe there’s more overlap than we would have guessed from the campaign ads we’ve been subjected to these last few months.  (As Lisa Hayes wrote, there’s a corrupt industry built on making us think we are separate.)

Anyway, to top it off, I just hung up with a friend whose partner wants something he does not.  The conflict is literally tearing them apart as they focus on their opposition and what they don’t want from each other.

How do savvy creators manage situations like these?

Abraham wisely shared this on the subject:

Everyone can win no matter which side of the political or religious debate they are standing upon, everyone.  They are so busy pushing against what they don’t want that what they don’t want is active in their vibration.  If everyone would relax they’d all get what they want and they’d have fun in the getting of it.  (Mexico cruise, 2009)

I like to remember that the “division” is an illusion and we are all just different facets of each other.  It might be an interesting – and at times exciting – illusion that serves us well for a while (since contrast leads to expansion), but when we’ve had enough, it is an option to drop it and remember we’re all in this together.

I think it’s also worth remembering that we can all have what we want, when we drop the resistance to what others want and stay focused on our own desires.

And we can do that without sacrificing who we are and what matters to us.

Some are nervous that if they don’t push back, they’ll be taken advantage of or will lose the fight.

But our vibrational system doesn’t work that way.

President Obama was inspired by Gandhi as an example of one who held true to his values without slipping into intolerance or dogma.  Obama points to Dr. King and Abraham Lincoln as men who “applied their faith to a larger canvas without allowing that faith to metastasize into something hurtful.”

And he talks about his time as a Senator in Illinois where he “learned to disagree without being disagreeable; to seek compromise while holding fast to those principles that can never be compromised; and to always assume the best in people instead of the worst.”  (Here’s a link to a lovely article where those quotes were pulled.)

When I wrote about my experience with this company, I did it initially from a place of empowerment and freedom.  Once I realized I was engaged in a fight I didn’t want to fight, it was easy to step out of it, knowing it’s not my job to impose (my idea of) justice in the world.  Law of attraction works all that out.

Do we need to squash someone else’s dreams or desires in order to achieve our own?  No, even when they’re drastically different.

It just doesn’t work to get what we want by pushing against someone else.

All we have to do is focus on what we want, and live and let live.  😉

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Jeannette Maw is the LOA party host at GVU and publisher of the rave reviewed Good Vibe newsletter, which you can subscribe to here.

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13 Responses to “ When We Have Different Dreams ”

  1. I concur, Jeannette, even though I only adopted this type of reasoning a decade or so ago. It’s not how most of us have been raised to think, so it may take some faith and practice for many people to realize the deeper truth in your message. It’s applicable to so many aspects of life.

    While I was relatively quiet about my political preference during the elections, I was witness to some pretty repulsive behaviors in social media on both sides. When I gently questioned friends who were campaigning for the same side I voted for, they were aggressively negative to me for daring to ask. It was AS IF they assumed by my questioning, that I must not be voting for the same candidate.

    After the election, I saw many Republicans posting on their pages that we need to *PRAY* for our country…they probably meant because we’re headed in a bad direction…but I chose to receive it as: YES, let’s pray for our country! Let go of the put-downs and accusations so we can imagine the best! 😉

    When we all let go of the details of HOW, and focus on what feels best to each of us…and let Source and the Law of Attraction work out the details…we will be amazed how it all comes together! 😀

    Many blessings,

  2. MissyB says:

    The last 2 lines say it all ! Love it !

  3. Kim Falconer says:

    It’s like a breath of fresh sea breeze, reading this post. What a wonderful reminder, and another perfect example of the symbolism of Neptune turning direct. It’s all about the vibration, focusing on what we do want and allowing others to find their own path.

    It’s so easy to think we have to fight against ‘wrong’ and ‘fix’ things for ‘their’ own good. That’s what the cultural paradigm reinforces; like you say, Jeannette, that’s not how the universe ‘works’.

    Allowing isn’t a weak stance or a lose of power. It’s the highest form of non-judgment.

    Thank you for expressing it so beautifully!

  4. Wow, reading your post, Jeannette, has brought up a lot of stuff!

    I’m thinking about the election and how much better I felt once I decided it was OK for Mitt Romney to win. And how much better it feels to remember that there is a connection of unconditional love between us all, even if I don’t like someone.

    While you were in the midst of the Power Places story, I kept noticing, from time to time, how scary it was to read your words, as clear as they were. I even started worrying a bit about the PP folks, who were hiding behind an attorney and how that must feel for them (based on my totally wild guesses about their motives and the meaning behind their actions). But it was helpful to think about them from what I assume to be their perspective. Doing this has helped soothe the waters in the past when dealing with the IRS, the Border Patrol, the DMV, the police, old supervisors, and other authority figures.

    Yesterday, Paul was speaking with someone about how there is no such thing, metaphysically speaking, as opposition. “How could Source Energy oppose Source Energy? How could Unconditional Love in expression oppose Unconditional Love in expression?” they asked.

    The person they were speaking with has an online business with a very large customer base and they suggested she think of her customers as sitting next to her instead of across a table. They said that they are both at the same table (“The transaction table”) and that one person is bringing the selling and supplying part of the story while the other one is bringing the buying and consuming part of the story. They very much complement each other and one helps the other be there and vice-versa.

    Thinking about that in terms of an election or competition, as your post really brought home for me, is very delicious. Again, just because we’re all in this together in a very open-hearted way doesn’t mean we all want to have lunch with each other, but it’s still very liberating to think about how well we are all doing in our own very specific ways.

  5. Susann says:

    Your posts are always brilliant, Jeannette, but now & again you surpass yourself, and this is one of those times. I have to admit the whole Power Places Tour mess confused me badly. While I knew you were completely right to feel angry and indignant, I had a problem with the whole confrontational nature of the ensuing “battle” — and, trust me, I say that as someone who has NO problem being confrontational should I feel the need! No shrinking violet, me! But it went against what I *thought* I was learning about LOA.

    Speaking purely for myself, I have what friends call a very strong sense of justice and right and wrong and fairness, and used to stand up without a second thought for anyone I felt was being treated unfairly, or who “needed my help” to counter injustice. And while I still have no problem taking a stand against the “big things” — cruelty, bigotry, racism & so on — I now try very hard (before diving in) to ask myself what exactly I am standing up FOR.

    Am I seeking a solution that is truthful to who I am & what I truly want, or am I simply focusing on being “more righter” (to borrow a phrases from the 7y/o next door)than the other guy? And is there a solution more in line with how I believe LOA works, one that perhaps does NOT include my wading in to smack people I feel need smacking (figuratively speaking!). The other thing I ask myself is: am I deciding to NOT wade into that particular fight because I truly believe there is a better (LOA-oriented) way, or because I’m chickening out — which is not going to make me feel good, and will not, therefore, help anyone on any level.

    I’m not sure I’ll ever be able to attain a level of enlightenment where I will entirely lose that instinct to stand up for what I believe is right — nor am I sure I should. What I am seeking, though, are better tools. And what I can say for sure is that losing my need to be right has been a life-changer. I can still seek the right thing, I just don’t (always) have to BE right. If that makes sense.

    Anyway, thanks for yet another post that leaves me saying: “AHA! Got it, Jeannette! Good one!”

  6. Anonymous says:

    And of course, in that whole barrage of words, I forgot to bring up the central theme I’ve uncovered for myself: that in my certainty about my own “being right” about an issue or situation, I have, by the very act of that choice of viewpoint, judged others for being “wrong”. I still find it difficult, maybe impossible, to release entirely the belief that certain things (cruelty, racism & the like) can ever, ever be “right”. But I also know the energy I bring to the table about these things has to be the right energy, or I’m adding to the very thing I abhor.

    Man, how come we’re not given a manual about this stuff when we’re born? Or a big F1 key in the middle of our foreheads?

  7. Anna says:

    Your post brings to mind one of our former Prime Ministers (Canada) Pierre Elliot Trudeau, and a principle he valued. I don’t have the exact quote but in essence it’s this:

    Criticize the politics, never the person.

    Which is exactly what he did. I didn’t have to agree with him in order to respect him as a person.

    Won’t it be great when all politicians – and voters, non-voters, not old enough to voters – live that attitude automatically? Yes!

  8. Evan Griffith says:

    I love you how learn right in front of us, Jeannette — and then apply it — so we can watch and learn too.

    PS: I hope I’m not interrupting the discussion flow here . . . but I’ve got to spread the word to other readers of this blog how thoroughly I relished The Magic of Pray Rain Journaling.

    For anyone looking for the easiest, breeziest take on writing your way into a new reality, this is it.

    I gots to let the world know! (there, I feel better)

  9. AJ farzad says:

    I love this article. It is so true. So eti es I find myself so emotionally attached to what I think is right that I forget it is not my place to dictate what “I” think is right and wrong. Thanks for the reminder.

  10. Anna says:

    Dear Anonymous on November 10, 2012 at 9:47 pm,

    “I still find it difficult, maybe impossible, to release entirely the belief that certain things (cruelty, racism & the like) can ever, ever be “right”.

    We decide what we think/believe is “right” – that is our personal power. Although this power of judgement remains solely over our own individual intentions, of our own individual lives. That is to say, neither you nor I are in a position to righteously judge anyone for what we perceive to be their wrong-doings.
    Many great things have come about as a result of cruelty, racism & the like. If the initial “bad” things had not been brought about by those we judge as “wrong, cruel & unjust” this curing vein of “good” may never have come about.

    I admire AJ farzad for such astute awareness – and for stating it so boldly. Kudos!

    P.S. Anonymous, we *have* the manual AND the F1 key – it’s borne of self-awareness, self-love.

  11. Parul says:

    This understanding has really helped me with a recent situation, a great post! (And thanks for the mention! :))

  12. Not for sensitive ears, but this Sean Penn/Kidd Rock video was worth watching:

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