When We Have Different Dreams
A scene from the movie Cloud Atlas got me thinking yet again about a subject that’s come up for me a lot lately:
how to get what you want when others want the opposite.
The movie includes a disturbing situation that inspires a young woman to risk her life to create major social change.
When questioned as to why she would be willing to give her life to this cause, she says that remaining silent is not an option, so she must fight.
That’s where I was myself a couple months ago when I felt it my public service duty to alert others to a company’s business practices. The company didn’t appreciate my blog posts about the whole ordeal, and threatened my aunt and I with a $1.5 million lawsuit.
Which is when someone suggested to me that fighting fire with fire wasn’t likely to work well. (Thank you, Parul.)
At the time I was still working my way through the vibrational scale, but with the help of a few friends eventually realized that alerting others to their wrongdoings wouldn’t change wrongdoings. It could only grow wrongdoings. If I wanted this company to do better business, I should talk about the good business they did, not the bad business I experienced.)
But, we all benefit from a little contrast once in a while … so no harm, no foul.
Fast forward to our presidential election campaign here in the U.S., which has been one of the most vitriolic campaigns in American history. The major theme has included an “us against them” mentality as Democrats and Republicans fought for winning votes. (Much of which wasn’t clean or some of which wasn’t even legal.)
Both camps strongly wanting a different outcome than the other.
(Or do they? Don’t we all want a safe and prosperous country to live in?)
Maybe there’s more overlap than we would have guessed from the campaign ads we’ve been subjected to these last few months. (As Lisa Hayes wrote, there’s a corrupt industry built on making us think we are separate.)
Anyway, to top it off, I just hung up with a friend whose partner wants something he does not. The conflict is literally tearing them apart as they focus on their opposition and what they don’t want from each other.
How do savvy creators manage situations like these?
Abraham wisely shared this on the subject:
Everyone can win no matter which side of the political or religious debate they are standing upon, everyone. They are so busy pushing against what they don’t want that what they don’t want is active in their vibration. If everyone would relax they’d all get what they want and they’d have fun in the getting of it. (Mexico cruise, 2009)
I like to remember that the “division” is an illusion and we are all just different facets of each other. It might be an interesting – and at times exciting – illusion that serves us well for a while (since contrast leads to expansion), but when we’ve had enough, it is an option to drop it and remember we’re all in this together.
I think it’s also worth remembering that we can all have what we want, when we drop the resistance to what others want and stay focused on our own desires.
And we can do that without sacrificing who we are and what matters to us.
Some are nervous that if they don’t push back, they’ll be taken advantage of or will lose the fight.
But our vibrational system doesn’t work that way.
President Obama was inspired by Gandhi as an example of one who held true to his values without slipping into intolerance or dogma. Obama points to Dr. King and Abraham Lincoln as men who “applied their faith to a larger canvas without allowing that faith to metastasize into something hurtful.”
And he talks about his time as a Senator in Illinois where he “learned to disagree without being disagreeable; to seek compromise while holding fast to those principles that can never be compromised; and to always assume the best in people instead of the worst.” (Here’s a link to a lovely article where those quotes were pulled.)
When I wrote about my experience with this company, I did it initially from a place of empowerment and freedom. Once I realized I was engaged in a fight I didn’t want to fight, it was easy to step out of it, knowing it’s not my job to impose (my idea of) justice in the world. Law of attraction works all that out.
Do we need to squash someone else’s dreams or desires in order to achieve our own? No, even when they’re drastically different.
It just doesn’t work to get what we want by pushing against someone else.
All we have to do is focus on what we want, and live and let live.