Q&A: When You Really Need It?

August 2, 2015 | 61 Comments »

How to Manifest Something You Really Need?Conscious creators are well taught about what a vibe-kinker “need” and attachment are.

Which is why it’s wise to drop the need whenever we realize it’s in play.

This last week a couple readers have asked the same question that goes something like this:

But what about when you really need it?

One example is a woman two weeks away from being homeless. She’s in a constant state of worry, sobs every day about her predicament, and has had no success in her fundraising or money making efforts.

When she hears my advice to drop the need, it falls very flat.

Her specific question is:

When it’s a case of survival, how do you detach from the outcome and keep your vibration up?

Another reader reports that a critical lifestyle change depends on her ex-husband’s cooperation, and that without his agreement nothing happens. (Moving to another state with the children.) So she really truly needs his consent, she writes.

Another reader’s dire situation also involves financial necessity … his company is on the verge of bankruptcy if he doesn’t get an injection of cash asap.

So guys, the question is to you:

What would you advise a fellow creator in a desperate situation who can’t see a way to drop the “need”?

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61 Responses to “ Q&A: When You Really Need It? ”

  1. Jeannette says:

    Just repinned a quote from The Secret this morning, as a matter of fact, that’s relevant to this topic:


    “If you have ‘needing money’ in your vibration, then you will keep attracting ‘needing money.’ You have to find a way of being happy NOW, feeling good NOW, and being in joy NOW, without the money.

    “Once you can feel good NOW, even though you don’t have the money, it will come. Make a decision that you are going to do everything you can to be as happy as you can in every moment. You will be amazed at how the Universe will flood so many things into your life that will continue to make you happy – including money.”

    But I think those words fall on deaf ears to someone who is intimately connected with the reasons and the vibration of Need.

    So it makes me think of something Abe says … “Don’t worry, it will all be over soon.”

    Which is why you guys can see I’m turning to you for more helpful input!!

    • Mary says:

      I have been there. It is beyond challenging to believe everything will work out in times of extreme need; ie. meeting your basic needs. You have always been provided for and will continue to be. You must wake up with a sense of knowing. Focus your energy on finding resources who can temporarily assist. Know and believe this is not forever. You WILL come out on the other side. Savor your small wins; these are important to continuing to build the momentum. Choosing the right thoughts are critical toward building an upward spiral. Take good care. The universe provides.

  2. Jesann says:

    I don’t have a magic answer for this (and you know how I can get stuck in that need pattern, too), but lately, it’s helped to just remember that my previous thoughts and feelings led to the current situation. Not that I’m at fault, but that this is all something part of me created. It’s the classic “If I called this in, I can call something else in.”

    That is not meant to be a condescending, “Hey, just change your thoughts!” piece of advice. It’s meant to show we have more ability to change things than we’ve been believing.

    You have to do everything you can to take the attitude, “Waaaait, wait wait wait — OK, if this is something I created, then I can create better situations. OK, universe, help me out here. No no! No, stop, internal voices — if we created this, we can create something better. Let the universe help. OK, universe, you’ve got ways to make this turn into a great situation.”

    Again, it hasn’t been easy for me, but it’s getting easier, and new solutions show up.

    Person who says she’s about to be homeless, I wish I could give you a giant hug. (So as the Internet says, Jedi hugs to you.)

    It also helps to get right into the exact moment — I mean the exact second — and tell yourself you’re fine. Right now, you’re fine. You still have a home, you’re fine. You have food at this very second, you’re fine. Right at this very second, you’re fine. Make that your go-to mantra.

    • Jeannette says:

      Actually, Jesann, I think that makes you even more credible and qualified to offer words of wisdom – because you’ve got experience with this pattern/vibration.

      You’ve really shared helpful thoughts here, as well as Jedi hugs – so THANK YOU for that!

      I agree with the ‘in the moment realization it’s okay right now’ and also the power of recognizing (out of empowerment, not blame) that if I created this I can create something else.

      Thank you so much for chiming in, Jesann! Big Jedi hugs back to you. 🙂

    • Jesann says:

      I have to stress overriding those internal voices that bring up doom and gloom again. Get as scientific as you can about it. Sorry to be so wordy, but Jeannette, you know how I can get caught up in worry, too. So, this is close to, well, home. Sorry, no pun intended.

  3. Elle says:

    This is a time to write a true, wholehearted letter to the Universe. Pour your heart and soul out, describing all your worries, fears of what is happening and may happen, state why you want a certain situation to change and why it will be for the better. This exercise may cause a lot of emotion to come out, which is great, just let it all flow. This enhances your connection to Source and it’s not just nagging, as there is a big difference.

    After you’ve had your cry and plea of sorts in the letter, shred it, rip it up, burn it, or put is away where you cannot see it and relax by going to sleep, going out, taking a bubble bath, etc. If you can put your mind at ease that you were heard, because you were, then try to put it out of your mind and carry on with things that you were going to do or things that you were putting off doing until now. Many signs that will come your way and you need to be open to them as well as be attuned to what comes along.

    All the best you you!

    • Jeannette says:

      Oh, Elle, I got goosebumps thinking of the power of letting us feel all our feelings around the situation. Writing that letter would be so helpful for that as well as letting go.

      Thanks for adding your thoughts to this one, as well as your well-wishes. I really think that in itself has the power to shift things for our questioners! 🙂

      • Amy says:

        Melody Fletcher at Deliberate Receiving has a great post on writing the letter. I have done it 3 times so far (in great times of need) and I have gotten what I outlined in the letter each and every time. And one of those times was when my family of 5 lost our home and we were having trouble finding someplace to rent. In fact I just wrote another about paying for my daughters college tuition now I am just sitting back waiting for it to happen!

        • Elle says:

          That’s really great, Amy, thank you for sharing. The heartfelt letter really does work. It really does solidify one’s communion with Source, or, at least, reminds us that we should be more connected, rather than detached, which is how the problems begin in the first place. One can lead a life detached from Source, but it is not such a good one, at least in my opinion; one can choose, of course. Besides, why would one want to, when the energy that creates worlds is there for one, you know?

          A guru once said that we should pray incessantly and ask for our Father all the time, and I so agree! Life takes off!

  4. Iyabo Onipede says:

    O, I like this one. I have been in the same exact boat, except it was not homelessness. It was something equally scary. And it happened. It actually happened. I did become the equivalent of “homeless.” And guess what? It did not kill me. It was not as bad as I thought it would be. I recovered. I overcame. Life keeps on living. I did not like one minute of it but it passed and now I am in a better place. We create fear over so many things and that fear is the only thing that we need to fear. Not the thing itself. When you let the fear go, solutions begin to present themselves. The situation is just allowing latent fear that is in you to come up and create a whirlwind of emotions. That is what needs to be dealt with. If you do not deal with that fear now, it will keep coming up in many ways. The fear is the reason that this current situation is presenting itself – an opportunity to deal with the junk and process it out as it clouds the wonderful amazing human being that you are. I hold this person in the space of love and grace, for all things good to come out of this situation, for your own bright light to shine simply because you are brave and courageous in this instance. Hugs.

  5. Jacqui says:

    This had me question what it’s like to need something because the I judge the situation as ‘too much’.When the contrast is too much, and I am too attached to/invested in the outcome, the best way I know to drop the need is to surrender to a higher power and trust that everything is working out, even if I don’t understand it. When my mum was in intensive care, I needed her to be ok. The thing that helped was something that you posted at GVU, Jeannette, around letting God take the fight, all I had to do was hold my peace. (Exodus, I think). Something bigger is unfolding. I found more peace in letting go of control, since the contrast was so great.
    In the end, needing something to be different was just my ego. Accepting what was, helped me stay present to inner guidance, and let go. It wonder if our need is really all about our basic human need to control our surroundings so we can stay safe/survive.

    Great topic!

    • Jeannette says:

      Yes, indeed, Jacqui, I think you’ve nailed it. (Re our ‘need’ stemming from control tendencies. Very common experience.)

      You’re reminding me of the power of giving up. (Frankie B is addressing this with Paul in the new 10 Life Skills book, to be published this month!)

      Thanks for chiming in here. Always good to hear from you! 🙂

    • nancy says:

      Thank you Jacqui, you are among some wonderfully articulate people who inspire me to express so many of my thoughts and feelings about LOA-about my own life.
      Especially your last sentence about control and survival. That seems so to me.
      Bless you,

  6. Julia says:

    No really got an answer so to speak… but letting go of ‘what is’ can seem impossible. Yes. Speaking from experience here. Lol
    What’s coming to mind is… that when we are ‘that ‘far down the road the momentum is soooo strong. Your horse is gonna run until it drops at this point. Lol
    So… in my case I reach a point where I cone to terms with what is the most likely scenario (have had to move with nowhere to go and a deadline. Plus other issues with a desperation factor). So what’s the worst that could happen? Ok… in that scenario… what will I have to do.
    Once you make a plan… even if you are sobbing into the last of your coffee while you make you make it… you start to accept it & bam. .. down comes the massive wall of resistance… and at the last available second, in swoops the universe to cushion your fall.
    FYI. ..I have not fallen yet 😉
    But I have been in a right state about stuff that always worked out. Even when in fact, things didn’t work out.

  7. Jeannette says:

    Goosebumps reading this, Julia: “you start to accept it & bam. .. down comes the massive wall of resistance… “!! So true!

    It’s just a matter of when we’re going to accept it, isn’t it? And that acceptance wipes out any last vestiges of resistance.

    Really helpful comment – thanks for that, Julia!

  8. Roberta Lemon says:

    I think it is important to TRUST that everything is going to be fine. Even if it is bankruptcy or losing a home. If we can truly trust that these things don’t serve us any more we will be ready, when the perfect moment comes, to stride into a beautiful new life. We are sometimes attached to these old situations that we think are our ‘comfort zones’, but really they are not comfortable at all. We just think that is all we are worth. If we can drop all attachments and TRUST, the Universe invariably provides for us in brilliant, totally unexpected and wonderful ways. Stay happy and grateful for what we do have and stare that old situation down, however much it is making us squirm. Have Courage, take that risk, it is never a mistake and the Universe rewards us for it every time, we lose nothing and gain everything! Keep the vision of what you want clear and strong. Read everything you can about LAW, Wayne Dyer, Abraham, Course in Mircles, this site etc.; listen to all you can find online until you KNOW you have it. Then sit back and wait. You won’t be disappointed! Out of nothing and no way, a way is made (Rev.Dr Michael Beckwith) 🙂

  9. Namaste says:

    When I’m in a situation where I NEED something…

    First, I stop thinking of the need as a problem and start thinking of it as a challenge, and ideally I take it even one step further and figure out how to view the situation as an adventure. I don’t know about you but problems suck. Adventures can be challenging but at the very least, I’m thinking, “This will make a fun story to tell someday.” This helps me stop being so damn serious and to remember it’s just life, it’s just a game. Not always easy to do but if you can get to that point, it’s well worth it.

    Second, I acknowledge that until I figure out how to feel good about this subject, there is almost no chance of manifesting my way out of it. The reason I have to figure out how to feel good is that life has proven to me that when I don’t feel good, it means that I’m focused on what I don’t want, and that is what I will attract more of.

    Third, I begin backing off the specifics and go general. If a person has never done this before, and seen it work, it can be a SCARY seemingly illogical process. However there is no better time to learn how to do it then when you need to learn how to do it.

    specific need —> less specific need —> general need —> completely general

    I keep backing off until I hit a point where I feel good. I lock that feeling in.

    Fourth, once I’m feeling good, I protect that feeling ruthlessly. I don’t bother trying to pivot off worries that try to jump back into my experience, I stop thought. Stopping thought isn’t easy but you gotta learn how to do it sometime. The best time to learn things is when you NEED to learn them.

    Fifth, I strive for doing the best I can with the situation. Negative thoughts might creep in and pull me down. That’s ok, I just repeat the process. I keep going. I know that by doing this I’ll keep getting better. This is often comforting because it again adds meaning to the experience.

    For people in challenging MONEY situations, these next two videos can help tremendously…

    Asker in this clip is FILLED WITH FEAR that he’s going to run out of money. Abraham takes him from a place of fear to a place of peace. I found this when I was in a challenging financial situation and it helped tremendously https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=srR6TOGjseI

    This clip is all about Soothing Yourself Until You KNOW EVERYTHING IS GOING TO BE OK https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=QIJkUN5gBKM

    • Anonymous says:

      One way I have found to stop the thoughts I know aren’t productive is to say to myself “I refuse to let that energy into my system”. This is from a Gary Zukav book I read a long time ago and it has stood me in good stead though many different challenges. After saying it I can feel myself open up to the solutions.

    • Jeannette says:

      This is all golden, Namaste, but my personal favorite excerpt is this:

      “I keep backing off until I hit a point where I feel good. I lock that feeling in.”

      You are such a good teacher! Not just because you know how to describe the process, but because you’ve lived it! It’s not just lip service – you tested it in the real world.

      Many thanks for the wisdom you share here! 🙂

  10. Terri says:

    “Faith can move mountains but don’t be surprised if God hands you a shovel.”

    That’s it, that’s what I was searching for when I read this blog post. And it appeared on Facebook, how wonderful is that?!

    Fear of those bad things happening gets in our way of being open. Too often we are so filled with fear that we close ourselves from those things/actions/opportunities that might change the outcome. They look too risky, too scary, too much effort, too easy, too filled with shame, too embarrassing, too .

    Let go of the need should really read, in spite of the fear find a way to open, find a way to get past your resistance to the solutions that the Universe may have put in place for you. Ideal? They may not look it in this moment and sometimes it takes a while to realize what you’ve really been given.

    Jeannette’s blog post on almost losing Elvis and in her fear finding the ability to open to what may come after Elvis, if it was his time to transition, is a beautiful example. It’s not about losing the need, or losing the fear. It’s about opening.

    I work on this every day. May you all find grace along your journey.

    • Jeannette says:

      Ha! Haven’t heard that quote before, Terri – it’s laugh out loud delightful!

      Thanks for adding it to this discussion, as well as your words about fear and risk. So helpful!

  11. Janette says:

    On 9th July I found myself in a significant and overwhelming state of need. I’m talking disaster-on-the-horizon, less-than-a-week-to-avert-catastrophe kinds of circumstances.

    Not homelessness, but something just as scary.

    And knowing what I know about how my brain works, I KNEW that being caught up in the need and anxiety could never produce useful solutions. So I leaned back into every single practice I’ve ever had which could connect me to joy. And yes, I know how stupid that sounds when everything seems to have gone utterly pear-shaped.

    But we all have that power. Victor Frankl proved it by finding meaning and purpose from the hell of a Nazi concentration camp (which makes homelessness and most other dire circumstances look like a picnic).

    It’s not easy or simple. It can be really freaking hard. But it is worth the persistence and the effort – not because you have to ‘get happy’ in order to get relief. But because every teeny tiny scrap of relief will be a step back towards finding alignment and finding solutions that work.

    Need = despair. And despair is not a place from which we can be creative or powerful.

    To give you an idea of how I tackled this, here’s what I wrote the very next day, to the people in my inner circle:

    “So, you guys. Here’s what’s been happening in my world. I’m sharing in case it’s helpful.

    Last night I went to sleep in huge, breath-shortening anxiety about a personal circumstance which had all the hallmarks of being a disaster. Did deep breathing and managed to get to sleep.

    Woke at 4am, still heart-racingly anxious.

    Made a decision to shift it.

    Lay in the quiet dark, plugging in and plugging in and plugging in to my chosen identity (someone who expresses and experiences Resonant Joy)

    After an hour, glimmers of optimism and faith reappeared. My whole body softened and relaxed. I got to “all is well” and “this will work out somehow”.

    Slept until 7am.

    Woke with a fizzing of ideas, ready for a day of inspired solutions and exquisitely coherent productivity, fuelled by Resonant Joy and celebration for the shift in vibration.

    For me, doing it overnight with something this big is HUGE.

    Not one circumstance had changed. But my thoughts and emotions (ie my vibration) was radically different. I’ve been building this skill for a while, and this morning it paid off big time.

    Oh – and then, because I’m super smart, I checked in with my bestest buddy-and-coaching-sister Jacqueline Gates, who buffed up my vibration from a soft glow to a brilliant shine in 30 minutes (THIS is why I get coached, people).”

    Please note the timeframe here.

    I didn’t noodle with relief for two minutes and expect the terror and despair to magically lift. I committed myself to keep plugging into joy (via relief) ANY WAY I COULD – imagining happy songs, appreciating my pillow, thinking about people who do good in the world – whatever it took. My brain wanted to drag me back to tears and despair and I said NO. I’d done that, been there, felt the feelings. ENOUGH.

    Over and over again, I hauled my focus over to something that felt like relief and joy. For an HOUR.

    It wasn’t instant. (Sometimes it can be, but this time it wasn’t).

    But it was enough, finally, to get me to the kind of sleep which only comes from finally letting go. Full surrender. No resistance left at all.

    And THAT led to my waking in a radically shifted state of mind. With no change in the circumstances.

    Did I hang on like fire to that altered state of mind? You BET! I wasn’t letting go of that puppy come hell or high water. My brain wanted me to go get anxious again, and this time around it was WAY easier to say ‘no thanks’.

    From that new place I could see solutions, and the Universe could deliver exactly the right person for me to talk to in that redhot moment. And within another 48 hours the entire situation had resolved itself (and yes, that still feels like a miracle, three weeks later).

    My “need” was resolved by my commitment to not-needing, no matter how hard that looked at the time.

    I’m intending that the wealth of compassionate, smart voices here can work together to create enough wiggle room to let go of ‘need’ for anyone who reads this.

    Thank you for the post and the question, Jeannette and the askers.


    • Nikki says:

      That’s deep!!

    • Namaste says:

      Enjoyed your story Janette, thanks for sharing =)

    • Jeannette says:

      I love these stories of how things manage to resolve themselves with no input or effort on our part! (Except, of course, for the vibration shift.)

      But Janette, this was really big: “Made a decision to shift it.”

      That’s not to be overlooked!

      I also love how you reported things didn’t shift instantly, but it was enough.

      Thanks for showing us the power of commitment and ease. 🙂

  12. Monica says:

    I am no expert at this and still just learning, but for something that requires quick results, I would suggest using visualization – see the situation unfolding favorably in your mind’s eye – the way you would want it to – and return to that image over and over again until that is how it unfolds.

    Drop any sneaky negative images or emotions that come up, all the while taking deep breaths, relaxing, trusting that it will work out, and consciously choosing feelings that feel good. Again, I’m no expert, but I’ve used this and it has helped significantly.

    Love & Light

    • Jeannette says:

      I don’t always remember to do this, Monica, but when I do – it REALLY helps! (To see things unfolding favorably.)

      Woo hoo for engaging our power of imagination! 🙂

  13. Tammy says:

    I just went through a life changing circumstance as well and was in a high panic. It was so big and scary to me I was not visualizing with real feeling. The most comforting thoughts for me was ” its okay, I am in this exact moment ok” and “it is getting better, every day, every minute”. These thoughts were general enough for me to believe with feeling.

    • Jeannette says:

      I’m sensing a strong theme here about how helpful it is to dial OFF of the dire details and get general enough to find a foothold in a better vibe.

      Thanks for sharing, Tammy!

  14. Susann says:

    Oh, jeez. This is the scariest place in the world. And Jeannette’s right — you can’t simply “let go” when you’re in emotional (& very real) crisis like this. I’ll admit I’ve only been there once. I did the following, and in the end All Was Well even though it all worked out completely differently than I’d thought it might (which happens so often with LOA I don’t know why it still surprises me).
    1. I got very real, and very much up in the Universe’s face. I allowed myself to fully feel my fear and pain and, finally, rage. I screamed, I swore (all this in private, mind you!). I yelled at the Universe & basically said I couldn’t do this any more, that I couldn’t do it on my own, that I needed help & I needed it now.
    2. I made sure I repeated over & over how I **knew** the Universe could make this situation work — and I went over all the times in my life when it had done so, tiny miracles to big. It had worked out in the past, I wanted it to work out now, no excuses. Just fqn DO IT, Universe.
    3. When I was pretty much worn out physically, I turned to paper & pen & wrote down all the times the Universe had come through for me. I really got into it with everything I had. By this time, because I was physically & emotionally exhausted by all my drama, I was actually oddly calm by the time I got to this stage & so was able to get into it pretty deeply. I think the emotional exhaustion part is what worked.
    4. I then wrote — and spoke aloud — what I needed from the Universe. And I admitted wholeheartedly that I had NO freaking idea how it was going to work out or what the end result was going to be **and I didn’t care**, as long as it worked out for my best, in a safe, healthy & life-enhancing way.
    5. By this time, I was drained physically, mentally. emotionally. And I kicked into Self-Care Mode. Had a long hot bath. Wrapped myself in flannel & wool. Put a hot-water bottle on my fear-knotted tummy. Put on wool socks. Tried to read but couldn’t, so pulled out a couple of my favorite Feel Good Movies (The Full Monty, A Knight’s Tale). Watched them for as long as I could, on & off.
    6. When the movies didn’t keep me distracted, I put on a guided meditation & forced myself to listen to it. Not to meditate, but to distract my chattering, terrified mind.
    7. Whenever the distraction didn’t work, I get up & do some exercise, chanting mantras, reminding myself that “the Universe has my back on this!”
    8. I napped & slept as much as possible: I was exhausted by stress & my body needed the recharging. Notice I did not call friends — this might work for you, but I couldn’t deal with other people, no matter how well-intentioned. Had I had family that needed my attention, I think I might have had to simply take a couple of days off for extreme self-care. [I was able to take 3 days off from work.]

    I don’t know what part of all this worked, but something did. The situation basically dissolved with no effort on my part. That possibility had never occurred to me — I thought I was in for the legal fight of my life & was just hoping for a good resolution to *that*, but it just all went away. Poof. Gone. It was almost anticlimactic.

    I think if you’re in a place where “dropping it” is impossible, just giving up & relinquishing any illusion of control is the next best thing. Just let yourself accept & feel the hopelessness & fear & despair, then toss it out into the Universe’s lap & basically say: Here. I can’t do this, it’s in your hands now. I’m going to do the only thing I’m capable of right now: having a bath & sleeping.

    And massive hugs & good thoughts to anyone in this place right now!

    • Mary says:

      Your post reminded me that I’ve had really good results when I’ve yelled at the universe like that too. When I’m at the end of my rope and just scream at the universe and demand a solution. I feel better fast and a solution shows up almost immediately. It seems to only work or be fueled by great need and frustration, but it does work for me then too.

    • Jeannette says:

      What a powerful share – thanks, Susann!

      Loved where “I don’t know what part of all this worked, but something did. … It was almost anticlimatic.” Goosebumps!

      This is what can make all the difference for a fellow creator – seeing what it looks like in the real world (i.e. what worked for someone else who has been there & done that). Thanks for the detail, Susann! 🙂

    • Shimi says:

      Thank you Susann,

  15. I’ll offer a different angle on it. Andrrea Hess (of empoweredsoul.com) said something like this: If you’re coming from need, then address it from need. If you’re coming from want, then address it from want. The vibration has to match. So, if you really need money, then decide what you really need to do. If you want a better life, then decide what you want to do. It won’t work to address a need by asking yourself what you want to do, and it won’t work to address a want by asking yourself what you need to do.

    What I like about bringing this angle to the table is that it might be easier for someone in need to stop putting all that pressure on themselves to detach or think positive, and simply do the steps that need to be done. This on-the-ground mindset may be more relieving and allow help to come through than trying to jump from freak-out to hopeful in one giant, unconvincing leap.

    • Anonymous says:

      Wow! I’ve never heard this one before and it just fills the gap perfectly. Of course! Because if you need a roof over your head and you don’t have one, you may need to do things that you wold not choose to do at any other time, knowing that they are just a step on the way to something better.

    • Susann says:

      This is a terrific perspective! I sometimes think we LOAers get a tiny bit knee-jerky around words such as “need” or “want”. If you “need” rent money by Monday or face eviction, that actually IS a real physical-world need & odds are most of us would not be able to fully detach from the outcome regardless of how hard we try. But we probably *can* use every LOA technique we can lay our hands on to mitigate the fear, anxiety & stress enough to allow a creative solution to that need present itself.

    • Jeannette says:

      Had not heard this distinction before – thanks for posting, Julie! 🙂

  16. Milos says:

    Just repeat the gratitude affirmation non-stop, “thanks for getting back or having (whatever you need)”, feel like you have the thing that you want and the results will come as soon as possible. Successfully used that for situations with very unfavorable odds.

  17. Mia says:

    In desparate situations, repeating simple thoughts/affirmations calm me down, for example:

    “Only good can come from this” or
    “Everything is working for good” or
    “God/the universe is taking care of it”

    Those are from Mary L. Kupferle’s books which I find very comforting. However, this is simply what helps ME, I’m not sure it works for anyone else.

    This might be quite the opposite approach but: Sometimes simply looking the situation in the eye, just looking at what IS, without hiding, wanting to escape, looking for distraction or running away, can be helpful, too. It is very difficult but it works. I think it might be a buddhist practice … Pema Chodron mentions a similar idea in her book “Living beautifully: with uncertainty and change” and calls it the “charnel-ground practice”: “If you can stay present in even the most challenging circumstances, the intensity of the situation will transform you.” I don’t think I have nailed that practice myself – but I keep on trying. 🙂

    I also love the Buddhist practices of Metta and Tonglen, basically sending good wishes and compassion to all those who are in the same or a similar situation as myself: “May all those suffering like I am find comfort and peace.” Or: “May all those in the same situation as I am, find a good solution for their problem.” I often do that and it seems to help me. Probably because it reminds me that I’m not alone in my pain and that my problem is “not the whole world”, so to speak.

    Blessings to all the readers in need!

  18. Reeya says:

    Hot Topic and excellent information here! I find myself in the same boat …NEEDing my situation to change because right now, things are tough for me as well but I know if I can hold on and get through it…it’ll be worth it.

    It’s has been super stressful even as late as this AM. However, even in those moments, i just KEEP HOLDING on to that little voice, that little feeling deep down in my heart that tells me…it WILL be over soon. I WILL have balance and a chance to get back on track.

    But man…when anxiety and fear kicks up, it is VERY challenging to not only have faith but to hold ON to it. But I try and it’s no cake walk. I am determined to win this battle though and make sure that when I do…remember this pain so I can pay it forward. But for now, I just hope and pray that anyone else going through “IT” finds relief soon, anyway that you can and the comments on this post is definitely a first step! NAMASTE my friends!

  19. Nikki says:

    Alright y’all!

    The “need” part is something that everyone can relate to as all of these posts have suggest. As a former champion chronic worrier, I so have been in this place many times. Once when I really couldn’t figure out how to get money that I really needed in three weeks, I just said enough. I kinda did something similar to Janette and then strange sh*t started happening….
    I got a call from the local university in a panic stating that they needed me to come in for a paid panel the following week. Then I got a call from a research company asking me to come in for a research project. Lastly, I got a call from up north for a jury panel. All of this totalled up to the *exact* amount that I needed plus I received a full size bag of chips, too.

    What has helped is reading The Energy of Money where the author discusses the difficulties of bringing the metaphysical into the physical. Heart the book. As soon as I implemented one of her exercises, I got a $100 from an unexpected source plus a Vietnamese ban minh sandwich.

  20. Mary says:

    Last year I went through a bit of a crisis when my car died and i couldn’t see any way to get another. (I live in a rural area without public transportation.) Because of this work, I made a conscious choice to stay open to the possibility of things working out. It made a huge difference. I would remind myself that there could be ways for it to work out that I couldn’t imagine. Then, I just took the next step I could imagine and tried to turn the outcome over to spirit.

    I ended up getting a very nice, late model car. I got the car loan without any credit or co-signers. Even better, I saw that people in my life rallied round to help me. I saw that i had more of a community than i realized.

    Every situation is different, but I think if you can stay open to the possibility of getting what you need, you will.

  21. Ming says:

    I have been thinking about your post now for a few days. It was only just a few months ago when I was watching every penny just to be able to buy food. Now Im in a 360 degree, it just shows you how fast things can change. For me just moving forward each day, setting the intention each day that all is well. ALL is well. 🙂

  22. Jeannette says:

    These are such helpful responses! Thank you, everyone!

    I’m learning something from each and every one of you, as I’m sure many others are, too. 🙂

  23. jennifer t. says:

    there is a visualization that I have found to be most effective when i’m focusing too much on a particular outcome… it gives me a break, at the very least, and more than that, allows for the good to flow my way:

    instead of focusing on the event/person/thing I desire/want/etc… I ‘stick a pin’ in all of that, so to speak, and draw my attention into myself, see myself as a magnet… FEEL my magnetic pull in this world, and then ask myself what colour/hue do I feel around my magnetic pull? (bit of aura work tossed in here).

    there was once when I sensed/felt a murky brown, and I was feeling down in the muck, to be honest. so I instead focused on brightening that up significantly; but, didn’t have any emotional attachment to it – which I found easy, as it is just a coulour.

    the visualization worked wonders for me, I believe, due to the lack of attachment, but also due to the fact that I was not dealing with trying to make myself believe any different of my circumstances; but, just playing with the intention of altering my own essence in comparison to it’s current state. hope that helps 🙂

  24. Elle says:

    What wonderful commentary!!!!! All very helpful to those who asked!

  25. Shimi says:

    The synchronicity of my world and your posts surprises me and yet it should ‘t after my experiences. Your spin-“you may not have the money but you always have the means” pops into my consciousness ( taped to the fridge on a sticky) and the resistance falls away. Too too true.

  26. Alaister says:

    It is a matter of concern after getting in a trouble.Really that moments heart breaking and personally I feel that we need to pray to almighty and there is always a solution to a problem.We should try to get that idea and never give up.Be positive.After solution of problem ,when you look back you will enjoy that moment

  27. sumit says:

    yes Alaister yor true……

  28. Jørund Heim says:

    Haha I’m kind of getting close to that situation right now!

    Now I’ve come to a point in Romania after traveling ALL over the world for the last 4 months where in reality I’ve run out of money and don’t really have money to get home if it weren’t for my credit card, but instead of using it I’m going to put my vibe for attracting money to work for me.

    I had great fun with this yesterday evening and this morning. I downloaded Jeanette’s free guide to money manifestation and put it to work, and I recognized I actually have three 100 LEI bills in my hands.

    What I wanted to increase my normal to was three HUNDRED 100 LEI bills, so to create that feeling of already having three hundred 100 LEI bills, I did what I would have done if I had it, I counted the three 100 LEI bills three hundred times, haha.

    As I counted the 300th one, a wonderful feeling of belief and having 300 bills, which really is 30 000 LEI washed over me and stayed with me for a long time. I did it again before going to bed and first thing this morning, same result. Can’t wait to see how it’s going to come to me! ???? And then continue my travels like the wind, haha.

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