My 2013 Vow to Stop Trying

my 2013 vow to stop tryingWe’re getting a lot of input this week about how to make the most of a brand new year.

Lots of it is really good advice, too.

I’m a sucker for that kind of input – to make sure I’m optimizing my experience and making life better however possible.

(Any self-help junkies here who can relate?)

I like setting strong intentions and embracing new habits.  I love getting clear about big dreams and daring myself to take radical action towards them.

I don’t want to miss out on something life-changing!

And at the same time, I know that perception (that I could do something to make life better) can blind me to the experience that life already IS amazing.  That there isn’t anything that needs to change or be different in order to love it fully.

Which is why I’m leveraging my new year’s excitement for resolutions to hereby vow to stop trying.

To stop trying to make the most of it all.

To stop trying to get there and instead realize I already am.

To go with easy instead.  And perfect.  As is.

To live life like I already won.

Instead of working to get there … to realize I already am.

How else can I enjoy the successes I want to create if I don’t see them when they’re already here?

I vow to stop thinking things should be different than they are.  Or that other circumstances would be easier to enjoy.

I intend to remember that happiness is always mine to choose, not to figure out or to create.

I’m just going to allow allow allow myself to feel the sweet spot that is my life.

And to do 2013 justice by being fully present to enjoy it.

We’re talking 2013 LOA strategies on today’s GVU call.  Join us at 4 pm est for a lively discussion of a variety of fabulous ways to embrace the new year!

  • January 2, 2013
  • Cyndi says:

    Ahhhhhh! Yes! No more try! Try is tiring! I just want to be. I need to read my Slacker Manifesting ebook again. It brought me so much relief. 🙂

  • Mitch says:

    As always, Jeannette, you are riding the wave of exactly what I’ve been thinking and feeling! So many of the things I’ve been “trying” to achieve (even though I truly want those things!) have begun to feel burdensome to me what with all of that tiring effort. I just got back from a nice long holiday break with family, and my 2 1/2 weeks of not trying to accomplish anything AT ALL have already filled me with a new fire and creativity and excitement about life!
    But I’m not excited about the goals that I’ll one day achieve. I’m excited about the easy, day-to-day fun of life. I’ve made some stupidly easy resolutions for 2013 like writing one page on my current story…wait for it…per week. LOL Easy! Writing one measure of music per week. Working out (ie, walking) once a week.
    To someone who doesn’t know much about vibration, these might seem like some lazy-ass goals. 😉 But in giving myself a break and not demanding too much, I’ve *already* found myself getting excited to sit down at my piano or open my word processor, and I’ve already done both of those things more than once this week! Only when it feels good, of course.
    And as for working out… well, the first week of the New Year isn’t over yet. So I’m taking it easy until inspiration hits. 😉

  • Trying is impossible. We either do or we don’t. Either is fine. It seems that there are two ways to manifest what we want/need. The Yang method which involves old paradigm goal-setting, and the Yin process which involves being present and attracting. Having used the yang process, to no great avail, it’s the Yin process for me.

  • Nat Couropmitree says:

    Love this Jeannette. Definitely been feeling the same thing. “Trying” feels like it’s so much effort. It also gives us the message that we’re not there yet – which isn’t the message we want to embrace.
    I agree with Janette. Letting go of the trying is such a relief. Now we can just relax and enjoy. 🙂

  • Susann says:

    Oh, Janette — my Word last year was BREAKTHROUGH! And you know what? It was! Although I wasn’t aware of it being so until a couple of weeks ago when I did a quick review of 2012. I wrote the word “breakthrough” on the top of every page in my journal and my Daytimer-clone, and I thought about it a lot, but didn’t actually DO anything I could define as being a “breakthrough” in any area. I chose the word with a specific event in mind; missed that by a country mile. But in reviewing my year, I was absolutely astonished to see how I broke through so many barriers, fears, stupid habits, blocks and limitations. Jaw dropping, actually. I hope it works the same magic for you this year!
    My word this year: a very loud and emphatic MORE. More fun, laughter, money, love, goofiness, excitement, success, joy, release, acceptance, openness, happiness, energy, enthusiasm, creativity, art, expansiveness, exercise, beach time . . . this is Day 2 of my new year and I’m already feelin’ it!
    But I, too, am embracing my Inner Yoda: less try, MORE (inspired) doing. More, more, more … LOL!

  • Oh, Janette – you’ll be so much fun to watch this year with that Breakthrough energy flowing! WOO HOO!!

  • Janette says:

    Sophie, you remind me how much I love to embrace my inner Yoda.
    Luke: All right, I’ll give it a try.
    Yoda: No. Try not. Do… or do not. There is no try.
    Ahhhh…. such a relief, to give up trying LOL!
    I love this post. A couple of days ago I got super excited to discover that my theme word for 2013 is BREAKTHROUGH. But that led to a brief illusion that I’d need to work my butt off, do loads of planning, set goals – all the stuff that sends me into a spiral of “oh, let me just go nap for a while”. Blerg!
    I am still planning, but now I’m doing it with fun. And more importantly, from now on I’ll be doing it by deliberately engaging the feeling of breakthrough NOW. As in, celebrating the breakthroughs I already have in my life.
    And I’ll be allowing the Spirit of Breakthrough to support me as I finally let go of some old stuff I didn’t even know I was hanging on to. A kind of breakthrough bootcamp, if you like – and it’s no coincidence that I’m doing your bootcamp, Jeannette LOL!
    Now I think it’s time for a lie on the couch while I meditate (or snooze) on the subject of my present, current, joyful breakthrough. Delicious!

  • Something different every day – wow – that sounds like a fun commitment, Sophie! Are you blogging about it?

  • Sophie says:

    Yes! Yes! Yes! Trying = you know you are going to fail, so why bother?
    There is only doing or being.
    This year, I am doing something different every day and I am being more, whatever that means 🙂
    There will be no trying in this life of mine 🙂
    Much appreciation for you my friend!

  • !!So cool!!
    And with Anne committed to being fully Anne in 2013, this year just got better already.
    woo hoo!!

  • MissyB says:

    Oh what a timely post. For years I have felt out of place because I have no real wants in life…no falling out of planes, no climbing of mountains. I am surrounded by people who constantly tick one thing off the list and have the next thing to plan. This year I made a pact with myself…I am just going to “be”. Warts and all. When I worry that I don’t have goals, I am going to accept that I am worried…not beat myself up because I am different.
    So this is my year…my year to just be Anne.

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