5 Things I Wish Someone Had Told Me Sooner

Anyone who’s been in this manifesting game a while has probably looked back on their learning curve and spotted a couple lessons that would have been helpful to pick up sooner rather than later.

I know I have.

In service to those of us who might not have learned what you have, I propose we share those learning curve lessons with each other here.

It’ll serve all of our creative endeavors that much better!

I’ll begin with five things I wish someone had told me earlier.

Even though I might have had to learn it the hard way anyway, it still would have been nice to know:

1. Don’t use manifesting processes to make things better so you can feel better.

Rather, use manifesting processes to feel better now, then things get better.

That’s the purpose of a process – to improve your vibe here and now. That’s what makes reality morph to match.
I did it backwards for a while until I heard Abraham say alignment practices aren’t for making things happen. They’re for feeling better. And then things happen. Light bulb.

2. You’re never going to “get there” (happily ever after) so you may as well find a way to enjoy here and now.

You’ll always be on your way to something even better, so don’t hold out for “arriving” in order to have a good time. The good times have to happen here and now or they never will.

3. Don’t try too hard.

Making it a big deal isn’t likely to speed things up. In fact, it usually does the opposite.

Instead, lighten up. Take it easy. Relax a little. (Or a lot!) Magic happens when we chill out.

4. Let everyone be right.

We weren’t meant to all be in full agreement.

It’s okay that they don’t think what you think. No need for us to get on the same page – everyone gets to choose how it is for themselves.

Your choice doesn’t have to spoil yours unless you let it. In fact …

5. Don’t worry too much about what others are up to in general.

Pay attention to your own guidance.

Learn to trust your joy. It really is your best guidance.

I know it’s easier said than done to trust what feels best, but that really is the golden path.

Those are my five tips that I’d love to have embraced sooner rather than later. Let’s hear yours …

  • November 1, 2017
  • Jen says:

    When I think a problem is a Big Deal, I check my mental image of it, and I’m usually thinking of it as physically big. Way bigger than me. Like I can’t begin to think of fixing it without at least four trucks and an underwater welding rig.
    So I take that mental image and shrink it down until it’s an adorable little trinket that fits in the palm of my hand.
    Now fixing it is going to involve maybe a dab of glitter glue, or a little gold safety pin.
    *Whew*. Much better.

  • Wendy says:

    I especially like #3. Just relax.
    LOA can seem so hard but, we make it so by constantly trying to do it right and questioning why we haven’t yet arrived.
    I’m thinking all we need to do is consciously do what do we every day, because we’ve been manifesting since we were born. We just didn’t know it and that takes us full circle back to relax.
    We manifested all that we didn’t want because we didn’t know we were doing it. We weren’t hung up on the how and why it’s not working. We unconsciously allowed the Universe to give us what we asked for (stuff we didn’t want) because we did nothing but think and feel our way there.

  • HappySandra says:

    We’ve all got a spiritual team with us every step of the way. We’re not on this journey alone. And they want to help us! They are delighted to assist. But the thing is, we have to ask. 🙂
    Abraham-Hick quotes:
    “There is a cadre of non-physical intelligence that will guide you to everything that you want if you hang out with them long enough.”
    “You have this really good staff that will take care of everything for you. You just have to delegate it and trust it.”

  • MonAnon says:

    Embrace contrast. Give it a big ole’ hug and thank it for showing up to clarify what you REALLY want.
    Choose FUN!
    Listen to music.
    Dance to that music!
    Have zero regard for what anyone thinks about you. Zero. Anyway, THEY all secretly think you’re pretty cool……
    Don’t talk about all this too much. That eliminates feeling the need to defend what you KNOW is right for you. Just BE it.
    Replace and or release those limiting beliefs that will pop up on your way. (a good cry usually works for me)
    Did I mention FUN? As in….choosing to have it?
    Trust. Trust. Trust your emotions. Let them be your guide.
    Take care of you FIRST. It’s the only way you can be helpful to anyone else. (Learn to get very comfortable with the phrase “I trust you’ll figure it out…” Now that’s FUN!)
    That “gut” feeling? Trust it . Every time. Practicing helps.
    Relax and let everything unfold in it’s divine order. Because it will! (especially if you get out of the way)
    Use this fabulous website to help guide you. It is full of really useful advice. So much FUN too!
    Gotta go now. I hear Bruno Mars on Pandora and I must DANCE!

  • Susann says:

    1. It works. It’s always working. If you don’t think it’s working, look at where your thoughts are. See that? It’s working.
    2. Everything should be easy. Not necessarily simple, but easy. When things appear to be getting hard or complex or result in a whole lot of anxiety or worry, take a deep breath, turn it over to the Universe and consciously decide to let it be easy.
    3. Stay in your own sandbox.
    4. It’s always about how you feel. We talk about “mind your thoughts” only in so far as our thoughts create an emotional response, and that’s where the power is: in the emotion.
    5. It works. It always, always freaking works.

    • Jeannette says:

      LOVE!!! “It always always freaking works.”
      I am so quoting you, Susann. 🙂

      • Susann says:

        🙂 I have to admit that what leads me to that reminder is too often my own grumpy complaint that “it’s not working”, at which point I have to remind myself that, yes, it is — it ALWAYS freaking works. If it appears it isn’t working, the problem isn’t with the Universe. If I want better results, I need better thoughts.

  • Michael says:

    Happy to report that–while I’m still ‘not there’ (as though you ever get ‘there’. :D)…I’m so much better at these and a lot of this has become second nature.
    Thanks for your part in that, for me, Jeannette! 🙂

  • Sejual says:

    My biggest one is don’t make manifesting a project. You’ll only end up giving yourself a second job whilst wondering why you’re not seeing improvements to match the level of healing / self development ‘work’ you’re doing. As often happens with projects the goalposts will keep extending leaving you unsatisfied. Projects are great for exercising our analytical and intellectual capabilities. But overthinking something is more likely to involve you getting in your own way rather than feeling better.
    Put another way, this all so much more simple than the analytical mind can conceive of. Making a project out of manifesting doesn’t trend towards finding things simple and easy.

    • Jeannette says:

      Oh my gosh, SO TRUE! It’s like we replace the work of “actioning it into being” in muggle world to with manifesting work. lol Nice reminder, Sejual, that’s so much more simple than we often let it be!
      Thanks for posting. 🙂

  • Maitri says:

    I love this!! Thank you for the reminders. One of my favorite Posts!

  • Rachel says:

    There are some good things in here.

  • Namaste says:

    All the points are great but my favorite is #5. Don’t worry about what others are up to and don’t worry about what others think is possible either =)

  • Amina says:

    This is in line with your don’t try so hard. Go for the easy wins to make yourself feel better! I started with getting a parking spot in one specific area outside of Target, when I mastered that, I knew I was going to be good at manifesting :)!

  • Juli says:

    Awesome post by the way! 👏👏👏

  • Juli says:

    One of the biggest lessons I learnt (and still have to remind myself of it every once in a while): hard work doesn’t equal success and it’s completely avoidable. Resting, relaxing and following your inner guidance can get you to better results if you just let go of resistance.

    • Jeannette says:

      That’s a really good one, Juli! I also still remind myself that once in a while. 😉
      Thanks for posting your thoughts! 🙂

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