5 Tips To Make the Most of Coaching

So you’ve decided to work with a life coach – congratulations!

Fewer things can catapult your success like engaging a professional coach.

I personally believe coaching can be the most mind-blowing, life-expanding, perspective-shifting, exciting gig you’ll ever say yes to!

No doubt that belief is fueled by my own experience where my life changed more in three months of working with an LOA coach than in the three years of working LOA on my own.

(Jeanna Gabellini rocked my world in ways I didn’t know possible!)

Not everyone has that experience, though, so here are 5 tips for getting the most out of your coaching experience:

1. Choose Your Coach Wisely

Hiring the right coach makes a world of difference about how things unfold.

Not everyone knows how to hire a coach (I learned that the hard way myself), so here are my suggestions for finding your best match …

You’re not necessarily looking for the most experienced, most raved about, expensive (or cheapest) or nearest coach you can find.

Those are not the criteria to use when choosing your coach!

Sometimes the coach who serves you best could be brand new at this stuff. She might be more expensive (or less expensive) than you expected. Your best friend might have had terrible results with him. She might have the worst website you’ve ever clicked on. His testimonials might not be impressive, or even exist.

Those things don’t necessarily matter.

What you want to pay attention to is whether this coach feels right to you now.

Let your inner guidance pick your coach, which you’ll recognize based on the resonance you feel with them. You might also spot that guidance based on who you feel most excited to work with.

Some coaches have slick and compelling enrollment spiels, so make sure you’re listening to your inner guidance above all else.

Where do you go looking for a coach, you might be wondering?

There are three common approaches to finding candidate coaches for evaluation:

  • Ask your network for referrals.
  • Surf a coach directory.
  • Let google help. (I found Jeanna by searching “law of attraction coach.”)

Of course, an even more effective approach is simply to set an intention for your best coach to be revealed to you, and see who Universe delivers.
It’s not a bad idea to do your due diligence before making it official: click on their website, check out their social media, listen to an interview, read a few articles, request a phone chat.

No one ever told me you’re supposed to shop for coaches the same way you’d interview contractors or personal trainers. If you don’t already have clear signals as to who your coach is, interview two or three so you can gauge rapport with each.

Really it’s about paying attention to the one that “clicks” best for you. You’ll know it when it happens. Follow that guidance!

2. Get Clear About What You Want

Sometimes people hire a coach without a clear goal or intention about what they want to achieve in the work together.

Knowing your “why” behind engaging a coach will also impact your hiring decision, since some coaches have specialties and some are well-rounded.

Your coach will likely guide you through this process, but you’ll be a tremendous help by having a good idea about the end result you’d like to achieve.

That could be as simple as “feel better” in general, or as specific as “double my income,” “drop habits of worry,” or “navigate this divorce with grace and sanity.”

When you clearly know why you’re investing in this coaching relationship, you’re more likely to hit your target.

Communicating your goal or intention to your coach is essential, so make sure you’re both on the same page about what you’re creating together.

3. Know How To Measure Success

How will you know the coaching is working?

That’s the question worth knowing the answer to in advance.

If your coach doesn’t ask in the beginning what your idea of success looks like, be pro-active in sharing so he/she knows what you’re measuring progress by.

It’ll help your sessions be more targeted and effective when both of you are clear about what you’re looking for as signs of success.

For example, if you’ve engaged a coach to help you thrive in a new business, how will you know you’re getting there? Is it an amount of profit or number of clients, a satisfaction level, an audience size or some other measure?

Talk with your coach about this for best results!

4. Be Honest & Open

For the love of God, please be straight with your coach.

Yes, I know you like them, and that you want them to like you, too. You want them to feel like they’re doing a good job for you. You want them to succeed.

But your coach is handicapped if you aren’t open and honest about what’s up for you.

As clients, most of us know the right answers. We know what we’re supposed to say and what our coach wants to hear.

But if you don’t speak to what’s true for you, you’re sabotaging your coach, yourself and the work you’re doing together.

Give your coach a chance to do their best work by letting them know what’s going on – in your head and in your world. If something’s not working, say so. If their suggestions aren’t landing, speak to it. If you don’t think they understand what you’re dealing with, clue them in.

It’s not your job to stroke your coach’s ego. They can handle it when you disagree with their approach or question their methods.

Keeping those thoughts to yourself isn’t how you set either of you up for highest success.

I’m not saying your coach will magically get it right when you speak to the truth of what’s up for you – but I am saying you both have a much better chance of success when you do.

5. Do the Work

I know you would never do this, but some people subconsciously think that just by hiring a coach they’ve bought their way into a solution.
They think they’ve spent the money and are investing the time (in sessions), thus things will improve.
That isn’t how it usually works.

You’re not off the hook just because you hired professional help. This is still your party to lead.

That means you must do the work. Whatever work you and your coach agree on, doing that work is where the magic happens.

You can’t buy your way into a better life just by hiring a life coach. You have to invest in yourself by doing the work if you expect results.

Yes, sometimes the optimism and positive expectation we feel when we get an expert in our corner is enough to usher in some easy wins right off the bat before we even lift a finger.

But if we want lasting and significant transformation, it requires change on our part.

(This is also where being honest with your coach comes in handy. Although it’s sort of like going to the dentist … they’ll ask if you floss, but they can tell as soon as you open your mouth.)

Bottom line:

Coaching can usher incredible life transformation to those who engage it. I have said before that coaching is better than sex, when it’s done right.

Hiring the right coach for you, putting forth clear expectations and methods of measuring progress, keeping the lines of communication open and authentic, as well as investing time in the work (beyond just session time) are the basics of getting the most out of your coaching.

If you want to experience the benefits of what life coaching can do for you, follow those tips to set yourself up for highest success.

And for those of you who have experience in this already, whether you’re a fellow coach or a client of one, please share your tips for how to get the most out of coaching, too!

PS – for those who are wondering, yes, I still happily offer private coaching services on a limited basis. It’s one of several ways I love to help you rock it.

PPS – for those of you lamenting you have no budget for a life coach, excuses be gone!

PPPS – if you think coaching is so cool you want to be one, we’ve got you covered there, too.

  • June 17, 2017
  • Jas says:

    One thing I love to do when hiring a coach (or other professional) is help them help me. This fits in well with the point, “Get Clear”.
    For example, I may send the coach a simple and clear ‘summary’ of points (no essays!), 1 pg max, that I feel are important or useful so we don’t have to spend a lot of time getting up to speed. This may include specifics successes and challenges or things I want their help in bringing out. One of my clients offered to send me a whole host of her personality test summaries from the past, etc – that is TOO much, lol! I send an assessment to each client (a list of specific questions) after they sign up in their welcome packet. I find that goes a long way in getting to know them and their desires asap.
    And something I recommend to my clients and do myself is send an update email between sessions. A lot can happen in a week and it keeps things on track! Keeping the focus on what you want (vs what’s not happening or going wrong) helps too. 🙂 That’s the beauty of coaching packages vs one-off sessions – they are a ‘container’ for the whole process and have space for connection between sessions.
    I love your comment Jeanette, “Coaching is better than sex!” hahaha.

  • Jeri says:

    Love this, SO helpful….

  • Joanne says:

    Great post Jeanette! So so important to find a coach you resonate with and who feels right for you – and they don’t necessarily have to be like you! One of my long term clients is very different to me in personality and lifestyle yet we both share a love of everything LOA and she loves that I can help her stay aligned in her already amazing life – not to mention having someone who you can say just about anything to….
    … and that is another thing, nothing has to be broken in your life to want a coach. Many of us know where we are going and just want the support to stay on the right path and take those bold steps.

  • Dana says:

    Great post! I think I’ll keep it handy and when inspired, share it with new clients… like Ming, I like the “do the work” mention; coaches in the sporting industry would suggest nothing less for improvement; this is how I often explain its importance.

  • Ming says:

    Jeannette, such a great post. (I didn’t want to be first to comment LOL) but then again here we are – we can toot our horns can’t we?
    Personally I love being coached and I love to coach. My favorite one on your list is -do the work (while I highly agree with all your points) . I believe I am a good student when it comes to being coached. When I get the work, I do it. I have seen the life changing pay off’s too. When the clients I coach do the work, I see the 180’s they are doing and its so rewarding for both of us. I love watching a client’s journey unfold and am privy to the miracles in their life.
    So yay, here’s to coaching and being coached 🙂

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