All Is Well

dogfur.jpgI’ve been inundated with emails from kind readers who are wanting to help ease my pain and attachment to Sasha, based on the story I told in yesterday’s (Oct 9th) ezine. Several also expressed surprise that I was married. (I’m not.)
I failed to mention in yesterday’s ezine that those events took place over a decade ago.
Sasha was Kita’s sister, both have been gone for a while now. As has been my dear husband. He didn’t die, but we’re still great friends to this day. lol (Okay, that just makes me laugh that I said “but” instead of “and” in that last sentence.)
Between Kevin, Sasha, Kita, along with many other cats, boyfriends, jobs, and girlfriends, I’ve had plenty of practice to learn how to release attachment.
We all have plenty of practice, don’t we?
Learning to let this be easy; to recognize that how we feel is up to us, no one and nothing else; and to embrace our power to feel good right now, despite what is or isn’t happening – that’s what will set us free.
That’s where life gets unconditionally good.
Anyway, I just wanted to set the record straight that this took place in the mid-90’s and thank everyone for writing. Here’s a reprint of the story for those who aren’t receiving my bi-monthly ezine and have no idea what I’m talking about. (And if you want the tips & tricks to determine whether you’re attached, sign up for the ezine using the sign up box in the right hand column here and I’ll send you a full copy.)

Before you get what you want, whether it’s money, the body, career or love life, you get to learn how to want it without attachment. Because as long as you’re attached, it will elude you.
Here’s the deal. Although strong desire is helpful in a speedy manifestation, when we desperately want something, or have to have it, or condition our happiness on getting it, we slow its progress. (Sometimes even halt progress.)
So releasing attachment to what we want allows cool things to happen.
Knowing to do it is one thing; practicing releasing attachment is another.
“I can’t live without him/her.” Have you ever heard someone say those words? Or maybe you have yourself.
I felt that way about my first dog, Sasha. She turned up missing last morning of a camp
trip. My husband went to work, but I searched for her on that damn mountain for three days before Kevin finally made me come home. I was devastated.
On the front porch steps I fell to my knees. I literally couldn’t come home without my girl. (Kevin
thought he was going to have to take me to the hospital for a sedative. I was that kind of distraught.)
Can you feel my attachment? It’s an extreme example, but it’s important to be able to tell when you’re attached to an outcome.
We found Sasha a couple days later (on a completely different mountain range). I’m certain the only reason we found her was because Kevin was still connected to Source; I surely wasn’t.
He was able to follow intuition and discern inspired action, which led us straight to her. (A miracle, in my book.) I was numb, running nightmare thoughts of life without Sasha. To this day it’s a
tough story to tell.
That’s what attachment feels like: Shut down. Disconnected. Gotta have it. Won’t be happy till it gets here. If this doesn’t happen, my life is over.
How attractive is that? (Not!)
Universe doesn’t flow good stuff there. It sends the good stuff where there’s nice strong desire and “feel good” already present. Where it feels EASY, appreciated, and open.
Are you wondering whether you’re experiencing attachment? Tips & Tricks below will help you determine whether you might be.

So just to have a happy ending here – when Kevin did finally get me through the front door, we came in to hear a voice mail message from one of the rangers. (This was before we had cell phones. Well, before HE did. I still don’t.)
We had posted lost dog signs all over campgrounds and fishing spots and the ranger’s place. The ranger from another mountain range was at our ranger’s place when he saw our lost dog sign, and told a story about how a couple of his workmen who were making a new trail with heavy construction equipment had seen some sort of strange animal they could not for the life of them identify. (Sasha was a red chow.)
It was so strange they were telling the story back at the office. (They didn’t even know it was a dog.)
So our ranger left a message giving a ROUGH idea of where he thought the other ranger’s men saw what could have been Sasha. We waited till morning light to start looking on that new mountain, and after a couple hours of driving, Kevin felt a strange impulse to turn where there was no road, and right after he turned we looked to the left and saw her hiding behind a big bush.
She had not done well in the wild. lol
I was too numb to even be happy or relieved. I was just numb. And that was WITHOUT drugs!
Sasha, she was my girl.
Of course, so was Kita. And Sophie. And now Sadie. And I’m sure there will be more.
I don’t have digital photos of Sasha, but she was a looker! Here’s one of Kita, though – Sasha’s big sister and my favorite girl of all (with Soph in the background – my other favorite girl).
As one astute reader said, dogs are particularly gifted at teaching us non-attachment. They are perfect models at how everything is okay, no matter what is or isn’t going on.
God Bless the Dogs. 🙂

  • October 10, 2007
  • Good Vibe Coach says:

    Aren’t dogs the BEST, Holly?! I firmly believe that’s why I’ve surrounded myself with them in my life – because they live such a STRONG example of how to do this “life” thing right!

    We’re going to bed? Yay!! We’re getting up? Yay!! We’re eating breakfast? Yay!! We’re talking to the neighbor? Yay!! Someone’s here? Yay!! You’re going to the store? Can I come?! You’re home? Yay!!

    They’re the BEST!!!

    I knew my ex-husband was in trouble when he left this house without the dogs. He didn’t even argue for them. And not because he knew I wouldn’t give them up, but because (I think) he had no idea the value of them. He took the cash and left the dogs. I love the guy dearly, but my word. What a wrong turn.

    Okay, all the judgment there doesn’t feel fabulous – so I’ll throw out a thought or two to release it. I get that footloose and fancy free was definitely his gig at the time. He had a tremendous amount of fun traveling and meeting new girls. (One of whom is one of my closest friends to this day. Love you, Carol!)

    Dogs didn’t fit into his equation at the time. And he got to still visit my dogs, so it’s not like they were gone.

    Ok, that helped, but I’m not quite there. I’ll let the dogs back in from their morning break and it’ll be a snap to get back to my feel good again. 🙂

    Here’s to the dogs!!

    And thanks for posting, Holly!

  • holly says:

    i really giggled at the ‘he’s not dead but we’re still friends’ bit.

    and i too am a dog lover. the only thing that matters to them is being happy, right now! and now! and now! and oh yeah right now too!

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