Bad Day Protocol

bad day protocol for deliberate creators

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Sometimes it isn’t all rainbows, unicorns and good vibes.

What’s a deliberate creator to do on a crappy day?

Here are my top three tips for deliberate creator conduct when the bad vibe rules:

1. Lay low.

Buy yourself some time. Don’t address what doesn’t require attention when you’re in this energy.

In fact, make some space for yourself to just feel bad. Take the day off, cancel appointments, don’t answer emails, let co-workers lunch without you. Engaging life when we feel obligated to pretend we’re fine (or exacerbating the bad vibe by including others in it) can be even more exhausting than it already is. Go on the down low instead.

2. Roll with it.

Do you know how to have a bad day? This is your chance to embrace it by feeling your feelings fully! Β After all, this is where all the good stuff comes from – from this contrast.

There’s nothing wrong with it – it’s actually an essential part of the process.

Rather than judge it, roll with it. It actually can be entertaining to let yourself go with it.

3. Remember it’s temporary.

It’s easy to resist the funk because we think we’ll be here forever if we don’t hold it at bay.

But that routine doesn’t work. Β Know that it won’t be like this always and it’s okay to feel how you feel now.

Remembering that can help ease the experience of a bad day.

What are your top tips for fellow manifesters who are in a funk? (We’re not looking for ways to change the funk, but rather what to do when we’re knee deep in it.)

Thanks in advance for your advice!

  • September 25, 2013
  • Monique says:

    I hate feeling upset so I usually turn to an audio from Abraham Hicks and try to distract myself and pivot to a better feeling. Sometimes it takes a few moments/hours even, sometimes it’s quick, but I love pivoting. Once the contrast is over I super-appreciate feeling better!
    It helps me with depression too.

  • You’re a rock star, Nicole. πŸ™‚

  • Nicole says:

    Thanks for this.
    Yesterday I was having a rough day. First day of my period, exhausted from work, taking care dinner, bed times, etc. My 2 year old wouldn’t go to bed, just screamed.
    Finally I just sat on my bed and cried.
    Within minutes my husband came running in from outside to ask me what was wrong. He didn’t hear me crying…he FELT me crying!
    This bad day turned into a wonderful example of my husband’s love and deep connection to me.
    I probably do not need to add that lately I have been using LoA to enhance my marriage. πŸ™‚

  • Hey Jeannette…thanks for looking πŸ™‚
    If you haven;t found my link, here it is:
    Take care and all the best.

  • Anonymous says:

    Movies, my Go To cure for everything. British mystery TV series. Good novels (usually British mysteries or Dan Brown inspired block-busters).
    I also have this silly thing I do that often works in many situations: I stand up & close my eyes & take a deep breath, then envision a series of parallel Universes, like slices of energy, running on either side of me. Think of a train or subway station with all these tracks & trains running parallel to one another. I then *physically* take one big step left or right and say, OK, I’m moving into a better reality right . . . now!
    I actually adapted this from Julia Hamrick’s concept of “Easy World”, and often I just say, “okay, I’m stepping into Easy World right now, where everything is easy and perfect for me”. Sounds weird, but it actually works more often than not.And who knows. Maybe I really *am* moving into a better Reality Stream! (And thank goodness, Jeannette, you’re always in every one!)
    (Although, thank goodness, Jeannette, you’re in every one!)I a ctuall

  • Lizette says:

    YAY! That’s exactly what “feels right” for me, when things don’t “feel right”, so good to know that’s right. I do find that giving myself permission to be in the moment helps me get over it quickly – provided I don’t allow my mind to wander too much.:-)

  • Brenda says:

    Ahhh, yes, Netflix Therapy! It works! I’ve done it just recently, actually. In the case of a broken heart, embarrassment, disappointment, or extreme humiliation, may I suggest Bridget Jones’ Diary?! Bridget does a bad day especially well. Might want to hold back the wine a little, though. πŸ˜‰

  • Jeannette —
    A friend of mine engages in what he calls Netflix Therapy when he’s feeling leveled by circumstances. He cocoons himself off for as long as necessary . . . until he can’t take it anymore and comes up for air, ready to go at it anew———-

  • Robin vk says:

    I know what I focus on comes into my experience. I try not to dwell but find that if I take 10 minutes and write to clarify my thoughts, I can get to a better place. … Now sustaining that place on a crappy day is still a challenge, but at least I try. In the past I would have found the closest fast food place and hated myself afterwards. So grateful and happy to have stumbled on Good Vibe blog last year. πŸ™‚

  • julie masters says:

    I milk it for all it’s worth! I’ve had friends remind me of my own advice, “Feel everything…and eat chocolate”! And I do! Intentionally, consciously and as intensely as is required.
    I stay in my room, and listen to music that I know makes me cry or movies that do the same. I make others bring me things, so I don’t have to get up–chocolate,(of course) tea, or cookies, or Lipton noodle soup (which my mother gave me when I was young and had a cold–comfort food with no nutritional value at all!!)I soak in the tub sometimes, other times I never leave my bed–I certainly don’t bother to get dressed!
    Pretty soon, I’m starting to appreciate the fact that I can feel such a broad spectrum of emotions, even when they involve feeling sadness or hurt, or grief–and you know how appreciation works!! It just turns everything around–but not before I’ve felt everything!! πŸ™‚
    Ease and flow,
    Julie Masters

  • Andi says:

    If none of my normal tricks to shift energy work, I’m a firm believer in taking a nap or settling down with a good novel. (A good movie would probably work well too.) Anything to get out of my head.

  • I’m looking for a link to your post, Lyle … I love that we’re addressing the same topic! lol
    “Worm food in 100 years” – way to put things in proper perspective, Mike!! ha That one actually works really well for me. Thanks for posting here!

  • Mike Golvach says:

    Whoops, I just my reply as anonymous.
    Must be having a bad day. I’ll think about whether that’s true or not tomorrow πŸ˜‰
    , Mike

  • Anonymous says:

    I let other people worry and get bummed when things aren’t working out. Most stress and bad feelings are an anxiety-gap and I don’t have time to try and live in the future now, since it seems like it must be impossible. I also remind myself that we’ll all be worm-food in 100 years, we don’t have to kill ourselves today πŸ˜‰
    That being said, sometimes I have to be careful, because it’s really easy to come off like I couldn’t care less about things that other people take way too seriously, when the bad day is being shared with others. Gallows humor helps, as long as I make sure to not pay attention to a word I’m saying πŸ˜‰
    Have a great day, anyway πŸ™‚
    , Mike

  • Hi Jeannette and thanks for the great post.
    It’s funny, I wrote a similar post today and we seemed to have addressed the same ways of coping, albeit a little differently πŸ™‚
    Over the years I have learned to accept my bad days and to keep in mind that the feelings will pass in time…and they do!
    Take care and thank you for your work. I am enjoying reading through your blog.
    Take care and all the best.

  • Way to embrace it, Stacy! Days like this are so easy to resist, but I think just prolongs the pain. Sounds super counter-intuitive, but allowing those feelings helps us move through them more swiftly.
    I was going to say happy birthday, but maybe it’s better to say: “Here’s to a right proper bad day.”

  • I’m having a bad day – AND it’s my birthday. I decided earlier today (after crying when the girl at the tanning salon wished me a happy birthday and hugged me) that I was just going to be all down today and be done with it by tomorrow or so.
    (It’s not really the birthday thing – yesterday was also the anniversary of my dad’s death. I’m just feeling sorry for myself that it’s been 5 years now that I haven’t gotten that much appreciated call from dad on my birthday. So wallow I will today. I’m not a fan of rain either so the fact it’s raining today doesn’t help.)

  • Kudos to you, Reeya, for still knowing that something good is on its way. It’s so easy to lose sight of that when we’re stuck in a crappy day.
    Sending big love!!

  • Reeya says:

    As always, Jeannette you are right on time with this one. lol! I am having a very bad week. So that’s what I’ll do. I mean I have no choice but to acknowledge, feel it, roll with it because it’s OBV the universe is trying to get my attention. Despite, I do know that something good is on it’s way though. I feel that it is. It’s just really hard to grab positivity when so much is opposite. [Hanging by a thread but at least my fingers will have to be chopped off before I let go] πŸ™‚ Thanks!!!

  • That’s a really helpful thing to know and practice, Chip. I know some folks – especially savvy creators – can be nervous to really allow it fully, but that is such a powerful practice!
    Thanks for chiming in, my friend.

  • Chip says:

    If you are going to feel bad, really get into it and feel as bad as possible. Let the feeling pass through you and evolve away from you.

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