Benefits of Neglecting Your Desire
I called a friend for green thumb advice on what to do different with a couple of indoor plants that weren’t thriving.
He suggested something I wouldn’t have come up with myself: neglect.
Robert said plants sometimes do better when you don’t give them too much attention, since we plant lovers can be prone to overwatering, overfertilizing, unnecessary repotting, etc.
It turns out, as he shared on a recent GVU call, the same wisdom applies when it comes to manifesting what we want.
Sometimes our deliberate creation routines don’t actually improve the vibration or help the situation.
Kind of like how I keep moving this wilting dracaena around, trying to find the best light. Always sticking a finger in the dirt to see if it’s getting dry. Wondering if I should try a different fertilizer.
All that fuss and negative attention hasn’t helped it.
Yet, after implementing Robert’s advice a few weeks ago, I noticed today as I did the regular watering rounds (no more special attention to plants in jeopardy, so today’s the first time I noticed) that there are new leaves coming up! And it’s not dropping as many as it used to!
Huh. “Neglect” seems to be working.
Which shouldn’t surprise me, since the same thing occasionally happens with our manifesting practices – especially with those of us who qualify as zealot creators. Like when we …
- doggedly visualize every day, rain or shine, feel good or not. (Sometimes there’s no good juju in those efforts.)
- or neurotically pay attention to our thoughts – is that a good thought or a bad one? Can I do better? Did I just ruin everything with that stupid worry?
- or devotedly gaze at our vision board, willing those items to manifest in real life once and for all, g#$%&*it!
(Unwittingly) flowing fuss and worry about what we want won’t take us where we want to go. In fact, in those situations we’d be better off not thinking about it at all.
I’m not suggesting that consciously managing our vibration is a hindrance to getting what we want – quite the contrary.
But sometimes our manifesting efforts don’t serve us as well as we think they do.
Whether it’s because we try too hard, or get attached to results, or inadvertently pay “negative” attention – sometimes our manifesting practice backfires. In those sitautions, easing up on our law of attraction routine or putting less focus on the desire itself is what’s best.
Ask anyone at Good Vibe U who has manifested a treasure hunt item after it ended.
Or ask those “natural manifesters” (don’t we all know one?) who are so good at getting what they want even though they’ve never heard of deliberate creation.
Or ask Abigail Steidley or Dan Howard who are well versed in the power of doing nothing.
I’m just saying that sometimes we overdo it, even though our intentions are good.
Think about something else that’s easier to enjoy for a while.
And don’t be surprised if that’s exactly when new leaves start sprouting!