The Best Advice I Ever Regretted
Some words of wisdom are worth ignoring.
Hopefully we spot those words before we learn the hard way that some advice is best ignored.
Once we understand the role of energy and the power of attraction, we realize much traditional life advice just doesn’t make sense.
Here are a few life tips I might have been better off skipping:
1. Don’t go to bed mad
Talking when you’re mad may not be the best idea for every occasion, I have learned.
Sometimes a good night’s sleep is the perfect answer for managing present moment conflict. Many times all I needed was a nice dip back into non-resistant sleep to get my vibrational footing again. It often allowed me access to a new perspective and a new vibe!
In fact, maybe the better advice is to immediately go to bed once you get mad. ha!
2. Don’t do yourself what you can pay someone else to do for less (than what you make)
This advice is intended to free us up to do bigger and better things, like focus on the 20% of our activities that bring in 80% of our revenue. (We’ve all been taught about the 80/20 rule, right?)
But what I learned through trying this one on is that it’s not all about the money.
Rather, it’s about the enjoyment.
If I enjoy mowing my lawn (which I do), I’m crazy to let someone else do it for me. If I enjoy walking my dogs, it’s asinine to hire a dogwalker. If I like vacuuming the carpets, even though I’d pay someone else a fraction of my hourly rate to do it, I’m better off experiencing that enjoyment myself, even if it doesn’t make financial sense to the rest of the world.
Because we know that when we do what we enjoy, good things come.
So mowing and cleaning and dog walking and yes, even some reality TV, are part of my daily to-do’s even though the experts tell me otherwise. I’ll outsource it only if I can’t think of a better way to enjoy myself.
Just because you can make more money doing your thing and pay someone else to wash the car or watch the kids or edit the articles, doesn’t mean you should. Pay attention to the enjoyment factor. After all, what else is the point of life?
3. Mr. Perfect doesn’t exist
When I told dad that my on-again, off-again boyfriend had proposed but I wasn’t jumping up and down with absolute joy, he said: “If you’re waiting for a saint, you can stop waiting.” The implication was that this was as good as it gets.
Dad sure liked that guy. (Still does!) Probably the only guy (besides Rick Kreifeldt) he ever has liked. (And for the record, I didn’t get to date Rick; he was my college boyfriend’s roommate.)
Anyway, that piece of advice from dad led me to marriage. We all know how that turned out.
With the benefit of hindsight, I like this advice better: “If it’s not a hell yes, it’s a hell no.”
Settling just seems like we’re giving up, once we know that we really can have whatever we want. (And if you don’t know that by now, you haven’t studied up properly on the power of deliberate creation.)
There’s lots more typical advice out there that can lead us astray from our best life, but these are just the particular tips I went down the bumpy road with.
Would it defeat the point of this post to solicit your best tips for advice to ignore? ha
We’d like to hear them just the same!
PS – this post is titled with the past tense of “regret” because I don’t really regret these “wrong turns,” since I don’t actually believe in “wrong turns.” But I find no need to repeat these steps, if you know what I mean.
Looking forward to hearing yours!