Best Self-Love Practices
Many conscious creators know the importance of self-love …
but we don’t always know how to practice it.
Let’s remedy that now.
I’ve got an ebook that goes deep on the subject, but everyone should at least know the basics of how to treat themselves well.
Our manifesting success depends on it, since the Universe can only be as good to us as we are to ourselves.
Without further ado, here are my top five favorite methods to engage self-love:
1. Say something nice every night.
I learned this one from Jack Canfield, who looks himself in the eye every night in the bathroom mirror after he’s brushed his teeth, to say a couple of nice things to himself.
The same way he’d say something supportive or encouraging to his kids or a valued employee, he turns that love on himself before bed every night.
When I do this, it might be a shoutout for how well I handled something that day, or a simple rampage of appreciation on my good hair day, or what a clever outfit I put together, or how smart I was to remember that thing that needed remembering.
Jack said his negative self-talk disappeared after 40 days of that practice. (!)
I can vouch for how this self-love practice can take hold and dramatically improve our overall self-talk once we get a good practice going.
2. Say yes to what you want.
This practice is all about saying no when it’s a genuine no, and saying yes when it’s a genuine yes.
I do my best not to fall for the old routine of living according to others’ expectations or desires.
My preferences matter most. That’s a rebellious act of self-love for this former people-pleaser!
The other day I found myself strongly drawn to a piece of art that seemed a little expensive. Okay, a lot expensive (for me).
But were this my girlfriend, who I knew could easily afford it, if I saw her drooling over it yet refraining from purchase because it seemed extravagant, I would have encouraged her to let herself have what she wants.
And so I did.
For others, self love might be the opposite – saying no to an expenditure in order to secure finances.
It’s potentially different for us all, and only you know what your version of love looks like.
Just say yes to what you want, as best you can.
(And if you read this and immediately started thinking why you can’t say yes to what you want, please rethink that. No matter our circumstances, there is a way based on the options we are allowing ourselves that we can choose what we prefer, even if we’re working with less than our ultimate ideal options.)
3. Write a worthiness reminder.
I don’t do this daily, but every once in a while I pull out a piece of paper and do a page of “I am worthy” affirmations.
That’s where you write “I am worthy” on each line of the page until it’s full. The way I do it is to finish each line with something desirable, like “I am worthy of good friends. I am worthy of ideal health. I am worthy of helpful support.” etc.
The first time I did it (which I did without expectation – just so I could tell my clients I’d done it myself), my life exploded with good news within 24 hours. There was unexpected money in my mailbox, big thanks in my inbox, good news on my voice mail – the blessings were everywhere I turned.
It made me an immediate fan of the practice, to say the least.
Part of a powerful self-love practice is reminding ourselves of our inherent divinity and perfection. While there are lots of ways to do that, writing it down really works for me.
4. Upgrade self-talk.
This is related to the nice words at night practice, but expanded by consciously paying attention to how I’m speaking to myself (and about myself) during waking hours.
If it’s not something I would say to a loved one, then I don’t deserve it either. I try to give myself the benefit of the doubt, be generous in my self-evaluations, and encouraging with inner dialogue.
Gremlins will give you lots of chances to practice this should you choose to engage this particular radical act of self-love. But it’s really good for your overall vibe to master this.
5. Handle with care.
My final favorite self-love practice is how I handle myself …
I mean literally handle.
When I brush my hair or get dressed or soap up in the shower or put on the lotion – all these are opportunities to touch myself the way someone who loved and appreciated and adored themselves fully would.
Not with irritation, judgment, or distraction – but with mindful, conscious love.
You know how to do that, too … there’s surely someone (or maybe something) in your life that you handle with respect and love.
It might be the way you scratch your dog’s head, or how you wash your baby’s hair, or the way you share a delicious bite of dessert with your sweetie – we know what it’s like to handle someone with love.
When you start handling yourself that way, well, trust me, you’re going to realize how nice it is.
I’ve shared other self-love tips before (and at GVU we’ve been known to do it on the phone and in writing together), but I’d love to hear yours as well.
What’s your favorite way to practice self-love?
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