The Cake List

Would you like a way to release limiting thoughts about what’s possible while also letting go of the hows? All while putting Universe to work on behalf of your biggest dreams?

Of course you would.

That’s what a Cake List offers.

It’s a way to tell Universe you’re ready to have your cake and eat it, too. It gets you lined up and out of the way for easier delivery.

It’s highly useful for those times when we want seemingly conflicting things, like …

  • making money without going to work
  • committing to a relationship but also remaining free
  • having good health without doing unpleasant things
  • enjoying comforts of home while also experiencing the adventure of travel

Whenever you find yourself vacillating between two less than ideal alternatives, where neither option is quite right, that’s a good time to make a Cake List.

Here’s how you do it …

Start by writing down the upsides of each option you’re considering.

(We’re not paying attention to the downsides here. Just the upsides.)

Once you’ve got the advantages for each alternative written down, combine those into one list, then hand that list over to Universe as your instruction for delivery.

That’s it.

Whereas muggles might make a pros and cons list that they weigh out, trying to evaluate which option is better, conscious creators know we can have whatever we’re willing to allow. Which means we can choose all upside, no downside, if we are willing to say so.

That’s easier to do when we remember we don’t have to figure out how to get the best of both worlds. All we have to do is give the instruction for what we want, let it go, and go about the business of enjoying life.

When we can do that, we’re a match for having our cake and eating it too, and we’ve got Universe putting it together for us.

For example, say I get a job offer that has some good things about it, but some things I don’t love. On the other hand, my current job has some pros and some cons, too. So I get stuck because there’s no obvious best choice.

That’s a good time to make a magical Cake List.

So I jot down the pros of both options, and then give Universe the combined list to work with:
Manifesting with a Cake List
You can see I embellished the final list slightly. Since I’m calling in Universe, this is a great time for “even better” – so I edited it in a few minor ways.

And then my only work is to do what feels good. Have fun, relax, and trust that things are working out perfectly for me (to the best of my ability).

If I find myself entertaining gremlin thoughts like, “Who do you think you are to have it so good?” I just remember that I know how the system works. And if I can be a vibrational match to good news, then Universe can deliver it. I remind myself that I know how to believe in good news. I know how to expect things will work out. I’ve done it before, and I can do it here, too.

And sure enough – maybe my new prospective employer comes up with a work from home option. woot! Or maybe Universe lands me an even better job offer from someone locally. Or maybe my current employer all of a sudden is hot to promote me. ha!

Who knows how it’s gonna work out? That’s not our job to figure out. That’s Universe’s.

And it’s really good at that job!

It happens all the time, when we choose to let it.

Making a Cake List is a great way to let yourself have the best of both worlds. Enjoy having your cake and eating it, too!

  • March 25, 2016
  • Mona says:

    I love all your posts. They are a quick way for me to raise my vibrations.
    Thank You.
    Love You.

  • capsy says:

    great post, thanks jeanette!

  • sneefly says:

    I was wondering… when you put the two lists together, does the final list have to be cohesive and make sense? For example, let’s say I want to stay with my boyfriend in our nice home doing my nice job, but I also want to travel the world and be crazy and have lots of different lovers (something my boyfriend certainly doesn’t agree with). On the final list, should it go something like:
    Happy relationship with my boyfriend that satisfies us both
    1, Lots of fun, light relationships with multiple partners
    2, Which seem to contradict each other; or should the final list focus on the feeling of the thing, eg:
    1, A good, satisfying, free-feeling relationship
    Looking at your example it seems that you went more with the second option (instead of putting ‘keep fab coworkers’ in the final list you put ‘amazing coworkers, which makes more sense.)
    What would you recommend?

    • Namaste says:

      I posted my story above about my girlfriend and I wanting completely different trips. When we did the dream board, it made no logical sense to have pictures of Alaskan ice glaciers and palm trees. However, we did it anyway because we wanted to see if the Universe really could deliver a trip, where we both absolutely got what we wanted.
      If you want to stay with your boyfriend and also have multiple lovers too, don’t worry about what your boyfriend wants, just focus on what you want and let the Universe take care of everything else. Maybe your boyfriend will one day wake up and realize he’s super turned on by the cuckold lifestyle (or maybe you could introduce him to video showing a cuckold situation and see what happens, you might be really surprised in a good way). Or maybe he just hasn’t met another woman yet that he’s into enough to make him want to consider something like you’re suggesting. All I know is based on my experience, if both people stay focused on what they want, and don’t worry about the other, the Universe delivers =)

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  • Rhian says:

    This is great for me as I was trying to figure out a way to adopt my foster cat, but still be able to help other animals too. I’m looking forward to finding out what the solution will be!

  • Harshal says:

    Hi, I’ve a peculiar query. I’m intending to manifest sex with sexy girls. The universe is manifesting lots of sexy girls for me to have sex. However it’s not manifesting sex. Coz they’re all married! Now even if they’re willing & available for one night stand, extramarital affairs; I don’t understand how to have sex with them? Any thoughts to help? Thanks.

  • Rick says:

    There is so much Light in this technique.
    Perfect .
    Thank you.

  • Nancy P says:

    How do you give the universe the combined list?

    • Jeannette says:

      I wondered if anyone was wondering about that, Nancy. 🙂
      I don’t do anything fancy or ritualistic with my lists. I figure the magic is in the making of it and then letting go of it (mentally, as well as physically, I guess).
      I just tuck my lists away in a drawer or a journal, and do my best not to think about it much after that. But when I do find myself thinking about the subject again, I use it as an opportunity to practice believing in having it all. Just to make sure I’m a cooperative component for Universe’s delivery.
      I imagine others, though, might have something fun to do with the list … like tuck it under a favorite crystal or symbolically burn it as a letting go process. I’d trust your intuition with whatever you feel drawn to. 🙂

  • Lindsay says:

    Thanks for this! I’m writing and self publishing fiction as well as non fiction books but I also want to be a nurse. I’ve been feeling conflicted about these things, thinking maybe I should choose one or the other…but now I’m thinking “Why not both?”
    Helping and caring for patients, working with awesome doctors and nurses in a hospital I love AND expressing myself creatively, and getting some passive income too. Sounds good to me. 🙂

    • Jeannette says:

      I love that question, Lindsay: “why not both?!” Yay for giving yourself that!
      I personally think everyone should have passive income flowing (hello, why not?!) so I’m a big fan of your plan to have this cake and eat it, too! 🙂

  • Namaste says:

    Years ago, I wanted to take a trip to some place with lots of beaches and sunshine. My girlfriend wanted to go to Alaska for an Abraham Hick’s cruise. I don’t think I’ve ever run across two more completely opposite desires. Neither of us had any interest in compromising our positions. We decided this would be the perfect opportunity to see if the Universe really could put something together that had us both TRULY WIN. Neither of us wanted to see some kind of half-assed combo trip show up, where we both got some stuff but ultimately compromised. We both wanted a TRUE WIN. We created a dream board that had pictures of the tropical beaches, big cruise ships, Esther & Jerry, and some glaciers. We hung it the hallway so we’d see it all the time but within a few weeks, we both forgot it was there. A few months later, we decided to get married. We were thinking about where we wanted to go on our honeymoon. One of us checked the Abraham website and saw that there was an upcoming cruise to Mexico. We decided it was perfect. And in the moment, we saw how the the Universe had perfectly brought things together so we both TRULY WON. She got her cruise that included Abraham. I got my trip filled with sunshine and beaches in places like Cabo San Lucas and I got the added bonus of Abraham too!
    In closing, I really LOVED your e-mail Jeannette about how you got to move in with your boyfriend and keep your independence and freedom. That opened my eyes to something that I hadn’t seen possible before. Thank you =)

    • Jeannette says:

      Yay for not compromising, Namaste! So cool that you both let yourselves have what you really wanted!
      I think these examples of practicing this in real life are super helpful for those who might have trouble believing it really is possible to get all that we want. Thanks for sharing here, Namaste. 🙂

    • anonymous says:

      This is a great example! Thank you for sharing 🙂

  • Debra Jo says:

    This is a wonderful post. So happy and light! LOVE LOVE LOVE IT!

  • Steffy says:

    I’m having this, I’m having that, I”m having it all now… slathered in vanilla buttercream icing with a cherry on top!!
    Your BEST post ever, Jeannette… and that’s really saying something because you’ve written a lot of great ones!!!

  • Jesann says:

    I could see using this technique for a lot. If you have a bunch of options you’re interested in (and not just a clear-cut either-or situation), or if you have something you want but have become aware of why your subconscious wants you to stay where you are, this could work….

  • Jen says:

    This is awesome. I will totally use this.
    I never got the cake thing though. How can you eat cake if you don’t have it? And if you do have it, you might as well eat it; what else would you do, frame it?

  • anonymous says:

    This sounds like a good technique to try! I will have to do this on paper. It’s difficult to really trust and then be happy with current reality. My current reality really sucks, to put it bluntly. I struggle to find things about it I appreciate. One of the few things that brings me joy is daydreaming, spending time with my fantasies of the life I dream of. But I’m afraid that spending so much time in fantasy isn’t good for manifesting because it’s “pushing against”.
    I am trying to manifest money for something and have no idea how I will ever get the necessary amount. I’m stressed out about it and worried that I may not get what I want if I don’t manifest It. I’m also worried that I will stay stuck in my life and will not get out of the situation I’ve been in for a long time. Lately I’ve just been feeling really down about reality and my current situation in general, all I want to do is cry and sleep. And daydream, but like I said I feel that this could be messing things up, even if it feels good.

    • Jeannette says:

      I’m a big fan of visualizing what we want, but appreciation for real life stuff is super powerful to combine with that.
      I was going to suggest reading the Become an Appreciator post, but after reading your paragraph about just wanting to cry and sleep – I’d do that instead! Relief is our ticket to feeling better, Anonymous! Give yourself that gift!

      • anonymous says:

        Hi Jeannette, I’ve been sleeping a lot and finally my vibration has risen to the point where I can focus on making a cake list. I’m enjoying this exercise! It’s fun and is a good way to get clear on what I want. When did you see results come? (When did the Universe deliver the manifestation of your cake list?)

        • Jeannette says:

          The one that I shared in today’s newsletter (manifesting freedom and intimacy, keeping my old house and getting a new one) was a process of several weeks. Could have been two months, even. I needed that much time to keep reminding myself that I could have what I wanted, though, because my gremlin mind kept telling me this wasn’t going to turn out well and that one way or the other I’d be losing out on something.
          I also engaged some pre-paving magic, where I imagined REALLY enjoying living with my boyfriend. Imagining this was the best thing I ever did. In fact, I did that so well that many years later when it came time for us to split up, I didn’t want to live without him! lol

    • Namaste says:

      Dear Anonymous,
      During my 20’s and early 30’s, I was on a crazy emotional roller coaster ride due to the type of business opportunities I pursued. There were some true some bright spots but more often than not, my circumstances sucked. Like you, I did my best to appreciate things (and it helped a bit) but the days were still often really hard. To escape, I often spent a lot of time day dreaming.
      One day, I was thinking about my life. I realized that more often than not, when I tried to make things happen by setting goals and doing a lot of action oriented things, I failed. I also realized that when it came to manifesting stuff, I’d had success after success. It occurred to me that maybe I should be focusing on manifesting a lot more. I liked the idea, but I was concerned. I’d had A LOT of successes but sometimes my desires didn’t manifest (one experience in particular was really crushing when I tried to manifest a larger sum of money). I realized the problem was that I didn’t really understand why my desires manifested sometimes and other times they did not. So I decided to start studying manifesting results. Eventually, I realized that alignment is what causes desires to manifest or not. So I began an in depth study of alignment. Slowly but surely, I started to understand how alignment works. This knowledge has been life changing for me. I now feel in control of my life because I understand exactly what I need to do to have results show up.
      When I read your post, the thing I felt most is that you’ve obviously studied manifesting but you aren’t certain that the manifesting results you want are going to show up. If I’m right about that, I’d really encourage you to specifically start studying alignment. Jeannette has written some great posts over the years about alignment…
      This post is a good first read that has you look at your personal alignment practice.
      This post is great for figuring out if you’re in alignment with your desire or not. Finding out you’re NOT in alignment with a desire can be troubling but at least you know you’re not in alignment with it. Knowing you’re not in alignment with a desire is way better than sitting around hoping it will manifest, when that is just not going to happen. Instead of wasting time hoping, you can spend your time figuring out what you need to do to get into alignment.
      Finally, I have a document I’ve put together that covers the in’s and out’s of alignment that I give to friends when I have this same type of conversation with them. If you’d like it, feel free to find me on Facebook ( and I’ll get it to you.
      Wishing you a peaceful weekend,

      • Elle says:

        Thank you so much for posting these, as this was my main question- alignment. From the quiz, it turns out I am more aligned than I realized!
        Would you please share how to bring good, cognizant people into your life, who you would love to work with? How can one go about this?

        • Namaste says:

          It’s always nice to find out you’re more in alignment with a desire than you imagined =)
          The way to bring good , cognizant people into your life so you can work with them is by getting into alignment with that transpiring.
          When you want to get into alignment with a desire, how do you go about doing that currently?
          Do you have a trusted method for achieving alignment at this point?
          Once I’ve read the answers to these questions, I can better answer your question =)

        • Elle says:

          Oh, Namaste, I am afraid I do not. When I do not think about it and I continue to appreciate where I am, the people appear. After working on a project and the editor comes back with ridiculous questions, I think, then I don’t get them. I mean, they should know the contents of the project and not ask these questions, after I spend so much time working on it. If they were more cognizant, then they would not ask, but I feel they get away with it.
          I think this attitude gets me in the state I am in. But, am I not allowed to get angry? I guess not, because it gets me in trouble.
          Another quick example is, at the end of last month I complained about all the stupid people that live around us and I manifested an upper respiratory infection I am still not over.
          So, as you can see, I need to lighten up and laugh it off in order to get in alignment with what I want. I can’t be this angry person because I don’t like it, but it comes out sometimes.

        • Namaste says:

          It sounds like appreciation works really well for you when you focus on it because the right people show up =)
          When I read what you wrote, it occurred to me that you may be focused on what you don’t want, when it comes to editors. In fact, I’d go so far as to suspect, that you might actually be at a point, where you EXPECT editors to do things that you really do not like. I know you already know this but if you figure out what you want from editors, and focus on that even in the face of them doing what you don’t want for a bit, you’ll see it switch around.
          My ex-wife LOVED Red Lobster. I’d take her there and every time we’d get the most ridiculously bad service. It made me nuts. One day we talked about this and afterwards, I decided to switch my focus. I didn’t really believe this could possibly help but I did it anyway. Not right away, but relatively soon, we had our first amazing service. I really focused on that and soon I couldn’t show up at Red Lobster without getting what I’d call almost VIP level service.
          You are allowed to get mad so long as you don’t stay focused there. The trick is getting mad and then making sure to get off it and focus on what you want. It took me getting something I really did not want, to teach me that I have to focus on what I want, after getting mad. Obviously, you already know this so it’s just more practice. I don’t know how long you’ve been doing this kind of work. I’ve been doing it 30 years now and I’m still refining and practicing new insights all the time. It really is a lifestyle.

        • Elle says:

          Namaste, it was wonderful reading that, thank you so very much! Very nice story as well.
          I’ve been into this for 5 years; asking questions and commenting on forums/blogs for the last 3, because this is where I can tune in and tweak the methodology and such. All of us interacting with one another is great for learning, so I deeply appreciate it. I also find that posting has a magical way of working things out, as the energy is really high, you put your stuff out there, and things just get taken care of, so the posting in and of itself is yet another tool I have discovered and use! Plus, people really learn from the stories exchanged and it is good to have a place to turn to when something arises.
          And you are right, it is a life-long thing and a lifestyle.
          Peace and light,

    • A few short years ago I’d been really struggling with money. One thing I started doing was thinking of ways that people would envy me as things were for me RIGHT THEN. The easiest way for me to do that was to think of why people from say the 1500s would really be jealous of me even in my less than abundant state.
      They’d envy me because I have electricity, indoor plumbing, clean water, refrigerated food, the INTERNET!!!, appliances, computers, music (mp3 players), a vehicle, etc.
      In other words, if you reframe the things we take for granted that would be amazing and the height of luxury for a different time period, you can see how much you have. I mean even some of the poorer people in Western civilization/particularly in the US (I concede 3rd world conditions are not in this equation) have a lot more creature comforts than even the wealthiest did centuries ago.
      After getting that vibe down (and I was doing other processes as well), my financial picture FINALLY changed for the much better pretty quickly.
      And writing down why people from centuries ago would envy me was one of the easiest things I did – but it felt super powerful
      Not sure if this resonates with you, but I like to tell people about it when they’re having a hard time finding things to appreciate in their current “what is”.
      Oh, and I think daydreaming and fantasizing are great. Abraham is a big proponent of ignoring reality. I think as long as you can ease from daydream time to non-daydream time so you don’t feel WORSE after daydreaming is key. And sleep is awesome. I find I’m more prone to feeling negative when I’m tired.

      • Pat says:

        Stacy, I have done that exercise in a similar way at times when I have felt financially struggling. Although I didn’t think of it in terms of a different time period…I decided to feel grateful for what I did have…a roof over my head, hot running water (i didn’t have to go out and pump it and heat it), having indoor plumbing and clean sanitary conditions to live in (no outhouses), food in my frig and cabinets. Our standards of living here are much higher than in other places in the world and I decided to feel grateful for the standard of living that I had which to many people would appear quite wealthy. I decided to have the sense of awe that they might have about living in the environment I was in. and it did help turn things around. When it comes down to bare bones finances…I always make sure my rent is paid and there is food for myself and my kids…the rest can wait – it might not look well on my credit score for the rest to wait but at least I have good food and good shelter and the credit score is recoverable. (and has improved as well)

        • And the fact that you have a credit score is something that many don’t. Also having debt can be seen as good – in that you were able to buy things that you didn’t have the actual cash for.
          We definitely have a better standard of living than so many other countries. But I think why I liked going with the comparison from another era is that even those considered really “poor” by today’s standards are still better off (technology and creature comfort wise) than the wealthiest/royalty back in the day. It’s pretty cool to think, “Hmm, I may be scraping by but I am still more comfortable and have more cool stuff than ROYALTY did back in the 1800s”

    • anonymous says:

      So not too long at all for you, that’s good. I think this would work really well for desires that don’t have a set deadline, but you may feel a little frustrated with figuring out the details, so letting it go feels relieving. After I made my list, I did feel a sense of relief. Now that I’ve made my request, I can relax about it. I made lists for two desires that I’m fairly open to in terms of time limits, so I’m looking forward to seeing results. 🙂
      Thank you for linking those posts! I did the alignment quiz for two of my greatest desires, I’m out of alignment. I’m definitely attached, and it’s difficult to let go of the attachment. My alignment practice is doing things that feel good/better whenever I can, visualizing/feeling my desires daily, and then letting go when it no longer feels good to focus on them. Sometimes I script when I feel inspired. I still have a difficult time trusting that they will happen, especially if I don’t push to make them happen. There is also the feeling that maybe, they aren’t meant to be mine.
      Thank you for sharing your perspective! I never thought of viewing my current situation in the eyes of historic people. I’ve done it with modern people who live in poor conditions, but ended up feeling guilty. So perhaps trying from a historic viewpoint will be more effective. 🙂 After sleeping a lot since I wrote this comment, I do feel my mood has improved. Sleep is the number one thing that never fails to help me feel better, even if only a little bit.

      • Namaste says:

        Dear Anonymous,
        Appreciate you letting me know you checked out the other posts and about the results you got from taking the alignment quiz =)

      • I agree – it can trigger some guilt feelings to think of how much better you have it than those in 3rd world countries – who are living now.
        Plus I liked the comparison of how even royalty from hundreds of years ago didn’t have it as good as we do as far as technology, conveniences, and just creature comforts. Seriously, we’re living better than kings and queens did!

  • Amina says:

    I love this, Jeanette! Such perfect timing for the 30 Day Joy Challenge where I am getting lots of questions about writing “practical” goals… but there is NO FUN in that!
    I talk about this as the AND mentality versus the OR mentality. How can I have my cake AND eat it too!

    • Jeannette says:

      Amina, you are the queen of this! Choosing to work less and make more! That’s like the ultimate having your cake and eating it too example!! lol
      SO looking forward to your call on Tuesday! 🙂

    • Elle says:

      Thank you so much for posting this, Amina.
      As for the being good to yourself, someone told me this and it stuck with me ever since. He had failed an exam and said he only passed it later on by not being hard on himself! Interesting how self love, not to be confused or misinterpreted as selfishness or whatnot, is the key to success! So, elimination of past guilt, bad feelings, and not caring about what others will say or think about you and your past, and the list goes on, really can and does work in your favor!

  • Mia H says:

    This is so perfect. My fiancé and I decided today we’re moving to Los Angeles in April. So instead of going down the pros and cons list we said. It’s happening all we have to do is feel good. We know the apartment complex were interested in and that’s about it. We went out and bought a book and titled it our moving book where we are putting information about what we need when we get there and where the stores are. There is something very freeing about declaring something getting excited about it and moving on. Thanks for the post.
    Los Angeles Resident.

    • Jeannette says:

      You are so right, Mia, about how good it feels to declare it and get excited about it!
      And I LOVE your signature. Congrats on your move! (I’m joining you in treating it like a done deal.) 🙂

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