How Are Your Casting Skills?

My cat needed to see a vet.

It wasn’t a huge deal, but I didn’t want to wait on it, either.

So we made a weekend appointment with the first available vet I could find, who happens to be someone I have in the past had slightly mixed feelings about.

I mean, he’s really good at diagnosing and treating ailments, but his bedside manner leaves something to be desired. And sometimes he puts more focus on problems than solutions than I typically prefer.

And man, can he ring up a bill!

So here I am noticing I’m taking my cat to a guy that I’ve created to be kind of contrary. Yes, we’ll get good care, but it won’t be easy or fun.

Why would I create that?!

The same reason I created my finance team to be working in slow motion. Yes, they’ll get me the best rates and lowest fees, but it won’t be fast. And someone better stay on top of it or things will fall through the cracks. I know this from past experience.

Yikes. Why would I make that up?!

In fact, why would any of us create less than fabulous people or events in our lives?

One reason is probably because we don’t realize that we are!

We think that’s just how they are. We didn’t make them ornery! We didn’t ask them to be incompetent. They just showed up that way!

Except conscious creators know better.

We know we’re making it all up. The good, the bad, and the ugly.

And we can do better when we decide to.

Which means all I have to do is realize I’m making my vet out to be less than fab and I can rethink him.

Once I see I’ve handicapped my finance team by expecting them to move slow, I can rethink that, too.

Bottom line: I can do a better job of casting the characters in my life.

Maybe I’m not the only one here who has room for improvement in their casting skills?

In my early days of coaching I asked my mentor coach, Jeanna Gabellini, how to handle clients who weren’t ready to hear that they create their entire world.

There was a long pause before she finally asked incredulously, “Why would you create them that way??”

Why indeed! That’s a really good question.

Why not instead create them as empowered and ready and savvy?! Why not create them as delighted, and open, and thriving?!


I got the hang of that with how I create clients, but I still have room for improvement for some of the other roles in my life.

Maybe you do, too?

If so, it’s a simple matter of recasting the roles we aren’t satisfied with.

So here’s to upgrading whatever parts matter to us that we haven’t already nailed.

You might enjoy the podcast episode that includes the story of how a guy turned his girlfriend from someone-who-said-no into someone-who-said-yes by simply changing his mind about her.

This is potent stuff when we apply our casting powers!

In fact, a little update after today’s vet visit: it went exceptionally well! Friendly, easy, solution-oriented, and the bill was downright reasonable. Yay for last minute recasting!

  • August 7, 2016
  • Ariadne says:

    As usual, great post. I am wondering if there is a way you can ‘recast’ someone from the past, so that you reconnect in a better, more healthy way? Any ideas welcome. Thanks!

  • lisa heath says:

    I have found myself here on your site “accidentally on purpose” so to speak and I am pretty clueless with respect to this ‘LOA’ process, at least technically that is. My gut tells me that I have a real opportunity to embrace the second half of my existence(I am currently 51 yo) and the casting of which you speak would be paramount. I say that even though I don’t quite grasp the concept (again my natural knowing at work) I am eager to explore this, all of this.. and I can’t wait to get my first email in the morning. *-)

  • Rhonda says:

    Are you, or have you been watching reruns of a British show named “Doc Martin”, or the American version, “House”?
    I ask so because I have recently edited my television watching. Not completely successful yet but in the works.
    When I am completely relaxed and watching television that I like without thinking too much about it, certain scenarios have been recreated in my reality.
    This has happened several times now and I have to stop. I can manifest a movie to come on TV that hasn’t been in circulation for 40 years.
    I thought (still kind of do), think these shows make me feel good but I end up living some of the (not so well thought out), plot lines.
    Does this happen to anyone else? I think Eckart Tolle wrote about this.
    This perhaps may be the “not so great casting” — letting hollywood do it for you.
    Best to All.

  • Marlo says:

    Thank you Jeannette! I’m caught myself expecting the worst, hard-sell “breakthrough” call I have in a few minutes, so I rewrote how I’d like the experience to be. Then I checked my email and your message was waiting for me. It feels good to be in alignment and to make the shift. Thanks for sharing.

  • Eleanor says:

    I was thinking about this very topic the other day.
    I didn’t realise it was called “re-casting,” but I was thinking about some major fall outs I had with some roommates a couple years ago. For the longest time I keep visualising negative things (a moot visualisation I know) happening to them after what they did to me. I ran into one of them in a shop a couple months and she looked awful and I was quite happy about that.
    I remember being in a really good mood one day and someone from my past showed up in my life and I was in such a good mood I just let the tension between us go and told them we were good. If I wasn’t in such a good mood I probably would have let the feud drag on forever.
    And then it dawned on me; If I visualised the people I was having issues with being in good moods and having lots of joy in their life, then they (like I did) will be more than likely to let the strife between us go. And I don’t know if it’s worked or not but I don’t have any awkward run ins, only positive experiences with people from my past so I take it on some level it does.
    Even if its just people in my present I might find uncomfortable to be around I will just quickly send them good thoughts and they are out of my vortex in literally 10 mins!

  • Harshal says:

    Hi, I’ve somehow recast my therapists from being old women to a young hot sexy babe but it involved changing many therapists. Now I intend to recast my present therapist into being very physically affectionate like hugging kissing & even having sex. But since she is married how do I rethink about her in this new light, so do I just expect her to say yes to being intimate? (Her dressing over time has been exposing more & more cleavage, is it a sign of her seduction or a reflection of my sexual feelings for her?) Thanks in advance for the response! 🙂

  • Shimigirl says:

    I have a line manager at work who I constantly recast as so awesome at what he does (Super relaxed, never stresses, makes my work and leadership look good) that I have cast him in a major role elsewhere. I have managed it with two others and I will with this one too. Each one an improvement on the last. I make them look good -so good some other ‘better’ job wants them. I am manifesting a better one one man anger at a time. It’s a stretch to get from ‘there’ to ‘wow there’ so baby steps and a sprinkle of contrast.

  • Deb says:

    This subject came at the perfect time. I have been able to recast my mom (most of the time) and a few others knowing I was the one who cast them in the first place.
    However, I hired someone a few days ago to do a “urgent” job and they failed to show up. This ended up being a blessing even tho I asked myself why I vibrated this unreliable being to do the “urgent” job. It turns out I had a huge ant nest laying under the area to be worked on. My current employee who had not been up to par in the past….stepped up to the plate immediately and handled the ant issue AND is doing the “urgent” job…..saving me tons of money and making my current employee worker more efficiently for me (a two fold blessing and something I had been asking for). I’m totally blown away how the universe/source ALWAYS has my back and filled with blessings 🙂
    Thanks for this reminder of casting and how sometimes it is with good reason!

  • Janette says:

    Ooooooh, this is fun! I can’t think of anyone in my life right now who might need recasting – but there are some characters on the political stage who could use my better attention on them, for sure.
    And I’m not just talking US politics here LOL. I’m talking home-grown Aussie pollies who could definitely use a revision of some casting decisions I’ve made in the past.
    A fun project!

  • anon says:

    Hmm good point about creating people as you want them!!
    How can I attract a partner who I really like and am attracted to? I’m looking to get married, but it seems that most people these days aren’t interested in long term relationships. I tend to be attracted to certain types of personalities and physical attributes that aren’t super common in my everyday life. I hate to sound shallow, but I do want a partner who I find really, really attractive – physically, mentally, emotionally, as a person overall (whether others do is another story!) I’m afraid I’ll have to settle though and that the guy I’ve always envisioned doesn’t exist. In my visualizations he has a certain vibe and desires similar life goals as me. I’m just afraid that people like him (which I know they exist, because I’ve come across A VERY similar person in real life, uncannily similar!) are very few and are all taken.

  • Caroline says:

    Hi Jeannette,
    Great article. I have definitely come to realize that how we perceive/expect someone will act towards us has a huge impact on reality. However how do you know when to try to re-cast someone or when it is time to let them go out of your life? If we can re-cast anyone (as I know and truly believe we create our reality), how can you decide when it may be the right time to part ways with a specific person? I am currently struggling with whether or not to part ways with a significant person in my life..

    • Jeannette says:

      Really good question, Caroline!
      Maybe others will chime in with thoughts, too.
      I’m thinking about how a casting director might handle it. If she believed her actor was capable of the part, she might keep them in place. But if the part called for something she didn’t believe the actor could deliver, it’s time for a new actor, right? Either way, we’re doing our casting work in a very conscious and deliberate way that sets us up for highest success. 🙂

  • Lynda says:

    Wow, wonderful post. Here I was researching pet boarding places looking on Yelp for negative comments to guide me…WHAAAAT??? And Cheap motels for a night, same thing — fearful of bedbugs (since when???) Needless to say I need a HUGE casting adjustment on just about everything. Thanks Jeannette you completely helped me get back on track.

  • Dana Bouse says:

    Oh!!! Let’s see… who, or what can I re-cast?!!! This could be really, really fun!!! Thanks Jeannette; as always, simply brilliant. <3

    • Jeannette says:

      Get this, Dana, I just left a legit five star review for the vet center we were at yesterday. (They sent an auto email requesting a review. I was like, oh yes, I WILL review you! And I did it with GLEE! lol)
      I love how well this stuff works when we work it! 🙂

  • Shan says:

    Wow! Talk about REALLY ‘just what I needed.’I have spoken a little about not being comfortable in many ways where I live. I am very ‘different’ from my neighbours – at any rate, that is the story I tell myself. Too long/complicated a story to tell in full, but basically, I got verbally abused by one and shouted at by another (man) last night. For ‘nothing’ – well, presumably not nothing to them. This blog – and the podcast – I love, love. I am now combining clearly telling him he is not to speak with me like that with sending love and light. I was doing that bit anyway, but having read and listened to these, I feel far more empowered in changing what I expect from them. Beautiful Kali energy. Thank you so much, Jeannette.

  • Amanda says:

    Jeannette, as usual, your post was just what I needed. Thank you.

  • Jiya says:

    I have been thinking about this for quite some time and I knew the answer too. But it seems like I hAve to do more work on rewiring my thinking because initially it seems a little not-so-easy . I will try on a few people and see how it works. Thanks for this post.
    Love and Light

    • Jeannette says:

      Yes, some are definitely easier than others to recast, aren’t they, Jiya? Just because if it’s someone we have known a long time or already have a lot of past experience with, creating a different expectation there can really stretch our re-thinking muscles.
      But it’s worth getting good at because the payoffs are so tremendously huge. 🙂
      I will admit that sometimes the path of least resistance for me is just to make peace with how they’re already cast. Which could actually be a good first step in allowing an evolution, I suppose.
      Regardless, thanks for reading and for commenting, my friend! 🙂

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