The other day someone asked how I’d managed to lose 20 pounds.
She was guessing the number, because all I know is I’ve gone from Beautiful to Cute to Ravishing past Hot on the Yay scale. If anyone knows how much that is, don’t tell me – I like living beyond the numbers!
I gave her the answer she was expecting, although it wasn’t an accurate or helpful one …
I told her what I’d been doing differently.
Conscious creators know how misleading that is – to attribute the change to actions only and not acknowledge the role of the vibrational shift.
The helpful and more accurate response to her question would have been to tell her how I’ve been feeling differently.
Because that’s where our entire reality comes from – our vibration.
It was factual to say that I’d begun drinking a daily detox tea. That was true.
But that’s not what any weight loss was a result of.
This weight loss began with finding the vibration of body love. Making that the norm rather than the exception for how I felt about myself. And then just following inspiration. Which led to Doc of Detox’s daily tea.
If I drank that tea with my old vibration in place, I doubt it would have any effect. Because it’s not actions that matter most – it’s the vibration.
Someone else could do the very same things and get a very different result.
As she found out when she started drinking the same daily detox tea. She got the opposite results, if you can believe it.
Conscious creators wouldn’t be surprised by that because we know everything arises from the vibration. A new vibration may inspire us to new actions, but it is inaccurate to attribute change solely to those actions.
The same action can lead to very different results for people flowing different vibrations.
Which is why this post isn’t about the most amazing detox tea I’ve ever found.
This post is a reminder that the vibration is what matters. Once we tune into the frequency of what we want, we’ll be inspired to take any actions that support that result.
That’s what we’re doing at Body Love Lab right now, but anyone who wants a hand in tuning into a new vibration can find one for a variety of dreams or desires in our Vibration Activation series. (Here’s the weight loss, healthy body, feelin’ sexy and the good news from the doc scripts.)
In the meantime, my next job is to drop my limiting beliefs about what I think muggles can hear and not hear. !!
When my now ex-husband and I decided we wanted to start a family, I remember thinking how easy it would be. I would just stop taking my contraceptives and I would get pregnant, and all would be in order.
Because, really, according to all our high school health teachers, the very instant you even think about not using proper protection, you’re going to get knocked up, right?
At least, that was the way it was supposed to happen.
I remember being a little surprised the first month when it didn’t happen that way. And the second. And the third. On the fourth month, I got annoyed and impatient. On the fifth month, I started worrying.
And that’s when I found out that, at my age (32 at the time), it takes an average of 6 months of trying before you “catch.” So I thought, for sure, the next month would be the lucky one.
So I did what any woman hell-bent on conceiving does; I joined discussion forums where women all over the world could obsess together about the “two-week wait” and whether they had managed to get pregnant yet and what crazy things they would be trying next month to improve their chances if they hadn’t.
I also Googled everything I could about conception and the female reproductive system. And I came up with a fool-proof PLAN. I was on a mission, let me tell you, and this became a project that preoccupied most of my waking thoughts. There were even schedules, people!
And so, “trying” stopped being fun for either of us and instead became a chore; something that had to be done, according to my carefully wrought timetable of course, in order to achieve a particular desired outcome. (“You can’t go out to your game now, dammit — I’m ovulating! Just drop ‘em and let’s get this done!”)
And with every month that passed, it became more and more heartbreaking when the undisputable evidence that I still wasn’t pregnant presented itself. I began to think that it was never going to happen.
Until one day, about a year after we’d begun trying, I just gave up. I still wanted a baby, but I stopped focusing so much on that and on trying to do everything in my power to make it happen THIS month.
I was tired of getting my hopes up, tired of the disappointment and despair, tired of crying, tired of trying…. just tired of the whole frickin’ cycle.
Basically, I got to the point where I just accepted that if it was going to happen, it would happen in its own time, and there was nothing that I could do about it. I just gave it all up to the Universe.
And in true LOA fashion, that’s the point at which it did happen.
It happened when I stopped sending the constant signal out to the Universe that what I wanted most wasn’t in my life yet. It happened when I stopped trying to interfere with how it was going to happen and when I stopped insisting that it happen in a particular time frame.
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I haven’t written about that subject lately, so I was interested to share it.
Until I read it.
It was about she used meditation and self love to stick to an organic raw foods diet.
Yikes! A lot of people could get the wrong impression from that – that her success came from eating a particular way.
She was all about using spiritual processes to stick to a “healthy” diet.
That is not LOA weight loss.
At least not my idea of it.
Because we don’t necessarily know what food or exercise serves our body best. But our body does. A nutritionist, a doctor, your physical trainer, your spouse – even an LOA weight loss coach – doesn’t know.
They can’t know, because they can’t hear your inner guidance.
Conscious creators know it’s all vibrational. And each of us is unique. What serves you nutritionally could be my undoing. And vice versa.
We can’t copy eating habits or exercise routines and expect the same results.
What we can do is learn how to activate the vibrations of what we want. And then do whatever feels best.
That’s my idea of consciously manifesting a more ideal body: find the frequency of body love and then follow her instructions. She knows best, all I have to do is listen for what she wants and then give it.
Maybe she does prefer organic raw food, but it would have to be her idea, because I would never impose that on her (again).
I did a bunch of crazy eating routines in my ridiculously misinformed youth – including an entire year of no sugar. Another year of no fat. A couple months of no processed foods, half a year vegan. And I won’t recount all the juicing and cleansing fasts. That’s insane stuff when it isn’t prompted by inner wisdom or body intuition.
One doc said I ruined my metabolism and launched adrenal fatigue with all the fasting and ridiculous diets. This was way before I knew about energy, attraction and my body’s wisdom.
If I were writing an article on how to lose weight with law of attraction, I’d say this:
Find the frequency of what you want, then do what feels best.
Finding the frequency of your desire could be done many ways:
There are lots of ways to shift the vibe. And that’s what you want to do first.
After that, learning to trust and respond to your body’s preference is your only work.
Sometimes your body might say ‘nap’ instead of ‘workout.’ She might prefer dancing over CrossFit. She might suggest chocolate instead of grapefruit one day.
When you’re dialed on what you want, you can trust whatever your body asks for.
You won’t know what serves best until you tune in to that frequency and listen for inspiration.
Lots of folks (mostly muggles, but some LOA savvy people, too) make decisions about what’s best for their body from a place of dissatisfaction, frustration or even fear. We’re not likely to make successful choices from that vibration.
And sometimes we mistake physical addictions for true desires, so it’s helpful to get clear on the difference. (That’s actually a great time for a skilled coach like the one who wrote!)
But imposing external rules that drown out our inner knowing is not the way to go.
So. For the record. To use your creative powers to manifest a more ideal body, just engage your skills to find the vibration of what you want and let your body lead you to it.
And when your inner guidance says “organic raw” or “gluten free” or whatever it might say, please don’t assume that’s the healthy diet we should all be on.
We’ve got a great question from a savvy creator who feels stuck. She’s wondering if it’s time to face reality.
What do you say we give this fellow creator some TLC? She’s looking for new insights on an old problem:
I hope I can ask this question of you because I have run out of doctors, acupuncturists, and therapists to ask.
I have a job that I really do love. Great people, great work, great benefits and pay. I would rather work from home, but until then I have a terrific job.
But I am constantly plagued by illnesses that keep me from going to work. And because I miss so much work I am losing a LOT of my pay so I am behind on my mortgage and have several loans/credit cards. My employer is so wonderful that because of my illnesses and doctor’s notes they allow me to make up time by working from home. But then something will happen where I am unable to get the computer connected.
I spend several times a day feeling the feelings of having everything paid off or feeling healthy. And overall I feel I am a pretty happy person. Plus I say Thank You a LOT for the pennies I find, the green lights I get, the beautiful people I see.
I think my faulty thinking is that “something” is trying to keep me down because either I don’t deserve the things I want or that i am being kept down because there is something to learn from what I am going through. I wouldn’t say I have these thoughts/feelings often but I am afraid they might be a core belief.
And I try to counteract these with telling myself that’s not true; my feelings and thoughts determine what I manifest.
I have being trying so hard for so long and so many things (western medicine, eastern medicine, acupuncture, feng shui, and even just giving up and allowing/accepting what is happening and even being grateful for my illnesses, days off work, and bills) and I feel like I am getting nowhere!
I also sometimes feel that my attitude of it will all work out is hurting me. That I am not facing reality. But then the other part of me shouts out that this reality will change as soon as I “believe enough” or “feel the right way.” But then that makes me feel like I am not doing it right either. I just don’t know!
I am really hoping that you have a fresh perspective on this and that you have some wisdom for me.
Thank you so much for all that you do and that you share!!!
I know this is such a compassionate community that many of you are already wanting to help out just after reading that.
Let’s start by practicing some outsourcering where we see our friend healthy, happy and thriving and then share inspired thoughts in the comments.
Thanks, everyone! 🙂
Sometimes even conscious creators slip into old habits when it comes to how we think about our bodies and working out.
If you’re exercising to get rid of flab, sag or jiggle – versus working out for the love of movement or in aspiration of good health or a fab figure – you can make a minor tweak for big results.
Here’s the deal we sometimes forget:
Any time we engage action out of resistance, we enhance what we don’t want.
(Which means you may be inadvertently building a bigger belly, flabbier arms, a jigglier butt – or whatever else you’re trying to get rid of – in that time spent at the gym.)
Effective workouts aren’t just about the body. Harness the power of your mind to get the most out of your physical training.
Like, if you’re at Zumba every Tuesday because your friend told you it would get rid of that baby weight you haven’t been able to drop, don’t be surprised if it doesn’t change a thing. It’s a totally different vibe to Zumba because you love moving your body and are looking forward to feeling even better in it than it is to Zumba because you hate your muffin top.
Or if you’re on the treadmill to run off the middle age spread you detest, that’s not as effective as running with the intention of a fit physique.
Can you feel the difference? Same action, different focus, leading to very different results.
That’s because any time we’re focused on “not this,” that fixation can’t take us where we want to go. It defies the laws of our universe. What we focus on grows.
(It is possible that strong belief can get temporary results, but sustaining that in the long run is challenging.)
So it’s important to be dialed on positive intentions and results rather than spotlighting the contrast that inspired you to the desire. Make sense?
Seems like a small thing but it actually makes a big difference.
Yesterday I wore a pair of shorts that weren’t particularly flattering to the thighs. My first thought was that I needed to get back to the exercise room.
Which is what I did later that day. And working out on the Bowflex is where I remembered that exercising to avoid what I don’t want (untoned thighs) was a waste of a workout.
If I’m not lunging or squatting with a focus on health, fitness, beauty, self-love or whatever I’m really wanting – I may as well be lounging in the shade with a good book. Enjoying myself in any other way would be better than trying to get rid of something I don’t want.
Because we get what we think about.
So if you’re working out while dwelling on flabby arms or stubborn belly fat – tune your mind instead to thoughts of how you want them to look and feel. Activate the feelings of satisfaction and enjoyment in place of loathing and discomfort. You’ll get a lot more bang for your buck with that vibrational shift.
There’s another way to get more out of your workouts, too.
Set an intention before you start exercising as to how you want your body to respond. Jeanna Gabellini taught me this trick: she used to intend that her body responded to this 30 minute workout as if it were 3 hours. Way to leverage the power of your mind in support of your physical experience!
My point with this is that as we’re flexing the muscles of our body to enhance our physique, let’s remember to also flex the power of our mind to make sure we get where we want to go.