Are you ignoring potentially detrimental input from others?
That’d be fine, if you really could (ignore it).
Or if it wasn’t an important reflection of our own inner vibe. But there’s something important to pay attention to here …
I’m not saying that the other person involved is to blame. (Although, hello, they may deserve credit for being a first class ass.)
We know we can’t experience what we aren’t a vibrational match to. And if you’re repeatedly hearing something negative from someone you love (or used to love, or have to work for) – that’s a reflection of something inside you.
That deserves some cleaning up.
Inside and out.
But we have to be aware of it in order to do that work. Which is why I’m advocating paying attention to those opinions that I used to be such a big fan of ignoring.
Your work here is to get straight with yourself and remember what the truth is – you are perfect, whole and complete. As is. Always. Automatically. Already. Right now. Forever more.
That’s the truth.
(I guess that also applies to the one who’s telling you how rotten you are, too, technically.)
But if this input recurs repeatedly over time, that’s not good to ignore, my friends.
I’m not saying there are easy answers for managing it, but pretending it isn’t a problem does not strike me as a self-loving alternative.
And I might have this all wrong. (I’d love to hear your thoughts, please!)
Where I land with it is if you’re dismissing someone’s abuse because
it’s time to get that straightened out.
It’s not good for you or your vibe to be exposed to repeated long term negative opinions about yourself.
This is Self Love 101. Or maybe it’s the graduate level 501 course – I don’t know.
But I do know that it’s not just a matter of addressing the external – the job is to get aligned to truth and love within as well.
What do you think? Is it possible to ignore verbal abuse from a loved one and not be affected by it? Thanks in advance for sharing!
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Here’s my latest big adventure in manifesting …
Last year as I felt the contrast in my love relationship and caught myself trying to “figure things out” – I realized I’d be better off with a more aligned approach.
So I got focused on what I wanted – in a high level, big picture way – and then turned it over to Universe.
I gave the vibrational instruction (by focusing on the idea, image and feeling) of being in a happy, loving relationship and having the time of my life with a great guy.
I let go trying to figure anything else out, knowing Universe would coordinate the details. All I needed to do was get OFF the contrast, and ON the happy result I wanted. If I needed to do anything, it would be made clear in the form of some inspired action or internal nudge.
Sure enough, within two weeks I got a crystal clear signal that this was not my guy.
Seriously, I’ve never had such clarity in my life. I think angels must have delivered that message personally – it was SO clear!
When you get clarity like that, you can’t ignore it! Especially after you purposely asked for it.
So I cut him loose that night. In a very loving and respectful way. (I did good for a girl who hadn’t practiced a breakup speech!)
And it was done.
But by the end of the week, I was in the breakup from hell. I’m too LOA savvy to elaborate, but many of you who were in touch with me at that time know I’m not exaggerating when I say it got ugly.
Me, the Good Vibe Coach, who can do breakups in the vortex, was in the breakup from hell. I felt like a manifesting failure!
So we’re doing the worst breakup I’ve ever had in my entire life, but my wise coach told me this is his breakup, too, and I can’t deny him his process. And if he’s gonna be a beast, I can’t control that. Fine.
All I could do was my best to stay focused on what I wanted: love, appreciation, respect, support, etc.
That was a challenge. One I failed at many days.
I mean, in the face of some really ugly stuff, I was trying to –
I built some muscle on this one! That focus did not come without effort.
But I eventually got pretty good at making positive aspect lists, and fast forwarding to the time when I would be happily ensconced in a new love affair, at which time it was really easy to only wish the very best for this ex who was going all out to make life hell.
I began to stop fantasizing about his demise, and started wishing good things for him – that he would be able to connect with someone with love and respect and generosity and other good things. I imagined how great it would be if we had the kind of ex-relationship where I could help him succeed in a new romance. (I figured
I had good insight for him!) I imagined the kind of woman who would love and adore him, the way he deserved to be loved.
And I focused on the things that I did appreciate about this long drawn out ugly breakup. Believe it or not, there were some things:
I realized I wasn’t interested in moving or living alone again. (It makes me laugh when I think back to how I dragged my feet to cohabitate with him – I thought that would be SO hard to enjoy a new house and another person under my roof! And here I was now not wanting to give it up.)
When people would ask how the split was going, I could feel myself struggling to answer. What they expected, and in many ways what I expected, wasn’t what was happening. Sometimes it was great and sometimes it was awful. Sometimes our path was clear and sometimes it wasn’t. I could feel the “should” about how things were supposed to proceed getting in the way of how things actually were unfolding.
So I just let it go.
I decided to let it be whatever it was going to be. I didn’t know what to call it or how to explain it. But I would simply do my best to make the best of where I was right now.
Although I did relocate the guns to a trusted friend’s house, just in case. lol
That’s been a while ago.
Two (reluctant) love interests and a new year later – my ex and I are still under the same roof together.
Living more happily than ever before.
No one is more surprised than I to read those words. But the truth is I’ve never felt such love, respect and appreciation for him – or from him.
Our life together has never been this easy or free. It’s based on enjoyment, with very little struggle involved. Even when a little challenge does crop up, it (usually) quickly becomes a source of laughter.
I don’t know what’s happened, other than that I got really good at appreciating him. And he stopped taking me and our life together for granted.
I never would have guessed – when we were in the middle of all that contrast – that he would be the next guy in my vision of a fabulous, loving relationship. (I thought he was the guy I needed to ditch in order to find that!) My best dream I could conjure up was that we would eventually become good friends as exes.
I guess that’s what’s happened. That, and more.
My ongoing intention is to continue holding this relationship loosely, and allow Universe to continue coordinating my happy ending. I don’t know what tomorrow holds (although we are going to Maui this fall, so I have some idea what the future holds) but I promise to keep using my positive focus skills and be open to whatever results best match the love vibe I conjure up.
It seems to be a pretty good formula for living “happily ever after.”
And that is my law of attraction love story for today.
Not what you expected, right? Me either, it turns out. 😉
Share your manifesting story in the comments below, or email me for individual posting.
If you ever wondered what it means to be facebook married, this is your answer.
Although I don’t consider myself the expert on virtual marriages, I’ll share why I said yes to a facebook husband and how it can be a helpful manifesting tool …
What is a facebook marriage?
The unromantic answer is that it’s when you mutually agree to tag someone else as your spouse. Meaning, it’s a marriage on facebook only, not real life.
You can find the definition in Urban Dictionary here.
What does it mean to be facebook married?
Just like with anything, including real life marriages, it means whatever you decide it means.
For me, it’s simply another way to have fun. Real life marriage turned out to be rather challenging when I said “I do” 20 years ago. Either I’ve gotten better at being a wife, or facebook marriage is sooooo much easier to enjoy! (Smart money’s on the latter.)
Why would anyone want a facebook marriage/spouse?
Depending on who you marry, of course:
But for deliberate creators it can do one better: put you in the vibe of being romantically attached.
Sometimes conscious manifesters wear rings to replicate the feeling of being married, or sleep on one side of the bed and clear out half the closet, or stock their sweetie’s favorite snacks in the house.
This is just another creative way to send the signal to Universe that says “I’m taken!”
I’m finding the additional benefits of having a great facebook hubby include receiving sweet notes, getting support in my business, someone to celebrate wins with, and he even sends presents! Plus, it’s just plain fun to talk about my “facebook husband.” To top it off my mom gets a facebook son-in-law. It’s fun for the whole family!
Does it spill into real life?
I’ve never met my facebook husband in real life (which may be the undiscovered secret to a happy marriage), but we do talk on the phone regularly and exchange emails. You get to make your own rules.
How do you get facebook married?
Well, someone’s got to propose, and someone has to say yes. After that, you decide whether you celebrate an engagement with friends or just flip the switch online to say “married.”
Jeff proposed via email after he heard about my real life breakup (I think he was just offering a sweet condolence, but I liked the idea so much I emailed back “YES!” and switched my status before he had a chance to say “j/k.”)
What do you do with/for your facebook spouse?
Whatever you two like. 🙂
How do you get facebook divorced?
Let’s not spoil a good thing just yet.
(But I will say there were a couple times I asked myself this question during the presidential election. I couldn’t believe I married someone without inquiring about his political beliefs! Oh, what we do for facebook love.)
What’s the downside?
Say again what this has to do with manifesting?
For me, it’s fun, it’s light, it makes me laugh. That’s reason enough.
But it also helps me feel like I have a functional committed relationship on the books. (That’s practice I can use.)
I’m not actually intending to get real life married again, so it’s not like I’m using my fb hubby to activate the “husband” vibration – but it is helping me have a happy experience of “marriage.” Even if it’s a virtual marriage. And that is a good thing in my book.
PS – I like facebook friends just as much as facebook husbands. Friend me up if we’re not already connected.
As part of our vibration activation series, this post inspired by relationship coach Leigha Pitcher is designed to align you to a great relationship.
Whether you’re currently in a relationship or are in process of manifesting a new one, reading this can help activate the vibration of being with a great person.
We know this works because whenever we find a way to feel what we want like it’s already here, it cues Universe to make it happen.
One read through should be good for a 17 second vibe activation, and that’s all it takes to make a shift. All you have to do after that is honor inspiration (that is, do what feels good).
Change up words or phrases as you feel inspired to best suit you.
Quick reminder why this is so powerful: when we’re feeling lonely or even just thinking that we’re single, that vibration reinforces our current state. If we want something different,we have to vibrate different.
These activation scripts help us vibrate something different! So even though it may not be reality yet, just reading it makes us send out a new signal – and that kick starts change in real life.
Enjoy the vibration of a great relationship:
This is it. It’s finally happened for me!
Actually, it’s even better than I imagined!
I’m in a fabulous relationship with an amazing person – someone who gets how amazing I am, too.
I knew there was someone out there for me, and we are so perfect together! It’s like we were made for each other.
This is literally what I’ve dreamed about. So many of their traits are exactly what I hoped for! Smart, kind, capable, compassionate, and helloooo – attractive! Whew! Let me just say that our connection is amazing!!
I remember people telling me that maybe it wasn’t meant to be for me, that God had other plans. Wow, was that wrong! I’m in LOVE!! With someone who is head over heels for me, too!
And this love affair has legs. It’s not a flash in the pan. It actually feels timeless. This is a soul connection like I’ve never felt before.
We have such a good thing going! All that waiting – and all that contrast over all those years – it was soooooo worth it!
I simply could not be more pleased with how things have turned out.
Our pace of getting to know each other was perfect, we really understood where the other was at. We have similar desires in life, and things unfolded between us so naturally and easily. It really felt – and still feels – “meant to be.” Like higher forces guided us to each other.
Even after the throes of new love have matured, I still get giddy when I’m around this extraordinary human being. I am with the love of my life!
We have fun together, we support each other, we “get” each other, we even thrive when we’re away from each other. I definitely got the complete package!
Some of my friends who don’t have a love like this don’t really get it. But I tell them they can, too, if they want it. If this happened for me, it can happen for anyone!
This is what I’ve always wanted. It’s a love affair like no other!
It’s funny how I used to wonder whether this was even possible for me. I’m so glad I stayed open to love and let the universe bring this love to me!
There is no one else I would rather be with.
This must be what “happily ever after” feels like!