After coaching lots of conscious creators over the years, as well as taking notes from my own practice, you know what I’ve noticed about our manifesting process?
We like specific steps or formulas.
We like clear, detailed instruction. Preferably in three precise steps.
The most frequent request from LOA Recon podcast listeners is “more manifesting methods.”
Because there’s a part of us that thinks there’s a mystery or secret to this magic, and if we just followed the right manifesting formula or process or technique or method – we’d be golden.
Plus there’s an ingrained habit or belief that we have to work for what we want, or that it should be hard work to get there. That we have to pay our dues in order to expect something good.
That’s why we like pray rain journaling (a page a day until you fill the whole journal), and visualizing (15 focused minutes a day – don’t skip!), and powerful affirmations (lots of repetitions out loud), and positive aspect lists, and 68 second vibration activations, and EFT for navigating challenging emotions, etc.
Look, I’m a fan of these processes, too! I do at least one every day. Happily!
And they work. I am proof.
When I started a coaching business I read perfect client lists day and night and made pray rain journal entries about what great work we were doing together. I set my environment up to look like it was happening, and I affirmed the hell out of what a brilliant coach I was …
I did every process or technique I could think to do. Because this one mattered and I didn’t want to screw it up.
And that’s what a lot of people hear when they ask how I created that dream come true.
The lists, the repeated thoughts, the acting as if – they scribble notes so they can follow my same proven process.
But here’s the thing …
I also went on a lot of dog walks up the canyon.
And lunch dates with dad. And rollerblading with friends.
I knew that feeling good now was key to success. Not waiting for the success to roll in so I could relax and enjoy. But to be better aligned by relaxing and enjoying now.
A while back an interviewer asked about my “secret weapon” for success.
The obvious answer is leveraging the law of attraction, but hand in hand with that is foster kittens.
And movie dates.
And Sunday brunch with the aunts.
And browsing the bookstores for nothing in particular.
And anything else that’s my idea of a good time.
Because feeling good now signals Universe that you got what you wanted, and it strives to deliver more of what you want.
Remember when Abigail Steidley laid down for five days and all her things came together? She relaxed her way into alignment!
A lot of us already know this, and yet still have trouble practicing it.
Is it our Puritan work ethic heritage? Our discomfort that others will think we don’t deserve it if we haven’t struggled our way there?
Whatever it is, it doesn’t help us get where we want to be.
If I had to say what my secret weapon was, it’s that I know to prioritize a good time.
(And as a rising Capricorn, that has not been my nature. I used sticky notes to remind myself to have fun, because I have it in me to overwork. Fun comes more naturally now.)
That’s a powerful alignment practice.
So let’s remember that it doesn’t always have to be finding a new manifesting technique or learning someone’s secret LOA formula – it really can be as simple as discovering our own answer to the question, “What would be fun next?”
Thought it might be fun for us to play with something new in our manifesting repertoire …
At least, it’s new to me. Maybe you’re already doing it.
But I’ve been thinking about how we can tell certain things about a person based on their handwriting.
For example, you probably don’t need a graphologist to tell you which person you’d rather go on a date with, right?
Or which candidate we’d prefer to hire for babysitting?
So, we can maybe glean a bit about someone based on their writing.
In fact, one graphologist said, “Your handwriting is the written externalization of the vibrant activity going on inside you.”
Sounds a lot like our vibration affects our handwriting.
And wouldn’t the opposite also be true? That our handwriting could affect our vibration?
Our handwriting doesn’t just reveal personal traits and characteristics – perhaps it can create them.
Here’s why I suspect that …
In graphology studies one of the suggested tips is to trace a subject’s handwriting in order to feel how they felt when they wrote it.
When you write like they write, you feel like they feel. Interesting, right?!
So if my writing can change how I feel (i.e. how I vibrate), that makes me want to sign my name like a rich person. Or a successful business owner. Or a happily-in-love-with-life person.
And yes, I think I’ve heard big loops mean abundance and generosity (or was it sexual appetite?), and supposedly there are other indicators for qualities of openness and such, but rather than study up on that, I realized there’s a more authentic answer to this …
Since our vibration is all that matters, I’m the one who best knows what my rich signature is. I’m the one who knows what my successful business owner signature is. I’m the one who can tell what my “in love with love” signoff looks like.
In fact, for those of you who keep traditional journals (as opposed to pray rain journals), you can probably look back on old entries and know what your state of mood was when you wrote it without even reading the words.
You know what your sad writing looks like; and you know what your exuberant entries are.
Because our feelings come through our writing.
So I want to sign my name like a wealthy person does. Like someone who runs an amazingly thriving and successful business does. Like a girl who is excited about another day in her fabulous life.
My regular signature right now looks a lot like my actual dominant vibration. It’s ambitious, intense, kind of pokey. You can hardly read it because I wrote it so fast. It’s “I don’t have time for this – I have things to do and people to see and worlds to conquer.”
But when I practice my rich signature, I find it’s looser, more relaxed, like someone is very comfortable with herself and took her time signing it. She’s not striving, she’s there.
And yours might be the exact opposite – maybe your success signature is all business – tight, concise, to the point.
(Here’s Richard Branson’s, just for fun.)
My point is that you probably know your success signature better than anyone else, and signing it can be yet another fun way to align with what you want.
As you find the vibration of what you want – even if it’s just by signing your name like the version of you who already has what she wants – Universe has to make it so.
In my entire history as a conscious creator I have never once felt inspired to create a vision board.
Blasphemy, I know.
Even muggle girlfriends get together on weekends for vision board parties, but I can’t be bothered.
I took a course once, from a local money coach, where we had to spend an hour cutting out pictures from magazines to go on our new vision boards, and it was my least favorite part of the course.
So you can imagine my surprise when I realized I actually have “vision boards” all over my house.
Not only do I have vision boards everywhere, but they’ve already manifested into real life.
Here’s how that happened …
Shortly after I got my first real job, I discovered an art store downtown that sold beautiful, amazing framed prints.
I’d never purchased art before, but I did that day.
It’s a scene with three deer on a snowy landscape looking directly at the viewer, and has been hanging on my wall in two different houses until I moved into my third house.
This framed print has a spot in the new house, but it also “happens” to be the exact view I have from several windows here. Just this week I looked out to see two deer on that exact snowy landscape looking right at me.
And it’s not the first thing on my wall to come to real life.
I’ve got a framed photograph of a red fox in the grass that’s been displayed ever since my first house, and at this new place it turns out there’s a red fox that lives in the grass meadow out back.
My office has a large reproduction of a beautiful painting from a Hudson River artist, which is exactly what our favorite hike at our new place looks like in the spring.
Last year I picked up a painting of gold money trees for the office as well, and had my best financial year ever that year.
One of my favorite pieces I’ve had since before I quit my job is a common print of a mountain goat making a big leap over a deep chasm. It’s designed to remind me that as a rising Capricorn I am also sure-footed in making big leaps into self-employment. That’s worked out real well, too. 🙂
Years ago my dad gave me a framed piece he had commissioned of two race horses – and from my new kitchen I watch the neighbor’s barrel racing horses in their pasture all day long.
I could do this all day in describing the pictures that began on my walls and then morphed into real life.
Which makes me realize I had vision boards all along.
The things we look at regularly come to life.
Which makes me wonder, what’s on your wall?
As a full time law of attraction coach for nearly 15 years, I’ve learned a lot about what factors lead to successful manifesting and what elements hold it up.
I can see the trouble spots that slow our progress, and can recognize when it’s smooth sailing.
In fact, I think I can predict your manifesting success based on four simple questions.
Those questions are listed below, but the value of this post isn’t the prediction.
It’s in identifying the factors that lead to success, and engaging them for your own manifesting benefit.
First take the quiz, then we’ll discuss …
Hold in mind what you want to manifest. Could be dropping ten pounds, doubling your income, finding the perfect dog to adopt, writing a best seller – whatever you want.
With that target in mind, answer each of the following four questions using a 1-10 scale as indicated for each question:
1. Are you happy?
I know we all have our moments, but in general overall, how happy are you?
Answer between 1-10, with 1 being ‘my life sucks’ and 10 being ‘life is ridiculously good.’
2. Does it seem believable?
Does your desire seem within reach, or is it a big stretch to believe in?
Answer between 1-10, with 1 being ‘extremely far-fetched’ and 10 being ‘easy peasy!’
3. How long have you wanted it?
Is this desire fresh and new, or are you frustrated from wanting it for so long?
Answer between 1-10, with 1 being ‘seems like forever’ and 10 being ‘this is fresh and fun.’
4. Is it important?
How big a deal is this manifestation to your well-being? Does it feel like life is over if this doesn’t happen, or are you creating this just for kicks?
Answer between 1-10, with 1 being ‘my well-being depends on it’ and 10 being ‘it’d be super cool, but nothing to lose sleep over.’
Next add up your scores from each question.
Once you’ve got your final tally, refer to the results below to find my prediction about the likelihood of your successful manifestation:
0-12 Oy. A vibrational intervention may be in order. We’re talking hard core vibe rehab. You are not on the path to effortless success. Time to redirect!
13-20 It’s do-able, but we’ve got work to do. I’ve seen miracles happen in worse cases, so don’t give up!
21-30 Mild tweaks will speed things up – but you’re on the right track! Yay!
31-40 You’re home free, my friend! Enjoy the journey – it’ll be here in no time!
And I hope you know to never take anything anyone says about your likelihood of success to heart! (Unless, of course, you got top scores. Then of course you can believe this prediction.)
But seriously, don’t let me or anyone else tell you what’s in store for you.
You’re a conscious creator! You call your own shots! Don’t forget it.
Okay, here’s why I posted this predictive quiz …
Not so you can let someone else look into their crystal ball and tell you whether it’ll happen or not, but so you can see the elements that work for you and against you.
Here’s what I mean, question by question:
If your overall life isn’t already mostly pleasant and easy to enjoy, that will hold up your progress. Feeling frustrated, sad, resentful, etc. makes you a vibrational match to more things that feel like that. So good news comes from feeling good first. Make a point of engaging an appreciation practice or developing eyes for what’s going right, and you’ll stack the manifesting deck in your favor!
When your desire seems like a long shot, your low belief sabotages easy success. You can learn to believe that what you want is possible, the same way you learned to believe everything else – practicing new thoughts.
If you’ve been working on this desire for a long time, it can be hard to think about it without activating the absence or the longing of it. Practicing the vibrations of satisfaction and fulfillment can help further this one along. So can loosening your grip on reality.
Lastly, when it seems really important that this thing happen because life can’t be good without it, that attachment messes up your vibration. Remind yourself regularly that life is already good anyway, and that you’ll be fine with or without this. There are plenty of other places to play and ways to enjoy life! This thing you’ve got in mind is not the be-all end-all of your ultimate happiness. (Repeat as necessary!)
Hope you got some insight from this just-for-fun quiz. Don’t take me or anything else too seriously.
Like dad says, we’re here for a good time, not a long time. 😉
What would you do if you didn’t know what you were supposed to be doing?
Left to your own devices, where would you land?
If you didn’t know that you needed to shop for dinner, or that your sister wanted you to call, or that you should catch up on emails … what would you do if you didn’t know those things?
If you were working from a completely clean slate, what would you choose?
What’s calling you, that you aren’t hearing because you’re doing what you always do? (Or doing what’s expected, required, or planned.)
And how would you do it if you didn’t know how it was done?
If you didn’t know that this is how you make the money, or that this is how you vacation, how would you do it?
If you didn’t know how you exercise, or how you date, or how you love, what would it look like instead?
What if you forgot what you wanted?
If all of your old desires fell away, what new dreams would reveal themselves?
Sometimes they’re the same; sometimes not. Sometimes we hold on to desires that have expired, without noticing we grew out of them.
What music or people or things would you listen to if you didn’t know what you listened to? What would you read and what would you watch if you didn’t already know what you read and what you watch?
And what would you think if you didn’t know what to think?
If your mind were free to go wherever it could, where would you take it?
What are you not knowing because of what you already know?
If you didn’t know your ex was a jerk, or that school is boring, or that politics is pointless, what might you know instead?
What would you love if you were free to love all of it?
What does your spirit love that you haven’t said yes to?
Sometimes we get tripped up by old expectations, limiting beliefs, and the thoughts of others that we mistook for our own. We forget what’s true for us, what the possibilities are, and how to hear our own guidance about getting there.
These questions can liberate from life on autopilot.
The answers we explore can move us toward authentic desire and expanded possibility.
It can reconnect us to true inspiration and unparalled joy.
Sure, autopilot has its advantages and is perfectly appropriate at times. But sometimes what we know holds us back from what can be.
Taking life off autopilot gives us even more room to play.