One of the things that has helped smooth out the edges of grieving the passing of my dogs Koda and Molly this spring has been a practice I implemented earlier in the year …
A while ago I’d decided to get a white board for the fridge for easier list-making.
But as I started shopping for dry erase boards, I found myself thinking how much fun it would be to have a wall-sized board for capturing favorite moments of each day.
I know to follow inspiration, so while there still isn’t anything for the fridge, next to the laundry room right as you come in from the garage is a three foot tall white board.
And on it is a daily tally of favorite things written with one of the eight color magnetic markers.
It seemed like this board would be an easy way to amp up my appreciation factor, but it has actually turned out to be much more than that.
Throughout the day I’m on the lookout for what that day’s contribution to the board will be.
Which means all day long I’m looking for my favorite thing of the day.
Think about the power of that focus!
You’re exactly right if you thought that when I’m looking for the most wonderful thing of the day, the day can’t help but deliver me wonderful things. It can’t help it! That’s what focus does! Delivers us whatever we’re looking for.
And sure enough, some days I have to put more than one thing on the board, that’s how favorite they are.
Here’s the best part, though …
It’s when company comes over and I have them write their favorite thing on the board, too. Sometimes they ask about an entry, and I get to relive it again as I tell them the story of it.
And then long after they’re gone I still get to enjoy what they wrote as their favorite thing.
Each time I walk by, whether it’s for laundry, or scooping litters in the laundry room, or walking down the hallway to the kitten nursery or puppy room, or taking garbage out or loading up in the car – with every pass I see our favorite things on the big board. And I can’t help but smile.
Even on the rough days. Especially on the rough days. There are my favorite things about life, right there in my own handwriting, reminding me how good life really is.
So much better than a to-do list on the fridge. 🙂
Once it fills up I erase it and start over. Although I never erase “PUPPIES!”
This picture doesn’t do the power of this practice justice, and I know some of you already engage something like this.
But for those of you who don’t, capturing daily high points in a way where you and others can see them in big bold color is a surprisingly fun and effective way to raise the vibe on a regular basis that you can continue to milk until it’s time to do it all over again.
You know I’d love to hear stories from those of you who already practice this. 🙂
It’s one thing to want something; it’s another to believe it will happen.
Like when you want a big tax refund, but you haven’t had one in over a decade and there’s no reason to believe it’ll happen this year.
Or when you want a passionate romance with your long term partner, but that simply hasn’t been your experience.
Or when you want an enjoyable work-life balance, but your job requires more time and energy than you can comfortably invest.
Yes, we conscious creators can theoretically believe in anything. “If you can imagine it, you can have it,” we’ve all been taught.
But learning how to believe in what we want is a skill. Aligned belief doesn’t always (or even usually) happen instantly or automatically.
Often that expectation needs to be conjured.
The good news is you can learn to expect what you want. It’s a reliable process that just takes commitment and imagination.
When we regularly train our attention on the result we want, practicing it in our mind’s eye by seeing it and hearing it and feeling it – that pre-experiencing of our desire acclimates us to having it.
That process alone can help us believe in it – just by sheer mental exposure. (Kind of like brainwashing.)
We can also remind ourselves of reasons to believe in it. Practicing the thoughts that help us expect it can marry up our desire with our expectation.
And when we learn to expect the thing that we want – we’re home free. Abraham says anyone who has strong desire and strong belief is unstoppable.
But getting there can require some work.
Think about your newest desire … what would you love to create if you could create anything?
With that in mind, ask yourself on a scale of 1-10 what your expectation level of that is. (1 is it’s hopeless; 10 is done deal, easy peasy, it’s in the bag.)
Anything less than an 8 is worthy of doing some thought work on.
For a recent personal example, this weekend I wanted my foster kittens to have a smooth and easy experience of getting vaccinated.
My belief level in that desire was maybe a 6.5. Whether I had to transport unvaccinated kittens to a vet’s office, or meet up with another rescue volunteer in a parking lot, or convince someone to make the 90 minute drive to my place – every option at my disposal was less than ideal.
And frankly, my vibration around vaccinations is less than ideal already, since I lost a cat to autoimmune disease years early (likely caused by maintaining the recommended vaccination schedule) and a friend just lost her puppy the day after receiving its first vaccinations.
So I’m sketchy here.
And I didn’t take the time to get properly lined up. Yes, I plugged into some info that was meant to build my confidence, and I recruited some help. And no, it wasn’t a complete disaster, but it was not the smoothest easiest experience I had wanted for them.
Because I didn’t raise my expectation to meet my desire. I still expected trouble. And that’s what I got.
That’s why it’s worth recognizing that Universe doesn’t deliver what we want; it delivers what we vibrate. Wanting it isn’t enough if we don’t also learn to expect it.
Learning to expect what you want is a manifesting skill worth cultivating.
You can start today by:
That’s all it takes to train yourself into the vibration of having it.
Once you’re there, the world is yours to do with as you please.
I’ll do a better job with the puppies next month. 🙂
After coaching lots of conscious creators over the years, as well as taking notes from my own practice, you know what I’ve noticed about our manifesting process?
We like specific steps or formulas.
We like clear, detailed instruction. Preferably in three precise steps.
The most frequent request from LOA Recon podcast listeners is “more manifesting methods.”
Because there’s a part of us that thinks there’s a mystery or secret to this magic, and if we just followed the right manifesting formula or process or technique or method – we’d be golden.
Plus there’s an ingrained habit or belief that we have to work for what we want, or that it should be hard work to get there. That we have to pay our dues in order to expect something good.
That’s why we like pray rain journaling (a page a day until you fill the whole journal), and visualizing (15 focused minutes a day – don’t skip!), and powerful affirmations (lots of repetitions out loud), and positive aspect lists, and 68 second vibration activations, and EFT for navigating challenging emotions, etc.
Look, I’m a fan of these processes, too! I do at least one every day. Happily!
And they work. I am proof.
When I started a coaching business I read perfect client lists day and night and made pray rain journal entries about what great work we were doing together. I set my environment up to look like it was happening, and I affirmed the hell out of what a brilliant coach I was …
I did every process or technique I could think to do. Because this one mattered and I didn’t want to screw it up.
And that’s what a lot of people hear when they ask how I created that dream come true.
The lists, the repeated thoughts, the acting as if – they scribble notes so they can follow my same proven process.
But here’s the thing …
I also went on a lot of dog walks up the canyon.
And lunch dates with dad. And rollerblading with friends.
I knew that feeling good now was key to success. Not waiting for the success to roll in so I could relax and enjoy. But to be better aligned by relaxing and enjoying now.
A while back an interviewer asked about my “secret weapon” for success.
The obvious answer is leveraging the law of attraction, but hand in hand with that is foster kittens.
And movie dates.
And Sunday brunch with the aunts.
And browsing the bookstores for nothing in particular.
And anything else that’s my idea of a good time.
Because feeling good now signals Universe that you got what you wanted, and it strives to deliver more of what you want.
Remember when Abigail Steidley laid down for five days and all her things came together? She relaxed her way into alignment!
A lot of us already know this, and yet still have trouble practicing it.
Is it our Puritan work ethic heritage? Our discomfort that others will think we don’t deserve it if we haven’t struggled our way there?
Whatever it is, it doesn’t help us get where we want to be.
If I had to say what my secret weapon was, it’s that I know to prioritize a good time.
(And as a rising Capricorn, that has not been my nature. I used sticky notes to remind myself to have fun, because I have it in me to overwork. Fun comes more naturally now.)
That’s a powerful alignment practice.
So let’s remember that it doesn’t always have to be finding a new manifesting technique or learning someone’s secret LOA formula – it really can be as simple as discovering our own answer to the question, “What would be fun next?”
Thought it might be fun for us to play with something new in our manifesting repertoire …
At least, it’s new to me. Maybe you’re already doing it.
But I’ve been thinking about how we can tell certain things about a person based on their handwriting.
For example, you probably don’t need a graphologist to tell you which person you’d rather go on a date with, right?
Or which candidate we’d prefer to hire for babysitting?
So, we can maybe glean a bit about someone based on their writing.
In fact, one graphologist said, “Your handwriting is the written externalization of the vibrant activity going on inside you.”
Sounds a lot like our vibration affects our handwriting.
And wouldn’t the opposite also be true? That our handwriting could affect our vibration?
Our handwriting doesn’t just reveal personal traits and characteristics – perhaps it can create them.
Here’s why I suspect that …
In graphology studies one of the suggested tips is to trace a subject’s handwriting in order to feel how they felt when they wrote it.
When you write like they write, you feel like they feel. Interesting, right?!
So if my writing can change how I feel (i.e. how I vibrate), that makes me want to sign my name like a rich person. Or a successful business owner. Or a happily-in-love-with-life person.
And yes, I think I’ve heard big loops mean abundance and generosity (or was it sexual appetite?), and supposedly there are other indicators for qualities of openness and such, but rather than study up on that, I realized there’s a more authentic answer to this …
Since our vibration is all that matters, I’m the one who best knows what my rich signature is. I’m the one who knows what my successful business owner signature is. I’m the one who can tell what my “in love with love” signoff looks like.
In fact, for those of you who keep traditional journals (as opposed to pray rain journals), you can probably look back on old entries and know what your state of mood was when you wrote it without even reading the words.
You know what your sad writing looks like; and you know what your exuberant entries are.
Because our feelings come through our writing.
So I want to sign my name like a wealthy person does. Like someone who runs an amazingly thriving and successful business does. Like a girl who is excited about another day in her fabulous life.
My regular signature right now looks a lot like my actual dominant vibration. It’s ambitious, intense, kind of pokey. You can hardly read it because I wrote it so fast. It’s “I don’t have time for this – I have things to do and people to see and worlds to conquer.”
But when I practice my rich signature, I find it’s looser, more relaxed, like someone is very comfortable with herself and took her time signing it. She’s not striving, she’s there.
And yours might be the exact opposite – maybe your success signature is all business – tight, concise, to the point.
(Here’s Richard Branson’s, just for fun.)
My point is that you probably know your success signature better than anyone else, and signing it can be yet another fun way to align with what you want.
As you find the vibration of what you want – even if it’s just by signing your name like the version of you who already has what she wants – Universe has to make it so.
In my entire history as a conscious creator I have never once felt inspired to create a vision board.
Blasphemy, I know.
Even muggle girlfriends get together on weekends for vision board parties, but I can’t be bothered.
I took a course once, from a local money coach, where we had to spend an hour cutting out pictures from magazines to go on our new vision boards, and it was my least favorite part of the course.
So you can imagine my surprise when I realized I actually have “vision boards” all over my house.
Not only do I have vision boards everywhere, but they’ve already manifested into real life.
Here’s how that happened …
Shortly after I got my first real job, I discovered an art store downtown that sold beautiful, amazing framed prints.
I’d never purchased art before, but I did that day.
It’s a scene with three deer on a snowy landscape looking directly at the viewer, and has been hanging on my wall in two different houses until I moved into my third house.
This framed print has a spot in the new house, but it also “happens” to be the exact view I have from several windows here. Just this week I looked out to see two deer on that exact snowy landscape looking right at me.
And it’s not the first thing on my wall to come to real life.
I’ve got a framed photograph of a red fox in the grass that’s been displayed ever since my first house, and at this new place it turns out there’s a red fox that lives in the grass meadow out back.
My office has a large reproduction of a beautiful painting from a Hudson River artist, which is exactly what our favorite hike at our new place looks like in the spring.
Last year I picked up a painting of gold money trees for the office as well, and had my best financial year ever that year.
One of my favorite pieces I’ve had since before I quit my job is a common print of a mountain goat making a big leap over a deep chasm. It’s designed to remind me that as a rising Capricorn I am also sure-footed in making big leaps into self-employment. That’s worked out real well, too. 🙂
Years ago my dad gave me a framed piece he had commissioned of two race horses – and from my new kitchen I watch the neighbor’s barrel racing horses in their pasture all day long.
I could do this all day in describing the pictures that began on my walls and then morphed into real life.
Which makes me realize I had vision boards all along.
The things we look at regularly come to life.
Which makes me wonder, what’s on your wall?